We all hope to work for decent people, but that's not always the case, as we learned when Redditor WapitiTal asked: "What's the most unethical thing you've seen an employer do in the name of profits?"
"I work at a clinic..."
I work at a clinic owned by a doctor that is notoriously cheap and shady. I hate even being in that building. I try to avoid it. One of my coworkers who has more of a stomach to deal with him told me a story about a time he was there. Our equipment needs chill water to cool it. The chill water system is installed by a different company so my coworker was relaying this to the doctor to get the right maintenance guy there.
The guy shows up and immediately identifies the problem. One of the electronic valve solenoids is out no big deal it will take an hour to replace. The guy draws up a quote and hands it to the doctor to sign so he can get started on the work.
For those of you that don't know how this system works. When you have gear that needs regular maintenance like this equipment you usually have contracts but in this case its a pretty robust equipment so instead they just do time and materials. That means if I go in to fix something I have to show you the cost of the materials and the labor. You then have to sign the quote showing you agree to the charges.
So the doctor looks at the quote and tells the guy it shouldn't have broke. The maintenance guy who is really just fixer-upper guy and shouldn't be brokering deals says he can't work unless there is a signature on that paper. The doctor yells at the guy for half an hour to get started but he holds his ground waiting for the signature. Red in the face and still fuming the doctor signs the quote. The guy gets started. He has to work in a back room kind of cramped. He finishes the job and started to get ready to leave. He looks at his clipboard and there is no signed quote. No one saw the doctor take it but it was obvious he did. The guy asked him about it and the doctor chased him off the property with his lawyer on the phone telling him how he was getting sued.
I applied and got a job when I was a teenager for a siding company for a few weeks for some quick cash. I went to the job site for 2 weeks, finished the siding job then the guy just ghosted me for a month. I told everyone I knew the guy was a sleazeball who is trying to take advantage of kids. Sure enough, he hired another guy I know and stiffed him. I lost track of him after that cuz he was dead to me essentially. I hope he gets his in the end.
"My husband..."
My husband worked for a company for 13 years. They had a big job and the boss told him if he got it done under budget and ahead of time there was said big bonus for him. He busted his @ss every day no days off for 9 months and the boss bought his wife a new car and himself a new boat . My husband got laid off a week before Xmas.
"I quit last year..."
So, I used to work for Nordstrom. There was a guy that was surpassing everyone in their daily goals to get as many people to join the Nordstrom credit card program. I didn't understand how this guy was racking in so many credit cards with the customers. It wasn't until I worked with him that I saw what he was doing. He was signing up customers under the thought that they were going to be "saving" money that day.
It totally sketched me out because the customer was not aware of any credit cards opening up with their name. I confronted him about his shady ways of doing this. He just walked away from me. I went to my manager and told her about the way he is going about opening these credit cards. Yup, that did nothing. He ended up getting a promotion on such a job-well-done with all the credit cards he was able to pull in.
I quit last year and never looked back. Places like Nordstrom scare me, because it is not only being shady to its people, but the ways these employees are finding ways to "bend" the rules is nuts. It is all fake.
"Pretty sure..."
Pretty sure my 1990's employer never applied the full raises I got. It was my first "real" job and a mom and pop operation. The tabulation of wages was just an adding machine receipt stapled to our check that made no sense to someone who was in the top math level in school. I didn't seem to ever make more money based on actual hours, though the amount fluctuated randomly. I am fully convinced that they stole hundreds or even thousands from someone making barely over minimum wage. I would not have been the only one either. I...am not inclined to forgive them.
"Telling families..."
Telling families of autistic kids they could "recover" their kids 85% and they can live full, "normal" lives. They would get families to move to my state, get funding and then fudge the results to show "improvements." Families would move with no family support, split families where one parent moved and the other would have to stay because or work or own a home. So much money out of pockets for extra services. Once I learned they were super shady, I quit.
"My brother..."
My brother had a coffee shop/restaurant. He bought a big container with pump of Ghirardelli chocolate syrup for the mochas and when that ran out he poured the cheaper Hershey's chocolate but still told customers it was the Ghirardelli one. He also claimed his canned chili was homemade and got mad at one of the employees when she told a customer she cut herself opening the chili can. When he made fish and chips he told people it was cod when he was using pollock...
