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Times change people, and with that change comes new outlooks on life. Things we might have accepted when we were younger may not be so kosher anymore. For example, you might have been 100% cool with knocking over trash cans with baseball bats with your football buddies back in high school, but if for one second your son even thinks about not answering your text about where he is, he's grounded for a month! Parenthood is the great shifter, and Reddit user, u/plutosrain, wanted to know more when they asked:
What did your parents allow you to do that you would never allow your own children to do?
Get Back In This Car![rebelmouse-image 18353071 is_animated_gif=
Stand on the center [console] with half their bodies sticking out the sun roof as I drive at 50mph down some twisty country roads.
Best Game Ever?[rebelmouse-image 18353072 is_animated_gif=
My dad used to load about six of us kids (me, my brother, and some neighborhood kids) up on the step bars on the side of his van. We would stand on either side of the van, then he would drive around the block and jerk the wheel to throw us off.
We f-cking loved playing that game.
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My parents put me on an airplane from Peru to USA to visit my grandmother whom I had never met for a month. I was 7 years old at the time and spoke very little English. Back then (1964) kids traveled alone without an airline stewardess to watch them or deliver them to their families. It was a 12 hour flight on a propeller plane! When I got to Miami, I started crying because I was confused and an airline worker picked me up and sat me on the counter of the immigration officer to get my passport stamped. They located my grandmother and she gave me a hug so I went with her even though I had no idea if she was really my grandmother or not.
When my kids were 7 years old, I kept thinking... how in the world did my mom think this was a good idea?
What About The Loser?[rebelmouse-image 18353074 is_animated_gif=
My siblings and I use to play a game where we walked along the train tracks behind my house and tried to wait as long as possible before jumping away when the train came.
Last person standing on the tracks was the winner.
First Off, Ew. Second, What?[rebelmouse-image 18353075 is_animated_gif=
Not brush their teeth.
My mom never taught me how when I was little. "Her baby teeth are just going to fall out anyway! I'll teach her when she's older!" Single mom with three jobs, five kids, blasting through abusive relationship to abusive relationship.
Yeah. She never got around to it.
Trains, Again?[rebelmouse-image 18353076 is_animated_gif=
We took it a step further by resorting to pure concentrated evil. We'd hang out by the busiest railroad crossing in town and if you take a pair of jumper cables and connect the two rails together it activates the crossing gates (usually it's the train's wheels and axles that short it out). At rush hour, we had so much fun watching all that traffic grind to a stop while there was no train to be seen. Then release it and let the gates go up and as soon as one car makes it through, drop them down again.
I highly doubt my parents would have approved of that, but then again, we were 10 year olds miles away from home and completely unsupervised, which today would be considered child neglect.
They're Uncomfortable[rebelmouse-image 18346856 is_animated_gif=
Never forced me to wear a seatbelt. I remember only once having to put it on quickly when she got pulled over.
This Was A Thing?[rebelmouse-image 18353077 is_animated_gif=
Take non-alcoholic beer to school for lunch.
Edit: Just to elaborate a little- It was when non-alcoholic beer just came out as a thing. Sharps was what we had. It came out in '89. I was 7 or 8 at the time. The teachers surprisingly did not complain. They were more upset that our mother let us watch The Simpsons. I frequently traded my beer for pudding cups. Pudding was considered 'junk food' and we were not allowed to have that. I think teachers would sh-t themselves now if a 7 yr old brought NA beer to school. But I also remember getting those packages of candy cigarettes at the convenience store, so different times indeed.
Changing The View[rebelmouse-image 18353078 is_animated_gif=
Climb back and forth from the front seat to the back seat of the car while driving.
What's The Sun?[rebelmouse-image 18353079 is_animated_gif=
Play at the beach or in the sun without sunscreen.
Just, ALL The Problems[rebelmouse-image 18353080 is_animated_gif=
-Eat as many sweets as I wanted to;
-Eat as much MCDONALD'S as I wanted to;
-Skip brushing my teeth at night. I am now 21 and I had lots of problems with my teeth and digestive system. I managed to fix them all up in my teens and now I am strict with myself.
Encourage Kleptomancy[rebelmouse-image 18353081 is_animated_gif=
Walk to the 7eleven, nearly a mile away, alone at the age of five to get her a snack. I had to steal my own stuff since she only gave me money for what she wanted.
