Mother-In-Law Walked In On The Newlyweds In Bed And Won't Stop Making Shameful, Snide Comments
August 27 | 2018
Whistler, James Abbott McNeill
Mother In Laws already have a reputation for being The Worst™, but insert an already embarrassing situation, and what do you have? The answer is, a recipe for a stressful ongoing disaster.
u/ch3ssclub told us her story:
My [25/F] MIL [50s/F] walked in on my husband [28/M] and I having sex, and now she keeps directing these weird remarks at me.
We've been together three years, married three months. His family invited us to join them on a trip. Our first day there, SO and I decided to have a quickie before dinner.
We gave his mother a spare key card to our room just in case, but we did not expect her to use it. I guess we were running late for dinner. She came up to see what was taking so long, tried to open the door, unlocked it on her own (even though we put the do not disturb thing up) and caught us. She stared for a second and then ran out embarrassed. My husband and I burst out laughing. He closed the door, we finished because we're monsters and went down to dinner expecting some awkward laughter and a joke or two.
MIL usually makes the innocent sex joke here and there so we didn't expect her to be traumatized or anything. But she has really made a point to direct weird, shameful remarks at me. Implying I'm a hussy for f*cking my husband, while conveniently ignoring the fact that she ignored all the signs and unlocked the door on her own.
SO has tried to talk to her but she "can't look at him". The rest of the family has no idea what happened.
TL;DR: on family trip. SO were having sex in our hotel room. MIL has spare key. She unlocked the door and walked in on us. Now she keeps trying to make me feel bad for having sex with my husband.
Here was some of the advice she got.
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Hold on a sec, let me dig back into the fundamentalist southern baptist mindset here. Okay.
Sex is a god-given act of procreation, and Gob made us so that our lady parts line up perfectly with men's man parts. Is that an accident? Of course not! Therefore, any sex act that doesn't involve lining up those parts the way Gob intended and mashing them together is sinful. If you have to bend down or twist or stand on your head, Gob doesn't want you to do it.
Basically, just don't do anything that might make sex fun, especially anything that might make sex fun for women. Gob doesn't like women and if they start enjoying sex, Jeebus cries and everybody loses their boners.
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If she continues to refuse to talk to him, he could write her a clear note, or email or something, saying "My wife and I had sex and you unfortunately walked in on us, despite having do not disturb signs up. We aren't ashamed of what we did, and if you have a problem with it I'm not sure what to tell you. But I WILL tell you that your comments degrading and shaming my wife need to end, or we will have to have a pretty serious conversation. Do not insult my wife any longer".
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What the heck did she think she was going to find walking into a married couple's hotel room with a do not disturb sign up, without knocking? This is 100% on her. And it's 100% on your husband to tell her to stop the comments right f*cking now. I think this should probably be the end of MIL having a key to anything, including your home. If she has a key it's time to change the locks at home. And if she can't stop with the comments, you might need to take a time out until she can get over herself.
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I would just make some remarks or jokes back about learning how to read (the sign on the door) and doesn't anybody knock anymore?
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I am a Mother and MIL.
If - perchance - I had mistakenly seen such an intimate act between my son and wife - the most I would have said would have been nothing.
There is no need to "talk" about such intimate, private, marital relations with you (as it's none of her business anyway) and you don't have any obligation to do so either.
Let Mom stew and go on with your lives. Simply act as if nothing was seen. If she brings it up simply say "Oh we don't discuss private matters." Change the subject. If she persists, raise your eyebrows and walk away.
I believe within a short time things will revert to normal.
Oh - next time? Don't give Mom a spare key since she seems not to understand the basics of privacy and knocking on doors before entering.
Take care.
Nana internet hug
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He needs to tell her to knock it off, and if she keeps it up (or if she is doing it front of the family), tell her to knock it off and why (YOU used your key to walk into OUR room without knocking loudly, ignoring signs) in front of the rest of the family, and that if she is going to treat him and his WIFE badly, y'all are going home and instituting a period of no contact until she apologizes. Because she does not get to treat you two like sh*t.
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I'm super fascinated that the crux of this post is that MIL is making weird remarks, but the weird remarks are being glossed over entirely (double bonus confusion that no one else in this thread seems to have noticed?).
You said there were remarks, you said that it seems to you like she's using the remarks to imply you're a hussy. What has she actually been saying to you?
