Everyone loves a good comeback story––perhaps that's why seeing people having a rough go at life troubles us so much. We keep thinking of who they could be if only things turned around.
After Redditor ipeeontoiletseats (what a name) asked the online community, "How did you turn it around?" people shared their stories... and brought a smile to our faces.
"A friend called on my way..."
I got injured in a car accident (rear ended). Lost my business and my wife of 19 years eventually left for another man, leaving behind a 17 year old daughter and 2 year old son.
No job, No car, No money. 2 kids and $2k a month in rent coming due.
Two days after she left I took my real estate license test. I PASSED! I had planned to surprise her but had hid that I was studying in case I failed. Either way it wasn't enough and I ended up taking a job at Amazon. I worked a graveyard shift while my daughter stayed home with my son. I also did open houses on the weekend in hopes someone would walk in unrepresented...
It still wasn't enough so I signed up to drive Uber and lift. I had been able to pick up a decent vehicle from a family member for cheap and I was in business. I switched my graveyard shift to a day shift and started driving through the nights. The money was alright but I realized I could make a little more if I switched from Amazon to another large company in the area, so I did. I did that for about a year
Things were ok, I was making good money and then Coldwell Banker fired me. I didn't think Coldwell fired anyone as long as they were paying their dues. I had never sold a house so all it meant was I needed to switch to another broker. Turns out that was a blessing in disguise.
A friend called on my way to sign with Keller Williams and convinced me to sign with a temp agency. I was skeptical but what did I have to lose? The first and second day I was placed with Toll Brothers. It was alright and I could see myself doing that. On the third day I was sent to a local developer and my world was changed.
The broker of record and the local developer took me under their wing. After a few months they hired me away from my temp broker, gave me a salary and commissions and provided me with an opportunity to change my kids' lives forever. I was able to go from working 4 jobs to just one and I have learned more about myself than I could have ever imagined possible.
It's been three and a half long years but I wouldn't change a thing if I could.
"After four months..."
When I was a teenager I was homeless. A lot of places wouldn't hire me because I had no experience or interview clothes. I went to the board of education and begged the HR lady to give me a chance at any job. I told her I'd scrub the school with a toothbrush if they paid me. She took pity.
They made me a general sub for clerical. I took a call for one of the "bad neighborhood" schools that some others turned down. Walked across town to get there every day do I had to start walking at 4:30 am to be on time. I wore dress clothes from a church mission that were way too big but I did my best.
After four months they gave me a long-term position. Then a permanent one with benefits. I saved up enough for an apartment (finding a landlord okay with renting to an 18 year old homeless girl was hard) and started college.
I haven't been homeless a day since in the last 15 years. I even have a house now.
"I'm almost at the point..."
Reading more and using social media less. I'm almost at the point where I can just delete reddit. Almost.
"I decided to stop comparing myself..."
I decided to stop comparing myself to my brother and try to focus on the improvable.
"Paid off my debts..."
Paid off my debts slowly but surely and worked my @ss off to buy a house. Took years but it was worth it.
Moving out of my parents house.
I was living with my parents (which is very common thing in India) until end of my med school. I've been in my comfort zone all my life and had everything I need. That led to depression and I wanted to live by myself and to get out of my bubble. Now I can't say I figured it all but I definitely feel better.
"I heavily reduced..."
I heavily reduced sugar when I was 21 and started resistance training . 2 years later and I am feeling the best I have ever felt, have so much energy and self confidence because I actually like the way I look now. Clothes fit so much better as well.
Realizing I dont have to act like someone Im not just to be liked by everyone. Changed my life choices and it made me a much happier man. I wish Ive done it sooner and not on my late 20s. So much wasted time.
"It helped me break out of OCD..."
Went to the gym.
It helped me break out of OCD induced psychosis and brought me back to reality and have been going everyday since - Had to replace it with exercising in the park during the peak of COVID though.
"I used to hate myself."
I used to hate myself. I had a lot of anxiety throughout middle school and high school. I didn't know how to describe how I was feeling and it cost me my relationships with friends and a girl I dated for a short time. It nearly destroyed my relationship with my parents and my family because I would always say I was fine when I and they knew I wasn't, some part of me wished I never existed.
When I graduated high school in 2017 and I didn't talk to most of the friends I had left and didn't really know what to do. And In mid 2018 I was talking to a friend who was visiting from out of state who said that he had dealt with the same thing and said that if I tried to thinking positively and try to stay relaxed when I'm starting to feel anxious, it might help. And over the last two years I've been doing that.