When There's No Pool Around...[rebelmouse-image 18353082 is_animated_gif=
Swim in a drainage ditch that the water from a corn field drained in to.
School's For Fools[rebelmouse-image 18353083 is_animated_gif=
My parents let me skip as many classes as I wanted in high school. It was technically under the guise of only being allowed to do so if my grades were good, but they never exactly checked on it (they had a lot of trust/thought I was a genius).
It took me a long time to be able discipline myself into actually studying/going to to class. I fumbled through university as a result, having had no proper routines in place. I know it was ultimately up to me, but I didn't have the foundation to be disciplined early on.
Sunshine Is Scary[rebelmouse-image 18353084 is_animated_gif=
My parents let my brother get away with so much that he just plays computer games all day screaming, drinks nothing but soda and has one fruit or vegetable on a good week. With me they could not care less about my education but I have to eat healthy and have to keep quiet.
My kids will be going outside and will be eating their greens (if they don't like something there is always something else). I will also treat every child equally.
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Make my kid scared to talk about their emotions to the point that they become depressed because nobody knows how they feel. So it becomes hard to get friends because they're too afraid to open up.
Also make them scared to cry because they think it's wrong and I'm going to make fun of them for it.
The Internet Can Be Dangerous?[rebelmouse-image 18344962 is_animated_gif=
Use the internet unsupervised from the age of 10.
I signed up to hundreds of websites, made about 30 different email addresses, posted cringey pictures of myself everywhere.
Seriously, watch what your kids are doing online. I wish I could take it all back.
There Is A Difference Between Success And Failure[rebelmouse-image 18353087 is_animated_gif=
Become comfortable with mediocrity. If I failed in school, I was punished. If I succeeded and did well, I was given the same response as if I just skated by.
The best rewards come from internalized rewards, but I never learned that success should be rewarded, so I never developed the ability to recognize my own achievements.
It’s a fact of life that schools go through a lot of changes.
The curriculum changes, as does the way teachers are supposed to teach. The decor and building structure changes too, updating the design and generally making the school safer. The rules change, sometimes based on society, and sometimes based on that one student who did something so ridiculous, a rule was created just for that.
With all those changes happening, it stands to reason that students change as well. Kids act and react differently than they did a decade or two ago.
I remember being made fun of for “still watching cartoons” in middle school because I was obsessed with anime, but now there are Anime Clubs in middle schools.
Teachers have noticed a lot of changes like these, and most of them are positive.
Curious about what those changes could be, a Redditor asked:
"Teachers of Reddit, what are some positive trends you have noticed in today's youth?"
The Popular Nerds
"Nerd/geek culture is more accepted."
"At my school they are the ones with the largest friend groups"
A For Effort
"University teacher here: My students put in way more effort than I did at their age. Granted, the system has pushed them in that direction as well, but they typically have a better idea of where they want their carreer to go and are willing to put in the effort to obtain that goal. By comparison, I and my cohort mucked about a bit more."
A Little Kindness
"Students are not afraid to just be nice to each other. I teach elementary art and it is so nice when a kid who is pretty unskilled in art show another kid their work, and instead of getting laughed at (like when I was in school) kids are just so sweet and will say things like "Wow, I really love that!". I hear kids telling other kids "I think your work is beautiful" or "I really like your ideas!" and I just think of when I was in art kids made fun of my work. In general I really don't see kids being bullies as much as they were when I was a kid. I went to school in a really nice district too with few problems but I was bullied. Kids here have a MUCH worse home life than kids at my old school and while they could choose to take it out on others.. they don't. Kids help each other too. They know if a student is "special" and will try to help that student out. They'll offer to walk them to the bathroom, or help them with their drawing, or very politely tell them to be careful with things."
"My GF is a teacher and she is amazed at how uncool drinking and driving is. Kids are like "that's stupid you will kill someone..." They literally make fun of kids who do it. In my day EVERYONE drove drunk."
"Very positive change."
Neat and Clean
"My day care kids are much more likely to wash their hands than my generation was when we were their age lol"
– Deleted User
"Kids are so much neater now, once they're about 8 or 9. They pick up after themselves, are sort of organized, and don't litter when they can help it. I've even had kids at work that couldn't reach the trash can so they'll come up to the counter and hand me their trash."