Yeah, he's a piece of work, and that's the least of the sh*t he's done.
"Taking money out of my paycheck..."
GiphyTaking money out of my paycheck to cover the cost of a drive-off. The gas station I worked at was pretty old-school and had a rolodex of "trusted" families and businesses that were authorized to pay inside. This guy must have been aware of that, as he hit the "pay inside" button and then stared angrily at me, like "What gives? Don't you know who I am?" I was brand new and didn't want any complaints, so I authorized the pump request. $50 later, he drove off. If I wasn't desperately broke and living shift to shift, I'd have hired a lawyer. Being in an at-will state, I'm sure they'd eventually find some other reason to fire me. So I ended up just biting the $50 bullet and cutting back my food budget. Never authorized another "pay inside" request after that unless I could personally identify them.
"I worked..."
I worked at Mr. Goodcents. The original store. I cut my finger while using the slicer. Got blood all over the turkey. My boss washed it off and put it back with the rest of the meat.
"I used to work..."
I used to work at a staffing company in the automotive manufacturing industry.
All of their salespeople were women. I noticed and asked my boss why that was. She thought I was being sarcastic, I suppose, but it didn't dawn on me right away:
They refused to hire salesmen because the women would attract the business. Several of our saleswomen reported sexual harassment and the company swept it under the rug.
They are probably still in court over a few of their cases.
"Buddy of mine..."
Buddy of mine worked for a guy doing landscaping for about half a year. His boss withheld income tax on every paycheque, but pocketed it rather than paying the government. Friend got audited and was fortunate enough to have saved his paystubs showing his deductions, but he would've been SOL without them.
I've also seen business owners telling their employees how to vote in elections, saying that if X party gets into power, they won't be able to afford to keep their staff.
"Then take government bailouts..."
Sell sub-prime mortgages they knew would fail and have the parent company buying derivatives betting that those mortgages were going to fail. Then take government bailouts and not help the people we ducked over.
(Sold Mortgages for a subsidiary of AIG).
"I once worked..."
I once worked in a restaurant. The veal parmigiana was made with pork butt. The crab cakes were made with imitation crabmeat.
We were frequently asked for the recipe for these items which was always denied. I didn't learn the truth until I had been working there for about a year.
"I worked..."
I worked at a local Italian restaurant briefly. My boss insisted that if we served a customer a fountain drink, we had to pour it back in if they didn't finish. So if a customer ordered a coke, and only drank half, we'd have to pour the coke back into the fountain machine. Apparently he thought it was saving money.
"Went and literally fussed..."
Went and literally fussed at the business that sought to hire one of his employees, thus causing the new and far better job to say "ehhhh, no, we don't want drama from their employer..."
"I drive coach..."
i drive coach, my boss started giving the coaches really cheap to our major client, in exchange for which the tour guide went round the coach and collected a £2 per head tip for the driver per day of the tour (our coaches had 57 seats) this money was placed in a sack, given back to the tour company by the tour guide (all this was done in mandarin, thinking the drivers wouldn't know) , who once a year passed the whole amount in cash to my boss, who placed the whole lot in an offshore tax haven....we are talking very high 6 figures, this client had between 5-10 coaches a week on 4-9 day tours, at the rates he was charging they barely broke even on the hires. I quit when a passenger who spoke good English accidentally told me what was going on, and sweated out the rest from the tour guide. We need our tips to survive (minimum wage job), every owner knows this, but i guess getting all that tax free and screwing us over is worth more than ethics.
"When people would bring in parts..."
I used to work at Auto Zone. When people would bring in parts to test, our machine/testing equipment was always down. Which forced people to either leave or buy the part. They could also go to another store which I would recommend. The management also got mad that I informed the employees about the updated sick leave policy. the store I worked at also did commercial sales to auto shops. The shops get a big discount ..bigger if they spend a lot of money. They turn around and charge the customer double for a part they could walk in and get themselves. They would focus more on the shops than the actual customers who were inside the store.
"University..."
University I went to hired me as a notetaker (special-ed accommodation), let me go halfway through the term when the student dropped the course, and then tried not to pay me for the work I'd done because the contract wasn't completed. I had to threaten small claims court (over $30!) to get them to pay.