It wasn't easy at first, but it's getting easier. I've started talking to friends and my relationship with my family is getting better, I even have a great relationship with my extended family too. I'm still working on expressing how I feel and socializing.
If anyone reading this takes anything away from this post, I hope it's that you know that you'll find you way eventually, don't rush, you'll get it, I know I am.
"Now I'm happy..."
Delaware Valley Job Corps. And moving away from every bad element of my life. Now I'm happy, healthy and looking forward to getting married in a few years. This all happened over the course of 10+ years.
"Paired wih an antipsychotic..."
Magic mushrooms every 10 days has radically transformed my life in every way. Paired with an antipsychotic, I've been able to pretty thoroughly undo the phenomena that results from my bipolar disorder and become a lot less miserable.
"I got married..."
I got married and became more responsible, actually showed up to work and paid my bills. Unfortunately, we divorced a few years ago. But we get along great and have two wonderful children.
"This was the best thing to ever happen to me..."
I experienced a horrible falling out with the person I lived with so I moved out. This was the best thing to ever happen to me because I realized I surrounded myself with people that didnt think highly of me and that colored how I thought of myself and what I was capable of. It also taught me a lesson in letting go when a situation is no longer worth pursuing.
A month after moving out, I was offered a job in another state making 25% more. I took it and traveled to 11 different states. Had a lot of memorable experiences that I would not have had otherwise: went to disney world during halloween, kayaked in bioluminescent waters, hiked grandfather mountain, sailed, etc.
I also started dating people that thought the world of me. I didnt know what that felt like until I left my old life behind. Even breaking up and moving on in a mature manner was another new experience for me.
I really feel like I came a long way. I am loved, I am financially secure and I surround myself with good people that I want to emulate in my day to day life. Don't let anyone else tell you what your worth is. Their limited experiences cannot fathom anything great that happens to you.
"I met a guy in 2017..."
I met a guy in 2017 and we decided to move to a small town in Arizona after just 3 months of knowing each other. I realized 6 months after that he was an abusive control freak and I was in a bad spot. I was in a pretty bad situation. I had been lower that before ( abusive childhood, attempts to kill myself, self harm), but this time I was in a strange place with no family close. I felt trapped. Then, kinda suddenly, I started to realize how much control I had over the situation. I made a lot of money as a waitress and was the breadwinner. So I started saving my money and not mentioning anything to my SO. The final straw for me was his threats to my life. He pointed a knife at me and himself, at one point throwing the knife at me.
So I took the car one day to the laundromat claiming to wash some stuff. I called my father ( he lives 4 hours away) and told him everything. I was so afraid for my life as I drove to the police station ( in my SO's car that we shared). I was in that police station for almost 8 hours. I had no where else to go. I sat there and waited for my dad to get the chance to drive up and help me decide what to do.
My life changed so drastically in the matter of days. With the money I had saved and my dad by my side, i was able to get the majority of my stuff for my old house, including many houseplants and my cat, and start my new life.
I bought a house on my own, a pretty new car, and still be able feed myself and my cat. I had so many people who were willing to help me with some of the little things and I made some amazing friendships through it all.
Now almost a whole year later, I feel like a different person. I am in a healthy relationship for probably the first time ever and I am completely independent. I also have my dream job and the perfect schedule for me. I believe the true way I turned my life around was realizing I couldn't control everything in life, but one thing I could control was who I gave my time to and how I spend my time. I also decided to be confident in myself and honest to others about what I want. I started to go after what I had only dreamed about before. I feel so lucky and thankful for everything I have and the people that helped me. I feel like me for the first time ever. I will never again apologize for being who I wanna be.
"It forced me..."
I moved away from my hometown to get away from friends and family. It forced me to become independent and focus on a career and myself.
I made a mess of my life in my 20s. It started with not knowing how to handle the stress I was under in college, in combination with social crap and years of undiagnosed anxiety and depression coming to a head. I got through college via a series of band aids and short term fixes, and after college wound up in an abusive relationship with a compulsive liar with control issues and an obsession with his public image. I allowed him to put me in debt so deep that I had to file for bankruptcy. And then I continued to support him for over a year.
This is all kept vague because I've got a million stories about how I messed up the first half of my life and alienated all of my friends. Then, I got a very loud wake up call after I broke up with the abusive boyfriend, and this is how I turned it around.
I changed my environment. I moved to be away from the toxic ex and the people who weren't there for me when I was neck deep in trouble, and to be closer to my sister.
I went to a doctor and got the medication I needed to keep my mood stable. This had additional ups and downs, but in the end I have the meds I need to have a stable mood.