"As a student currently in highschool, the big thing for our generation, at least in decent schools, is that failure isn't cool. Sure if you suck up to the teacher and obsess over studying you'll get made fun of a bit, but the kids getting Fs get made fun of a lot more. A lot of the 'popular' kids are actually really smart and get top grades. There's a general awareness that we all need to do well and a lot of aspiration for the future."
– Deleted User
Family Is Everything
"Kids are openly kind and loving regarding their parents. I had a tough football player day in class once, “I love my mom, she’s my best friend!” I see the old “Ugh my parents suuuuuuck!” mentality falling by the wayside recently."
"Yes! My 15 year old daughter blew me a kiss and waved when I dropped her off for school today."
"I remembered when my mom dropped me off at school as a teen and if she told me she loved me after I opened the door, I wouldn't say it back. I thought about that when my daughter did that and wondered if its just because she loves me so much or was I really that embarrassed to love my mom??? Lol"
Evolution Of Creativity
"Taught art for a spell a while back:"
"I know that a lot of people say shit like “oh these children and their all consuming technology”, but a lot of kids are so excited about learning to make things using their devices."
"A big part of the sculpture class I taught was to make a statement using a 3D printed sculpture."
"Even take something like Minecraft, I know it’s a big meme, but it’s a huge sandbox to build things. I remember being a young teen when I came out- we would get so complex with our builds."
"Kids are learning to create in an incredibly different way. It can be really irritating when they latch onto something and run it into the ground, but they love learning new things, and creating new things, in an increasingly relevant way."
Reduction Of Bullying
"As someone who is a youth of today, ive literally never seen bullying where i live people are kind of d*cks sometimes but not bullies"
"I can agree. As I got older I noticed that kids don’t bully as much. They just leave the people they don’t like alone. When I was in high I didn’t notice any bullying. All my issues had to do with me willingly being around the wrong people."
"Edit: I’m not saying bullying doesn’t exist anymore, I’m just saying that it’s decreasing. I was bullied until high school so I know what the different forms of bullying can be like. I was excluded and made fun of. When I got to high school, people just left people like me and others alone."
"The 8 year olds I teach really make a huge deal about plastic. We watched the Blue Planet 2 episode with them and since then they have been so mindful and really want to protect the oceans"
"My 11 year old asked for reusable straws for Christmas. So yeah, they are definitely more fired up about protecting the environment than we are."
I’m beyond happy to know youth culture is evolving this way!
Do you have any trends to add to the list? Let us know in the comments below.
Often it feels like Hollywood is out of ideas.
We get sequel after sequel.
Prequel and prequel.
And useless reboot after reboot.
There has to be a way to spice up the way stories are getting retold.
Maybe from a different character.
Redditor porcupineapplepieces wanted to compare notes about what movie characters we'd like see tell the story they were in.
"If instead of rebooting movies, retelling them from a different point of view became popular, which movie would you like retold?"
I want to see "Clue" from Madeline Kahn's perspective. HELLO!
BING!Bill Murray Punch GIF by Groundhog DayGiphy
"Groundhog Day: A Day in the Life of Ned Ryerson."
"Except we don't see the repeat. We only see the Ned Ryerson from the timeline in which Phil hugs him and makes him uncomfortable and the rest of the film is Ned trying to figure out his sexuality."
Death Becomes Us
"Final Destination from Death's perspective. I imagine it would just be skeleton hands setting up deadly rude goldberg machine with some classical music in the back."
"Set it up like Miracle Workers, and I think it can be done pretty well. Death has become so mundane, heaven has boiled the department down to a few lazy employees assigned there as a punishment. New guys comes in and, well, now we have death off the rails."
"This is basically the Hitman games, right? You could change the framing device from being a contract killer to literally DEATH personified and very little would actually change gameplay-wise."
"Forest Gump told from Lt. Dan's perspective. Could be really good focusing on his training then getting sent to Vietnam and being in charge of an idiot. Then the struggles of a soldier returning from war and the way the VA treated him. Just for him to reunite with the idiot soldier who saved his life."
"Mean Girls told by the girl who doesn't even go there."
"Why is she there? How did she hear about the assembly? Does she have another school she should be at? Is she homeschooled? Are her parents worried? Has she snuck in before or is this her first time? Does she have friends that go there? Did she used to go there?"
