For men, being sexy can feel awkward and uncomfortable. Spoiler alert: It feels that way for women and femmes as well, but at least feminine sexy is a bit more clearly defined.
Masculine sexy is a whole other animal. So let's talk about it.
Reddit user Gokusrightnut asked:
"Women of Reddit, what is a non-sexual thing your partner does that gets you in the mood every time?"
Get ready to take your screen shots, jot down notes, etc. There's a lot of lesson here.
As a woman, please, I implore you... use the power held in this article wisely.
Two Words
"Ahem 'Good Girl' "
- tacos4uandi
"My boyfriend one time whispered that in my ear and I swear I felt my throat and heart both drop to my vagina."
- Trackgirl123
"My main squeeze says this to me and I absolutely go weak at the knees."
"It's just the way it rolls off his tongue omg. Like, yes sir I am a good girl please tell me more lol"
- kdoesthings
GIF by TLC EuropeGiphyThe Big O(boe?)
"One my friends got married last year and now I'm good friends with her husband. He basically told me that he found out that whenever he plays his oboe (he's in an orchestra or something?) she always wants to have sex."
"He's just started playin it whenever he gets in the mood now."
- Deep_Delay3414
"Guys who are Musically Talented are Caliente AF!!!!"
- funlovingfirerabbit
"Maybe she’s oboesexual"
- ItsDeathBySnuSnu
Domestic Bliss
"I don’t know about other women. But my wife gets turned on when I am 'domestic.' ”
- mattdr1990
"Lol, I texted my wife and told her I vacuumed our house with the vacuum we had just purchased a few days earlier. She told me to stop sending her sexy texts while she was at work."
"She 'thanked' me when she got home. 😎😎😎"
- blyss73usa
"Honestly men taking care of kids is one of my biggest turn ons. Seeing a Dad being cute with his baby girl, even just the guy making silly faces at my daughter."
- dollyprincessb
Sexy Sleeves
"When my husband rolls up the sleeves of his sweaters."
"Don't know why, but that look is just so sexy to me haha."
- NalaandBuddy
"Giiirl. Met a guy with his sleeves rolled up while in a bar."
"Went up to him & commented on how hairless his forearms are. He’s Asian and I’m Greek (which equals hairy) and I had a few at that point so I had no filter."
"He responded and said he’s as smooth as a dolphin. We’re married now."
"Rolled up sleeves is what brought me to my husband 😂"
- No-Business2452
"I absolutely understand."
- VanillaInner
Eye Contact
"I'm really into when guys take a sip of something without breaking eye contact with me. Bonus if it's alcohol."
- Preachingsarcasm
"I’d misjudge the distance between face and drink and spill it."
- ineffectivegoggles
Saints And Sinners Smile GIF by BounceGiphySomething Needs Fixing
"Weird as hell, but my girl loves how I carry a ladder. No idea why."
"But when she's in a bad mood best believe there's something up high that needs fixin."
- RynoLasVegas
"I like to think you go unscrew a few light bulbs every night. Just in case."
- vitiku
"And then screw them back in... if yanahwhaddamean!"
- RynoLasVegas
Tummy Peek
"Every time I see my boyfriend stretch and I get to see the tiniest bit of his stomach ... I don't know man it just does something to me"
- moorasi
"The tummy peek is hot!"
- scaly_friends_4me
The Tool Belt
"My girlfriend seems pretty insistent on watching me any time I wear my toolbelt around the house."
"I always think 'Lady, I'm no piece of meat!' but then I love it when she treats me like one 🤷🏽♂️"
"Needless to say, it's usually the last thing to come off."
- benign_from_behind
Orange Construction GIF by DrSquatchSoapCoGiphyLinguistics
"I agree with all of these and want to add how I love it when my husband speaks Spanish."
"I don’t know 95% of what he is saying when he’s on the phone with family/friends, but good lord. And if it’s a work call and he’s using his commanding 'work voice', double hot."
- ronsinblush
"When we’re speaking English and he answers the phone or just talks to someone else in his native language (German). I think German is hot already but the sudden switch is just too much to handle."
- scarlettcandlestick
Grunts
"The grunts he makes when he’s fixing something/working out…"
"One time we were at the junk yard and just watching him pull parts made me wanna do it in one of the random cars right then and there."
- Soclothesminded
Alright fellas, you got all that?
Get out there and make us proud.
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It's called cringe, and strangers online had plenty to say about the all-too-familiar phenomenon when Redditor brownGoddess01 asked:
"What is something you find REALLY cringe?"
