Love can make us all do some stupid and ludicrous things. When we're in the throes of romance, whether it be a perfect relationship or a toxic disaster we all have those moments where we act afool. It's unfortunate when we can place the blame solely on ourselves because of poor judgement. When we look back it can be daunting to see the staggering amount of loss before it even got started just because we weren't thinking.
Redditor u/j__knight638 wanted everyone to fess up to so past deeds that were not some of life's finer moments by asking.... What is the one instance where you f**ked it up with a crush, that you still dwell on to this day?
You tell me....
GiphyI had a crush on this person for several years but never made a move.
One day we ran into one another in a cafe and after saying hi they looked straight into my eyes and said "hey, how come you and I have never gotten together?"
For some reason out of nervousness and surprise I just said "I dunno," grabbed my drink and left. To this day I don't know if they thought it was sarcasm or just gave up thinking it wasn't worth pursuing someone so brusque and oblivious as me. Salt-Pile
Hear no Evil...
In junior high. Literally the only girl in the class that just acted nicely to people and always smiled, I had a huge crush on her for over a year. Toward the end of our last year in J.H. I passed her in the crowded hall after school, like i had 500 times before, and one of her friends goes "hey x wants to go out with you" and i literally pretended to not hear anything. she starts saying my name to get my attention but my back is turned. I keep acting like I didn't hear anything and walked into the crowd. 15 year old me was dumb enough that day, to fill 10,000 black holes with stupid.
The next year she had moved to a different district and i never saw her again. penny_eater
Shameless.....
I actually got together with her, she was a bit more grown than me, and i was embarrassed about my Star Wars posters and other child stuff in my room. So i never invited her to my home, and she got that wrong and broke up. She thought i was embarrassed of her and didn't want my parents to get to know her. I regret everything. AlfredTButler
The Way of the Samurai....
Age 11. Birthday Party, Summer Crush and Pinata Time. She spun me around and put the blindfold on me. You can guess what happens next.
That Pinata was about to receive a Samurai worthy Strike from Heaven itself. And when the blindfold came off there was blood everywhere. I had struck her on the head. I was honestly traumatized. Nevermind her!
I forgot about it until 20 years later my brother brought it up. In my mind, it was HE who struck her in the head, not me. My mind had developed a reality where it did not accept I had done it and I had to ask other family members to confirm this, to make sure he wasn't just f**king with me. Labamba4you
But it's our history....
GiphyAccidentally sent him a screenshot of our conversation. Every time I think about it I want to die. 69creative_person69
I did this last summer. She was friends with my cousin and we had a great night out. I was talking to my brother about it the next day and he couldn't remember what she looked like (they've met before) and he doesn't have Facebook. So, of course, I sent her a screenshot of her own Facebook profile picture...
I want to jump out my office window just thinking about it. WHAT DID MY ANCESTORS DO TO BRING THIS SHAME UPON THEIR SEED!!! erlydecision
I'm not a tissue...
Was hanging out in spring and I had a little bit of hay fever. At one point we just stared into each others eye and I sneezed all over her face like there was snot on her. She was grossed out but once I got all my snot off her she laughed about it she did get her revenge a few days later. daibz
Too Soon?
I confessed WAY too early :// I could tell he was into me but I think I got overconfident and confessed too early and weirded him out and he rejected me. We still good friends now tho so it's cool. I have a strict 10 date policy. Don't reveal the murders until the 7th date, don't reveal the lasagna-making elves in your basement till the 8th date, don't reveal the bodies under your floorboards until the 9th date, and only ask him if he wants to join the bodies under the floorboards on the 10th date. denatured_enzyme_
But I was tired!
My first crush went to prom with me and late that night (or morning) when I was dropping her off, she kept asking if I wanted to go in and watch a movie and that her parents were away for the weekend. I kept telling her it was late but she kept insisting. Anyways I told her it was late and I was tired. I still cringe at that moment. Whenever I'm back home now and my old high school friends and I meet up, they still give me crap for it. frostyaznguy
The Hot Mess....