Your version might be totally accurate. But there is definitely a world where this is all in your head and she's being perfectly fine, and you're projecting the weirdness onto her.
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Can your husband talk to his father, perhaps? I'm sure she's been venting to him.
I find that a lot of mothers just can't let their sons go, the flip side of the fathers who threaten the boys their daughters date. You're supposed to rear children into becoming adults, and adults have intimate lives that their parents aren't part of.
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Why not call her out on her behavior at the next family meal? Make everyone aware of her ridiculous behavior. CALL HER OUT ON IT.
"Oh geez Mom, really? We are newlyweds, what did you think you were going to see when you barged in our hotel room while a DO NOT DISTURB sign was up and we were unreachable? Why on earth are you implying that my WIFE is a hussy? We are married! EVEN THE POPE APPROVES OF OUR RELATIONS AT THIS POINT! Or maybe wife should get her own room so that you'll feel more comfortable? HAHA! Your behavior is borderline hilarious. Someone pass the bread, please."
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Sometimes anger is an easier emotion to process than others and it may be easier to be angry at you than her son.
Her reaction isn't appropriate but it's up to your husband to deal with it. She possibly feels stupid for having ignored/not seen particular signs and is trying to deflect. No one is perfect and sometimes even the most experienced and reasonable of us have a hard time processing certain things. It's different knowing your child is a sexual being to actually seeing it - maybe that's what she's having an issue with?
Give your MIL some space and let her come round. Let her figure it out and don't make jokes about it for a while. Think of her as a small child who is feeling angry, hurt and confused and treat her with the kindness you'd give that child. It will all blow over but now is the time for sensitivity.
Babysitters Share Their Craziest 'Well, This Kid Is F***ed When They Grow Up' Experiences
March 02 | 2021
Babysitters and daycare professionals have access to a unique vantage. As the trusted adults left in the room with a child or children, childcare workers are the ultimate flies on the wall.
And when a childcare worker performs that role for an extended period of time--an entire career in some cases--they become privy to a whole collage of different kids who come from different homes.
<p>Sure, general trends and tendencies of parents create normal expectations, even monotony. </p><p>But there are times when kids do some WILD stuff that leaves a childcare worker raising their eyebrows. </p><p>And as a handful of Redditors clarified, the parents are nearly always a part of the final analysis. </p><p>keyjeyelpi asked, <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"Babysitters of reddit, what screams 'well, this kid is fu**ed when they grow up?' "</a></p>
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<p>Some Redditors shared truly bizarre occurrences. These kids just seem to tick on a whole other wavelength, and it's a wonder how they made it as far as they did, let alone the whole rest of life. </p>
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Risk-Prone Personality
<p>"I used to work at a daycare and this one kid kept trying to stick his finger in the electrical sockets (the sockets were taped off so he couldn't) and would fall from pretty high places and hit his head."</p><p>"I have no clue how he's still alive but I now believe he is immortal."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gounhzr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Wii_wii_baget</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Warning Signs
<p>"I'm not a babysitter, but a relative of mine was for a short period of time. She said this 4 or 5 year old kid would tell her about how he wanted to cut into his pets to 'see how they work.' " </p><p>"The creepy behavior continued, she brought it up to the mother who didn't seem to care. One day she arrived, and the kid brought her a handful of various teeth that weren't human, still bloody."</p><p>"That was the last time she babysat."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gotw04x?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">A_Garbage_Account</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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What's Cool for Adults May Be Neglectful for Children.
