What does it take to make a perfect film?
Flawless casting? Strong writing? Camerawork? Or maybe it's something you can't quite explain, you just know it when you see it.
Reddit user Brian_Ye asked:
So let's go over what Reddit had to say, and then open the floor to hear from you guys so we can argue about it!
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"The most impressive one I've seen is Twelve Angry Men. The entire film is centered on a jury deliberating a decision in a single room. It had a strong hold on me." - No_Elk5745
"The camera work really does it for me. As it gets lower and closer throughout the whole film to give the feeling of it getting more cramped and claustrophobic in there. Very cleverly done." - xSamxiskillz
"Great movie, but from a legal standpoint, the actions in the jury room would lead to a mistrial, and the juror would likely have some serious legal issues against him." - eatababy
"I tell you what I like about that film. To a certain extent, the protagonist is a classic liberal: he uses logic, evidential argument and impartiality to persuade and reason with the other jurors. He doesn't get angry or aggressive."
"So much, so good, but in real life, honestly, you know that if the film concludes this way, it's just a fantasy. Some people will NEVER give up their prejudices-will NEVER see sense."
"There is one last juror who is like this. He's a bigot and proud of it. Then the film makes that leap."
"Instead of pretending that it's a perfect world and reason always wins in the end, the protagonist steps up and goes further. He sees that reason isn't going to work, so he FORCES the last man: he uses the power of numbers and the strength of his personality to crush the bigot."
"The people who wrote and acted in that film went through at least one world war, and it shows. Idealism is great, but sometimes you have to be prepared to get your hands dirty to save a man's life." - Plumb789
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"Jurassic Park. Perfect blockbuster. Great casting, great effects , great music, character development, great story , all around great movie." - djethoth
"I think the beauty of Jurassic Park is that it doesn't try to do anything that it knows it can't do. It doesn't try to be political, or preachy, or anything like that. It provides great entertainment, with solid characters and a convincing plot, all while posing an interesting scientific question for those interested." - Dudeman5566
"I would have to agree. Most great movies can have one or two drawbacks to make them just half-believable i.e. the audience has to do a lot or some of the work on their part to believe the story/setting/etc. Jurassic Park literally showed us another living and breathing world." - Molotov_Viking
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"One of the great things about this movie is the incredibly moving ending and the story behind it. Originally Frank Darabont ended with the scene of Red looking out of the bus window and leaving it to our imaginations what happened next."
"He had to be persuaded to include the now-ending of Red and Andy meeting on the beach. Those final ten seconds turn one of the greatest movies ever made into arguably THE greatest movie ever made." - Extreme-Kangaroo-842
"Brooks' final monologue is one of the greatest pieces of writing ever." - jimjangofett
"Stephen King is a phenomenal storyteller. This movie is proof that, given the right people, his stories can make really good movie adaptations; even though there are so many bad ones." - Snailsinwigs
"I'd say The Incredibles. Manages to be kid-friendly with the action but also carries dark, dark themes that got me in the gut when I watched as an adult" - CreatorCaz
" 'You are Elastagirl! Pull' *whack* 'yourself' *whack* 'together' *whack* "
"Edna is one of the best side characters in any movie ever and that line is a family favorite when someone is being indecisive." - Stormdanc3
"One of the very few movies to star a married couple. So many films rely on a romance arc to carry character development, and it's nice to have a film that shows people who are past that initial rush and still love each other."
"Also, it wasn't until I'd seen it a dozen or so times that I realized the bulk of the movie is set in the late 60's/early 70's. It's an under-the-radar period piece."
"It's a beautifully crafted film, and parents everywhere are thankful to Pixar for creating so many movies that are interesting for the entire family and can hold up through dozens of rewatches." - BitwiseB
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"The Princess Bride. There's a shortage of perfect movies in the world. It would be a pity if someone didn't mention this one." - lizzieb77
"I'm not one to rewatch movies too often but I'm certain I've seen this one over a dozen times, nothing else comes close." - Statechemist
"Excellent casting for a group of whimsical, yet charming, characters in a story that is somehow able to walk the knife edge of being silly but not stupid, fully embracing cliches and tropes while staying original, being fully aware of itself without being self-deprecating, and still filling the space with enough seriousness to keep the story moving and compelling."