I made a decision that I needed to be happy with myself before I could be happy with another person, and that I deserved to be picky about who I dated. Because of that decision I passed on a guy who turned out to only be nice on the surface, and wound up with the wonderful person I'm with now - and we'll have been together ten years in December.
I figured out what I need to be satisfied in life and set my goals around that.
And I learned to be better with my money, and to put myself and my own well being first.
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The Mandela effect is when multiple people share the same, incorrect memory.
Its name stems from when paranormal researcher Fiona Broome falsely believed that the future president of South Africa, Nelson Mandela, died in prison in the 1980s.
A false memory she shared with a number of others.
Our memories have been known to deceive us, as we might frequently forget someone's name or one of our numerous online passwords.
But when we share a memory that turns out to be false with many others, convincing ourselves it wasn't the truth can be a very difficult ordeal indeed.
Redditor Mysterious_Boat_1701 was curious to hear people's most unsettling experiences with the Mandela Effect, leading them to ask:
"Which Mandela effect freaks you out the most and why?"
A mysterious gym
"Just had one personally."
"Went to a mall where there was supposedly a gym, asked around and nobody that worked at the mall knew what I was talking about."
"Looked around and couldn't find it."
"Come back a few months later and it’s right there in front of my face, you'd have to be strung out to not notice it."
"idk how or when it just appeared but it freaked me out."- prex320278
A "fruit"ful logo.
"That the fruit of the loom logo never had a cornucopia."
"What’s crazy about that one is that someone emailed the creator of the logo about it and he said even he remembers it having one."- mrcock2·
Less well intentioned than they thought.
"I Mandela effected my whole family once."
"Years ago there was a football player on a rival team that always did a dumb celebration after he got a sack and my family and I always hated it."
"One night after he did it my family started trashing the celebration and I said as a joke 'we are all going to feel terrible when we find out he is doing that celebration as a request from a make-a-wish kid'."
"Fast forward to years later and our team is playing that team again."
"The player got a sack and did the celebration."
"I rolled my eyes and said 'I hate that celebration so much' my mom instantly turned and said 'don't say that, he is doing it for a sick kid'."
"'I actually like it."
"So I was like 'what?'"
"'No there is no sick kid', my whole family then proceeded to argue with me'."
"They all vividly remembered reading articles about it, seeing special report segments before games about it, and other information."
"Some of them even thought they knew the disease the kid had and even extra details about why the kid chose that specific celebration."
"They all had these shared memories that they were sure were true."
"I was floored by all this and insisted none of that was true."
"So we looked it up.'
'No kid like that ever existed.'
"They still have trouble wrapping their heads around this one."
"Turned out human memory is not near as reliable as we think"
"It was American Football and the player was Jared Allen of the Minnesota Vikings and his cattle roping sack celebration."
"This was maybe 10 years ago."- AUSpartan37College Football Win GIF by Michigan State FootballGiphy
His eyesight was better than we thought.
"Mr. Monopoly's monocle."- Additional_Day9903
It's not easy being green.
"I have a personal one that to this day a decade later still destroys my mind."
"I had an old(ish) 2001 dodge neon."
"With BLACK SEATS.'
"I drove this car for years and years, like 80,000 miles.'
'All through college."
"I took work breaks in my car, commuted hours every day total, to college and then the opposite direction to work and back."
"I even lived out of this thing on several occasions.'
'The day I go and trade it in, I'm pulling misc things out of the car at the dealer."
'And the seats are GREEN."
"Not even a little."
'Like very unmistakably GREEN."
"In my black Neon, with black interior, that ALWAYS HAD BLACK SEATS."
"My girlfriend then, wife now, goes oh they've always been green."
"EXCEPT THEY F*CKING WEREN'T DON'T LIE TO ME."
"This is still upsetting to this day..... life is a lie and nothing is real."- ZakuLegionWinona Ryder Omg GIFGiphy
An urban legend was born.
"Not a global one, just a family thing."
"Back in 2002 my grandma had her 60th birthday, my father took us home at 10.00pm, ready for bed."
"We, me and brother, were 12 and 14 at this time."
'All went well."
"Over the years, a story was made up that we went missing after visiting the local playground after dinner at said grandma's birthday party."
"Some neighbors help to search us, the whole train of 'missing children in a smal village'-thing."
"Fun fact: we never went missing."
"Dad brought us home, put on 'Toy Story' on tv and left."
"My brother and I heard first about this in 2015.'
"From different people on different occasions."
"'Ah your one of the missing boys'."
"I first thought they were mocking me for a different event.'
"I got lost, but it was 2013, alcohol inflicted, different story."
"But then they ALL tell us the same story about us going missing."