Wish I'd taken it to the department of labor. Guarantee I wasn't the only person they tried that on, and most of the others probably needed the money more.
"The former..."
The former Assistant Manager that I used to work with would close my tickets (I'm a Computer Tech), refund the customer's money, Reopen another ticket under his name, add a few services and retap the customer's credit card. He did this repeatedly to all the other techs I worked with.
Things That Scream 'A Single Male Lives Here'
Reddit user hamsterdumbster asked: 'What screams "single male lives here"?'
Whether we realize it or not, we have certain "tells" that will signal to other people what life is like at home, whether we're hard workers or parents or travelers.
Even single men, despite their age, have certain characteristics that can be spotted from a mile away.
Curious, Redditor hamsterdumpster asked:
"What screams 'single male lives here'?"
Questionable Decor
"Anything but a curtain acting as a curtain."
- Some-Nice-Basil
Minimalist By Nature
"When I first heard the description of a minimalist I was confused because as a single male, I had been living like that for years..."
- jnd_photography
A Glimpse into the Bathroom
"Three empty bottles of head and shoulders still in the shower, prob another bottle half full with tons of excess shampoo dried all around the outside."
"A small pile of leftover Irish spring soap bars maybe we can smash 'em together and make a full bar one day."
- Omnivore_Omri_23
Very Elaborate
"There's just a mattress on the floor in the bedroom."
- gambito705
Bottle Collections
"Empty liquor bottles lined up as decor."
- miranda_alexis
No Place for the Garbage
"There's no trash can in the bathroom."
- Iilsmokey
Key Characteristics
"Empty fridge except for a random beer and leftovers. White plastic chair. Everything black...black couch, black picture frames, black desk. Etc."
- elvishranger
Central TV
"A really big single-seat recliner in front of a massive TV with game consoles under it. Not that there's anything wrong with gaming, but there's a certain level of being committed to staying single when you have just one chair in your loungeroom, lol (laughing out loud)."
- Totallycasual
Shaving Day
"Stubble in the sink."
- Ok_Wave_7358
"And behind the sink faucets."
- Urrrsagrrl
National Pride
"A random flag hanging on the living room wall."
- bucktop
New Standard in Bedding Sets
"Using tee shirts as pillowcases. Lol (laughing out loud)."
- Ok-Mood9454
"Can confirm, have done this. They're about the same size and sometimes I can't (be bothered to) find a pillowcase."
- whyamionfireagain
Stereotypical Decor
"According to 90’s romcom/sitcoms: Lava lamp and a beanbag chair."
- sorentomaxx
"Can confirm: I love lava lamps."
- ithinkoutloudtoo
External Closet
"Speaking from experience. I got tired of having a floordrobe so I got an absolutely giant clothes drying rack where all of my clean clothes go."
- Bribase
"'This pile is clean, that pile is dirty.'"
- GSturges
"'...That pile is dirty but wearable.'"
- wageslave645
The Single Man Starter Pack
"Bare white walls or a s**tty poster on them... A large TV with no furniture other than a futon serving double duty as a bed... Beer everywhere, even on the ceiling."
- Barmacist
Enough Said
"All of the pizza boxes."
- somedream
"I called it the leaning tower of pizza."
- TheMohawkMan
While there's nothing wrong with being single, a guy should be mindful of what he keeps in his home, how he behaves, and even how his clothes appear, if he for some reason doesn't want to disclose to others that he's single or living alone.
Drag icon RuPaul endorses love but insists on loving yourself first.
Otherwise, "how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"
It's true. It's an age-old adage suggesting that you have to genuinely love yourself first in order to have healthy relationships with others and have a much happier life in general.
But sometimes, it's not about you.
Unfortunately, some people take the concept too far and are convinced the world revolves around them and that they are the key player in the drama of life.
Curious to explore this psychological perspective, one Redditor asked:
"What is the worst case of 'main character syndrome' you've ever encountered?"
Some people just get past themselves. Observe, exhibit A, B & C.
Odd Punishment
"An acquaintance of the family. She had a birth defect in her legs that made walking somewhat difficult. Not impossible at all. Just not something she could do a lot of."
"She had the ability to walk and climb stairs. I've seen her do both. She was awkward at it, but she could do it."