There is a time and place for things. That doesn't mean the unspoken rule is broken.
Indecent Proposal
"A disastrous engagement during someone else's wedding."
– piglalopa
"El Diablo"
"This happened at my cousins wedding. My other cousin was proposed to by her bf during the reception. The cousin getting married eventually got a divorce and the cousin who was proposed to never got married. My grandma went to her grave calling the guy who did the proposal 'El Diablo.'”
–iamtommynoble
Inappropriate Declaration Of Love
"I used to work wedding receptions. One time during the speeches I witnessed the best friend of the bride profess his love to her, in front of the groom and everybody. It was one of the most awkward/cringiest moments I’ve ever witnessed."
– aande116
There are some things we do that we can't take back.
How Far We've Come
"my past self."
– atermoiment
"That means you’ve grown. Respect."
– joeybagofdonuts80
The Moment We'd Like To Forget
"My mind randomly replaying an embarrassing moment I've done that I want to forget."
– mokimika
Audio Playback
"Listening my recorded voice."
– No-Carrot8948
Some people love living their lives on camera. Some participants don't have a say in the matter. And others just don't wanna see it.
All The World Is A Stage
"Family bloggers. Constantly having your life recorded as a child can really f'k you up. Especially since a lot of the time the parents are just using their children for content."
– guitarcum
Overzealous Parents
"I will extend this to normal people who post every second of their child’s lives, they often hide under ‘it’s so my family can see it’ but it’s not really, is it? Or else you’d have an account just for family not your 900 additional ‘friends’"
– Potatopugz
Crying You A River
"Recording yourself crying on social media."
– satinaboupoupou
Selfie Time
"when individuals share sobbing selfies. No joke, when my friend's sister and her children put their dog to die, she tweeted selfies of them both crying. and the deceased dog."
"Like, is it a private moment of mourning and not a chance for a selfie?"
– Perfect-Respe
Click Bait
"All these 'prank' videos getting millions of views."
"Edit: To be specific, I’m referring to 'prank' videos that are clearly staged."
– Beard341
Unsolicited Life Coach
"People whose lives are an absolute self-induced disaster and post selfies with motivational quotes telling other people how to think and live."
– i_want_that_boat
Being in the entertainment industry and knowing how humbling it is when there are more rejections than there are bookings, we tend to be our own worst critics.
So there's nothing more cringey than revisiting an old recording of myself performing at a high school talent show when my interest in theater was fresh and exciting and I already thought I was a pro.
Unfortunately for teenage me, I was blissfully unaware I had ways to go before honing my craft.
Let's just say that all those old VHS recordings of me performing an imitation of Michael Crawford as the Phantom of the Opera need to be burned.
Redditor throwaway2356765 wanted to know your best excuses in the worst moments of intimacy.
"How do you apologize to your girlfriend after accidentally calling her by your ex’s name during sex?"
Sex makes our minds crazy. I say all sorts of nonsense.
Extremes
Run Away Nuclear Bomb GIF by IdentityGiphy"Burn the house down. Fake your death. Move to Peru. There's no recovery."
Yaboijustlikesgoats
Consequences...
"You're gonna have to run out the clock on that one. Just say you're sorry and take the consequences."
AngryBuddha01
"Yup. Persistence is key. Apologize a thousand times until she forgives you. Cook her favorite meals a thousand times until she forgives you. Massage her back a thousand times until she forgives you."
PoissonsRevenge
Trust
"'I'm so sorry [Ex's Name].' Trust me it'll work."
malmode
"Unironically maybe if you can convince her you have early onset dementia."
throwwwawayy191999
NO!
"Call out a guy's name next time and really throw her for a loop."
SelectAd1942
"Call out your own name."
MesWantooth
"Or her father's name."
DZLars
Press Conference Kermit GIFSex makes us all crazy.
Sorry
Sad Cry GIF by TheFactory.videoGiphy"Oh man, trust me as someone who calls everyone by another person's name... there is no amount of apologies to make up for that in this case. Just hope she cares enough to forgive - she won't forget though and may bring it up many times."
minjitsu1
Woof
"Not sure, but if it helps to know, I accidentally called my wife our dog’s name during an argument."
"Update: It totally killed the tension, and we laughed about it. I am safe."
Terrible-Quote-3561
"I just had a baby and now no one’s name is sacred in my house. Every cat’s, dog’s, or human’s name is Interchangeable with the others."
tsunami141
Chaos
"Tell her you called her name while having sex with your ex and you're just trying to even everything out."
SuperSpeersBros
"Chaotic evil."
