***WARNING: NSFW thread***
Why are so many of us such puritans when it comes to discussing sex?
After all there is a lot to chat about.
Why so shy?
Everybody needs to speak up on the matter more.
It's all the non-speaking that leads to trouble.
Men have a few things they want to share.
Redditorjestgowithitwanted the gents of Reddit to let the ladies in on a few details about sexy time.
"Guys of Reddit, what is one piece of sex advice you could give to women?"
Sex is a communication sport.
No matter how many people are involved.
So let's communicate.
"Firmly but gently." ~ JuanCSanchez
"A fun, sexy tip I gave on reddit once was: girls, if you'd like to learn how to masturbate a guy properly, buy lube, have him grab your hand and use it instead. Lessons will be learned, and everyone gets to enjoy themselves." ~ leroy_hoffenfefferGiphy
“Women, if there’s something that turns you on, if there’s something that gets you excited, something that really makes you hot, makes you nasty. HOWS ABOUT FILLING US IN AS TO WHAT THE HELL IT IS!!!” -the late and great Sam Kinison." ~ goateyboyjr
"I think, as a woman adding on, some of us don’t really know what we like until we try it so we sometimes don’t know. I didn’t know I liked to be fondled until it happened and I didn’t know I liked hickeys until I got one. I would always fantasize about doing it from behind but when I actually did it, I felt like a cow." ~ CapriciousSalmon
Feels good to be wanted...
"Please be more touchy. Run your hands over a guys body, feel him, grab, caress, kiss." ~ Reddit
"Haha. Just left a similar comment under another comment. Like damn girls we like to be touched and kissed and caressed and devoured all over too. Feels good to be wanted. I always hear guys don’t do foreplay but so many women just give a couple tugs and think nothing else is warranted." ~ ChillinVillianNW
"Don't be afraid to initiate sex." ~ degeneratesumwitch
"I remember trying to initiate many times with my ex but he was not interested any time I did. Then he had to gall to tell me I never try to initiate sex! I told him I did but I stopped because of rejection so many times so I just let him do it since he got horny at weird times like 2 in the afternoon." ~ Lick_The_Wrapper
"Don't fake orgasms to spare your partner's feelings, you'll end up teaching them to do the wrong things in bed and make it even less likely they'll get you off the next time." ~ Spike-RockitGiphy
As a gay man so much of this is over my head.
But I'm willing to listen.
Go For It!
"If you want it, don't be shy. It's a huge turn on when a girl goes for what she wants." ~ User_492006Giphy
"Don't be self conscious about body parts, stretch marks, shape, or any of that stuff the vast majority of us adults don't care about. Nothing is going to stop the blood draining from our brains." ~ -technosapien-
"Oh man. My GF has stretch marks all over (2 kids + medical issues with weight gain/loss in the past). I don't even care because she's still sexy af, clothes or no. Having her in my arms is the best thing that's ever happened to me and she's finally all mine (and I'm all hers)." ~ thepenis_mightier
"Communicate; talk about boundaries, likes, dislikes, etc. early on. Don’t be afraid to initiate sex with your partner; a lot of men (like myself) are dense or have a hard time doing so ourselves, even when we’re comfortable with our partner. If he doesn’t last long, and I can’t stress this one enough, he can use some assurance!" ~ Omni_Devil
"Stop being coy! We are NOT going to get it!" ~ ColinBridgerton
"Oh man, as a guy I must second this. Hell, I don't even notice clutter, forget subtle advances. Wife did some tidying while I was at work. Then coyly asked if I noticed anything different. Like, baby noooo. I didn't even notice when your Mom painted her kitchen and living room colors on the opposite side of the color wheel from their original state."
"Like sure, it might feel tidier and more open now that you mention it, but you need to be blunt 😂. Elaborating on the MIL story a bit. When my MIL asked if I noticed anything different, I didn't. So I went with the ole 'yeah it looks real clean in here today!'" ~ nbuzd
Start it Up
"My penis is attached to my body. Don't act like you're trying to start a damn lawnmower." ~ pardonmynonsequiturGiphy
"Be vocal. For the love of hell, TELL US what you like/don't like."
