When there's nothing going your way and it seems like things will never get better, many of us find ourselves fantasizing about dropping everything and buying a one way ticket to anywhere else. What would it be like to just start over in a place where nobody even knows who you are?
Reddit user u/SmustachedMike asked:
Grew up in a very small town in West Virginia. Didn't have a great childhood, struggled my way through college, lost my only sibling to suicide and decided enough was enough. Packed a single suitcase and bought a flight to Alaska just about three years ago.
I got an incredible, life changing job when I moved here. Started a relationship that was amazing and made me feel so full of life and love. Made friends that have made me a stronger person and shown me what people outside of a small simple-minded town are like.
Unfortunately I am now in my first "hard" part of this move. Going through a breakup. But in less than a week I am moving into my first ever solo apartment, I have a new position at work that I'm loving, and I'm looking forward to the rest of my life... however it ends up going. So I guess I'm doing alright. :)
Moved from Albuquerque to Las Vegas, NV in 1999. I took what I could fit in my car. 20 years later and I'm still here and I still love it. My brother told me mom's husband said "I'll give it six months." F*ck you Larry.
Small town New England, everyone from my school was marrying each other and sending their kids to the same school, or dying. I met a guy from California, fell in love, and bought a one way ticket. Packed my cat and hopped on a plane. Our relationship lasted four years, and our breakup was pretty amicable. After seven years in California, I packed up the cat and drove to Oregon. California wasn't for me, and I'm so incredibly happy now. I have an amazing job and fiance, and the same cat lol
Everyone thought I was crazy, and I was, but it was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I moved from the east coast to the west coast by myself 3 years ago. I'm happier in general. The weather is nicer, I make better money, I live by the beach. But I'm really lonely. I had a lot of friends back home that I'd known for years. It's hard to make new friends as an adult. I drink a lot more heavily too. The boredom of loneliness and the super easy accessible of hard alcohol at every store makes it too easy. I can't imagine leaving and going back to where I'm from though.
I went traveling for a year after uni. While in the US, I met a woman that I fell for pretty quickly. We did long distance for a couple years, where I went back to uni for a bachelor's degree. I managed to go back every year for a few months, and she was able to visit me as well once.
Finally, after I graduated, I was able to buy a one way ticket. I got rid of most of my stuff, got eight boxes of things shipped over, and said goodbye to all my family and friends.
It was one of the scariest things I've ever done, and it was hard saying goodbye to my family at the airport in particular. That was one of the longest trips of my life (and not just because it was 21 hours in the air), but I'm glad I did. That woman is now my wife, we have a one year old daughter, and we're now talking about me having our second baby. And I get to Skype with my family every day - my mum has not missed a single day since our daughter was born. I think I talk to my family more now than when I lived in Australia.
Do I ever wonder what life would have been like if I didn't move halfway around the world? Yes, every now and then. Do I regret it? Definitely not.
Grew up in a smallish town in the Midwest and always dreamed of moving to NYC. Really can't pinpoint why exactly, just seemed like from TV and movies that was the best place to live.
Wasn't confident to make the move right out of high school, so went to college near my hometown. Senior year of college, around Spring Break time, friends started getting job offers and planning to start their post-college adult life.
Told myself, "this is the best time, make a move." Lease on my college apartment was up in August, so I picked the day with the cheapest one-way flight that whole month and bought the ticket. That was my moving date. Sold or donated everything I owned (I was 22, so nothing of real value- college clothing, IKEA furniture, etc). Stuffed one large suitcase and a backpack and boarded the plane- that was my first time I'd ever been to NYC.
13 years later and don't regret it for a minute. Best decision I've ever made.
Born and raised in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. Wanted to skip winter one year in 2006 so I went to Mexico. 2019 and I still live in MX. hahahaha. Funny how life can just change and go in a different direction. I can't even imagine living in Canada anymore. Every few years I go back for a visit... still don't miss it.
After college and a failed, naive first relationship I decided to buy a one way ticket to Norway from California. I found an au pair job on the internet with a family in a tiny farm town. I applied for a visa and within two and half months I was on a plane for two years.
The au pair stint didn't work out. But three weeks after I moved to Norway I ended up meeting the Norwegian I would marry. I spent my weekends with him and had a one week vacation in Rome with him a month after we started dating. I spent major norwegian holidays with him and most of my summer in Oslo with him. When the au pair contract came to an end after nine months, he told me he would marry me and move to the US to be with me.
Three years later and we live in California together. We started out dirt poor. We got married a week after he flew out and signed a lease for a studio apartment the same morning. Spent most of the first year of marriage unemployed and bugs all over our closet apartment.
