We can't life be fair? Why do we seem to have learned nothing from mistakes of the past? Why do we continue cycles of inequality and bad behavior? When we each a time when everyone stands on the same footing? Is it even possible?
Redditor u/SizzlyStanThePlanMan wanted know what are the most hypocritical and rage inducing society equality issues we face by asking.... What are some insane double standards in today's society?
Diet Thoughts....
GiphyPeople think it is okay to comment on how skinny I am and suggest that I eat more, but if I even try and provide helpful advice to a fatter person I will get called out on it. CoolFantasyGM
Babytime....
The way workplaces see maternity and paternity leave. 3amWednesday
So true. If we want to encourage men to be dad's and take their share of familial responsibility, it's only fair they get the leave too. AlternativeQueen
Otherwise it never lasts on your face.
That women can wear skirts and be business professional but when I show up in my cargo shorts I have to have a meeting with Francis in HR. TableTheBill
Business professional for both sexes suck.
- Men: locked into three layers of clothing. Undergarments, a shirt, a jacket and a tie. Plus matching pants. You either overheat OR you sweat into your shirt/jacket. Your arms are pretty much uncomfortable and not to mention spilling stuff on yourself - you'd have to deal with the three layers.
Women: A reasonably lengthy skirt, a blouse, pantyhose and a face full of makeup. You either freeze to death (there is no amount of clothing that is comfortable like that) or you have to sit uncomfortably for the rest of the day, your pantyhose can run (you can accidentally rip it or worse), and the shoes pinch and you can never have comfortable feet. And you can either sweat off your makeup OR constantly try to reapply your makeup. Not to mention that "good" makeup costs $$$$$$. Otherwise it never lasts on your face. astrangeone88
Society Says....
Women: "I don't want kids, I'm not cut out for it."
Society: "Oh, you'll change your mind when you meet the right man! You're just being silly/stubborn."
Men: "I don't want kids, I'm not cut out for it."
Society: "Oh, that's completely understandable. Not everyone has the patience for kids, so it's very responsible of you to make that decision now for yourself." SheWhoLovesToDraw
Dressing in Public...
When women dress in men's cloths in public it's seen as cute and attractive. When men dress in women's cloths in public it's seen as "creepy/disgusting/weird" They're much more likely to be harassed while doing it too. People are horrible. InarticulateToast
With my Hands....
GiphyI have built this bar with my hands. I have cut the wood, treated it. Nailed and screwed it there, where it stands now. I made the seats by myself, tanning the leather and all. The leather comes from cows that I have fed by myself. Do you think people care about that ? No, they don't. They never say, "look at that dude, he made all this only by himself". No, they never say that. They don't care about the thousand hours I have passed here, building this bar. Yoda-is-a-gremlin
Just Talking.
My younger sister turned 13 and is starting to talk to boys. My mom is allowed to call 13 year old boys cute. I know if my dad did that it would be weird and he would honestly probably literally be kicked out. pikfin
We're ALL paying....
GiphyThat Americans go bankrupt with healthcare but are pleased that they're not paying for other people's healthcare...
Then, people in countries with free healthcare complain that the wait times are too long and you need to pay for parking. Radioactivocalypse
That Americans go bankrupt with healthcare but are pleased that they're not paying for other people's healthcare...
The irony is that they are paying for other people's healthcare and just haven't taken 10 seconds to think about it. That's literally what health insurance is, by definition. And even if you take that out of the equation, hospital prices go up when people skip out on the ER bill so they're paying for it there as well. Keinichn
Throwing Punches.
A woman can hit a man as many times as she wants and suffer no repercussions but if a man hits a woman just once (even if it's self defense) he's seen as a woman-beater and promptly arrested. CosmicBanana616
D-I-V-O-R-C-E
If your wife takes your kids a bunch of your stuff and leaves you without warning... everything is cool and you owe her all your money.
If you take your kids a bunch of her stuff and leave without warning it's abandonment and she get's all your money. eightvo
Victims.
Zero tolerance policies at school. It's important to protect the victim. Unless the victim tries to defend himself/herself. In that case, the victim is just as bad as the attacker. Reddit
The rule isn't there to protect the victim from bullying; the rule is there to protect the school from lawsuits. pjabrony
My middle school had a stupid rule that if you even watched a fight go down, you would be punished just as bad as the two fighting. Issue (and good thing) for me was the fights always happened at the end of my street for whatever reason. I would get called into the office every single time but had a legit reason for being there. CoolFantasyGM
Right?!?!
2 girls kissing - "They're just messing around, girls do it all the time"
2 guys kissing - "That's gay!" T-Money8741
Having Kids.
Mom out with her kid = She's being a parent.
Dad out with his his = He's babysitting. ladies-pmme-nudespls
Yes! I came here to say exactly this. And to elaborate - if a woman refused to tend to her baby all night, leaving her partner so exhausted he can barely even manage a shower or a meal for himself the next day while she continued with life as normal, people would call her abusive. Yet when men do this to the mothers of their children, it's normalized and seen as par for the course of having a new baby. Scroll_Queeen
Get Help.
GiphyDon't let the stigma of mental illness stop you from getting the help you need! But, ohhhh just don't let it impact Your job in any discernible way. Ladyughsalot1
That doesn't make it OK.
I'm a male massage therapist. It's legitimately disturbing when some creepy old lady whips her breasts out and leers at me like she's doing me a favor, but most of the time I mention it in passing people treat me like I'm a little fool for complaining. I get it, guys are usually more physically intimidating. It's got to be worse having it happen when the gender roles are reversed. That doesn't make it OK. thisplacemakesmeangr
Justice.
Sentencing disparity - Differences between races but also genders. The fact you can commit a crime but depending on your race and gender means your sentence can be radically different. vkbuffet
18n & Up....
18 is old enough to go off to war, but too young to buy cigarettes. Scrappy_Larue
Yeah, don't mind the literal ton of almost odorless vehicle exhaust and greenhouse gasses all around you, only cigarette smoke affects health. not_better
Loud Voices....
Just had an argument with my mom. She thinks it's ok to scream at someone's face but it isn't ok for a man to do it back. Now we has no fam. BadCat115
My parents liked to do something similar. Even if you didn't raise your voice, if they just perceived something rude about what you said or didn't like the tone you spoke in they would scream for 15 minutes minimum and be mad for the rest of the week.
Now they can't seem to understand why 2/3's of their children won't even speak to them. thotwater91
$$$ Talks....
GiphyOne word: Affluenza
If you're rich you can pretty much do whatever you want. The richer you are the more evil crap you can get away with. PunchBeard
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.