Men have feelings too. Men have #Metoo moments as well. And often, those moments are ignored. And that may be controversial to say but it has to be said. Men deal with sexism on the daily and it matters.
Redditor u/Owenn04 wanted men to speak up and help us understand.... Men of Reddit. What is the most "this is sexist" moment you have experienced?
Just being a Dad!
Walking with my daughter through the neighborhood while she rides her bike, rides ahead of me, etc.
Some crazy woman runs out into the street, and demands that I "STOP following that child!"
Kinda my job, dumba**! Not yours! Its_In_Belgium
Poopie Time.
Taking my kid to the bathroom at a restaurant to change his diaper, only to find that there is only a changing table in the women's bathroom. ddk317
Sorry we're Sexist!
For my first job I worked at a women's clothing store. Only male member of staff in the entire shop. Saw a lady deciding between two dresses, so I came over and politely asked if she wanted a hand or an opinion. "Yes, fetch me another one of your colleagues, you're a guy, you'll be useless." "No problem, one second" I'll never forget it. A similar experience happened around two years later. Was looking for summer work, worked into a small little women's clothing store, spoke to the manager about a job. She just replied "Sorry, we don't hire guys." I do understand why, I'm not stupid. But it doesn't stop it from being sexist. Mintyboy4
A bit of Pain.
"Men. They can't even tolerant a little pain"
That was what a female pharmacist told my friend when he was desperately in need of pain killers because he had shingles and a nerve that he said was hurting him like it was on fire. HonchoMinerva
Underwear Scare.
Reading women's magazines. People are so quick to point out how sexist men's mags are but have you ever picked up a woman's mag?
Not only do they constantly put other women down for their looks or for being promiscuous etc but they're FULL of stories/features calling all men stupid and useless. They also call all men shallow then post idealistic ideas of what makes a man 'hot.'
I even saw one that was asking people to send in photos of their hot boyfriends IN THEIR UNDERWEAR. Can you imagine the outcry if a men's mag asked for photos of hot girlfriends in their underwear potentially without their permission? Why is it any more acceptable to do the same to your boyfriend? It's a violation of privacy and the rights to his own body and how anybody could ever think that is okay is beyond me.
I hate sexism on both sides. There's never going to be equality and fairness if people are out there showing the same disrespect that they're supposed to be fighting against. Jake-Dorian
Wifflestakes....
We had a short Wiffleball league at work. The guy organizing it had different rules for men and women.
For example, women would walk two bases instead of one. Also, they would be required to use the wider bat.
A young lady on my team signed up. When she was told which bat to use, she said "f**k that" and picked up the other one. All of the different team captains unanimously voted to have the rules the same for everyone, so the organizer got overruled. Sylvaen1024
She started it!
Playing a football game, girl comes and grabs the a**es of all the men on the field including mine, execute grab.exe, take her to the side of the field, everyone is laughing and clapping. I looked at the girl (who I knew from girl's football) and jokingly said "Don't worry, I'll do the same at your next game," gave her a wink.
End of the game her father approached me (with a crowd behind him) and started to try and fight me while I was in my equipment. I stop him and told him it was a joke meanwhile the crowd shouts and throws crap at me like chip bags and stuff.
I ended up having to defend myself against 3 parents (who were obese so it wasn't hard to avoid any punches) while my team mates restrained others. Never again. AbyssCat1
Ready for PE...
The way we were graded for PE. We have a test for PE once every year were you need to run back and forth across the room within a certain time limit. Said time limit would get shorter and shorter in levels, while you still need to run the same distance. You would get graded on your level (you'd get a 6.0 for reaching level 6 for instance). The test tested you on your stamina most of all. But, our PE teacher would reduce the score for boys by 1. So if a girl reached level 7, they'd get a 7.0. If a boy reached the same level, they'd get a 6.0.
So a girl who barely broke a sweat getting to level 8 and thinking to herself "That's good enough, I think I'll quit here." would get an 8.0. On the other hand, a friend of mine who was pretty fat and also has a pretty bad case of asthma, he'd just about reach level 4, giving it everything he got and gasping for air afterwards. He got a 3. Luckily, the next year, I got a new PE teacher who would grade you on your performance as well as your effort and he graded everyone on their own terms. Dutchlander13
The Fight.
My stepfather had to pay his ex-wife ~3000 euros at the highest point a month. Their children were adults, moved out. He had leukemia. His ex-wife just didn't want to work.