"With specifics. Slight changes in volume or cadence to a moan can still be ambiguous. Gotta be like those guys at the airport directing a plane into the gate. Leave no doubts about what needs to be done."
"Don't question why it's sexier to leave on your thigh high socks during sex just leave them on."
"Sorry but I’m stunned anyone would question this or remove them. I specifically put them ON for a reaction (and my own)!"
"Oh lawd, thigh-highs get me going faster than a night gown or even the sexiest lingerie you got."
"Before you put your finger in someone’s a**, ask for consent."
"THIS. I had a girl over once and she kept touching my butt like she wanted to eat it but I said no soooo many times and then she kept edging her fingers closer to my a**hole and I was like 'do you want me to do you in the butt?' And when she replied no I said 'well until you say yes I’m not saying yes either' and then she completely lost interest in me because I didn’t want to let her peg me like dude CONSENT!!"
"Once you get consent, It is perfectly OK to slam a guy into the bed and take what you want."
"I once went to this guy's house for sex of course but even before we did anything, we were already hot I was already on my knees I looked up and asked for his consent to take his pants off and I swear it turned him on even more. I'm hot just thinking about it."
"Enthusiasm is everything. You don’t always have to do it right, but you, at the very least, have to want to do it right. Right?"
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"1) Make an effort in bed, don't just lay there..."
"2) Don't be afraid to be vulnerable..."
"3) If we're not doing it the way that you like it, teach us how YOU like it. Don't hold back. Every woman is different, and we can't read your mind. Most guys get really turned on when they know that they're 'hitting all the right buttons.' It's a primal thing..."
Respect your body...
"Respect yourself. Respect your body. You are not obligated to be a porn star or to do anything you don’t want to do. Humanity got by pretty damn well with vanilla sex for thousands of years and men didn’t complain. Now with generations growing up with porn as their sex guide, they have a twisted and warped idea as to what sex is."
"Don’t fall into that trap. Be confident. Be yourself, and men will fall to your feet. Don’t bend yourself backwards to please mens sexual perversions unless they're yours too."
"Don’t fake orgasms. Teach. If there’s an ego thing with all that, I recommend saying 'hey how bout tonight is all about you, partner. Why don’t you just tell me what you want me to do. Tomorrow, how bout it’s all about me, I’ll show you what I like the best.' Give then take. That’s how my wife and I got better at each other, and our orgasms are pretty mutual… unless she’s faking."
"Talk to us. We're dumb. Tell us what you like and don't like. Take our hand and put it there."
"We have extragenital erogenous zones, just the same as you do. Ears, lips, eyelids, fingertips, nipples, pelvic region. Look at a Nervous Homunculus illustration for reference (warning: do not expect to be titillated by the image as it is somewhat off-putting). These are areas where somatosensory nerves are closely clustered."
"Basically any attention paid to our skin, from soles to scalp, is a turn on, but these areas in specific will drive us crazy. Just remember to be gentle. We are all made of the same material, and men have a far lower threshold for pain."
Well I hope all of this helps.
Now go on out and have some fun.
Responsibly of course.
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No one can deny that the first year or so of the global pandemic was a difficult time for everyone.
In addition to the fact that people had to remain home, and limit all communication with friends and family through phone and video chat, people had to adjust to working or studying from home, and be on their guard when out and about in public.
But now, just over two years later and as things seem to be easing back to normal, one can now look back on these difficult years and realize the many lessons we as a society have learned.
Some might fill our hearts with hope and optimism and others which might infuriate us for the rest of our lives.
Redditor Affectionate-Ad1060 was curious to hear all the lessons, the good and the bad, people otherwise might not have learned were it not for the pandemic, leading them to ask:
"What is the most important lesson learnt from Covid-19?"
Healthcare needs fixing.
"Healthcare needs an overhaul."- Toxic_Politician
We could have been better prepared
"When the sh*t really hits the fan, we're f*cked."- idkijustlikememesetc
We overestimated people's concepts of basic decency.
"That it wouldn’t take much for civilized people to turn on each other."- hindmaja
"Most grown adults are nasty and have to be reminded to wash their hands."- shantyirish13
"People are sh*ttier than I expected."- WhitePhatAss
Cherish every moment
"You should take the time to spend with those you love."- idontworktomorrow
Nothing wrong with a little alone time every now and then.