"Did she used to go to elementary or middle school with these kids? Why did she risk saying something? What would have happened if no one called her out? Why was no one worried that a random girl wandered in? Did she go home afterwards?? I'm sure there's more questions that need to be answered."
"PRINCESS. AND. THE. FROG. We got Maleficent out of Sleeping Beauty, so where the F**K is Dr Facilier’s backstory? He had a debt with literal demons and nobody seems to give a crap!"
Why is that Disney movie so forgotten?
HungryShark Week GIFGiphy
"Sir David Attenborough’s Jaws."
"Or how about Jaws from the sharks perspective with Attenborough doing the coo d for the sharks inner dialogue ... 'so hungry , so hungry ....'"
"How about Cloverfield from the view of a professional camera crew?"
"This question instantly made me think of Cloverfield but not for that reason. I remember when it came out people noticed that there’s someone else with a camera in the bridge scene and it became a popular idea that they could do a 'sequel' from that groups perspective."
"It was rumored that a Cloverfield film was being made from the perspective of the military. I don't know whatever happened to it, but that could have been neat."
"Robin Hood from the Sheriff of Nottingham's perspective. It'd be great to watch a movie about a medieval cop trying to catch a highway man."
"And he honestly believes he's taxing because the realm needs more protection and you can't without paying the soldiers. But this guy keeps stealing the tax revenue and robbing the largest tax bracket."
"Apparently, the Russell Crowe Robin Hood movie was supposed to be this. However, Ridley Scott rewrote the script."
"Avatar The Last Airbender from the point of view of anyone but M Night Shyamalan."
"I would love to see Azula's story. The series did a good job with her character, but expanding on it would be great. That or give us a story of Iroh's life. Let us see him go from generic fire nation prince to the wise, tea loving, Pai Sho player who guided his nephew."
The Sultan’s Realm...Aladdin Smile GIF by SkyGiphy
"Aladdin, from Jafar’s perspective. A college theatre group did a very R-rated version that is absolutely hilarious, which can be found on YouTube under 'Twisted: The Story of a Grand Vizier.'"
"What I would really enjoy is a late 80s/early 90s hand-animated Aladdin where Jafar is the defender of the Sultan’s realm against some nefarious interloper who is bent on stealing the princess’ heart and worming his way into the royal family. AND he has a genie."
I want all of these movies. #Jafarforever
Being an adult is more about people presenting themselves a certain way.
It's about taking responsibility, being held accountable for indiscretions, taking risks, and a slew of other things that require hard work.
Adulting is so easy, said no one ever. There are people who think they're playing the part convincingly but they're fooling nobody but themselves.
Curious to hear from strangers who can see through a person's deceit, Redditor CrispP_bacon asked:
"What is falsely seen as a sign of maturity?"
Redditors break down certain behaviors that actually reveal their immaturity.
Tapping Into The Inner Kid Inside
"Not acting childish. Sounds so strange but the most mature people usually have no problem tapping into their childish or silly sides. Immature people overdo it trying to be 'cool.'"
"Conversely, telling someone they're a stick in the mud because they aren't comfortable acting a certain way. I'm a naturally reserved person. I like quiet music, peaceful settings, and spend a lot of time in quiet contemplation. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with me."
"Not feeling required to 'be a certain way' is probably the best all around for this."
Working oneself to death is not necessarily a characteristic of maturity.
"Being in a relationship."
"Working 60+ hours a week"
Working To Live
"I need folk to understand working 60+ hours, and being proud isn’t the flex they think it is…"
Life Is Not All Fun & Games For Grownups
Happiness = Bad
"My dad in a nutshell. 'Stop being happy with your steady job that pays enough so you can afford whatever you want and leaves you with tons of free time, life and work need to be a grind and a fight or you're not doing it right!.' I guess that's my gift to him, so he can have something to be angry about, the only thing that makes him happy."
No Free Time For You
"Protestant work ethic and its idea that you need to be constantly working, even in your free time, has always been a huge mystery to me, specifically why a lot of people are so stuck up with it."
Not everyone is equipped to be a parent, and therefore, not mature enough to take care of and raise another human being. To acknowledge this shouldn't be seen as being neglectful.
"Having a spouse and kids."
Sign Of Manhood
"My family thinks I am skirting responsibility by not having kids. I know a lot of people who had them thinking they were obligated to, and neglect them."