He fought it like hell. It was 28 euros a month at last. But he had to fight it like hell, which is ridiculous. User_Nomi
Need a Plus one....
Two friends and I (all 25 year old guys, working full time with good references) were looking for a flat, and were told by a property rental company that because we weren't flatting with a girl, they wouldn't rent us one. Helbrich
Mike Hurts Too.
I am the only guy on my team. All of the women who I work with consistently talk about how men are fundamentally "babies" who struggle to work through hard things.
Example: "Mike (her husband) got three tumors removed yesterday and he's all moaning and wincing and telling me about how it hurts. It's like I always say, men are just the biggest babies..." - This was an actual conversation my coworker had with me yesterday. leakyaquitard
The Girl Line.
Oh damn have I got the post for you. Back in grade 5 I had a teacher who would:
- Give all the male students female names, and refuse to call them by their actual names (myself included)
- Make everyone stand in the "girl line" (which was the only line mind you).
That kinda stuff really messes you up, especially since we were so young and impressionable. Ironically enough she went on to work at a all boys school, so idk how that turned out. TheDecoGecko
That Blinking Light.
Expecting men to know how to fix things, including electrical devices. I know nothing about it. _FTR
But it's P.E!
When it's boys vs girls in P.E. and the teachers give the guys ridiculous handicaps so the girls could win. Ztank99
When I was younger I went to a sports camp and we would play soccer and other sports. You would get points based off your gender and age. Example: 6 and under +7 7-8 +6 9-10 +5 Etc. I think 16+ was 1 point because the camp was for any ages and C.I.Ts could play
You also would get +5 points if you were a girl.
So the older kids would carry these little 6 year old girls on their back and pin down the goal keeper so they could score and give then 12 points. And this is for soccer, like wtf. Owenn04
Closing Time.
Working in a bar here. During the close, one thing not to forget : Trashes out, and furnitures in. I'm 1m75 for 59kg, clearly not the strongest human, and I also have a heart condition, that doesn't allow me to weigh heavy charges. Nonetheless, if I'm closing with a woman, she'll never have to do any of the lifting chores, because she's a woman. And when I explicitly say that it is sexist, managers and staffs just mock me, cry baby like. And DAMN, yes you're a woman, but you are a bartender just like I am, divide the work, as a team, especially when everyone where I work is or taller, or fatter than me, if not both. Balrow
Damn Booty Shorts...
My field is 85% women, so most rules are made in their favor. Two summers ago the A/C went out and we had to open windows just to get some air moving. It was nearly 80 F inside the building. Women started coming in with deep-cut tops, tank-tops, and short dresses/shorts but nothing was said. The guy I sat next to agreed that the next day we should be allowed to come in and wear t-shirts/shorts. So we show up the next day wearing clean, plain tees and clean, plain khaki shorts. We were immediately reprimanded and told that we were only allowed to wear polos/khaki pants. The rest of the week we were miserable and sweating profusely. We were even told to put away some standing fans we brought because they were "distracting." Jyadel
More Than Muscle.
Working in a hospital and and being male sucks. We're basically used as mules. We get assigned or called to assist all the heavy patients because we have "man muscles" as they like to put it. We constantly have to do extra work lifting and repositioning almost all patients as if we can't injure our backs. GtotheA
Mr. Dad! Thank You!
Being a stay at home dad, everyone just assumes you're a lazy piece of crap. But a stay at home mom is like, God's gift to humanity. That's damn aggravating. angrydeuce
Equality.
Hiring somebody solely because they're a woman and the workforce "needs to be diverse." I'm not against hiring women, I actually really want women to succeed. I just think that it's wrong to hire someone ONLY because they have breasts and no ding-aling down under. Hire people because they're qualified and able to do the job; whether it's a man, woman, hispanic, African-American... whatever. Hire them for their skills, not their skin color or gender. FreshPrince711
Real People.
Since forever i always hate the "boys don't cry" crap.
It's basically like everyone poops, everyone cries. MZGTY
It's highly believed that it is important to learn history as a means to improve our future.
What is often overlooked is that what is taught in history class is going to be very different depending on where you went to school.
And this isn't just internationally, even different regions of the United states will likely have very different lessons on American history.
This frequently results in our learning fascinating, heartbreaking and horrifying historical facts which our middle or high school history teachers neglected to teach us.