'And the stories are damn close to 'true' in every story my mum is driving around the same neighbors to different locations to search, old wine yard, old mill etc."
"Sometimes I think I got lost on the most brutal way."
"I was lost and changed this plane of existence with another one."
"It sometimes made me think about my whole life."- tjorben123missing kenny mccormick GIF by South Park Giphy
Memories are a fascinating thing.
They can be changed or altered with even the tiniest suggestion.
And making the truth seem less believable than lies.
One last time. One last meal.
How do you chose a last meal?
Let's hope we never have to find out.
People on death row get that option.
Do they deserve it?
Whose to say?
But they have it.
A steak. A pizza... Burger King.
The food world is their oyster.
Oyster. Also an option.
The menu is endless...
Redditor No-Caterpillar4212 wanted to know what our menu choices would be if we faced the end. They asked:
"You're on a death row, you have one hour left, they ask for your final meal - what is it?"
I'd want 2 hours in a Golden Coral with a bar. Covers it all.
Masailor moon cooking GIFGiphy
"Everything my mom has ever made."
"I want a nice filet mignon, medium rare, a baked potato with everything on it, and a nice Cabernet from a good year - I'm thinking 2135."
"'Sorry, we couldn't get the Cabernet from 2135. So instead of what could have been a great wine request from a more plausible period of time, you get this crappy stuff we sourced from Wal-Mart. Enjoy your meal, I hope that maintaining your sense of humor was worth it."'
"Something badly cooked so I will be sick and want to die sooner and have diarrhea so bad it will be a last revenge!"
"Taco bell it is!"
"If Taco Bell makes you poop a lot, it's a sign that you probably need more fiber in your diet."
The Yuck Factor
"A huge bowl of baked beans, a bowl of shredded wheat, a six egg omelette, and a gallon of apple cider. I'm gonna make it awful for everyone."
"Save yourself the hassle of eating all that, just ask for one pack of sugar free Haribo gummy bears. Should make for an interesting time for the folks watching you die."
"You void your bowels when you die too so that should be lovely."
PerfectFried Chicken Scandal GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy
"Fried chicken with some Fanta."
Fried chicken is on the top of everyone's list!
DetailsInterested GIF by Nick CannonGiphy
"150mg of MDMA. I’m dying happy."
"This should absolutely be allowed. If our leaders insist on the practice of capital punishment then the condemned should be able to ingest any substance they damn please."
"McFlurry. Those machine are always broken. I just bought myself some time."
"Is this like an American thing? I worked at a McDonald's in Denmark once and our machine was never once broken when i was there."
"I saw a video about this once. I'm a little fuzzy on the details but I think it has something to do with the contract that was signed in America. Only one company is allowed to do maintenance on the machines and they basically lock out if it's cleaned incorrectly. It's a crap system."
"Cabbage!! Add some cabbage. I don’t know if an hour if enough to take effect but there was an old coworker on a cabbage diet. Omg she smelled, like it was coming out of her pores. She knew she smelled and kept apologizing and reminding us of the diet."
The OG Always
"Olive Garden. Unlimited soup and breadsticks."
"I saw a sketch once, can't remember who it 2qs from. But a an inmate ordered the all you can eat buffet and had been eating for like 8 years. He's constantly on the toilet and takes micro-naps between bites."
"Unlimited for 1 hour. Cool."
How GoldenGolden Girls Dorothy GIF by HULUGiphy
"If my grandma is still alive her potato soup and cheesecake. Hopefully I'd be able to cook said meal with her one last time."
Let's hope none of us has to make this decision.
Most people have friends they've been close to for most of their lives.
But at the same time, friends evolve, and everyone finds themselves losing touch with any number of people they at one point considered their friends over time.
Most of the time, this isn't intentional, but just simply happens.
On rare occasions though, people might realize that their friends were not exactly who they thought they were, and didn't like who they revealed themselves to be.
Redditor One-Refrigerator69 was curious to hear stories of people who realized their friends were not exactly the nicest people to be around, leading them to ask:
"When was the moment you realized that your friends are assholes?"
Compared to others...
"When I started hanging out with better people."- Darklink326
All it took was getting my life together
"When I quit drinking ‘cos it was killing me."
"There were people I literally saw every single day who just disappeared as if by magic."
"12 years ago this week, as it happens."
"I’m not anti-drink, far from it."
"Some people, me included, just can’t enjoy it without it becoming a problem."
"Everyone is different."- bigdaftgeordie
A little perspective goes a long way.
"After I realized that other people don't sh*t on each other on every possible occasion in their circle."