"I remember telling somebody I know from college I don't want them ever, and she said, 'My boyfriend's not afraid to take responsibility and have kids,' as if I wasn't a real man for not having them lol."
"For some, it's a sign of virility and maturity."
Adults Can Admit To This
"It’s more responsible to choose not to take on a responsibility that you don’t want."
Owning Your Priorities In Life
"afraid" is a terrible word for it that has been said to me as well.
"I'm not afraid of having kids, I would just prefer to do literally anything, including nothing at all than have kids."
"I would rather sleep all day every day."
– mantits- ·
"my family thinks its a travesty that I don’t ever want children, my mom always thought I was just being young and angsty and would change my mind. Now that im in my 30s shes given up on that. I truly don’t understand how most people can even afford to have children anymore and provide them anything else except the bare a** minimum to sustain life. Everything is sooooo much more expensive than it was when I was a kid, and the wages are about the same. Money just doesn’t go as far as it used too, and its getting harder and harder to build up and acquire credit to actually own a house or anything like that."
You can be a kid at heart and still be an adult.
Don't let anyone take that away from you.
Some people are far more conscious of their health than others.
Be it out of obligation or self-interest, many people make a point of avoiding certain foods and products, and partaking in extreme diets and exercise plans.
Which doesn't mean they avoid unhealthy habits or products altogether.
Indeed, all of us are probably unaware that we all likely partake in eating food, using products, or even performing what might seem like everyday activities which could be harmful to our health.
Be it by happenstance or obligation.
"What’s something that is incredibly unhealthy that most people don’t even realize?"
Having Friends Is Good For Ones Health!
Always Good To Get On A Routine
"Nights, followed by lates, followed by earliest."
"Physiologically so destructive."
"I work for the emergency services so it's essential 24/7."
"The management are pretty good but we've been shafted on pay at a national level."
"Still attritional on the body."- PhatNick
Always Try To Get Those Eight Hours
"Chronic lack of sleep."
"Sleep deprivation."- CoolPotatoTomatoTired Stewie Griffin GIF by Family GuyGiphy
Not The Kind Of Energy You Want
"The amount of people who drink soda or Mountain Dew or energy drinks 24/7 and say ‘I feel fine so it must be fine’ is INSANE." - WildFemmeFatale
Get Up And Stretch Those Legs
"Sitting for long periods."
"Both unhealthy and as you get older dangerous."- JoeMorgue
Careful What You Breathe In
"Honestly, most cleaning supplies."
"They’re fine to use in your house, but if you can smell it and your lungs aren’t happy smelling it, you should be wearing an n95 or respirator."
"Bleach is a big one."
"Anything that makes you cough in a small room."
"I know everybody kind of goes crazy about shower stains but your bathroom is too small of an enclosed space to be using strong chemicals without some type of breathing protection."
"Turn the fan on, open the window and use a damn mask."
"Your lungs will thank you in 20 years."
"I never even thought about any of that until I started glassblowing."
"Glass blowing works with a lot of stuff that we have to wear masks for, cold working like sanding down glass, the colored powders, mold materials, enamel paints, asbestos pads, etc."
"Once I got into the habit of protecting my lungs, I realized just how much stuff at home is probably pretty bad to be breathing in also."
"Good news is, a reusable respirator is pretty cheap at any hardware store, the filters aren’t crazy expensive, and it’s surprisingly useful to have."
"Painting, cleaning, replacing 50 year old carpet, any stinky job like when a 70lbs dog has diarrhea all over the house, etc. It’s just handy to have."- huskeya4clean sailor moon GIFGiphy
It's Important To Have a Little Fun Every Now And Then!
"Stopping yourself from enjoying/doing anything just because other people might not approve of it."
"It can end up being one of the most detrimental things you can do to your health, physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally."- LustxInfinity·
Just How Much Fruit Exactly Is There?
"A lotta name brand fruit juices have lot more sugar than folks like to pay attention to."- TeriosNaija
Use Those Vacation Days!
"Working so much w only 2 vacation weeks (10 days) a year."- skoldaneOut Of Office Summer GIF by Merge MansionGiphy
So, next time you find yourself sitting at home, alone, with nothing to do, take yourself for a nice long walk, or even just a short walk around the block.
Your mind and body will be very grateful for it when you get home.
As a little escape is just what the soul needs, every now and then.