"It's endlessly rewatchable and quotable and good for all ages. Endlessly fun and charming in a way that any changes would simply detract from it." - IAmTheKingOfNoPants
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"Silence Of The Lambs is an absolute masterpiece, the portrayal of Hannibal Lector's character is nothing short of perfection." - Hannibal_the_dentist
"Anthony Hopkins managed to capture that type of menace that makes the primal part of your brain crawl in just the way he would look at other characters and the camera." - sayest
"I didn't get around to seeing this movie until like a few years ago because I thought too much time had passed and maybe it was outdated."
"Holy f*ck, that movie floored me. It was so good." - buttwhisperer
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"Shrek. No jokes here, Shrek is a masterpiece that is as good today as it was when it released" - NabbyNab14
"Shrek has one of the best messages for kids. The ending at the wedding is literally just the movie telling kids that you're beautiful for who you are on the inside, but actually showing it."
"Like, in a lot of princess movies the point is also that you're beautiful for what you are on the inside, but the princesses are also beautiful on the outside so it's not very powerful. Shrek says, no she's still beautiful even without being beautiful on the outside." - Passname357
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"Terminator 2. A big reason for me is Robert Patrick. His acting and mannerisms of the T-1000 still impress me with every single viewing. He stole the show." - Disthrowaway5678
"Hands down the best sequel ever made." - TheMeanGreenGoblin
"When he tilts his head down while angling his gaze up and moves so fast without breathing heavy... Arnold played killer-robot well, but Patrick played scary-killer-robot-on-a-mission flawlessly." - iamnotdownwithopp
"The scene in the mall where he unloads the 9mm and doesn't blink. This was not by accident. He trained at weapon ranges to be able to fire like this and have zero reaction just the way a terminator should." - Ragnarok314159
"The scene with John riding the bike and him running behind him - Robert Patrick had to tell Edward Furlong to ride the dirt bike faster because Robert could easily catch up to him and tap him on the shoulder. He might have ACTUALLY been a Terminator..." - arkady2009
"I think it's probably the greatest sci-fi action movie ever made."
"It's scope is so focused on what needs to be told and shown. It has great action choreography and it's filmed perfectly. The script is fantastic in its ability to fully form the characters and their motivations. It's fantastic." - bongo1138
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"Spiderman: into the spider-verse." - noqms
"This. The animation does a better job of feeling like a comic book came to life than anything in the MCU (except maybe Ragnarok)."
"On top of that, the story is excellent, and the music combo is perfect. Good music elevates the movie, and Into the Spiderverse nails that as well as Star Wars, Jurassic Park, etc." - gimlithepirate
"100% this. Spider-Verse is absolutely phenomenal. Great animation, lovable characters, and some of the most beautiful shots I've seen in any movie, period. It's a total treasure." - thunderboltkaiju
"The Leap of Faith is 100% a perfect sequence. It starts with him sitting there after he's been tied up and abandoned. Character hits bottom. Ends with the Comic book slamming down showing the Miles Morales Spiderman in the new iconic black."
"Thing gives me chills."
"The mirroring in this movie is amazing. All the failures of Miles in the first half are victories in the second half."
"And it's marked by that one moment - Miles stuck in that chair while his dad talks to him. And the ultimate lowest moment, the hardest hit. His dad tells him he loves him and that he doesn't have to say it back."
"Earlier in the movie he had to be forced and at this moment it's the thing he wants to do the most. They're both in pain having lost Aaron. And he can't tell his Dad he loves him."
"Miles Morales can't. Spiderman can."
"And that's the trigger. That's the slow raising of his head with the lightning in his eyes and the start of the song." - ogier79
"Little details I noticed:"
"When Miles tried to leap earlier in the movie, he initially picked a somewhat high apartment building before chickening out and picking a lower one. Now, for his moment of truth, he's on a skyscraper."
"When he jumps off the skyscraper window, the glass breaks when his fingers pull away because they were still sticking to it when he jumped. The spider-heroes' adhesive power is triggered by stress and released by relaxation. So, when Miles made his leap of faith, he was still nervous."
"As Miles fell downwards, the camera frames him in an upside down shot to give the appearance that he's rising."