Crush invited himself over, we hit it off and talked for 5 hours straight. He then asked if he could sleep over.
My bedroom was literally so messy that I couldn't have anyone in. I was in the middle of moving a lot of stuff out of my place. Boxes on boxes everywhere, used clothes and random objects all over my bed.
So I said my room was too messy and booked him an Uber home.
I realize how this may have sounded like a fake excuse/that I wasn't interested. Hahaha tamagobb
Turn around bright eyes...
This was in high school. I sat behind him and had the feeling all day long he was gonna ask me out. Plus some of my female classmates told me they heard from their friends of friends of friends that he would in whatever period it was this incident happened in.
Anyway, he turned around when the bell rang and out of nervousness I blurted out "turn back the f**k around." ...and he did. And never turned back around...
I can laugh about it now but at the time, NOBODY asked me out. Not even for prom. He was a well liked guy so others sided with him and called me all sorts of names haha. luck008
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Redditor Tight_Anywhere6794 wanted to hear about the things parents have said in the past that haunts everyone still, so they asked:
"What insult have your parents said, that is stuck in your head as an adult?"
I've been blessed with the mother I had.
So I can't speak from experience.
But I've heard parenting horror stories.
Bad Expressions
Sad Kid GIF by 1tvGiphy“'You’re so annoying.' Said to me as a young kid while I was expressing enthusiasm over some new interest. Later my father complains I never tell him anything."
foppishyyy
Mean Spirited
"What did I do to deserve a fat kid?"
Silosolo
"My parents also mocked me for being fat, and outright physically abused me as in forcefully grabbed my fat child manboobs or slapped me while calling me fat-related names."
"A lot of people at school did it too, so obviously I have a lot of self-image issues like I never let anyone see me without clothes these days. The worst part is that I legitimately internalized a lot of hate, I could never care for myself enough to actually get fit."
FoeWithBenefits
What's My Name?
"My parents divorced when I was young and they hate each other. My mom would call me my dad's name when she was really upset. What makes it worse is that I confided in her that I never wanted to be like my dad. She used that ammunition against me."
Discarded_Pariah
"That's awful. You are your own person. You aren't your father."
blksmnr
Unfunny
"'You can't even laugh right.'"
"My mom in a weird moment I thought we were bonding. There's something inherently extra evil when someone tells you your joy is wrong. Told her I'm engaged and hoped she could at least be happy I'm happy and she ghosted everyone to the point the family thought died. She's a mess."
BlindEditor
"I'll never understand parents that are so hard on their own children that they can't even be happy for them. So their sole function is to bring misery to their offspring?"
macabre_irony
Evil
Oh My God Wow GIF by The Roku ChannelGiphy"My little brother was drowning, I tried to save him but also almost drowned, we got rescued by a neighbor. My mom told me that they should've left me in the pond. I haven't spoken to her in many years."
Ilookbetterthanyou
Good Lord. How do people like this exist?
Tragic.
HIM
"She told me I was acting just like my father when I would get upset. I would just get kinda pissy and sulk. He would go on rampages and scream and hit and throw things. He pushed her down the stairs once. I would never lay a finger on my current partner. The worst part is I look just like him. I was wondering if my mother always expected me to turn into my dad. I prove her wrong every day."
rot_grl
10 Years Old
"When I was ~10 years old, my mum once said 'If I could go back in time and make sure I never gave birth to you, I would in a heartbeat.'"
"Never forgot it. Talked to her about it a couple of times years later and her responses ranged from 'That never happened' to 'Oh yeah and I suppose I’m just the worst mother ever' and finally 'Yeah but I didn’t mean it, you know that.'"
"Messed me up tho tbh. Another one was '[older sibling] was the only child we actually planned for, the rest of you were accidents.' I don’t think it was intended as an insult, but being told your entire existence was an accident as a child kinda stung."