<p>"When I lived in Canada and worked as a nanny, I used to do casual babysitting on the side for a number of local families. One of them, well - the parents were cool people with basically good hearts, but they should never have been parents."</p><p>"Their youngest son had the video of the original Michael Keaton/Jack Nicholson 'Batman' screened at his fourth birthday party, then 'Army of Darkness' at his fifth; the fifth birthday party was attended by the then four year old that I was nanny to, and I had to play dumb and tell my employers that I had no idea why their son was running round the garden with a Super Soaker shouting 'This is my boomstick!' " </p><p>"The parents were also ex-hippies who hauled their son and his two older sisters round in a bus following the Grateful Dead, and they bought their son a 'Can You Find Stoned Waldo' T shirt at one of the shows..."</p><p>"...when the kid wore this shirt to school before he turned six, he was made to take it off and turn it inside out before putting it back on, and when asked if he knew why he'd been told to do this replied, "'Cause there's illegal activity on it, but my dad says it's not illegal if you're sick.' "</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/goud941?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">mrwednesday33</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>Other childcare professionals highlighted some truly sad scenarios they've encountered. </p><p>These situations hinged on parents who were simply not prepared for the task, struggled with trauma of their own, or were simply so disinterested that neglect was obviously at play. </p>
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Afraid of Home
<p>"I'm a teacher, not a babysitter. But, when kids are afraid to go home or have their parents contacted about anything, there is something going on that raises red flags (and will, possibly, leave the kid fu**ed up for years to come)."</p><p>"I had a student a few years ago who broke down in tears in front of me, begging me not to email his mom. He had cheated on a test and was so scared of his mother finding out that, after the crying, he threw up in the trash can."</p><p>"If you are <em>that</em> scared of your parents, then something is majorly wrong."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gouquxk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Onyx_Owl</a></p>When It's Time to Take Action
<p>"I have a friend who worked in a daycare right out of college."</p><p>"There was a baby who came in everyday dirty and hungry, so when she changed the baby's diaper at the end of the day she would write the date and time on the diaper with a sharpie."</p><p>"That baby came back the next day with the same diaper.... 12 hours later. After a few days of that she called CPS."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/govd8uc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Chickiepie</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Illustrated in Socks
<p>"Shi**y parents that doesn't care."</p><p>"I once babysat a little boy, from the time he was 1-3. His mom was busy going on vacation and partying."</p><p>"I remember as he grew he had less and less clothes, because he outgrown the ones he had. I remember he only had 1 pair of socks, because his mom would lose every fu**ing sock."</p><p>"I felt ashamed delivering him to the daycare with two different socks, all the time. It may not seem like a big deal, but look at it from a different POV: if you can't take care of a pair of socks, how are you gonna take care of a baby?"</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gotj4qy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">SantaStoleMyCar</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Sadly, Not a Priority
<p>"Honestly, parents who don't care about the kid's education, for whatever reason. Probably, the parent didn't graduate high school in the first place and doesn't place a whole lot of value in education."</p><p>"Many of those kids (source: former teacher) end up working at McDonald's or struggling to find some other work. They don't even get into trades because you have to go to some kind of school for those, and school just isn't something they can 'do.' "</p><p>"This happened with my step-daughter, who is an absolutely wonderful person but her mom never cared how she did in school or even if she went. Hence her trying to make a living now at 25 by working in day cares, which does NOT pay very well."</p><p>"She wants to do other things but they'd all require school and she just says 'I hate school.' "</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/goto7an?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">DTownForever</a></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
<p>Other Redditors encountered kids who were at the whims of some atypical parenting decisions. They were raised to accept a reality that may never jive with the real world waiting for them after childhood. </p><p>Redditors could only sit and wonder how that would all turn out. </p>
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Nomenclature
<p>"Knew a kid whose parents thought it was funny to tell him the wrong names for things. Socks were called turtles. Put your turtles on. Sh** like this."</p><p>"Wondered why he had screaming meltdowns in daycare then kindergarten etc until he was finally able to read by himself. In grade 4. Because spelling turtle s o c k doesn't give you any head starts."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gouuned?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">dropthemasq</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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A Very High Bar
<p>"Smooth time."</p><p>"I babysat a 6 year old and his parents has a few strange rules, but Smooth Time was by far the worst." </p><p>" first day while walking through the routine, I was told every evening after bath time, I was to cover this kid head to toe in petroleum jelly to 'prevent cracks in his skin"'aka dry skin."</p><p>"It happened every morning as well, but the mom or dad did it then."</p><p>"I really don't think it was anything malicious, the other rules were similarly overly-cautious like the kid had to wear shoes at all times to prevent him hurting his feet, but that kid is gonna have a hard time at his first sleepover."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gouw5o8?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Rossthedinoguy</a></p>Reactive Parenting
<p>"Not a babysitter but had a classmate that had parents that knowingly taught him the wrong things to avoid him getting confused and eventually pulled him out of school after only a few years of him being in our school."</p><p>"They said for example that negative numbers don't actually exist, decimal points are just full stops for big numbers and so on and so forth."</p><p>"Parents also gave him waaaaay too much free reign; I live in an area of London that isn't the best for crime, i.e. you shouldn't really be letting children go to school by themselves until at least age 14-15 and if so at least with a few friends."</p><p>"By age 8 his parents allowed him to go to school by himself (he lived about 15 minutes away). He was also extremely clumsy and could be very rude."</p><p>-- <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lsvvkp/babysitters_of_reddit_what_screams_well_this_kid/gotv6ok?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">[deleted]</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p><br></p><p>So if you haven't had kids yet, take a good hard look at this list, and commit these faux pas to memory. When it's time, you'll be able to avoid at least a few glaring no-no's. </p><p>Want to "know" more? Never miss another big, odd, funny, or heartbreaking moment again. Sign up for the Knowable newsletter <a href="https://mailchi.mp/knowable/knowable-newsletter-in-content" target="_blank">here</a>. <br></p>
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As a married woman, I learn more and more every day what it means to be in a romantic relationship. It is a constant learning experience, and even now, four years into being together, we still are learning more and more about each other.