"During the failed leap of faith, Miles hits a flagpole which bounces him into other street objects until he is left helplessly falling with his screams of terror (AHHHHHHH) stylized in onomatopoeia."
"This is contrasted in the successful leap, where Miles - instead of hitting a flagpole and crashing, loops around a flagpole - using it to spring himself upwards with a triumphant bellow (WOOOOO), similarly stylized in onomatopoeia."
"SO GOOD." - MrProdigal884
OK so you've read everyone else's passionate arguments about their perfect movies - it's your turn to geek out and get gushy. Tell us which movies you loved and why.
Thanks to the internet and social media, it's never been easier to become famous.
Indeed, some people have used social media to such an effect, that they are as or more well known than any number of movie stars.
But others might have put something on the internet just for fun, unaware that they had a viral sensation on their hands ("Charlie bit my finger" anyone?).
Some people soak in this unexpected fame for a moment or two, and then let it pass as they go on with their lives.
Others, however, might enjoy being unexpectedly famous, and will relish in their unexpected celebrity for the rest of their lives.
No matter how small an audience their internet fame reached.
Redditor JesseB342 was eager to hear examples of when a tiny bit of internet fame resulted in an expanded ego, leading them to ask:
"What’s the smallest amount of internet fame / clout that you’ve seen go to someone’s head?'
Blink and you'll miss them.
"Friend was in a video at a car meet that went viral back say 2011-2012."
"He said like 8 words and couldn’t see him but you could hear him."
"He would go around telling people after he is 'famous' for being in a viral YouTube video."
"I was like 'if you have to announce you are famous, you might not be as famous as you think Broski'."- HoneyMussy4goodBoy
It made the movie!
"My dad's collection of vintage drinking glasses were used in 'The Mothman Prophecies'."
"His glasses made the movie much better.:
"Just ask him, he'll tell you."- cleonavarro
Anyone remember MySpace?
"I made a fairly successful MySpace type quiz once.'
'Over a million people took it. I put that on my resume.''- effieokaySocial Media Hearts GIF by Flamingo ServicesGiphy
"Remember when I did that thing? No? Well, you should!"
"A guy from my hometown who was sort of a skeezeball helped some elderly folks escape a fire."
'The act itself was commendable and he deserved the recognition he received in local media and he went viral for a week or two."
'But uh….5 plus years after the fact he was still using that as a way to try to get out of tickets or being cut off at the local bars after refusing to pay tabs."
"My brother encountered his Instagram recently and his self-description says something like 'Unspoken hero, DM me for details."
Fame can't get you everything.
"I work for a company that books luxury travel, think $20,000 packages."
"A woman contacted us wanting a free trip in exchange for posting it on her blog, proudly proclaiming that she had 800 followers."
"My coworkers' dog photo account has more followers."- AnastasiaSheppard
Even if he's not wrong.
"That dude telling Keanu Reeves that he's breathtaking."
"He would later comment on other stuff whenever breathtaking was mentioned, as if he was the one that came up with the word and made it his thing."- Sir_MoonDoggyKeanu Reeves Reaction GIFGiphy
Big ego making up for other shortcomings?...
"The guy from TikTok dancing in that parade to 'I’m just thinking with my d*ck'.”
"He went home to Indianapolis and started doing meet and greets with people at local car dealerships lol."- jkaycola
It happens to the best of us...
"I entered a blog competition to my uni the summer before I started.'
"I won, and myself and two others were given a free laptop on the understanding we'd keep publishing blogs as 'Insiders' for the uni to use as a marketing tool."
"I put one up a week, and enjoyed it."
"They were decently entertaining and linked to on the uni website, but probably got no more than a few dozen reads."
"On my birthday a few months into the year the bouncers at a club wouldn't let me in as I appeared too drunk."
"I got into a pedantic argument with them about whether the pavement was public property or not, then shouted at them I was going to write about it in my Uni-sanctioned blog."
"I woke up hungover the next day and did not write about the incident in my uni-sanctioned blog."- Fascinatedwithfire
It's one way of putting yourself out there...
"Any amount of sound cloud rappers that get a few hundred views and a few mates gassing them up and think they've found their calling."
"Source, I have to produce them."