Redditor Acherontia_atropos91 was curious to learn things people either wished they had learned, or believe they should have learned, in their school history class, leading them to ask:
What isn’t taught in history class but should be?
The Irish Troubles
"The troubles."
"Too many people in America do not understand why a wall straight through Ireland would be a BAD idea."
"I’m referring to the Brexit referendum and possible outcomes."
"If people were wondering why we were talking about walls through Ireland in the first place."- CLCVS.
Forgotten elements of World War II
"What the Japanese did to the Chinese during WW2."
"Unit 731."- CaptainMcBoogerJew.
"Japan gets off easy for their war crimes in WW2."
"They killed an estimated 16mil Chinese civilians and another 8mil soldiers"
"Also, Pol Pot."
"Didn't know who he was until I was like 25."
"Worst dictator all time (in terms of percentage of population he decimated)".
The truth about the American Revolution
"That the American Revolution was part of a wider cold war type of conflict with France."
"The American Revolution was basically the UK's equivalent of the US version of Vietnam."- vinsant7.
The Dark side of Swedish history.
"As a Swede, I'd like to know more of all the horrible sh*t my country has done throughout history."
"It's a damn shame we're trying to hide our history."
"For example, Swedes killed a metric sh*t ton of all Polish people when we were at our strongest."
"That's the kinda sh*t we don't get to learn."- mogwandayy.
Colonization
"Basically what Belgium did to the Congo."
"A lot of people are telling me that they are taught about this actually."
"I'm glad to hear it because I wasn't taught about this in the USA during my public school days (1995-2008)."- EconArch.
The truth about "heroes".
"While teaching about historical Heroes they should also tell students about the unspeakable things some of them did."
"Many famous figures throughout history who are pillars of morality actually did many terrible things." - User Deleted
Intolerance for Mental Illness
"The dark history of mental illness treatments."
"I think it's worth learning about."- 7dayexcerpt.
Slavic Mythology
"Slavic mythology in Slavic countries."
"Don't get me wrong, I love both Greek & Roman mythology and as a person from the Balkans both of those cultures are part of my country's history and had great influence over not only my region but the entirety of the continent & the western world but I wouldn't mind knowing more about Slavic mythology as well."- ShorsShezzarine.
The truth about the CIA
"How the CIA was made and all the shady things they did over the years."- ALargeChip.
There is a lot about the history of our world, not to mention our own country which shouldn't be ignored.
And it's from learning from our mistakes that we really improve our future.
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So apparently we are in the endemic phase of this nonsense.
We have light at the end of the tunnel.
So what now?
Where do we go from here?
Normal seems like an outdated word.
How do we get back to normal though?
Is it even possible?
What are reaching back to?
Life pre-Covid.
Those were the days.
If only we could bring them back.
Redditor hetravelingsong wanted to discuss our new normal in this hopeful "endemic" phase. So they asked:
"What’s something random you miss about pre-COVID times?"
I miss people being sane. Though that maybe election cycle issues not COVID. We'll never know.
I thought I was Alone...
"Being able to grocery shop after 11 pm."
Reading_Rainboner
"Hell yes. I miss the days where the Walmart across the street was open 24 hours."
Small_Tax_9432
let's just go...
"I miss spontaneity... everything now seems to have a barrier of difficulty."
iidosee
"I live very close to Disneyland so I have an annual pass. My friends and I would just go there after work and hang out and grab a bite to eat."
"Now, we have to reserve a day to go. And most of the time, the days are at 'full' capacity so we couldn't even reserve. I don't want to schedule to hang out at Disneyland for a couple hours for July. So yeah, I definitely miss the 'lets go eat at Disneyland tonight?' texts."
mymymissmai
Not til 24-25
"Functioning global supply chains. Ah, the product you want has got microchips in it? 9 month wait."
richard-king
"Minimum, I'd been saying for a while now that I wouldn't expect a true return to normalcy in terms of electronics prices till 2024-2025. Although Crypto crashing through the floor really took some of the pressure off graphics cards which I really appreciate."
statiiic
WTF?!?!
"How affordable everything was!"
Disastrous_Hour_6776
"Yep. Today I was bagging up my things at the grocery store and I heard the cashier say to the lady behind me 'thats $78.12.' She had -- 2 boxes of Kellogg's corn flakes, a carton of 12 eggs, milk, strawberries, raspberries, blue berries, a small cheese cake, English muffins, coffee, and a small whole frozen chicken that could maybe feed 3 people if the meat portioning was small."