This isn't just our relationship. In fact, this is a universal trend in all relationships. Most mistakes that we worry are specific to our relationship are actually common to every marriage or partnership. We've all been through it, man!
<p>Here are a few examples, courtesy of Reddit.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Frozly/" target="_blank">U/Frozly</a> asked: <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lrcrux/what_are_common_mistakes_people_make_in_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf" target="_blank">What are common mistakes people make in a relationship?</a><br></p>
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<p>Some things may seem ridiculously obvious to a single person, but once you’re in the thick of it, it becomes a little harder to catch.</p>
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Disagreements happen. It’s better to face them head-on.
<p>Trying too hard to avoid potential arguments to avoid conflict rather than hashing it out before the issue becomes too big to handle.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/noah9389/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Noah9389</a> / <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/backwoodshippy/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Backwoodshippy</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/backwoodshippy/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>This I believe is the most important. At first, I was afraid to say things sometimes because I was so afraid that she might not see me the same or something. She was doing the same.</p><p>We both learned that love is love no matter what and any disagreements we can talk about and we may feel sad or hurt or upset but we never yell at each other, we simply talk it through and if it's something we both disagree on, we compromise. We have both had our small moody feelings but we always talk things through and so long as we stay true to each other I believe it will last forever.</p><p>I learned that when two people love each other so much, they will work together and be devoted to each other no matter what. And we have a strong relationship that I believe will last forever.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SanelliGames/" target="_blank">SanelliGames</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Never ignore your problems!
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwNDg3Mi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzMzM0NDMyNH0.LRM6guAFJMI1mYLhBlHDydlZi_iLjjkdLpxlwPslXFI/img.gif?width=980" id="b1202" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="8b2e51f3df674b30f824e4f29539d40b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="480" />GIF by In The Heights MovieGiphy<p>The most common mistakes that couples make are not actively listening to one another, taking their partner for granted, and pushing aside problems because they don't want to cause an argument.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/noah9389/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Noah9389</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/noah9389/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a>Also talk about what's bothering each other.</p><p>You got to work together to solve issues that come up, you can't just ignore them. That's how people end up leaving or cheating.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/similiarintrests/" target="_blank">Similarintrests</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Communication is key!
<p>Not being able to communicate. You need to be able to voice when you are hurt without them taking it as an attack. You need to be able to hear your partner.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sweetsubmarines/" target="_blank">Sweetsubmarines</a></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/sweetsubmarines/" target="_blank"></a>100% agree. Although I do think it's important to encourage learning how to communicate. Many adults just simply don't know how to do this and I do believe it's a learnable skill.<br></p><p>Should you waste your life with a partner who has no interest in self development and learning to communicate? Probably not. Should you discuss this with your SO who has poor communication skills and create a plan to work together and improve communication? Yes!</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Iwant2go2_there/" target="_blank">Iwant2go2_there</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>People go into relationships thinking love is a certain way. But almost always, it’s the exact opposite of what you expect. It’s not like the movies, babies.</p>
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Married life in a nutshell.