"How comfortable I seriously am with just myself."- equidistant_life
"Bold of you to assume we’ve learned anything."- Airsoft07
Don't give in to vices.
"Alcohol doesn’t improve my life."
" t just feels good for a moment."
"9 months sober!"- bugaboo2013·
Major differences between city life and country life.
"The biggest take away I can come up with is how under serviced rural areas are."
"The local grocery store can’t offer curb side pick up, door dash doesn’t exist here, all the answers for what we should do in a pandemic aren’t feasible where there’s only 500 people."- medicff
It's necessary now and then to stop and reflect, something we all had plenty of time to do in the early months of the pandemic.
And though some major problems became more apparent, which we still need to continue working on, one can also appreciate that maybe the pandemic was the great big reset button the world needed to improve the many things which were otherwise being overlooked.
Here's hoping we remain proactive in continuing to make the world a better place.
OnlyFans was a groundbreaking step in content creation, allowing content creators to earn funds and tips directly from their subscribers.
And though not created expressly with this intention, it has proven hugely popular among both professional and amateur sex workers and porn performers.
So much so, that a threat to ban all adult entertainment from OnlyFans in August of 2021 was immediately squashed six days later.
Not having to be a professional has resulted in countless people creating and OnlyFans page as a side hustle, no doubt also taking it as an opportunity to explore a part of themselves they otherwise might not be brave enough to.
Others, however, are far too intimidated to even think about creating an OnlyFans page.
Curious to hear what might be stopping them, Redditor Sense_Conscious took the opportunity to find out by taking to Reddit to ask:
"What’s stopping you from having an OnlyFans?"
One of the hardest things to do in life is to stick to a budget. No matter how well you plan and how determined you are, you always seem to overspend a little.
Usually, this is a result of certain items being overpriced. Between run-of-the-mill inflation and shortage of goods, and the addition of pandemic-related inflation and shortage of goods, several items have been marked up.
In addition to goods, events and services are costing more as well.
The worst part is a lot of the stuff that is overpriced are actually items that people can't stop buying. People can't stop overspending if they aren't able to stop buying.
Curious about what overpriced items people keep buying, Redditor Sxzym asked:
"What's something that's way too overpriced, but people still keep buying?"
An Awful Business That's Always Needed
"Just throw me in the trash."
"I’m thinking about starting a business as a funeral planner. I know it sounds like a stand up bit, but I’m serious."
"It’s not like the average person understands the business, the rules and regulations, and the prices."
"So essentially, you’re making thousands of dollars worth of decisions while you’re an emotional wreck. Plus everyone is trying to squeeze extra money out of you by gaslighting you into thinking you’re a cheapskate that doesn’t care about your dead loved one."
"I go in not knowing the family nor the deceased and I certainly don’t give two sh*ts if a funeral director thinks I’m being cheap."
"The only thing that sucks is I would have to get paid too, so that would kind of ruin the whole point. So part of me just wants to volunteer my efforts."
"I just really hate when people get bent over and put in debt after losing someone. It’s so disgusting."
– Deleted User
"This one hits home. Everytime my mother buys a pack of ciggies and bitches about the rising costs but absolutely refuses to try the MUCH cheaper alternative which is vaping, the same device she seen me quit cigs on lol."
"I feel this lol"
"I’ve had issues with other addictions in the past and managed to kick the bad ones but haven’t been able to quit smoking."
"At 2 packs a day with the price being between 6-8$, that we will call 7 is about 5k a year and I’m about a decade into this so I’ve depend around 50k on cigarettes in my life."
"Fast food. Gone are the days of the dollar menu"
"F*ckin fast food man, McD’s is expensive as sh*t now a days."
"Fast food. I see lines of cars in just about every joint I drive past. Spending who knows how much money on one meal that has no nutrients. I spend the same amount on food that will provide me three meals, with nutrients that will help me through my week."
"Insulin. It's like they need it to live or something. Lol."
"Inhalers too. So ridiculous it's not like I'm choosing to not breathe"
"Not to start a phone war, but i myself think that Apple products in general are way too expensive."