SpiderP*bes
Failures
“'You’re the biggest mistake I ever made.' - my mother when I was 5. I’m 32 now and it’s been the undercurrent for our relationship ever since, constantly wondering if anything I’ve achieved or struggled for is something she’s genuinely proud of or just relieved to say I wasn’t a total failure on her part."
thefaehost
Generational Issues
"Not a parent but a grandparent, I was adopted when I was 12 years old (my parents were both drug addicts so I was in and out of foster care most of my life) my adopted mother's father turned to me on Christmas Eve when no one else was around and said 'My daughter should have never adopted you, she should have let you stay on the streets where you belong'… he got nicer as he got older and sicker but I couldn’t find it in myself to forget what he said even almost 10 years later. Went to the funeral for moral support but was indifferent about his passing."
samweather227
Just Me
Sad Kids GIF by Cian DucrotGiphy"I was an only child and lonely. When I asked for a sibling, the response was 'If you want to know why we don't have more kids, go look in the mirror.'"
Responsible_Fly_3565
Some people should never have children.
Awful.
"What is something you no longer have patience for?"
Off The Clock Means OFF THE CLOCK!
"Working outside of work hours."
"I used to go above and beyond, now I only put in what is required."
"Life is too short to live only to work."- Chesterfieldcat
"The working world."
"My life doesn’t revolve around working here and it never will."
"It will never be a part of my identity."
"I come in, do the job, make money, go home."
"Don’t expect me to come to all the work happy hours so I can pretend how much I love working here."- nuclearsalt
Some Things Just Don't Get A Free Pass
"Sh*tty people getting a pass 'because they're family'."- cgulash
angry homer simpson GIFGiphySay What You Mean, Not What You Feel
"Having to guess what people REALLY mean by something they said."
"I take everything people say at face value now and don't replay conversations in my head to find out the real meaning anymore."
"Be passive-aggressive if you want to but talk to me like an adult if you really have a problem."- WateredDownSalt
EYES ON THE ROAD!
"People who text and drive."
"You're driving a giant piece of metal propelled by explosive liquid."
"Pay attention."- MasterfulNothasie
The Only Life That Should Concern You Is Your Own
"People and groups of people that only talk about other people."- Turf98
"People who can’t mind their fucking business and are always worried about what other people are doing."
"If it doesn’t effect you, f*ck off."
"It’s literally free."- wackwackwackjpg
GIF by WWEGiphySome People Didn't Mind Social Distancing
"People invading my personal space."- Mighty-Foreskin
Influence Can Be Dangerous
"Anything that has “influencer” in it."- chemistcarpenter
Indoor Voices People...
"Streamers screaming, losing their sh*t, breaking things, and having tantrums."
"I used to think this was so funny now I just can't stand it; I can't even watch a streamer if I notice they're not using their normal talking voice." - Reddit
Fail Oh No GIF by G2 EsportsGiphyTaking Responsibility Is A Sign Of Maturity
"People who constantly blame others for the situation they are in."- SuvenPan
Time Is Precious And Shouldn't Be Wasted
"Waiting on people who are constantly late to plans."
"I will wait 15 minutes then excuse myself."- Dabbles-In-Irony
There's Multi-Tasking, And Then There's Just Being Rude...
"People being on their phone while in a conversation with you."
"Seriously."
"Put your phone away!"- rosieblinkstime
Phone GIF by Poehlmann FitnessGiphyIt Takes So Much More Effort To Be Nasty...
"Bad manners, unkindness and general rudeness."
"It costs nothing to be a nice person and from someone who works in a customer-facing industry, attitudes, sadly, appear to be getting worse."
"It really makes me cross."- Bellamiles85
At Least They're Being Transparent
"Medicine commercials with worse side-effects than the thing being cured."- mrbbrj
Wasting our time and thoughts about things that we know can only bring us down is simply no way to get through life.
It's essential to live our lives by taking the present moment for what it is: a present.