<p>That love is a feeling. You can "fall" in love with someone but it's more of a choice to be deeply connected with this one person. Over time you constantly choose to love them through the good and the bad. If you base your entire relationship on how love is a feeling, you're most likely going to "fall out of love" with them.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/I_Like_To_Hunt_Eggs/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">I_Like_To_Hunt_Eggs</a></p>DON’T do this.
<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTcwNDg3OS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2OTE0Mjg1OH0.Z3QjQBNduyjZc816fDmk7IowLwjc4Ms9XfGk3RtBUks/img.gif?width=980" id="02582" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="6e4a6d35608f5552f011b9ab70098cae" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />will ferrell elf GIFGiphy<p>Labeling your partner the source of all your happiness and joy.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/blankblotter/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Blankblotter</a></p><p>100% this. I know the phrase "how can you be happy with someone else if you're not happy alone" has become hated because some people feel like it's saying "people with depression should never be in a relationship" but it's not really about that. As someone who has been put in the position of "someone's entire happiness and joy" it is extremely stressful. Because the flipside ends up being "I'm unhappy - how can my partner fix it??" even if it's not a conscious or intentional thing.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/themoogleknight/" target="_blank">Themoogleknight</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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All of this.
<p>Getting into a relationship too fast and not getting out of the relationship fast enough (especially prior to marriage).</p><p>When you're not in an official relationship with someone yet, it's pretty easy to walk away if you see problems. But once you're officially in a relationship with someone, you're more invested in them, and you're less likely to walk away when you see problems. So it's important to spend significant time getting to know someone before you start doing things that make you feel more reluctant to walk away (whether that be kissing them, calling them your boyfriend or girlfriend, or whatever), so that you will filter out more of the bad potential partners before they become actual partners and waste more of your time causing you more pain.</p><p>Once you're already in the relationship, it's important to communicate - to express your needs clearly and assess your partner's needs with empathy and care. And if you've expressed your needs clearly but your partner still does not meet them, then it's important to end the relationship. Hanging around hoping something will suddenly change somehow is wasting your time and also wasting your partner's time. It's a kindness to both of you if you just explain that since your needs still have not been met, you're leaving now.</p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>There are at least three basic stages of a relationship. The first stage is when it's not officially a relationship yet. Use this stage to filter out as many bad partners as you can before you get too invested. Think of as many relationship pitfalls as you can, and ask questions to try to determine in advance whether each potential partner is likely to be able to overcome them with you or not.</p><p>The second stage is when you're boyfriends/girlfriends/etc. but not married yet. At this point you've progressed from asking questions and getting to know one another to actually trying to be one another's primary supports in meeting the daily challenges of everyday life together. </p><p>The biggest question to keep in mind at this point is, "Does this person make my life better, and do I make theirs better?" Does this person help you solve problems, relieve some of your burdens, introduce you to new and interesting ideas, listen and make you feel understood, relate and make you feel less alone - and do you do the same for them? Are you happier when they're around, or does being around them exhaust you - and do you think they're happier or more exhausted when you're around? If you were suddenly sick or injured in some new way and you needed help, could you rely on them to take care of you to about the same degree that you would take care of them? When you need something from them or they need something from you, can you each typically get what you need from each other, or does the conversation become strained or awkward because one of you is less able or less willing to meet the other's needs? </p><p>In this stage, the possibility should never be far from your mind that maybe this person might turn out to just not be the right person for you to be with at all - because if you find that you're not making each other's lives better, and some conversations about how to try to fix that don't seem to be actually fixing it, then the best thing for both of you is to end the relationship as soon as possible so you can both avoid wasting any more of your time with each other.</p>
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<p>The third stage is when you're married. At this point you should already have become very confident that you're both basically reasonable people because you should already have demonstrated considerable ability to get along well and help one another surmount problems in the past. '</p><p>So, when life continues to present new challenges, you should have some confidence that even if those challenges do lead to some arguments, those arguments are not reason to doubt whether your spouse is a basically reasonable person or not. You should already be convinced that they are a basically reasonable person. You should already have a substantial history with them that proves you are compatible in a wide variety of ways. So even if the two of you change over time in ways that alter your compatibility somewhat, there should still be enough common ground left that it generally behooves you to work through the problems.</p>
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<p><br>During this stage, even if interacting with your spouse <em data-redactor-tag="em">does</em> currently make you feel more exhausted and less happy, your spouse still deserves credit for having made you happier and less exhausted in previous years. As long as your spouse isn't physically, verbally, or financially abusing you they should be allowed plenty of leeway to borrow against that credit. People with a history of being really good for you have a right to go through hard times and be depressed and need your support. They supported you, so you should support them too.</p><p>And if you're both going through separate hard times at the same time, so you need their support but you're not getting it? Try to be as forgiving as you can, because hopefully you wouldn't have married them if they weren't a basically good person who has proven that they can and do support you quite a lot most of the time. Maybe they just need space to fail for a little while, and then they can get back on track. But also, do express your own needs - gently but clearly - so they know what's going on with you and can make the best effort they can at the moment. Don't expect them to read your mind.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/queerbychoice/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Queerbychoice</a></p>
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Big mistake.
