People Divulge The Most Genuine Things You Can Say To Someone Suffering From Depression
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Depression sucks.

It's hard to live with and near impossible to overcome.

I know, I struggle everyday.

It's always appreciative to have people who "try" to empathize.

But often the sentiment doesn't fit the delivery.

There are ways to comfort a sad person that doesn't make it worse.

I know you're trying your best.

But let's make your best... the greatest.


RedditorHeavy-Strain32wanted to discuss the best ways to help a person suffering.

They asked:

"What's the most genuine thing you can say to a person going through depression?"

I always appreciate someone willing to cry with me. That is a big help. Just a suggestion.

Genuine

‘"It’s really difficult isn’t it.' I loved this line that my therapist said when I was sharing my struggles. There was no judgment, no advice, just felt like I was genuinely being heard."

xlOREOlx

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Best Way

"This is like my favorite show of sympathy/empathy I've ever witnessed. Zuko hearing Sokka tell him about his girlfriend: "that's rough, buddy."

"Not saying sorry for your loss and putting the weight of saying 'it's ok' on the one experiencing the pain, no 'here's a relevant story of mine to show how I can relate' just..."

"'Sh*t man, the thing you went through was rough and you're justified for feeling this way.'"

Exodan

I miss that guy...

"My boss once said to me 'there's nothing wrong with what you're feeling - you're sick. And it's not something that's easy to live with. don't feel bad because you have an illness you can't fix - you wouldn't expect someone with cancer to feel bad, would you?' He then gave me a man hug and we had beers and a vent session for three hours. I miss that guy."

frothy_Wombat

Basics

“I’m grilling tonight, wanna come over?”

"Honestly, when I’ve been depressed there is a double layer of shame. Being treated as a friend just like any other made it feel like I was still part of society and community. Being treated with mittens makes you feel even more worthless and a pariah."

ThinkIGotHacked

Love

"I love you buddy. Friend of mine said it to me when I was struggling. It was instantly disarming of my bad thoughts and still resonates with me now. I find it hard to say myself though as I never really had a male role model growing up."

alidaf

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All great suggestions so far. Empathy is easy...

Possibilities

"Anything that isn't a variation of 'think positive.' The illness makes it literally impossible. I liked to hear that I still meant something to the people in my life, despite me not being able to give."

raxeira-etterath

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The Moments

"It's the hugs that don't even need said. At my last job I was in a dark place at the time and slipping back into depression. My blow up at work went from work issues to issues in my life and I didn't realize how far I went and my sauté guy held me. It's the most human moment I've had and it broke me in a good way. Sometimes just having a moment of that same feeling of connection, physical or not, can be what saves and/or helps that person."

Bfab94

no obligation...

"I’m not the best person to come to with these problems so when people around me do have that I always tell them the same thing, 'Want to go fishing? I’m bringing a grill and some charcoal.'"

2Agunsarearight

"We all get taken off guard, especially if you didn’t notice any changes in their behavior before. Often just a simple invite to hang out (no obligation) can be enough to remind somebody they aren’t alone and have a friend."

JakeFromFarmState1

“I understand”

"Lots of conflicting stuff here, because I’m seeing many suggest 'I understand' - but to me I hated hearing that. I always felt like 'no you don’t. You may know what it’s like to be in your own version of hell, but not mine.' For me, I think I always preferred those who said 'I want to try to understand' or just a simple 'love you' or 'want to hang out and not talk to each other at all and watch scrubs?'"

Iamdogfather

Simple

"I might not understand what you're going through, but I'm here for you and I love you."

tarkinlarson

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