SnowyInuk
Sushi
"My favorite sushi place. It was good quality, close by, kid-friendly, and not too expensive."
InannasPocket
All of this... it was a simpler time.
NASTY
"As a retail worker, just how f**king NASTY some people have gotten."
DmitriPetrov*itch
"They applauded you for being an essential worker but won’t vote for policies that’ll raise minimum wage while insisting a wage cap for heavily paid employees."
sketchysketchist
CHANGES your DNA...
"Some of the people closest to me became very bitter and petty over the last 2 years. So many people have the 'crazy eyes' now."
__--__7
"So true and holidays with the family is like who has the biggest tinfoil hat building contest. How many jumps does your brain have to go through to think that the Covid vaccine CHANGES your DNA into the patented DNA so that the government now controls your body."
"So like vaccinated people now have a singular DNA set. I feel like I still have a chunk of my brain just broken off due to that comment alone. I was also told by same family member that I could never donate blood again due to the vaccine. I guess it is so my patented DNA doesn't affect people?? FYI my vaccinated butt just donated today fine and multiple other times after the vaccine."
tyreka13
Homeward Bound
"House prices."
adrianinked
"I'm resigned to never thinking I have a chance on owning property where I live. I'm 30 and just can't imagine it anymore. And I don't want to live anywhere else so, whatever."
Osdab2daf
"That didn’t happen because of the pandemic. That was already happening regardless."
CH11DW
Oh Mickey
"All Day Breakfast at McDonalds."
hutch2522
"It was honestly hell to do, and not very popular. ITs margins aren't anywhere dinner and lunch specials. ON top of that, the temperatures are such that They require its own grill, meaning that if you have 2 grills in shop, you are down 50% of lunch capacity."
Freyas_Follower
Way back when...
"Hanging out with friends. And I mean waaaaaay before Covid. Like 2006 back when I had some friends."
LoocsinatasYT
I miss the old days. Maybe we'll get back there.
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What do you believe?
Is there a GOD in the sky?
Is he guiding us and helping us?
Life is really hard. Why is that is a big entity is up there loving us?
Atheists have taken a lot of heat for what feels like shunning GOD.
What if they've been right all along?
Maybe let's take a listen and see what they really think.
Redditor __Jacob______ wanted to hear from the people who don't really believe all that "God" stuff. They asked:
"Atheists, what do you believe in?"
I'm waffling between G-O-D and nothing. So please give me some education.
911
"We need to look out for each other because help isn't coming."
cknipe
Peace Out
"More than 2 decades ago, a priest was giving a sermon in my church and he said 'our faith requires you to believe without question. Why call it faith if you have to ask questions?' I haven't returned to church. Not until my wedding day but you know what I mean."
asiangontear
Delusion
"When I was young I used to think that after death you would have access to a PC that you could see absolutely anything about your life. Stats, any question you had no matter how obscure, replays of moments, perspectives of others in relation to you. No matter what you wanted to know, if it was relatable to you, you could see it. I know it's silly, but as time goes on I just want it to be real, and I don't think I'd have any issue allowing myself to fall into that delusion."
eggwardpenisglands
I think nothing happens...
"Realistically, I think nothing happens. We literally experience nothing after death. Same thing that we experience before birth. We don't exist, so it's nothing. I think the tenant that we should follow while living is to try to be happy and healthy while minimizing the damage we do to each other."
"What I would LIKE to happen after death is whatever you believe in, exists. I think Christians should get to go to heaven if they truly believe in it, Hindus and Buddhists get reincarnated, and everyone else also gets to experience what they believe they will experience."
"'I would still experience Nothing. Maybe it's one of those things where at the moment of death their brain makes them experience what feels like an infinitely long moment in time where they experience their afterlife. I just think it would be neat for everybody."
Better_Meat_
Shrug
"Best advice I received from a dear senior on their way out. 'You win some, you lose some' shrug. Nothing divine, life is that simple and wonderful, accept it and move on."
Tune_Kindly
It all sounds pretty simple. Why are people so up in arms about Atheists?
Whatever
"I believe in a universe that doesn't care, and people that do."
imCIK
Cool with Empty
"Nothing. [Serious]."
rumblingtummy29
"I feel this way about death. When I was 5, my grandfather died and my cousin simple said, he is dead, that means you are gone forever. Everything ends up dying, even plants and animals. I'm now in my 40's and still have this simplistic view of life and death. People think I'm ambivalent to life and death but it's just what it is."
thepigfish82
puppet-masters...