Since then we have made a family with our dog who has a heart shaped nose. We're in the last stages of his permanent residence green card and I have a good career that makes up for his absence from his family. We hope to move to Norway and start a family in our thirties.
Life is a challenge living with a partner who is an immigrant in one place or another. There are a whole set of disadvantages and set backs due to immigration and timelines. But it's the best thing that's ever happened to us. I grew up, found love, gained perspective, and have never lived and loved life happier.
10/10 Would suggest buying that one way ticket.
I grew up in (mostly) small towns in rural Oklahoma. I had never traveled or gone anywhere interesting save one trip to New Orleans, and I really hated living in OK. I lived with my folks still at the age of 24 after a string of dead-end jobs and failing college, so I spent a lot of time online and met some good people. One of them one day said 'If you can swing a bus ticket I can offer you a place to stay and get you a job here.'
3 days later I had packed a bag, dropped off my PC at a UPS store, hopped a Greyhound for North Carolina and didn't look back. Getting out on my own two feet (well, I still had plenty of support from friends at first) was pretty much the best thing I could've done. Since then I've lived and traveled all over the US and Canada, met lots of interesting people, and had a pretty good time.
That was in 1996, which was the end of a long bout of depression and insomnia and generally hating life. Things haven't always been the best, but they've been a lot better in the ensuing 20-odd than they had been, so I have no complaints.
I'm originally from the Netherlands. My ex left me after 12 years and abandoned her half of the mortgage during the 2008 credit crisis, resulting in about 70000 euros of debt.
Left with literally less than nothing, I started applying for visas. I wanted to get as far away as I physically could. The USA was hopeless, New Zealand only wanted academics, but Australia was actively favouring programmers with work experience.
So there I went with a suitcase full of nothing but broken dreams and marketable skills. It is now 10 years later and I am debt free and an Australian citizen. I live in a fixed up fibro shed on the edge of a national park, no indoor sanitation, no television, no fridge, but the view is to die for.
I am forever grateful for the kindness of strangers and community spirit which Australia showed me, but the Netherlands had lost.
There is nothing people hate more than when a major turning point in their favorite TV show is spoiled for them.
Friends were undoubtedly lost over the fate of Derek Shepherd on Grey's Anatomy, fights broke out over who killed Omar Little on The Wire, and the identity of "A" on Pretty Little Liars.
The anger of these devoted viewers becomes more and more ironic with each passing year, as they eagerly rewatch these shows on a semi-regular basis.
Despite knowing every possible twist, turn, surprise kiss, or unexpected death.
This time, however, they don't care, as the mark of a good show is one that creates a world we just want to reenter over and over again.
Perhaps the lack of any possible "spoilers" only increases our enjoyment.
"What show will you never get tired of rewatching?"
"A Dimension Not Only Of Sight And Sound, But Also Of Mind..."
"Twilight Zone."- whaler76
We All Need A Good Laugh...
"Whose Line Is It Anyway."- 4everlurk
The Brits Got It Right
"UK, which shouldn't need to be said, but it does."- findingthescore
Who Knew Vampires Could Be So Funny!
"What We Do in the Shadows."- zizismuq
Definitely The Crowd You Want To Be A Part of...
"IT Crowd."- zzzonked666
Reflecting On Our Past...
"Band of Brothers."- mrandmrsm
And King Of Our Hearts
"King of the Hill."- 661Lee93
The Truth Is Indeed Out There...
"X files."- Big-Pool
There's A Middle Child In All Of Us
"Malcolm in the Middle."- midoes
Live Long And Prosper!
"Star Trek: The Next Generation."- SAR81
With all the streaming services now available, not to mention promising new network shows, there are countless new series for us to enjoy.
However, sometimes committing to a new series and risking disappointment just seems less appetizing than re-watching a show we know and love.
Maybe returning to a place "where everybody knows our name", or watching Lost enough times to finally figure out if [SPOILER ALERT] the ending makes any sense...
Roughly 12 percent of the world's population is left handed.
Studies have shown that being in this distinct minority comes with a number of advantages.
Indeed, four the last seven Presidents of the United States were all left-handed,
And considering Phil Mickelson, Rafael Nadal and Oscar De La Hoya are all left-handed as well, it seems lefties are at an advantage on the field or in the court or arena.
Though, if you were to speak to a left-handed person about their experience, they'll more than likely bemoan all the disadvantages of being a lefty.
Of which, there are admittedly several.
"What is the worst thing about being left-handed?"
Take Your Pick...But Mainly Scissors...
"The smudging is annoying."
"The right-handed desks suck."
"But it’s scissors, man."