"Money is money tho."- EddieHxtlerurban hip hop GIFGiphy
Bad sportsmanship will never pay off...
"Back in the day when I played Wow there was a guy on my server who had a tiny amount of name recognition."
"He was good at the game and spent a lot of time and energy organizing things."
"People on the server knew him and would ask for his help, or show him deference in order to get his attention on things."
"One day he put together an optional raid and at the end of the raid a particularly rare item dropped."
"Instead of an open roll - which was the standard at the time - he simply gave the item to his friend."
'When people complained, he said something like, 'I'm so and so, I'm the most important raid leader on this server, you're all lucky to even be here right now, so shut up and deal with it'."
'Well screenshots were taken and links were sent around."
"Dude ended up transferring off the server less than a week later because nobody would give him the time of day."- shaidyn
We all like being recognized for an accomplishment.
But rather than let fame get to our heads, it's important to use that fame for good.
Particularly if you can reach as many as 100 followers to make a difference.
Weddings, and the festivities leading up to them, are a major milestone in many people's lives. The sheer stress and effort that go into planning a wedding are usually enough to make people realize they should try hard not to screw things up.
Sometimes that isn't the case though, and when things go wrong they often go very, very wrong.
Reddit user u/MediocrePNumber6 asked:
Myself and some mates went paintballing a few years ago and the other team was the groomsmen from a wedding happening the next day, all went well but at the end of the game the paintball host said "showdown between groom and best man" so they go back to back and walk 5 paces and shoot eachother but the best man shot him on the neck and it looked like the biggest hickey ever so id say it was fun to try explain that!
I was at my uncles fiancés bachelorette party. The next morning we wake up and her engagement ring is missing. Her drunk brain reasoned it was safer to take her ring off to wash her hands in the club but she never put it back on after. We tried calling the place but they never found it. Probably made worse by the fact the ring was the grooms mothers engagement ring and she had picked him out of her 7 sons to take the ring for his fiancé. The groom was very cool about it and she felt really bad but they ended up having to get a lookalike for the wedding a few weeks later.
They're still married years later with kids so it's a happy ending.
My buddy's bucks weekend was after the wedding. We partied in a hotel room for the night then met the bride and her party the next day to stay and party at a house for a few nights.. first night we got super hammered at the hotel, place got totally destroyed, tried to order a stripper to the room, instead a hooker showed up, no one wanted to have sex with her and she didn't speak much English so we had to pay her $400 to leave. Groom fell over on the hotel room floor that was covered in broken glass.. in the morning the groom disappears to a brothel..at the house all the strip joints that we called (it was a lot) to try and get a stripper we're calling back, new wife finds out, takes off the ring and gives it back to the groom.. very awkward. They are still married with two kids.
My best man fell down some steps at a strip club. Another dude picked him up, but his foot must have been wedged under the stair. One almighty crunch later he was back on his drunken feet, only to wake up to this the next day.
We had a big going away party for one of my buddies, as with all groups of soldiers - the night ended at the strip club (yeah I know). Anyways, one of the guys just happened to have gotten married earlier that day. He decided that rather than going home with his lovely bride on their wedding night, he would rather come with us while she went home.
They just announced they're getting divorced, it's been 2 months.
We are Greek-Americans. And not many Greeks actually break plates at weddings. But this bride insisted on breaking plates. So people are dancing and others are breaking plates by their feet. The bride (and others) are kneeling in a circle clapping around the people dancing.. and all the plates being thrown.
And as you could guess, a piece hit the bride in the face right under her eye and she started gushing blood all over. Her dress looks like it's out of a horror film. It took a while for the tiny nick to stop bleeding. But it was scary seeing her just start bleeding like that.
Was at a bachelor party years ago, early 20s, for a friend and he got a private room with a stripper and had sex with her. Don't talk to him anymore for other reasons such as him being dead but the marriage fell apart pretty quick
My BIL went go karting for his bachelor's. Came off, face planted, gravel rash all down the side of his face right before the wedding.
He went to hospital and got it bandaged. The dressings didn't come off until the morning of. 100% healed. Doctor was impressed and he lived to the honeymoon.
