The American attitude toward sex is always something that really weirds me out. For some reason, we shame people for having sex (and conflate it with nudity). And that's apparently okay. And then this shame influences conversations about safe sex (or lack thereof) before having drastic effects on peoples' personal and economic choices. It's a complicated subject, but the shame is normal and it's something our society should address.
After Redditor thy-lord-and-savior asked the online community, "What is considered normal but shouldn't be?" people weighed in with their observations.
"Invalidating others' experiences..."
Invalidating others' experiences because you yourself had never been through what they have, so therefore they're lying/overdramatic/exaggerating.
"All the while..."
Applying for 100 something jobs in the span of a year and only having 2 call you back just so they can reach their interview quota and not even hire you.
All the while your unemployed, your savings are running dry because of overpriced rent and you're approaching homelessness with no one to turn to.
Falling is easy and it's even harder to get back up. Everyone blames you for being a failure when deep down you know the system dealt you a bad hand and you're doing the best you can but it just isn't enough, that's life. Some of us don't get to see the light, just endless darkness until the end.
40 hour work week. Unpaid lunch breaks. Meetings that could be emails. Paid hourly as opposed to by the job. Healthcare tied to jobs. No paternal leave. Only 2 weeks of vacation. 5 day work weeks. Basically everything to do with work.
"I see this all the time..."
Mistaking aggression for strength. I see this all the time in relationships, politics, books, movies... it can get pretty messed up. It shows up in abusive relationships a bunch. Also mistaking real strength for weakness: not taking the bait to fight or argue, keeping your cool, siding with your significant other against your buddies who make fun of theirs, listening instead of talking, crying at real tragedies, not caring what people think and being yourself, saying no when you know you'll catch grief, etc.
"So much thrown away..."
Waste culture. So much thrown away that can be fixed or given to someone who needs it. I was at the store and an employee was was checking all the cartons of eggs. If even one was broken, they threw it out. I offered to sit and rearrange all the eggs so all the broken ones were congregated in a few cartons, but he wouldn't let me. I was being perfectly serious. I know about gleaners, but most stores don't allow it.
I was a single parent for a decade and had an ex whose favorite hobby was dragging me to court over nothing to drain my finances. I help 2-3 three jobs to support us and there were so many days I would skip eating so she would always have enough. I learned how to fix things and re-purpose other things. It's frustrating hearing people complaining about not having the latest thing when what they have works fine. It was hard to watch people over-indulge too.
"I have colleagues..."
At least in academia - not sleeping enough. I have colleagues who constantly brag about staying up for 24+ hours to finish a proposal or finalize papers before they go up for review. It's pretty unhealthy and I think I can count the number of people I know at work who actually get more than 5 hours a night on one hand.
"If you're quiet..."
As a young person, I'd say: the notion that equates introversion with intelligence and thoughtfulness. It's just so wrong on so many levels, but with the power of reddit and social media, people my age seem to believe this wholesale. It's the greatest circlejerk I've ever seen, and it pains me to see it leak into real life.
If you're quiet, you're emotionally intelligent. If you're a homebody, you're a good, moral person. If you're asocial, you've got a great IQ. It's all BS. Extroverts and introverts alike equally have the capability to be intelligent or a complete bumbling fool.
"People higher up..."
People higher up on the food chain at a job, talking to subordinates or even those with less seniority, like they're a complete a-hole. Respect should be a 2 way street regardless of position or length of service.
"Being a parent..."
Having children. Being a parent is a massive responsibility and not everyone is cut out for it. However SO many people have them without a single thought because that's just what you do.
People accepting anything posted on media as a fact and not checking it . Stop believing every single sob story or going with every reason why someone is upset or angry. I am sick of it. Cancel culture is ruining things.
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