"I mention this because, apparently, at a niece's graduation she decided that her niece needed to help her to her seat. As in the niece was supposed to leave the ceremony part way through, come down off the stage in her robes, and escort this woman to her seat before going back."
"Well, as you might imagine, the school didn't seem willing to accommodate this. So other family members offered to help her. But, as it wasn't the attention grabbing stunt she wanted, she decided that the best way to punish her family was to seat herself. By flopping down in the floor and moaning and groaning as she crawled on all fours. As I understand it, her family was running along beside her and trying to help her up but she ignored them. Just did a belly crawl up the stairs and made a big show of it."
– semiloki
Neglectful Dad
"The husband of a friend of my told her he didn't really care for interacting with their two twin boys, and would just wait for them to grow older and would be able to talk about his pretty specific interests."
"They're no longer together."
– Smellmyupperlip
Playing The Victim
"I was briefly friends with a woman who could do no wrong. She was the victim 24/7 and everyone was out to get her. She saw other people as means to an end and would say whatever she wanted about them, accuse them of horrible sh*t, 'repeat' things they supposedly said about you to your face (she made it up or heavily exaggerated every time), and just in general use people."
"She told me within the first two weeks of us knowing each other that she was telling everyone we were best friends. When she moved away, she forgot I existed."
– an_ineffable_plan
Some people like to piggy back off of high-profile family members.
Famous By Association
"Local celebrities are pretty bad. Their spouses and families are even worse. The only time I’ve heard 'Do you know who I am?' in the wild was when the wife of the local weatherman was arguing with a clerk at the grocery store."
– Old_Army90
Papa Mayor
"When I was in high school (20+ years ago), I was on my school's speech and debate team. I frequently had to compete against the daughter of our city's mayor. We went to different schools but competed in the same event, so I frequently had rounds with her."
"I swear, every conversation with her was 'My daddy, the mayor, said that...', 'My daddy, the mayor, is going to...', 'My daddy, the mayor, believes...'"
"She could not mention her father without mentioning that he was the mayor."
"One day, I was tired of her bullsh*t. While we waited for the judge to arrive and our round to start, she started in with 'My daddy, the mayor,...' again."
"'Who is your dad?,' I asked."
"'Ummm...he's the mayor,' she said."
"What's his name?"
"[NAME]. You know, the MAYOR!"
"Huh...never heard of him. He must not be that famous."
"I'd thought her head was going to explode. Good times."
– Faustus_Fan
Scandalous
"Went to high school with the mayor’s daughter too. She acted similarly. My dad this and my dad that. Our senior year it came out that both of her parents abused public office and committed fraud. Last I remember her mom had to serve her sentence out in weekends and her dad went to jail for a bit too. She was pretty quiet after that."
– mascarrowette
No Match For The Waiter
"I heard a 'Do you know who I am?' from a middling local DJ a while back. Without missing a beat, the tired af waiter responded something like 'You're an NPC in my story.' While Mr. High Horse blue-screened hard at that response, the waiter simply turned away and walked over to take a different table's order."
– TravisVZ
Some people are just so desperate for validation.
An Ex-Wife's List Of Claims
"My ex-wife. I could write a damn novel about her. Some highlights:"
"Dropping out of college repeatedly. Then claiming to be educated in psychology because she watches YouTube. Her major was geology."
"Thinking businesses should be proud to serve her."
"Claiming to be a filmmaker. She made a costume for 1 very bad horror movie. But she was an industry insider because she once dated a director."
"Claims she 'saved' Ryan Seacrest's career because she once insulted him in a bar."
"Throwing a tantrum at any wedding/graduation/ birthday. Including her own. Side note. Our birthdays were days apart. I didn't get to celebrate mine until I divorced her."
"This is getting long but one more. Her favorite saying. 'Put me in charge of the world, I'll fix some sh*t.' Don't you dare ask her to elaborate."
"ETA: it's been 13 hours since I posted this and I'm blown away by the support and validation. Thank you, kind reddit strangers. Y'all are awesome."