"I might be wrong on this but it seems like every time they come out with a new iPhone all they add is a bit more battery life and a few better camera features when they’ve already had an excellent camera since iPhone X and 11 because that was the whole gimmick of those devices but they keep adding more camera stuff and then slap on a hundred more to the price."
The Essentials Of Eating
"Grubhub/Uber eats/door dash, etc"
"And when you have small children at home, thus making you unable or unwilling (depending on the circumstance) to just run out and pick up the food yourself, you wind up using then FAR more often than you should."
The Completely Necessary
"Insurance I mean, it's necessary, but still..."
"Women's hygiene products."
"It should be dirt cheap, if not free."
"Water. Should never have to pay for it."
"Bottled water - obviously only where safe, clean drinking water is available from the tap."
"Our tap water at our apartment tastes like dirt so we usually get a 24 pack and go through it in about 2 weeks. We always get the store brand, though. Never name brand."
Fulfilling The Food Groups
"pre-sliced fruits and veggies at the store. The markup is insane on those things lol"
"In Tennessee a whole watermelon is $4.99. Also, 1/4 of a watermelon is $4.99."
"I hate myself a little every time I buy pre chopped veggies but damn it if they aren't worth it when my arthritis flares."
Learn A Lot
"College education after associates."
"University or college education"
"The American Dream."
Ouch. That's a harsh reality!
There are so many life lessons we learn way too late.
One of the biggest is that life itself is not as difficult as we chose to make it.
Humans always seem to take the long road.
Maybe that's just life.
Maybe it's meant to be arduous until we learn to think smarter not harder.
Redditor rectangularbearwanted to have a chat about the aspects of life we all wish we could've experienced a little easier.
"What's a life lesson you learned the hard way?"
I have nothing to add. I only know how to make anything and everything hard.
Slow DownIn Love Thank You GIF by La Guarimba Film FestivalGiphy
"Don't fall too fast for someone."
"That's why it's called falling."
"High expectations are prone to leading to disappointment. This applies to all things, but personally, I find that it applies to people the most."
"I messed up with this big time. Talked me ex fiancé up like she was an angel straight for heaven. Turned out to be the Devil wearing Prada. Had to walk into church by myself looking straight busted when everyone found out my 'angel' dumped me."
"Go to the dentist. Teeth don't heal, they only get worse."
"I know a guy who can’t understand why he can’t get a girlfriend. All of his teeth are rotted and discolored except one. Idk about anyone else, but to me that’s worse than just having no teeth at all. Idk if he realizes how much worse bad teeth can make you look."
"Just because someone is family doesn't mean they will not screw you over."
"I too am among some of the many who have learned this the hard way. Foolish me experienced this time and time again before I finally realized that I have friends who have made better family than any of the blood related members of my life."
"I really hate the 'Family is everything' mentality some people espouse, as if the accident of blood relation excuses or entitles someone to abusive, manipulative behavior."
Single is HappyJimmy Fallon Television GIFGiphy
"Don’t settle, and if you get the vibe someone is settling for you, end it. Loneliness isn’t half as bad when compared to heartbreak."
"Regretting that single Tinder swipe after dating a paranoid for 11 months now, scared as hell for what could go wrong if I dump her."
Love is one of the most difficult things ever. Why so?
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"That when my Uncle says 'I won't bail you out of jail' what he actually means is 'I won't bail you out of jail.' Who'd have thought."
You got You!
"Nobody is gonna watch out for you, like you."
"I saw something the other day written by another foster parent that said 'I became the kind of person I wish would've saved me when I was a kid.' Punched me right in the feels because it's absolutely true, for me anyway."
"Don't set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."
"Woah. This is all I've needed. I will never be the same. I will never think the same. I swear my life will only get better from here on. Such a simple sentence. Didn't think a reddit comment had the capacity to change my life so much. Obviously you haven't invented the phrase, but thank you for your comment."
"Don't give up on something without even trying. Even if you are convinced you will fail. In life, no one will do it for you, you have to do it yourself."
"Yes. And don’t gauge your potential on your self-confidence. Even if you feel there’s no way you can do something, and even if you fail miserably on your first try, keep trying. You’d be amazed at how many people who got good at something but started out as the worst at it."
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"Trust your gut when friends do bad things. It’s ok to leave relationships."
Life doesn't have to be so hard. Why do we make it so?