<p>Assuming your partner should know what you want if they love you. I struggled early in our marriage because the women in my wife's family are big on this. We worked on it and it took a bit, but we got to the point where we would only hold each other accountable to expressed words and thoughts. It has made all the difference in the world and 27 years of marriage have been mostly happy. Also, comparisons. Never say "Well my last SO did this" or " My family always did it another way". Good way to alienate a partner.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/TheUnblinkingEye1001/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">TheUnblinkingEye1001</a></p><p>For the love of God, never be petty in your relationship. The two (or more) of you are stronger than that, so just don’t do it!</p>
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It will NEVER be even.
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Love’s not a game.
<p>Treating dating as a game you're supposed to win instead of playing just for fun of it.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AnAverageFreak/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">AnAverageFreak</a></p><p>Or even worse, treating any communication as something you're supposed to win, instead of using it to find a solution to a problem.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Zerokx/" target="_blank">Zerokx</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Such good advice.
<p>I've always heard "Don't go to bed angry". Don't take that advice. Most times, you're both tired and it's late. Sleep on it and continue the conversation the next day.</p><p>Don't keep score.</p><p>Accept/admit when you've screwed up and move on.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/pop_corn26/" target="_blank">Pop_corn26</a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_13" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>As a married woman, all of the advice presented in this thread are gold. My own advice would be to never suppress feelings for the sake of your partner. Being 100% honest with your partner will encourage them to be open with you as well, and you'll be able to resolve arguments way easier.</p><p>That's relationships for you. This isn't a Disney movie--this is real life. And snags are going to happen from time to time. But the way you and your partner(s) handle it is entirely indicative of how your relationship operates</p>
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There are things we accept as inherently bad – like predatory animals or unhealthy foods – because we are socialized to believe they are.
<p>For instance, Steven Spielberg's <em>Jaws</em> terrified audiences when it was released in theaters in 1975 and it kept people from going to the beach. <br></p><p>What many people don't realize is that humans are not naturally shark-food as they typically avoid food sources that are competitive in size. </p><p>And when you think about it, aren't people are the most dangerous species of all?<br></p><p><strong>Curious to hear what strangers thought, Redditor <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/BreachyJoe/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">BreachyJoe</a> asked:</strong><br></p><blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"What is something that doesn't deserve its bad reputation?"</a></blockquote> <img alt="" src="https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/renderTimingPixel.png">
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"Dangerous" Animals
<p>Most species in the animal kingdom will leave you alone if unprovoked. <br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Silent Predator
<p>"sharks."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpadmsi?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">RudegarWithFunnyHat<br></a></p><p>"No kidding. The oceans would be a mess without them. They kill less people per year than mosquitoes, deer and PEOPLE. They're intelligent but so different from us that the bad rep was practically unavoidable sadly"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpax28m?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Megalon84</a><br><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpadmsi?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer"></a></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Nothing To Hiss At
<p>"Black cats."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpb0ggl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">tehfraginator</a></p><p>"THIS ONE. I was absolutely floored this past October when I read somewhere that some animal shelters will not allow anyone to adopt black cats for fear that people will abuse them and/or sacrifice them ritualistically because we All Know that black cats bring BAD LUCK. LOOK. We own a black cat and he's Just A Cat. About the worst thing he does is drag his ass across the carpet because he has a sticky piece of sh*t sticking to his fur!!! 🙄"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpblwcf?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">RolandParr57</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Creatures Of The Night
<p>"Bats. Some of the best insect control/pollination help out there (depending on species). Plus they can give you good fertilizer. 'But they carry rabies.....' you know what else can carry rabies? Raccoons, rabbits, foxes, dogs, opossums....pretty much mammals. 'But they can carry cross species diseases....' So do pigs, chicken, primates, and now with [the virus] dogs & cats. I mean don't go hug them- but they are very useful & unfortunately on the way out."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbyuvt?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">lyme_aide</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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They Make For Good Pets
<p>"Snakes. Majority of them are harmless. I understand if you live in an area with deadly snakes. But snakes are always represented as pure evil and villainous when most are just typical reptiles going about their little snake lives. They don't want to bother you, they just want to survive the next day and reproduce."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbga1l?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">LeafeonMaster721</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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People
<p>People can easily be persuaded by the opinions of others, especially on the internet.</p>Misunderstood?