"So, the story of Ryan Seacrest. This supposedly happened before I met her. So this is a retelling of a retelling. It was decades ago when he was hosting American Idol. She ran into him in a bar in Hollywood and proceeded to tear him apart for his style (her words). Saying he needs to grow up and act his age. Evidently, he got pissed and avoided her. Then, 6-12 months later, he's hosting E entertainment wearing a 'respectable' suit. She takes credit for shaming him into 'growing up' and dressing appropriately for his age. Never mind that he landed a new gig that required a different image. In her mind, she influenced his image that landed him his contract. So she saved his career because a moderately attractive blond shamed him into changing. I wish I was making this up."
– AgingLeatherneck
Upstaging The Bride And Groom
"My MIL and SIL who cried and HOWLED during our wedding ceremony acting like it was a funeral."
– Angry_Custurd
Exploiting A Photo Opp Moment
"About a year ago. Trying to board a flight and a couple held us up so that Main Character could get a series of photos in a series of poses standing at the top of the boarding stairs like some 1960s JetSet starlet in St Tropez."
"This was not First Class transcontinental glamour flight, this was a 4 hour Budget Ryanair flight from the Canaries to the UK."
"After being forced into the plane by the cabin staff who kept standing in the shot trying to get the plane boarded (Ryanair do not mess around with their fast turnaround) and also by angry people trying to squeeze past boyfriend/cameraman and getting in the shot. She then proceeded to stand in the aisle during taxi for take off just after the safety brief to get more photos. After threats of returning to the terminal and being put off the flight she sat down."
"Nothing says a classy instagram model like the Ryanair colour scheme."
– Magnus_40
Look, we all have our insecurities.
It's one thing to behave in a way that will disguise our vulnerabilities to make us appear confident.
But it's another thing to act out in spite of them and make ourselves look like self-serving misanthropes.
We've all lied, or been lied to at least once in our lives.
Some lies are easy to spot, right from the get-go, while others might have you fooled for years, if not your entire life.
Then there are the lies that made international headlines, and had the world fooled for years.
From Anna Anderson fooling the world that she was the Grand Duchess Anastasia Romanoff, to Mill Vanilli (need I say more?), some people were so convincing with their deception, that we are still kicking ourselves for being fooled.
Indeed, there are some who may have died peacefully knowing they had everyone fooled till the end of their life.
"What is the most successful lie in the history?"
"Honesty Is The Best Policy"... Or Is It?
"If you tell the truth you won't be in trouble'."
"Yeah mom, I fell for that a few times and learned that lesson quickly."- glucoseintolerant
Always One Step Ahead...
"During WW2 the British put faked documents on a corpse and dropped the body in the waters to be found by the Axis."
"It detailed an attack that never happened."
"Here’s the best part."
"The plans for D-Day were found in a similar manner."
"The actual plans."
"But they were ignored cause the nazi leaders thought it was just another ruse."- Happy-Personality-23
We Can All See More Clearly Now...
"One of the most impressive ones was when Great Britain convinced everyone during WWII that carrots were the reason why their vision was great when it was really the recently discovered airborne interception radar technologies."
"I still know people that are convinced eating carrots as kids will ensure 20/20 vision for life."- KickArseDuke·
hamster GIFGiphyThe King Of All Lies
"The lie that made a man the ruler of a third or quarter of humankind."
"Darius the Great (r. 522–486 BC) governed the Achaemenid Empire at its peak."
"His rule extended from the Indus valley to mainland Greece and from the Scythian steppes to Egypt."
"A remarkably high and possibly unparalleled percentage of the world population were his subjects."
"Darius reorganized the satrapies, which made the administrative system of his empire more efficient, and introduced major financial reforms as well."
"It was never a secret that Darius became the King of Kings after a successful coup."
"He and a small group of other aristocrats (primary sources refer to seven men in total) infiltrated the residence of the previous ruler and killed him after a brief clash with his guards."
"Shortly afterwards, Darius, who was also a member of the royal house, emerged as the leader of the conspirators and assumed full power."
"So far so good."
"Things become strange when it comes to the identity of Darius’ predecessor."
"As far as the primary sources are concerned, Cyrus the Great (r. 559–530 BC) had two sons: Cambyses (r. 530–522 BC) and Bardiya."
"The former succeeded him as King of Kings, while the latter was given governorship over the eastern provinces."
"Fearful of opposition, Cambyses had his brother assassinated, but kept it a secret."
"Then he undertook the campaign that ended up bringing Egypt into the Persian fold."