A friend of mine worked as a bartender and told me that this 26 y/o girl was celebrating her bachelorette party when she saw a video of her fiancé having sex with another woman at his bachelor party. For almost an hour he had to act as this girl's therapist until she stumbled off into the night still depressed at the way things turned out.
Wedding videographer here. I have full on seen people get married, sign the paperwork, and the dude goes off to gave sex with a bridesmaid the wedding night. It's honestly impressive how little time it takes to end that marriage.
My old boss cheated on his bachelor party night, swore all his friends to secrecy, went through with the wedding then told her on the first night of their honeymoon out of guilt. Married and split up within 1 week!
Buddy smashed his face on the first night. He passed out in the hotel wearing socks. Got up to go to the bathroom and slipped on the marble floor. His teeth went through his mouth. Blood everywhere. We called hotel staff to help. EMTs came, and two of us took him to an emergency dentist. He ended up leaving the next day. Worst parts: $8k in dental work, had to have his jaw wired shut, and was scheduled for his first day at a new job three days after the accident.
I used to strip at bachelorette parties. Some brides to be were way too physical in ways I sometimes wondered if marriage at that point was a good idea for them.
My gf went on one where they got a party bus. Everyone was drunk before getting on. They just drove around the town we live in after picking up all the guests (about a 20min drive gets you from one side to the other on a slow day). The toilet on the bus broke early on then started overflowing as people kept using it even after being told not to. 2 people had asthma attacks as they were allowed smoke on the bus but windows didnt open enough to ventilate for 15+ people smoking like trains. 1 person passed out and woke up only to projectile vomit all over the place.
Fights broke out after onboard alcohol supply ran out gf demanded to be dropped home as due to all the smoke her chest became heavily irritated and she couldnt ignore the smell of the busted toilet any longer. She got dropped off and then 2 people off the bus came to our door with her demanding I give them extra alcohol then trying to guilt me by saying its a gift for the happy couple (I planned their entire wedding for free and paid for the dj as a gift) so I just laughed and said no.
A month later they got married (the couple got alot of praise for having such a wonderful wedding on such a budget). 4 months later filed for divorce after one's drug habit came to light along with both realising they were cheating rings around each other.
While smoking outside groom (brother of my fiancé at the time) started hitting on me and wanted to get a blow job off me - literally took his junk out etc. Apologised promptly and put it back after seeing my reaction, saying he's too drunk and excited. But then again, he has been cheating on his wife-to-be throughout their entire relationships, so not a big surprise he did it on their wedding night too. Just never thought it would be with me, I thought siblings partners are off limits for everyone no matter what!
I have the opposite sort of story, my friend "rented" a sloth and had a very quiet party were they fed it sweet potatoes. It was apparently fun and cute.
The sloth came from a conservation organization and you can pay for a "sloth experience" in your home where a guy comes over with the sloth and you hang out for a while.
Totally caused by ME. Drank too much free Champagne (son of a heart surgeon was groom) and I got chucked out of the reception for saying out loud the groom's sister was ugly. Got ousted from the friend group. Totally deserved, I was out of order and extremely drunk.
A worked in a small family restaurant/pub in my small college town while i was in undergrad. We were the classiest "bar" in town, so we had a surprising number of bachelor/bachelorette parties come through. In one particularly bad incident i remember, we were the last stop at the end of a daytime bachelorette party.
They had toured a bunch of wineries/breweries, and most of the participants were trashed by the time they got there (around 4 PM). As soon as they walked in, the bride-to-be disappeared to the bathroom. A few minutes later, we noticed a lot of water begin streaming out under the door. She had puked everywhere, and somehow in the process RIPPED THE SINK OUT OF THE WALL!!! The icing on the cake, her mother in law had to carry her vomit covered butt out of the restaurant. We ended up having to shut down for a few days in order to repair the damage.
Had a distant cousin get arrested on the way into the church to get married.
Credit to the bride. She said it's all paid for let's party. It became an impromptu family reunion. They had the jp marry them a week later
Nothing worse than when one of the friends to the groom had a massive drunken meltdown over the fact that we weren't going to a strip club. Ugly crying and everything.
Our parents should be able––and willing––to protect us and to fight for our best interests. But that's not always the case, and the unlucky ones can spend years seeking mental health counseling to figure out what went wrong.
