It's the dream of every parent and family member that their loved ones find a significant other who is deserving of them. A person who will love them, care for them, cherish and protect them or at the very least... a person who won't rob them blind and leave their souls broken and in despair. More often than not parents aren't going to just jump on the new boyfriend/girlfriend bandwagon and that can be an arduous, frustrating process but sometimes our loved ones are spot on! They can smell the rat while we're only seeing roses. And it's not easy for anyone involved to make the situation palatable.
Redditor u/eternalsoul116 asked people of Reddit to admit... Who's the biggest loser your son/daughter has dated?
Let's make a garage band!
My little sister dated a guy who kept trying to convince her to drop out of a UC school and move into his mom's garage.
It took way too much effort on my dad and my part to get her to put the kibosh on that relationship, mostly because the guy's mom thought my sister was good for him and tried to fight us on it.
My daughter dated a guy who was a crappy, lying, lazy, abusive, gaslighting a**hole. Besides that, he 1) dropped out of high school at 14; 2) never attempted to get a GED/diploma equivalency; 3) had more than one conviction for public intoxication/underage drinking/drunk driving, which left him 4) "unable" to get a job for approximately 18 months of the about 2 years they were together; 5) got fired from Walmart after only working two weeks, for missing work because his kid supposedly was victim of an abduction attempt (turns out the kid made it up); 6) smoked weed in her apartment bathroom, knowing that if my daughter failed a drug screen her career would be ruined; 7) had his two kids every other weekend, but spent the entire time with headphones on, gaming, meaning my daughter had to watch his kids or they'd destroy her apartment; 8) would only eat corn or potatoes, hamburgers or chicken fingers, or pizza, but fast food was A-ok; 9) never picked up after himself, so every horizontal surface was covered in half-drunk pop cans, fast food wrappers, cups and bags, dirty plates, moldy food (daughter is an RN and worked 12-hour shifts, which is sort of an excuse); 10) punched a hole in her apartment wall; 11) held a gun to his own head, then laughed at her for taking him seriously; 12) constantly accused her of cheating, so she had to unfriend all males on her Facebook, including her father; 13) threatened to leave when her anxiety and depression had her sleeping anytime she wasn't at work; and 14) when she finally took him up on his bluff it was during a terrifying food-throwing, soda-hurling, furniture-smashing temper tantrum that had her grab her cats from under the bed and come to my house 50 miles away.
I could go on, but remembering all that is turning my stomach. In cleaning her apartment afterward, we had to wash the walls from where he had done a Hollywood-style sweep of the coffee table top, spraying Dr. Pepper all over the carpet, TV and stand, wall, and canvas art, all the way to the ceiling. Then for good measure he smashed the coffee table.
He was a complete tool and with the help of a therapist she is finally getting back to the funny, intelligent, confident girl she was before he messed her head up. I am thrilled I don't have to dread that phone call...you know the one, where she was calling to say he'd beaten her (there would have been a long line of people wanting to pull his ballstrings up through his throat, believe me), or worse, one from a coroner.
Never join cash!
My sister dated them all! My favorite was a guy who convinced her to have joint bank accounts and stole 6 months worth of pay from her. We didn't know until after the relationship. The dude was a major conman salesman type that had like 4 different get rich quick schemes while they dated.
While nothing compared to some of the stories here it doesn't feel great to see my daughter move in with a high school drop out and "take a break" from college.
I'm expecting any day now to hear that her savings that was supposed to be for college will be going to pay off his debt.
Break her free!
My sister is currently married to a controlling a**hole. He leaves jobs and accepts others out of state without consulting her, forcing her to leave medical practices on short notice. She is now working for the Feds and he has just done it again. She has been trying to get a transfer but he's telling her to quit now. Her career is in shambles because of her poor job history of leaving places on short notice. Plus she's gained about 200lbs and this guys legs are purple and about to fall off because he doesn't believe in diets. She wants kids and he has one already and is refusing to have another (Thank goodness) but she is depressed and unhappy. She refuses to leave him, citing her age as an excuse.
He has insulted my family in front of me and has tried to bully my husband and I. When that didn't work, after I yelled at him, he told her she wasn't allowed to talk to us anymore. He has cussed out my mother over the phone, and ridiculed every last one of my family members. I don't currently speak to her, because I cannot stand to hear all of the shitty things he does. My mother has very little contact with her as well, I'm not 100% on the exact reason but I suspect its not far from mine. I have told her she is welcomed to stay with my husband and I if she ever wants to leave him. No matter what time day or night I will book the plane ticket and replace anything that she cannot bring with her.
My dad threatened to take me off the will if I ended up with my ex. Not that I would ever pick money over love (obviously considering I was going into major debt being with this guy), but my dad is a man of few words - everything he says has weight and purpose. That threat made me seriously re-evaluate my relationship with my ex who couldn't keep a job for more than a few weeks. We dated for two years and I dragged out the break up for way longer than I should have.
I'm now with a guy who has a pulls his weight in the relationship! Good luck to your daughter.
Follow the $$$
My sister dated a guy, lets call him Tom, who worked under my dad at the business he owns and runs. Now I'm not saying Tom was a loser because worked for our family, my sister and I both work in similar positions and thats how they met. But there were a number of instances that just shouted "Hey whats up I'm Tom and I'm a loser." For example, Tom seemed to never have any money, usually blaming things like his rent being to high or his car needing to be worked on.
Due to this my sister ended up having to pay for the majority of the dates and dinners that they went on. In reality, he had spent most of his money on unnecessary toys like Dirt bikes, guns, and modifications for his 1999 Honda civic. His spending habits got so bad that his landlord threatened him with eviction, this tore my sister up, not because he was getting evicted but because she knew that he was making enough money to never be in that type of situation. Anyway, Tom got the bright idea to ask her and my father for the rent money ($650) while they were out to dinner. My dad ended up helping him out so he wouldn't go homeless, but what he didn't know was that Tom had asked him for more money than what his rent was so he could go out and spend it on other things other than my sister. So yeah he was a loser and I didn't like him much.
My really quite intelligent daughter once dated a lad who didn't know the difference between the sun and the moon. Not joking. Ages - My daughter was 18 and the lad was 20
He thought the moon glowed because it was the same as the sun, ie a ball of nuclear fire. Although I imagine he knew it wasn't as hot. He had no idea at all that the moon was reflecting light.
He came from a family of people who saw very little point in education. His mother had never worked, none of his family worked, he didn't work.
He was actually a nice lad, but difficult to converse with due to his very low level of education.
Something is fishy!
My sister dated a guy who lied about being a Navy Seal. Apparently there is like a whole community of people who do that, just go around unemployed living on ??? telling their SOs when they disappear for weeks at a time that they were "deployed." It never made any sense to us, and she broke up with him for other reasons and gets really pissed off if anyone mentions the relationship happened.
He was a creepy dude who took advantage of her trusting nature and that she was at a low point in her life, and I regret not doing more to call him out on his obvious bull. He's still in the area doing God knows what, probably trotting out the same crap to new women. I hope one day he gets his ass beat by a real Navy Seal!
My sister dated this d**khead that would make her cry about once every 2 months. He posted something to Facebook that had a picture of a notebook and something like "If you come home and expect your husband to work around the house, your going to have a bad marriage." Inside the book. She broke up with him just a month ago.