"While Cambyses was in Egypt, he started acting cruelly and erratically: suspected everyone, disrespected the local traditions and the sort."
"Then a rebellion broke out back in Persia led by a magus (Zoroastrian priest) named Gaumata."
"The man claimed to be Bardiya, and the people, ignorant of the latter’s death, flocked to his banner."
"It also helped that he took short-term populist measures such as tax cuts."
"Cambyses rushed home to quell the revolt, but died on the journey."
"His death was listed as an accident or even a suicide out of desperation for the usurpation."
"Gaumata got to rule as Bardiya and even took over the latter’s harem."
"Almost nobody suspected he was an impostor, because on top of everything else he also bore an uncanny physical resemblance to the dead prince."
"The first man to suspect something was off was a nobleman named Otanes, who would later become one of Darius’ six companions."
"Otanes knew about Gaumata’s existence and was also aware that at some point his ears had been cut off as a punishment."
"So he asked his daughter, who was Bardiya’s (and now Gaumata’s) wife, to check his ears while he slept."
"The truth was brought to the light."
"Needless to say, the story was very convenient for Darius."
"By killing Gaumata, he saved the empire from a fraudulent, cunning and ruthless liar who had gone as far as to assume a dead man’s identity and risk civil war in order to take the throne for himself."
"Darius simply punished him for his crimes and reinstated the royal office to the house it belonged to: the Achaemenid dynasty."
"But what if the whole story was a lie?"
"What if there was no Gaumata, and the man Darius killed was the real Bardiya?"
"Indeed, scholars have noticed a lot of problems with the traditional narrative, apart from its convenience."
"How could the real Bardiya’s death be kept secret for so long from everyone except a simple magus — and what for?"
"How likely is it that Bardiya had a doppelganger who had also the knowledge, courage and brains necessary to take his place at the right moment?"
"And how is it possible that not even Bardiya’s wives and inner circle were able to see through Gaumata’s lies?"
'Some scholars go as far as to suspect that Cambyses’ madness might have been the product of Darius’ propaganda."
"Herodotus, for example, narrates that the King looted Egyptian temples, insulted the local gods and even killed the sacred bull Apis."
"The problem is, none of that appears in any contemporary Egyptian source — in fact, there are inscriptions showing that Cambyses honored the bull that died in 524 BC with a rich sarcophagus."
"If things were so, it cannot be excluded that Cambyses was also assassinated by Darius, who we know served as his spear-bearer."
"His death might have prompted his brother Bardiya to take power, since Cambyses was childless."
"Darius proceeded to eliminate him too and then created the lie about Gaumata."
"Of course, it cannot be excluded that Bardiya did indeed rebel against Cambyses — that doesn’t change the crux of the matter, which is the story about Gaumata."
"So there you have it."
"One of the most powerful monarchs of antiquity and a possible lie that went unquestioned for millennia by almost everyone."- bradlux01
Gold Crown King GIF by SureYeahGiphyOr The Fact That Wrestling Is Scripted Entertainment...
"Maybe in the old days, but there was a time I used to believe without a doubt, that Undertaker and Kane were brothers, and Kane wore a mask because Undertaker threw acid on his face out of animosity."- ufc_007
Added To Prolong Your Agony...
“'Please listen carefully as our menu items have recently changed'.”- Raspberries-Are-Evil
All In Moderation
"'Fat will make you fat'."
'Eating that full of sugar premade meal won't'."- Rhaenelys
No Doubt Some Actually Do
"'I acknowledge that I have read and agree to the above Terms and Conditions'."- K333N4N
It's An Ongoing Search
"We don't know the most successful lie because it's a lie we don't know of yet."- lolhappypoo
Strange How This Was Also The Case Yesterday...
“'We are experiencing higher than normal call volume'."
"'Your call is very important to us'.”
"Every. single. customer service line."- depikT
Name Brand Isn't Everything...
"Just get good marks in high school."
"Once you go to a top tier college, your life is practically set and sorted."- from_my_future
Beauty Does, Indeed, Come From Within...
"'You are not beautiful'."
"'But you could be with this product'." Reddit
Skin Care Pink GIF by Mary Kay, Inc.GiphyIt's highly debatable whether or not there is, in fact, such a thing as a "good lie".
