People Break Down Which Non-Physical Traits They Find The Most Attractive

People Break Down Which Non-Physical Traits They Find The Most Attractive
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People who love to read melt my heart. I have long fantasized about meeting the love of my life in a bookstore––so far, that hasn't exactly panned out (we are in the middle of a pandemic, after all) but that hasn't stopped me from dreaming. What if they are out there, but they've been waiting for me in an entirely different section reading a genre I'm less familiar with? That wouldn't surprise me, come to think of it.

After Redditor AnxiousDistribution4 asked the online community, "What non-physical traits do you find attractive?" people shared their observations.


"I love listening..."

Passion. I love listening to someone talk about a hobby they're really into, even (or especially) when I know nothing about it. I might not understand everything they say, but there's just something about watching someone geek out about something they love.

MasteringTheFlames

"If you're way into a book series..."

I really like passion and enthusiasm, even if it's something I'm not into. If you're way into a book series I don't like and you start your explanation of things with a bright-eyed "OKAY, SO...." then you have the same base model of soul as I do.

SP203

There's something about bookworms...

...that is insanely attractive. I would know––I'm a bookworm.

"I really enjoy..."

Curious and tolerant. I really enjoy talking about my hobbies or things that pique my interest, always struggle to find someone to listen though.

RebootXRSC​

"I tend to be very quiet..."

Holding up conversation. I tend to be rather quiet, reserved, and socially awkward, so oftentimes, I don't have much to say. I hate lulls in conversations because I never know how to recover from them. But I've met people who can basically eliminate lulls in conversation while still allowing me time to respond; those are some of the best conversations, and I'm trying to learn from those people

BlueberryWaffleBacon

It's quite the skill!

Certainly quite valuable––it can come in handy. These are the people who know how to maintain the energy in a room.

"Knowledge."

Knowledge. Sounds really cheesy but I mean like how a lawyer, a mechanic or a pharmacist knows, like, a whole other language and gets excited about totally different things from me. There's something so human and amazing about the fact that someone's mind can be wired in a way my mind might never comprehend.

Its402am

"There's nothing more wonderful..."

Being goofy. There's nothing more wonderful than someone being completely unselfconscious and laughing a snort-laugh, or getting absurdly excited about having a muffin for dessert.

Z_T_0

"It costs you nothing..."

Being polite. It costs you nothing to tell the receptionist/customer service agent/ IT guy on the phone to have a nice day after they talk to you. Yelling at people who work in customer service/waiters/receptionists is pointless. 95% of the time they are trying to help you to the best of their ability. The server didn't cook your food incorrectly.

yeeks64

It definitely doesn't.

Years ago, I went on a date with someone who proceeded to yell at the waiter for forgetting to bring them a glass of water.

It wasn't the end of the world, but it was certainly the end of that date.

There was no second date.

"Back before the pandemic..."

People who just pitch in and help without being asked. Back before the pandemic, I loved having dinner parties. My friends, after relaxing with me for a bit after we ate, would just attack the dishes, wipe the table/counters and tidy up with me. I always told them they didn't have to, but they just waved me off and did it anyway. Many hands make the job go faster and then we'd all go back to chilling out. It made me really appreciate them.

Verticalparachute

"It may not seem sexy..."

Being organized.

It may not seem sexy at first but being organized means they have their act together, the maturity to handle responsibility, and are reliable and trustworthy.

Scatterbrained people can be fun to be around short term but long term they cause unnecessary stress and drama. No thanks.

PineapplePizzaAlways

"You know another world."

Being fluent in another language. I find that insanely attractive. You know another world.

WeeklyCoffee2488

This is all spot on.

And if you're having trouble wondering if you're attractive, chances are one of these describes you.

Are there certain traits that make you weak in the knees? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments section below!

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"What simple mistake has ended lives?"

Tripping over untied shoelaces.

It can break your neck.

TIE YOUR SHOES!!!