"F*cking scissors."- Icy_Mortgage6654
Sucks The Joy Out Of Morning Coffee
"All the cute designs on mugs are only visible for right handed people."- jdon93
"Measuring cup labels are on the other side when I use my left hand."- maninthemoonpieGreat British Baking Show GIF by PBSGiphy
Good Penmanship Is Futile
"Fountain pens, and pencils."
"F*cking hate smudges."- deanfranz12
"When you write, you have to put your whole arm on the paper because you are actively pushing it."
"Whereas right handed people just have to apply a little force not to pull the paper."- iStealP
To Assume Makes An A** Out Of You And Me...
"When someone tries to teach you how to play guitar, line up a pool cue, shoot a bow and arrow, and they can’t because you’re left-handed."- aeowyn7Dougie Payne Guitar GIF by TravisGiphy
At Least Some Progress Has Been Made...
"My grandad was left-handed."
"He went to a catholic school, this was in the 1930s/early 1940s UK, and the nuns would tie his left hand behind him and hit him until he wrote with his right hand."
"They said that it was a ‘sign of the devil’ if someone was left-handed."
"So cruel."- miz_moon
Might As Well Be Dying...
"Hearing the following words:"
"'Ohhh you're left handed!'"
"It becomes grating after the 1000th time of hearing it."- redbutterfly_78
In All Seriousness, It's Worse Than You Think...
"Left handed people aren't taught how to write as lefties, they are taught as if they are right handed."
"Pens tips are designed for right handed people, especially ballpoint and fountain pens."
"But even others work less efficiently for lefties."
"This is because we have to push the pen across the page, whereas they are pulling it."
"This causes frequent breaks in pencil tips, catching of nibs, and this ink/graphite will be rubbed against the lefties' hands, often ruining their writing."
"In addition, this pushing motion means there is pressure going into the hand of the lefty, trying to push the pen into their grip."
"As a result, they have to squeeze tightly."
"This reduces control of the pen, leading to bad handwriting and pain after even short periods."
"I know doing exams was awful for the lefties."
"Handwriting is for right handed people."
"Pretty obvious, you are taught a way to move your hand to get the shapes of letters, but lefties aren't taught the opposite."
"They are just left to figure it out, but these kids don't know what they are doing wrong."
"A lack of equipment for lefties, whether it is left handed scissors or desks or sharpeners."
"It may seem trivial, but these little things can make a leftie feel weird or like their can't figure out even the tiny little things that everyone else is getting so quickly."
"This is a cause of lefties craning their wrists round so that they don't smudge and get a better pulling motion."
"As well as craning wrists, some may lean round, or massively rotate their page just so it isn't in the way, but no one taught them these solutions."
"Lack of confidence, which affects schoolwork and how the kid see his/herself."
"It may be the kid simply can't do what their classmates can do, despite trying his/her hardest."
"Uncomfortable positions causing pain in the neck, back and wrist."
"There are some, very small, organizations that have developed ways to properly teach left handed children how to sit and write comfortably."
"It usually involves angling the page slightly, but clockwise, whereas most lefties angle it anti-clockwise."
"I'd gladly volunteer my time to teach left-handed kids how to write."- untakenu
Left-handed people have to take the good and the bad much more than right-handed people.
However, considering Mark Twain, Albert Einstein and Ruth Bader Ginsburg were all left-handed, it seems that it's easy to make the most of the disadvantage.
There is little more comforting than lounging on the sofa, and binging your favorite sitcoms.
What ultimately makes sitcoms so comforting, in addition to the clever writing and improbably affordable apartments, are the characters.
Why Friends continues to gain a new legion of fans, even nearly 20 years after its finale, is the fact that those watching often want Monica, Chandler, Rachel, Ross, Joey and especially Phoebe to actually be their friends.
Or wish their own friends' dynamic was more like that iconic sextet.
Indeed, people would be much less hesitant to show up for work if they knew The Office's Jim or Pam would be waiting for them, or think that their school days might have been more pleasurable if taught by Abbot Elementary's Janine Teagues.
Characters who are so lovable, it almost breaks our hearts that they aren't real.
"Who is the best sitcom character of all time?"
The Dad We All Wish We Had
"Hal from 'Malcolm in the Middle'."- TerriblyAverage1malcolm in the middle ifc GIFGiphy
Someone Get That Lady a Vodka Rocks... Or A Piece Of Toast...
"She stole every scene she was in, which is both a testament to how well the character was written and Jessica Walter’s performance."- PobBrobert
"It's Always Sunny" When They're Around.
