People Break Down The Absolute Worst Parts About Having A Child

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While starting a family and having children is a goal that many people have, some do not realize that it's not easy, fun, and loving one-hundred percent of the time. Rather, it's expensive, exhausting, and hard, though it might be worth it in the end.

With this in mind, people shared what they felt were the hardest hurdles of their parenting.


Redditor ApprehensiveShock655 asked:

"What's the worst part of having a child?"

Fear of Not Doing Enough

"The constant anxiety that you’re doing enough to shape them to make good choices, a good life, be a good person and for them to have the life they deserve."

- nakedreturnsthe1st

Like the Energizer Bunny

"It's incessant. It never stops. You never get a day off."

"Going from having two days per week to relax and do whatever to literally never having a moment free from responsibility."

- mrbuh

No Break In Sight

"I’ve always wanted kids and still do, but this is the only thing that has come close to giving me pause."

"Both my siblings have young kids and I cannot get over how CONSTANT it is."

"From the second the kids wake up to when they finally shut their eyes, it’s non-stop. Then they get maybe an hour or two to themselves, which is mostly spent tidying up, etc., before the nighttime stuff starts with the baby crying, the toddler coming into bed, nightmares, etc."

"It requires years of not getting a full night's rest. You can never just go out whenever you want. No sleeping in, even on weekends because someone has to be up with them at 6 AM."

"Raising human children is an insane task."

- GirlisNo1

Mom's Body After Baby and Dad Bods

"The weight gain is the worst! During the pregnancy, I gained 35 pounds. My belly has stretch marks. My boobs are all saggy."

"And it’s not even fair because my wife only gained like 15."

- Wise-Reaction-7526

The Meal Planning

"Coming up with three meals to eat per day EVERY DAY stresses me out so bad."

"This sounds like such a small thing, but it really wears on you over time. You can’t just make something for yourself or something you and your spouse feel like eating: You have to constantly be thinking about if the kid is hungry and what they might be willing to eat."

- Ravenclaw79

Keeping Them Safe

"When people ask me this I say, 'do you know those video games where you have to escort a character to a destination without them being attacked?' That's parenting. Those missions are a pain in the a**."

- Infiniski_Gaming

Seriously, Keep Them Safe

"Having to deal with their total lack of self-preservation. They are creative and come up with all kinds of ways to try and kill themselves. Keeping ahead of the game is exhausting."

- Quizzical_Chimp

Constant Contact

"They’re just always there. On you, behind you, in front of you, just a little speed bump impeding every task."

- Tangboy500000

Letting Them Live Their Life Their Way

"Having a kid is like having a little piece of your heart running around in the world. When they're sick or get disappointed or just feel sad, it's worse than having it happen to you."

"Yet at the same time, you need to let your kids work through those things to learn to handle them. If you give into the worry and try to shield them from everything, you risk creating harmful co-dependence."

"So it's a constant struggle. But worth it!"

- um_chili

What Is "Sleep" Again?

"I'm only nine years in, but so far, it's been the sleep deprivation. Hands down."

- tessiegamgee

And What Are These "Sick Days" You Speak Of?

"Having to take care of a sick child when you are also sick. For me that has been the most challenging part so far."

- MrsLouisaMercury

Another Full-Time Job

"It's like taking a second job that lasts 18+ years with a 24/7 schedule with no holidays or sick days."

"…And no second paycheck. It's actually like YOU are paying your second salary instead of getting one."

- mouse_rat

Personal Freedom

"The loss of freedom. I can't just... go somewhere. Even with older kids, there's so much planning and thinking and getting ready."

"I miss being able to just decide to go somewhere, and go there."

- poetris

The Time Flies

"The best advice I got was from an ancient hospital security guard in an elevator. 'The days are long, the years are short, cherish them while you can.'"

- WayOfTheHouseHusband

So Unexpected

"The phrase I hate is, 'You don't know it, but one day you pick your kid up for the last time.'"

- 3_pac

There are all kinds of troubles that come from being a parent, many of which people don't necessarily think about until they already have a baby in the house.

But reassuringly, many people in the subReddit pointed out that no matter how hard some of these hurdles are to get over, it's still worth it in the end, and it goes by far too fast.

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