Off the Rocks

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"There have been too many instances of rock climbers rappelling off of the ends of their ropes, which could have been easily avoided by tying stopper knots at the ends of their ropes."

LZRDLZRD

Seconds

"I worked at a tire place for a summer and the first thing they told me was 'See that torque wrench? One mistake with this and you can kill a whole family in a matter of seconds.' I thought well, better take this thing seriously."

FrenchMicrowave

"Man for a second I was thinking 'F**k you'd have to swing that thing around fast to take out an entire family' and just bluescreened on the idea of changing a tire."

lurking_my_a**_off

How Vexing...

"THERAC-25. The world’s deadliest software error. Cost several radiation patients their lives by administering lethal amounts of radiation, and for a while, the doctors didn’t even know."

Longjumping_Event_59

"THERAC-25 suffered a particularly vexing sort of error known as a race condition. Essentially, the circuit required multiple inputs in a particular sequence, but sometimes the timing of that sequence could get thrown out of whack and it would lead to all sorts of nonsensical output."

"This is less than ideal when all you're doing is manipulating pixels, but when your software is handling radiation beams you really don't want this to happen."

"Even more vexing is that race conditions are frequently heisenbugs, which can vanish altogether when one attempts to study them. If you don't have a good idea of what's causing the error, you may never cotton on to what sort of bad input is required to test it. Under those circumstances, it's easy to write them off as imaginary, only to then find."

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Heavy Drifting

"Leaving the stranded vehicle on the road in winter and trying to walk to get help. It happens in rural parts of our province once or twice a year and they find the body a few days later. They get disoriented and freeze."

Regina_Runner

"I got blown off a road in high winds. Heavy drifting. Less than a mile from a friend's house after I had turned around. Drifts made it impossible to complete the trip. Trying to run a mile in full blizzard conditions was a fight for my life as an in-shape 24-year-old male athlete.

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Simple Slips

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"Almost any simple mistake can end a life if you're an anesthesiologist, that's how my grandpa died in his early 60s."

dwserps

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"Not being honest with doctors about Viagra. It has many dangerous drug interactions and can cause a lot of problems from what I’ve heard. Trust me the doctor ain’t gonna judge you guys, they have seen many more embarrassing things. And it would suck to die because you wanted to hide something just for it to be later stated in your death certificate."

The_upsetti_spagetti

Check the Numbers

"As a healthcare worker, giving the wrong amount of insulin."

UzumakiHorror

"During the first shift of my first clinical rotation in nursing school, I watched a nurse draw up insulin out of an auto-injector pen that was CLEARLY marked to specifically not do that AND she was drastically wrong about the dosage and almost killed a guy by giving him essentially like a hundred times the intended dose."

someguynamedg

Stay In

"Pulling the knife out of someone."

rcadephantom

"Yeah, I did that but it was a broken tree branch that had impaled my leg. Without even thinking I pulled it out. Blood started gushing so I pulled off my shirt and tied it into a pressure bandage. I was lucky I didn’t bleed to death."

Olddog_Newtricks2001

"Shock is an IQ reducer. I once sliced a bit off the side of my hand with a broken glass, and sort of dazedly picked off the piece of me and tried to stick it back on. It did not work."

UncannyTarotSpread

Stay Dirty

"Mixing cleaning ingredients."

Jonnysource

"My dad was trying to unclog his kitchen drain and mixed drain cleaners by adding one then adding another a few minutes later. It started bubbling and he began coughing intensely. I heard him coughing from the other room, saw what happened, and opened the nearby window to get rid of the chlorine gas he just produced."

"I forgot there was a large hive of wasps that had moved into that window and they did not appreciate this unexpected interruption. I took him to the emergency room for the gas exposure and it was tough explaining that the wasp stings were not why we were there."

CharmingTuber

Dear God

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"A friend’s husband locked himself out of their home. He tried to get in through a window that had security bars. While squeezing through his foot slipped and he essentially hung himself on the window sill."

Cokej01

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