"And that it isn't right when a 'friend' uses every known insecurity as an argument against you when you do not behave the way he/she would want you to."- ViscousPlatemanThe Simpsons GIF by MOODMANGiphy
Lack of respect for other people's things
"I let my friend borrow my ps2 when I went to boot camp."
"When I came back, he said he sold it and gave me $50 I think?"
"This was in 2006."- madmike-86
Lack of mutual respect
"When he does sh*t to me and acts like it’s no big deal, then I do the same back and he gets offended."- Primary-Maybe-2749·
Constantly being taken advantage of.
"They only bothered with me when it suited them."
"I'd rather have nobody than have to deal with that."- zombi33mjhappy eric cartman GIF by South Park Giphy
When they literally revealed themselves to be criminals
"When they robbed me at gunpoint."- Ok_Student8032
When they stopped liking them after a change of situation
"Fourth grade, when my parents economical situation went downhill and suddenly no one invited me to their birthday party."
"Until Seven years later no one had never invited me to their birthday, or to anything at all actually."- Justalittletoserious
Not being able to get a word in...
"When they tell me to shut up when I say anything."- the_golden_cheesela respuesta GIF by Becky GGiphy
Violently playing with emotions
"She got a boyfriend and would let him listen to our phone calls and not tell me, even if I was crying about personal stuff that I would only ever tell her."
"Then they both started lying to me about my crush liking me back, forcing both him and me into awkward positions, telling everyone we liked each other so they'd play along, swapping places constantly to make us sit next to each other, pressuring him into giving me a lap dance, making him kiss the prettiest girl in the room, etc, and encouraged me to shoot my shot more and more."
"All the while they knew he didn't like me, he had told them both directly."
"One night I was crying on the phone cause I was so confused why my advances weren't working, and they just kept explaining it away, blaming some other bullsh*t reason and telling me to try again."
"The next day they told me they were laughing throughout the whole call, because I didn't get it and I was so upset."
"I should add I had no dating experience at all and nobody had ever liked me at this point."- Juliemj
It's always sad when our friends disappoint us.
But when our friends proved to be completely different people than we thought they were, it can be devastating.
As the saying goes, one never truly knows who their friends are.
When visiting any foreign country, one should always be familiar with the laws and customs of the land.
After all, what might be generally accepted on your home turf, might be frowned upon, if not illegal, elsewhere.
For that matter, even locals might need a refresher course on what they can and can't do while at home.
A recent Redditor was curious to hear what tourists and locals alike should avoid doing in the USA, leading them to ask:
"In the United States, what should you never do?"
Stay out of the skies!
"Don't fly a drone in Washington, DC."
"The whole D.C. Area is a no fly zone."
"It's a federal offense."
"Just don't do it."- PeytonCarrK
Cops can't be bribed.
"Don't try to bribe cops when you get pulled over."
"I had some Argentinian friends immediately pull out their wallets and start pooling their cash when they got pulled over once.'
"Fortunately someone in the car noticed and told them to put it away immediately."- PeytonCarrK
"Don't pay off the police."
"My dad has friends from several third-world nations where it is common practice to give the police some cash when you are pulled over."
"However, if you try to bribe a police officer here, you'll get into a lot of trouble."- JohnASmiley
Know your rights.
"Everyone, including foreigners, has the right to be silent and have a lawyer when being questioned."
"Don’t say anything."
"Also, even if you speak English fairly well, ask for an interpreter."- WickedLilThing
Enjoy all that nature has to offer... carefully!
"Don't wander off in the national parks."
"It's very real wilderness and you can get lost and die out there."
"This includes going over railings you aren't supposed to, or off trails."
"People have died accidentally falling into a steam geyser that looked like normal water, mauled by animals or left to the elements."- AlphaOhmeganational parks GIF by Visit The USAGiphy
Allow plenty of time!
"Expect consistency at TSA in airports."- WickedLilThing
Some terminology doesn't translate...
"If you’re from England, they’re called cigarettes here."- Yung_Onions
Make sure your license is up to date.
"If you come from a walkable country don’t come here expecting the same."
"There are some areas with good public transportation and bicycle/pedestrian friendly streets but for the most part, especially outside of cities, the areas are designed to accommodate cars more than anything else."
"The reason a lot of Americans drive everywhere is because, depending on where you live, we have no choice."- The_Cars93Dog Driving GIFGiphy
Wait for instructions.
"Get out of your car and approach the cop when being stopped by a cop unless told to."- hildrash
Whether your'e waling down a street in a foreign country, or the street you've lived on for your entire life, it's always wise to be on guard and aware of your surroundings.
Not to mention, obey the law.