<p>"Guy Fieri. What the heck did he ever do to anyone?"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpboj8u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">nokittythatsmypie</a></p><p>"Dude is a bro! He's raised millions of dollars for grants to restaurant workers who have been hammered by [the virus] closures. He does tons of charity work for food security, and even performed marriage ceremonies for 101 gay couples in honor of his sister when that was still super controversial. His signature style may be Backstreet Boy-reject, but it also makes him instantly recognizable and helps in bringing attention to good causes."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpc900a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Speakeasy9</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Requires Discipline And Hard Work
<p>"Fast food workers. I don't get the 'anyone can do it' argument. Through my time as a manager I've turned down applicants for not being up to our standard and watched all age groups quit because the job isn't as easy as they expected. It's a fast paced work environment with lots of memorization due to food safety standards. I've worked production, construction, warehouse, and others but working in fast food isn't easier than the others, just different."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbwxg4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">mynameisshelly</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The Rocker
<p>"Joan Jett."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpaygyw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Three_Day_Rider</a></p><p>"Yeah, but she don't give a damn about her bad reputation."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbcbd5?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Casual-Notice</a><br></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
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Health
<p>Some of the things we put in our bodies are stigmatized for various reasons. </p><p>But these people believe the following should not be blackballed. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Let It Flow
<p>"Tap water. People have been manipulated by bottled water companies to believe that drinking tap water is somehow bad for you. Water quality standards for tap water in most 1st world countries is extremely high."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpb5uzj?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">DougCrackheadFord</a><br></p><p>"Monosodium glutamate (MSG). It's just the sodium salt of glutamic acid, and it naturally occurs in many foods. There is literally nothing wrong with it if used in appropriate proportions, same as regular salt. But sadly it was demonized as part of the whole racist 'Chinese restaurant syndrome' that convinced people Chinese food was out to kill us all. The myth prevails to this day."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbi3cl?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">mercuryrising137</a><br></p>
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Culture Cuisine
<p>"Taco Bell does not give everyone diarrhea."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpad830?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">albinorhino63</a></p><p>"Honestly, my theory is that is not Taco Bell specifically, but that some people have the notion that Mexican Food gives you diarrhea. If you think about the people who say Taco Bell gives you diarrhea, it's largely the same people who think any ethnic food gives you diarrhea, black pepper is spicy, and that Taco Bell is Mexican food. They say the same thing about Indian food, for instance. South Park even had an episode where a running joke was that blood in your underwear was a natural result of eating Chipotle. So I think it's less about Taco Bell specifically than it is about people who think Taco Bell is Mexican food, and that any kind of "ethnic" food gives you the sh*ts."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbgc4k?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">livious1</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_11" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Chemical Reaction
<p>"Chemicals. 'Chemical-free' is marketing crap. Everything is a chemical."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpbod2s?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kittehbombastic</a></p><p>"Bacteria automatically gets a bad rap. But most are harmless and some are even beneficial to us. There's both good bacteria and bad bacteria."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/lv5tzk/what_is_something_that_doesnt_deserve_its_bad/gpalxvc?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">sea8cloud8</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_12" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>At the end of the day, a good or bad reputation should be about a personal experience and not generalized off of a someone else's opinion. </p><p>Unless of course you're a consumer reading Yelp reviews and looking for the best products and services available. </p><p>But unless you had a limb swallowed by a shark, or gotten food poisoning from eating at Taco Bell, don't go hating on them. <br></p>
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Fast fingers come in handy if you're an avid texter. Just make sure you proofread for typos before hitting "send."