Even so, a lie that has the whole world fooled for any stretch of time deserves a commendation of some sort or another.
Dating can be frustrating, but it definitely has its moments.
There's nothing quite like the moment, however, of realizing that they are with the person they're meant to be with for the rest of their lives.
Redditor KingKerttula asked:
"People of Reddit, what was your 'Yep, she/he is the one' moment?"
Solo Trips... Plus One
"I always enjoyed taking a trip by myself while in a relationship. On the last trip alone, I found myself thinking, 'This would be more fun if she was here,' for the first time. I knew then that she was the one."
- Wisebutt98
A Missed Birthday
"She had a brain injury days before my birthday. She woke up from a coma, and the first thing she did was ask nurses/doctors about me and my birthday even though they had no idea who I was."
"I’ve never had someone care so much about me to be the first thing they think of when waking up after brain surgery."
- SurprisedTissue
Traveling Together
"We'd been dating less than a year when my job transferred me across the country. I went to talk to her, figuring it was going to be a breakup, but instead, she nonchalantly asked, 'When do we leave?'"
- pm_me_ur_cutie_bototy
"When I graduated college, I took a job that would be six hours drive time away from my then-new girlfriend. Shortly thereafter, she just up and moved to my new town without even telling me in advance. (Well, she called me on Thursday and said, 'Can you be here Saturday to help me drive the truck?')."
"Anyhow, we're still together almost 50 years later."
- drebinf
Finally Home
"We were cooking in the kitchen. It just happened. There are no words I know to describe the clarity and joy and peace and comfort that I felt, maybe just, home. It was a moment I won't forget."
- positive_express
The Workplace Romance
"She admitted the reason we were having so many problems with our scanner at work, despite the fact we rarely even used it, is because she was working up the courage to ask me out and thought that bending over in front of my desk on a regular basis would encourage me to do it instead."
"Which it would have done, had I not been deliberately averting my eyes every time she did so she couldn't catch me staring and think I was a pervert."
- strangeismid
Sharing a Coat
"The first moment was our second date."
"I was financially in a deficit when we met. I work in an industry that relies on your passion before you make any kind of decent money."
"It was January, and it's cold where we live. It was -28c on our first date, a few days before (with windchill). It wasn't much better on the second date. I did not have a proper winter coat. I would layer, and usually, with a little Canadian gumption, it was enough to get through the winters."
"He showed up with an older coat of his, really warm, lined, suitable up to -40... and was like, 'I hate to see you so cold.'"
"Now, there have been countless moments when I knew he was the one, but the care for my person so early on really hit a note in my soul."
"We moved in together after six months, have been together 10 years, and married for six. We have two little girls."
- roadfries
No Criticism
"We weren't having sex yet, but we were sleeping in the same bed. I was cuddled up with my head on his shirtless chest. I woke up in a huge pool of my own drool. Mortified, I grabbed a towel that was thankfully right by the bed and started to try to sneakily dab it up. He'll never know."
"I finally look up at his face, to check that he hasn't stirred, and he is very awake, and watching me clean up my drool with an amused look on his face. He wasn't grossed out. He didn't mock me. He slept with me again the next night... didn't judge me. I knew he was a keeper."
- thesamemae
Unconditional Love
"Two answers, really."
"Either the time we had our worst fight ever and my every instinct was to walk away forever, but I realized I just couldn't do it because it would be the stupidest thing I'd ever done in my life, so god d**mit apparently I was going to stay and we were going to talk this s**t out if it took all night. (It didn't... Quite.)"
"Or, if you want the sweeter version: the first time she was laughing so hard she couldn't breathe and instinctively curled into me."
"There are a thousand moments, really. Making her smile is my win condition for life."
- Otherwise_Window
The Kid Connection
"We were long distancing at the time, visiting each other whenever we could. When we knew we were going to be long-term, we met each other's kids."
"One time, the kids and I were playing Phase 10, and my husband video-called me. My oldest said, 'Oh, is that <partner's name>?!?!'"
"My child snatched my phone away and had a 40-minute conversation with my now-husband, showing husband cards, asking opinions on which card he should play, etc. Finally, my kid says, 'Ok, here's mom again. Bye!'"