Evo_Shiv
"Perfectly balanced, as all things should be."
Serious-Bug4748
Be Sensible
"Just say you're sorry and you didn't mean it, but don't expect that she will get over it easily."'
cinderelliot
"This seems like the most sensible answer. My answer was basically grovelling, grovel and grovel some more and hope she can forgive you but don't expect that to happen right away but definitely expect to hear it in every argument for a few years to come as well."
bendme84
#1 Answer
Louis Litt Genius GIF by SuitsGiphy"The only way to salvage this is at the time by adding ' ...was never this good!'"
EdMarloFan
Be better y'all. It's an intimate moment and your partner deserves the basest level of respect that come with knowing their name.
Do you have other ideas to share in the unfortunate event of this happening? Let us know in the comments below.
Redditor Resplendenced wanted to talk about the good ole days, and how we could've utilized them more.
"What is your biggest high school regret?"
I don't hate high school. But I don't love it. Long story.
Who Cares?
Eddie Murphy Whatever GIF by Coming to AmericaGiphy"Giving a crap what those people thought of me."
UltimateAnswer42
"This is why I was never interested in traveling back to go to a high school reunion. So pointless."
Ennion
Stand Tall
"Not being more confident. My inner voice talked me out of a lot of things that would have made my teenage years more rewarding and productive."
Pokestralian
"This times 1000. Shoot your shot, and act like nothing happened when it fails. Confidence is 100% people pretending to know what the hell they are doing regardless of whether they actually know or not. Nothing that happened in high school is going to matter when you are 40. Just keep that in mind."
jonweezy
Let's Chat
"Should’ve talked to more people."
souljaluv
"You kind of go through assuming other people don’t want to talk to you. Little do you know they think the same thing. I wish I was just nicer and more open to everyone."
Sackyhack
"Do you think the majority of the people genuinely wanted to talk to others? And if so, do you also think this still applies years after high school, or does it dwindle? Just wondering cause in my adult years it's hard finding friends."
ItsNotJust2DimnsionL
The Temps
"Not understanding that it was just temporary; the toxic behaviour of other students, the bullying, the fake friends and stresses imagined. In the end, it was four years of my life and I let it impact me more than I ever should have."
Flicksterea
"I came to say this!!! I’m a teacher and I tell my students all the time that this is temporary. They have to do 4 years then they’re free to do whatever makes them happy. They can go out in the world and get a job, go to college, trade school, etc."
"But there will always be a**holes who try to get you down no matter where you go, so you need to start practicing at a young age how much you allow them to effect you. I went to school with the same people K-12 in my small town and I still talk to 1. I left and didn’t look back, so I tell my kids they can do the same. Even when I visit my parents I don’t go out and see any of those people."
ShePax1017
WERK
Snap Werk GIF by Jackée HarryGiphy"Not realizing what a hottie I was. My self esteem was awful back then."
Iwantedtorunwild
We're all hot in high school. We just don't know it.
Not Bad
The Rock Omg GIF by NBCGiphy"Not finishing school and dropping out. Although, I had no direction or any parental care at the time and was depressed. I did get my GED and i’m in my final year of getting a bachelors in computer science. Not bad for a high school drop out."
kenzo-tx
Toxic
"Falling in with an unhealthy friend group. They were controlling and possessive, and I ended up isolating myself from other, possibly healthier, friendships. I was always warned about abusive romantic relationships. I didn't realize friendships could be abusive as well."
BmandaW
Basic Experiences
"Not dating and socializing. I never wanted anything to do with anyone, as much as people tried. I missed out on basic experiences which didn’t bother me back then but now I’m like i wish i did more high school kid things lmao."
possiblyari
"I was coming here to say that I should have completely skipped dating, so nearly the opposite of you. Dating in high school was horrible, emotionally destructive stuff."
triskelizard
Finding More
"I wish I joined the school paper or something like that."
yeahwellokay
"I was the photo editor on my HS paper because I had a nice camera. It was like a key to the school. I could walk the halls and if questioned I was on paper business. I knew everyone and everyone knew me. Took pictures of all the pretty girls and took some to the darkroom to learn to develop so to speak. Cause I bought a fancy camera I had an amazing high school life."
youareallnuts
With Care
grades a very poor effort GIF by 3 Doors DownGiphy"Not caring about college/my grades."
llxx00
"I had the opposite problem, caring too much about my grades leading to massive sleep deprivation."
TheRed_Knight
Oh High School... what a time.
Do you have high school regrets? Let us know in the comments below.