"I think a lot of religious people struggle with the fact that we are all just swirling units of chaos. There is no grand plan or great orchestrator. I think that’s why people who are prone to religion are also susceptible to things like Q anon and the Cabal and all that. They REALLY want to believe that there is some almighty puppet-master who determines all of humanity’s fate."
Lngtmelrker
“we’re living in a society!”
"Just be a kind and empathetic person not because you’re worried about some cosmic justice, but because it’s the right thing to do. If there is some being that created us there’s no way they actually care about believing in it or adhering to some rules from over 2000 years ago."
"Also a big thing for me is that I find the idea that you need religion or the Bible in order to have morals and ethics pretty dumb. It’s pretty f**king clear that most evangelicals have neither. But my main thing is being a good person simply because, as George Costanza once said we’re living in a society!' If you’re only a good person in order to make it to heaven you probably aren’t actually a good and moral person."
conservative_genius
That's All
"You're born. You live. You die. That's it. After you die you cease to exist, the same as before you were born."
serefina
Believe what you want. We're all here together. So let's focus there.
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The list of what irritates me is endless.
I mean... breathing too loud or dust can set me off.
I'm a bit unstable, yes.
But I'm not alone.
So let's discuss.
Redditor Aburntbagel6 wanted to hear about all the times many of us just couldn't control our disdain. They asked:
"What never fails to piss you off?"
I feel like this article can go on forever. Let's get some highlights.
Wasted Time
"Meetings that could and should have been an email."
Sirena609
Lotto People
"Getting stuck behind people playing the lottery at a corner store."
thenuggetlover
"I also used to work in a gas station and you’re SO right. I f**king hated the lottery people. Especially since my store had a small staff and there was usually only one of us working at a time, which meant that I couldn’t get any of my other work done as long as they were there."
"And you’re right, it’s also pretty sad to watch. I had one lady who used to come in every day and spent hundreds and HUNDREDS of dollars on scratch tickets. One day, she won $200 after spending probably around $600 and she was so excited and saying she can 'finally pay her bills.'"
i-am-your-god-now
Aware...
"No situational awareness. Job, home, shopping, driving. Think for one minute and go about. OBSERVE!!"
Dizzy-Foundation8122
"My mom is one of those people who leave the shopping cart in the middle of the damn aisle and proceed to walk twenty feet away. After correcting her a million times to no effect I just walk away now so people don’t know I’m with her."
OutrageousEvent
Shut Up!
"Endless barking in the middle of the night, I love animals but that sh*t I can't stand."
Acceptable-Lemon2924
"Endless barking in general drives me up a wall. One of my friends dogs was barking almost an entire gaming session the other day. I wanted to reach through the computer and smack him for letting it go on."
bangersnmash13
Kindness
"People being mean to service workers, especially if the workers are very young."'
scaryboilednoodles
All of these things. I hate them all.
Admit It
"People who never accept fault when they mess something up. Like, why blame a million people when it was clearly you who did it???"
Quirky-Area-8978
From Above
"My upstairs neighbors."
lutzow89
"I had terrible neighbors at my previous apartment. It was a one person studio for students, but her boyfriend was clearly living with her illegally and he was loud."
"One night we knocked n the door at 3 AM because of the loud music and an unknown girl opened the door. I just thought they were having a little party. But the next door I saw the girl living there come home with a suitcase after having been away for the weekend... Her BF was cheating on her in her own apartment."
Th3_Accountant
Move Away
"People who sit directly next to me at the airport, movie theater, any other place where you can choose a seat when there is PLENTY of other seating."
BacardiPardy33
"I can’t YES this enough and the ones who can’t park for crap so they park so close you can’t open doors on one side of the car or the ones who park directly behind when you pulled through so the door won’t open to load groceries."
BacardiPardy33
It's Over
"People who try to restart old drama. Like I'm done with you, just leave me alone."
Tired_Potatos
"Yep, half the reason I've basically quit playing one of my favorite online video games. People keep bringing old crap up or sh*tting on on someone who used to be our friend. I got tired of it so I just ejected the game out of me."
CaucasianHumus
AHHHHH!!!
"People walking too slow in front of me with no way to get around them. It’s even worse if it’s a couple or group taking up the whole sidewalk. HAVE SOME SPATIAL AWARENESS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!"
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Life in general pisses me off. I'm easy.
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