"When I got the phone back, my husband was a little teary-eyed. The fact that he engaged with my child like that, and that it meant that much to him. I know there were other times, but I think this was where I really just KNEW."
"We also used to stay on the phone when I went to bed. One night, he thought I was asleep already, and he whispered. 'I AM going to marry you.'"
- It_Wasnt_Me79
A Modern-Day Medusa
"For my (now) wife, it was her smile. She looked at me on our first few dates and her smile was utterly hypnotic. Like, medusa-level hypnotic."
"I thought, this is the most beautiful thing I have ever set eyes on in my life, and like 4 days into going out together I said, 'I think I’m falling in love with you.+"
" She absolutely s**t herself. That was 1993, thirty years ago. Her smile is still as beautiful now as it was then."
- 69-is-my-number
Beatles Songs
"There were two moments. On our second date, he busted out his ukulele and played a couple of Beatles songs to impress the lady (me)."
"But instead of anything classic or romantic, he chose 'Honey Pie' and 'Rocky Raccoon.' Not only totally weird song choices, but also two of my absolute favorites. Really, I knew right then, but a second date is a precarious time to decide to marry someone."
"The super real 100% absolute moment was my 30th birthday, first we were together. He took me up to our favorite hiking trail, and less than ten minutes in, it started just pouring rain. I said I didn't mind pushing through some rain, but it would be okay if he'd rather go back."
"He said we should go the first mile to get to the waterfall. Partway up this trail, there's a wonderful waterfall spot with rocks that practically form a bench under/behind it. When we get to the waterfall, rain still pouring, but now we're protected under the waterfall, he magically produces a bottle of my favorite champagne, two plastic dollar store flutes, and a fancy cupcake with a candle."
"We took a bunch of silly absolutely drowned rat-soaked selfies together. Champagne under the waterfall in the rain. Most romantic thing ever, and the most thoughtful birthday I'd ever had."
"We used those silly plastic champagne flutes again on our wedding day."
- thing_m_bob_esquire
No Green Bell Peppers
"A week or so into dating, we were sitting on my living room floor, discussing our food likes and dislikes. At some point, one of us brought up green bell peppers and we both said, 'God, I hate green bell peppers!' at the same time."
"For the both us, we have pinpointed that stupid little moment as the exact second that both 'knew.' We have been married 25 years this past February."
- youngyeoman
Shared Passions
"We were fostering a stray cat who had had kittens. The kittens all had homes lined up with people we knew. The poor mother cat just had health problem after health problem pop up. We were at the vet with her so many times."
"She wasn't in pain, but with the vet bills and the behavior stuff that comes with health issues like these, I knew she was unadoptable and would need significant care."
"I told her (my then girlfriend) that I had to keep the mother cat, even though we both had special needs animals already, and adding more would delay us moving in together."
"She was like, 'Yeah, of course. I love her.' Like she'd never even considered any other options. She was so kind and loving to that cat, who randomly attacked us and peed on the floor throughout her first year and a half with us. She was as all in as I was every single day."
"Our passions and values are the same, and my partner is still the most compassionate person I know. We still have the kitty too, who we adore."
- Acceptable-CatProf
All That Glitters
"I had recently quit my job and moved to another city where my work prospects didn’t really line up properly."
"We’ve been living together a while and things were getting difficult financially. Mountain of debt, difficulty in paying rent etc."
"One night she says, 'I have this gold bangle that we can sell to get rent for the next five months.'"
"I knew. Right then and there that she is the one."
"We never sold the bangle and I was extra motivated to go out and make something of myself."
"We’re getting married in November."
- wouldnt-u-like-2know
In Sickness and In Health
"Not exactly a 'moment," but within a few weeks of us getting together, I found out my dad was terminally ill. He died about four months later. 32 days after my dad passed, my sister and her children died in a house fire."
"I was a broken, angry, wreck of a human, and I was not in any condition to return the love he gave me. But he stayed. I told him he could go, and I wouldn't blame him for leaving this clusterf**k behind."
"But he stood by me when so many other people would have run. The man gave me something to live for, and he held me close so I could heal. There's no one else like him in the world."
- SuzieQuest
All of these stories were not only heartwarming and sweet, but they are absolutely fodder for the perfect sorts of stories people hope to hear on other people's wedding days.