Our parents are human and they have the ability to disappoint us and devastate us like anyone else. It just hurts a little more, as we were reminded once Redditor banbidoe asked the online community,
"What's the worst thing your parents ever said to you?"
"My family never went on vacations, we couldn't afford them."
"When I was 18 my parents told me that they were going out west to see the Grand Canyon, do some hikes, etc. I exclaimed how cool and fun that would be. Then my dad said, "Oh, you're not going. You're staying here with Sally (16). We're only taking Mary (14) and Jeff (12)."
"I froze for a minute, trying to compute what he said. "Why can't we come?" I finally asked."
"You have summer jobs."
"We can take time off..."
"Well, we just can't afford to take you."
"They had a really fun time without us. I still think about it over ten years later."
"Gotta be when I was 12..."
"Gotta be when I was 12 and my mum told me my uncle fancied me. She said it so matter of factly. Like it was the most natural thing in the world. I've never really been able to get past that."
"10 years later..."
"One month after my sister died unexpectedly, I was having a complete breakdown about it and called my mother for comfort."
"Get over it." She told me, before hanging up."
"10 years later in therapy, I was finally able to trace the start of our relationship breakdown to this moment."
"I hate that phrase now."
"I'm 30 now..."
"My dad telling my brothers (10 & 6 years old) and I (8 years old) over and over again that we should go find a new dad because he didn't want to be ours anymore while ranting and raving after our mom served him with divorce papers. The best part is that he would also tell us "You'll understand why when you're older." I'm 30 now and the only thing I understand is that he's a lunatic."
"They told me..."
"They told me they didn't want me, they wanted a girl so they tried again and got lucky and had the girl they wanted."
"I'm adopted, and at one point my mom said to me "If I had known you'd grow up to be so screwed up I would have picked another child," as if my physical conditions are my fault somehow and my mental disorders aren't at least in part caused by how she raised me."
"That I was faking my depression..."
"That I was faking my depression, and I need to "man up."
"When I was 15..."
"When I was 15, my dad patted my belly and said "put on some weight haven't you?"
"Which is probably not the worst thing in this list, but as I was already struggling with my body image, this was the last nudge I needed to push me into an eating disorder."
"After my sister died..."
"After my sister died, I was in a very dark place mentally / emotionally. The way I dealt with the grief was to keep it bottled up inside - I know it wasn't healthy, but that's how I survived the trauma. My mother was frustrated that I never talked about my sister. I couldn't even say her name or visit her grave. I did attend the funeral, but after that I went back to my silent grief."
"One day, my mother was pushing me to talk about what happened. I was frustrated because I didn't want to talk about it and she wouldn't let it go. My mother told me I disgraced my sister's memory by not talking about her, and it broke me."
"My Dad once told me..."
"My Dad once told me that no girl would love me because I'm fat. That cut me like a knife! There are people who love fat people!"
"Who does he think he is?"
The ones we love the most absolutely know the right buttons to push when it comes to an insult.
Do you have similar experiences to share? Let us know below.
It's human nature to have various opinions about the people we come across.
What sets us apart from heathens is that we keep our judgments to ourselves–especially when they are not of the flattering variety.
The people who probably interact with strangers the most are those who work in any type of service industry, and they should be good about keeping their mouths shut if they don't have anything nice to say about a customer or of their purchases.
But Redditor gracoal gave those who worked in retail the opportunity to share their anecdotes by asking:
"Cashiers of Reddit, what items make you silently judge the people who buy them?"
When it came to the sale of beverages, these Redditors had some interesting thoughts.
"When I worked at the liquor store we only judged people if they came back several times a day."
"Edit: I only did this because it was illegal to sell alcohol to drunk people, when you have someone making multiple trips during a shift they may be drunk, whether or not they where an alcoholic wasn't my concern, but yes I had to judge them."
"When I was drinking heavily every night I’d go to a different store each day so as to avoid judgment lol"
Quality Of Water
"The ethos water at Starbucks. We literally give out free water and it’s way better than the ethos water like sir."
Some of these are examples of how cashiers shouldn't respond to items being purchased.
"This was about ten years ago, but the only time I judged someone was also when I lost a little faith in humanity."