"Charlie Kelly!"- SuperDuperCatman
"Frank Reynolds."- Pumpkin-tits-NYCit's always sunny sunnyfxx GIF by It's Always Sunny in PhiladelphiaGiphy
"But He Already Did Something Today"...
"Titus Andromedon from 'Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt'."- cherry_blsm00
Especially When He Makes A "huge mistake"...
"Gob Bluth."- BrushGoodDar
Threatening Our Grasp On Reality
"Proof that less is more."
“'Somebody making soup?'”- AussieDuckMancreed bratton television GIFGiphy
The Boss Of Our Dreams
"Captain Holt"- Cabbiecar1001
If Only For His Hair!
"Maurice Moss, 'IT Crowd'."- SalsaYogurt
One Only Hopes Our Future Will Involve Him
"Bender B. Rodriguez."
"Remember that scene in Kill Bill where Bill says Clark Kent is Superman's impression of humans?"
"Clark had to act like all the other humans in order to blend into human society."
"Now apply that logic to Bender."
"He was made by humans to be able to function and relate to people in a human world."
"The humans made him in their own image and he's the most self-centered, amoral, insecure, emotional train wreck on Earth."
"He is what we secretly fear about our own nature."- blakethegr8swag futurama GIFGiphy
One could say it's their questionable grasp of reality that makes sitcoms so enjoyable.
If Will Truman were a real-life New York attorney, there's no way he would have been chronically single for seven years.
Far-fetched as some of their premises may be, however, our favorite sitcom characters can almost be viewed as the friends who never disappoint us.
As they're always guaranteed to make us laugh and put a smile on our faces.
Even when they break our hearts.
Seriously, how could Nathan do that to Ted Lasso?!?!?!
Home makeover television is a favorite genre of programming among many TV viewers.
DIY and home improvement shows such as those that are on HGTV inspire homeowners or house flippers to come up with brilliant ideas to dramatically alter their homes.
But not everyone has the means to make their vision come to fruition. But, hey, we can all dream.
Speaking of which, Redditor Butterflies_Books asked strangers online to channel their desires into a hypothetical and asked:
"If you had enough money to build your dream house, what's a strange room/feature you'd include?"
These Redditors want more than an aesthetic change. They want a lifestyle change.
"Cat walks. Between rooms. For my cat."
"An indoor swimming pool in the underground floor with a synced screen on all four sides and normal + underwater sound system. I love swimming. I love watching movies and series."
Bringing The Outdoors Indoors
"I want a freshwater pond in a central location inside the house."
"An indoor swimming pool - with a lazy river. I LOVE swimming but I f'king hate public pools. I have a recurring dream where I have a house with a lazy river in it. I love those dreams."
It gets really specific.
Siesta All The Time
"I want an outdoor area dedicated to taco night. It’s gonna have a meat smoker, and a tequila bar, and pepper plants, and a huge grill and an awesome speaker system and it will be fiesta themed and amazing!"
Middle-Earth Food Storage
"I want a hobbit pantry."
"Earthy, timber-stone decor that is climate controlled to be a perfect storage area for wheels of cheese, sausage links and beer."
"It's not that strange, but I think an irrationally large number of decisions in my life have been motivated by the desire to eventually have a study with high ceilings and floor to ceiling bookshelves so I can have one of those ladder things that sits against the shelf and have it be justified."
"I would add an octopus tank but I think they live like two years tops and having to bury a pet biennelly seems depressing."
"Edit: people keep suggesting I eat the octopuses."
"I'm not going to eat my pets."
"As a former fish monger, please do not eat seafood that has died of old age. Not gonna taste good."
Again, we can dream.
No More Solicitors
"A moat. No one has a moat anymore. Do you not want to talk to people? Pull up the draw bridge!!!! And in the winter you have your own personal skating rink!!"
"I really want one of those natural bathrooms, that looks like you just walked into a jungle, everything is stone and steam and plants and sounds of a water fall."
"Or one of those open stair cases where the back wall is completely glass and there’s a leafy garden under the stairs."
"Basically just a tropical oasis for plants."
Bringing Nature In
"I saw a cool house online yesterday that had an indoor greenhouse and I am here for that."
Calgon Take Me Away
"Absolutely a secret beautiful bathroom just for me. I don’t know what it is but I just really value bathroom time and the luxury of getting washed and relaxing and getting ready in a big beautiful marble bathroom. But nobody else can use it. Like the secret bathroom in B99."
I've always dreamed of owning a house that has an interior Japanese tranquility garden. As in, rock garden.
There's nothing to maintain and all you have to do is gaze out into the contained courtyard and meditate.
It would be the perfect space from where peaceful energy would flow. The house's heart.
What's your dream home addition?