<p>One misplaced letter can change the entire meaning of what you have to say to someone to either hilarious effect or majorly offensive.</p><p>In some scenarios, however, typos are forgivable. Because nobody likes receiving messages conveying bad news.<br></p><p><strong>Curious to hear about the experience of strangers on the internet, Redditor <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Marccccci/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Marccccci</a> asked:</strong><br></p><blockquote><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">"What's the most disturbing text message you got?"</a></blockquote> <img alt="" src="https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/img/renderTimingPixel.png">
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Downer
<p>Some people would rather be bombarded with notifications than reading these unsettling texts. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_36" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Grim Announcement
<p>"'Are you a friend of...?' 'Yeah why?' 'He passed away.' This message came from the account of that friend, so I thought I was getting pranked. It still feels so unreal, losing a friend you met online. I only met him in person once, but I drove 10 hours out to the service anyways, I'd known him online for 5 years. He was only a few years over 20. I'll miss that man."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp288lm?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">its_ya_boi_big_ghoul</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_2" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Worst False Alarm Ever
<p>"Emergency Alert."</p><p>"BALLISTIC MISSILE THREAT INBOUND TO HAWAII. SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER. THIS IS NOT A DRILL."</p><p>"Would have got to be the worst one, surely?" </p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gozs00g?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">heisdeadjim_au</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_3" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Possibly Dreadful News
<p>"My mom: 'please call me'"</p><p>"Me every time: <em>oh god, dad is dead.:<br></em></p><p><em>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp177bz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ihatereddit1221</a></em><br><em></em></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_4" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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One Of Two Things
<p>"Yes! My dad does this."</p><p>"Please call me ASAP."</p><p>"That means either someone died, or he needs help with his router."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp3zia1?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">SeizureAugustus</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_5" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Typos
<p>This is a reminder that even spellcheck can gets things wrong. </p><p>Only you, the sender, knows the context of the message you write. </p>Bad Typo
<p>"Friend texted a colleague 'I locked the keys in the office.' Only, predictive text changed 'keys' to 'Jews'."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp2e697?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Own-Bridge4210</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_6" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Oops
<p>"I mass texted a bunch of friends and family about hurricane evacuation and autocorrect changed it to ejaculation. That was a fun day."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp460kw?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">wired89</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_7" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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One Disturbing And One Devastating
<p>"'I did suck him, so I may have gotten herpes' Sent to me by my dad followed by 'that wasn't meant for you'</p><p>"A second not disturbing but devastating was 'Grandma just went into Hospice. If you want to say goodbye you need to fly out tomorrow.' Got that text on a Tuesday, flew out Wednesday, Grandma died on Friday morning."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp20q8d?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Capt_RRye</a><br></p><div data-conversation-spotlight style="min-height:90px"></div>
Bizarre Threats
<p>Whether it's a prank call or egregious sarcasm, nobody likes receiving these. </p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_8" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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Creepy
<p>"One night just as I was drifting off to sleep, my phone buzzed with the message, 'We're watching,' from an unknown number."</p><p>"I just replied, 'Prepare for boredom.'"</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp17exo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">selftypohater</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_9" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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The Sarcastic Threat
<p>"If you're not home in 20 minutes I'll gut your cats and hang them from the ceiling."</p><p>From my husband. While I was in the hospital."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gp21ogk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">AliceMorgon</a><br></p>Wrong Number
<p>"I got a message in the middle of the night from an unknown number telling me to stop sleeping with their husband, albeit in somewhat stronger language. I'm pretty certain it wasn't meant for me as I wasn't sleeping with anyone's husband. I replied saying I didn't think the message was meant for me and never heard anything more."</p><p>– <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ltmerx/whats_the_most_disturbing_text_message_you_got/gozccx3?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">nxtec</a><br></p><div class="ad-tag" data-ad-name="In_Content_Responsive_10" style="min-height:280px"></div>
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<p>The overall consensus seemed to be that news of death in the family or a "there's been an accident" type of messages were the worst ones people received. </p><p>But the next worst case scenario would be a significant other breaking up with you via text.</p><p>The dreadful part about that is not because of the callous delivery of a heartbreaking decision, but because of the new phone required after it's been hurled across the room. </p><p>Not speaking from experience. Maybe.<br></p>
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