"Guy in his late twenties comes through the line. Belt is filled with junk food; chips, chocolate, popcorn, candy, etc. The whole time I'm ringing him up he's saying how glad he is to be out of the house, that the baby has a flu or something and hes at his wits end."
"Fair enough, I suppose."
"I get to the total, tell him, and wouldn't you know, he's short a few dollars. So what does he put back? The only non-juck food item: children's cold and flu medicine."
"I still judge that man, and I don't even remember his face."
"At the pharmacy I had a guy not buy an epipen for his child with a $50 copay but pay $100 for tretinoin which was not covered for his own acne which, honestly wasn’t that bad. He really could have used an OTC med. I felt sorry for his offspring."
"I bought toilet paper and laxatives at the same time. Teenage cashier looked at it and got the giggles. This got the bagger laughing. I just stood there stupidly pretending it wasn’t funny."
"Not judged as much as hated when people bought dozens of those individually wrapped snack sized cheese slices. At my store we had to scan each one of them."
"🧀 Beep 🧀 beep 🧀 beep 🧀 beep"
A Lesson Learned
"Currently working as a cashier and I was reading thru these thinking 'what was something I really judged people for?'"
"Then I remembered this one customer I judged wrongly. Every morning this one guy would bolt into the store, go to the drink aisle, and come out with 5-6 energy drinks. He would come everyday so one day, I made a joke and said: 'don't drink them all in one setting.'"
"He then proceeded to tell me that it's to help with his ongoing chemo therapy. Stopped judging people based on their items after that one."
It's not always the merchandise that prompted judgment.
Checking The Attitude
"I was a cashier for 3 years, and I can't think of a single thing that anyone bought that I judged them for."
"I certainly judged people for their attitudes, for inappropriately asking for a discount, or for various other petty things, but never for the items they were buying."
"back when i worked nights at a gas station, i had a lady come in wanting a sale that had ended the previous week. when i refused to give it to her she did the whole 'DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?!' bit, and swore her uncle owned the gas station chain and was going to have me fired. i really didn't give a damn. i made $12/hour. i told her go for it. then kicked her out."
"talked to my boss the next day who was a little peeved i didnt give her the discount but said i did the right thing by kicking her out because she doesn't tolerate customers being rude to her staff. never did find out if she really was the niece of the gas station owner, and never got fired. quit a year later for a better paying job."
These former cashiers couldn't be bothered with assessing the behavior or shopping preferences of customers.
"Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I barely pay attention to what im scanning most of the time. You could point a loaded gun at me and leave a note saying you're gonna rob me. So long as I swipe it through and hear a beep, I won't even flinch."
Free From Judgment
"I cashiered at a grocery store for 4 years, same. I never judged people for what they were buying. I did judge people for being rude, for complaining about paying for disposable bags, for eating produce before paying for it, and for lying to my face to save a couple pennies. You can try switching the produce stickers but I can tell the difference between a Fuji and a Sweet Tango."
"Something I always wished people knew that we DO NOT judge people for"
- "having their card declined. If you only knew how frequently this happened all day long. No one cares and I do believe you when you tell me the account has money. I believe you. Cards get declined for all kinds of reasons, all day long. It is not a big deal at all."
- "I do not judge you for bringing a reusable bag from a different grocery store. People seem to think it’s bad etiquette or something and would always apologize for using a trader joe’s bag or something. No one cares. At all. Use whatever reusable bag you like, it’s just a bag."
The Wild Lovers
"I worked as a grocery store cashier many years ago when I was in college. I saw lots of weird stuff, but never judged what people bought, but did judge them if they were a-holes. Even people on wic and foodstamps buying beer or steaks didn't bother me - sometimes you have to enjoy the little things, and who am I to deny or judge someone wanting a small enjoyment if their life is already rough enough?"
"But there was this one time that was freaking hilarious. Late on a weekend night, a really trashy couple were all over each other as they bought a 12 pack of beer and a box of condoms. Hey, at least they were being responsible. But the funniest part was when they came back not 30 minutes later and bought smokes. I still laugh thinking about that."
You never know what a cashier might be thinking, but that shouldn't stop you from buying the merchandise you want for fear of being judged.
Just make sure you treat them all with kindness. Because the positive impression you give will be something that stays with them after a long shift dealing with wacky customers.