In the ongoing modern day conversations about misogyny and sexism, we more often hear about predatory behavior directed at women by men. However, men have an important role to play to in ending discriminatory and harassing behavior, and many are stepping up.
On Saturday, @emrazz asked men on Twitter to name an occasion in which they stood up to other men in their lives who exhibited misogynistic behavior.
Good guys: tell me about a time you saw misogyny or predatory behavior in action and spoke up. What did you say? Wh… https://t.co/JShsNy160u— feminist next door (@feminist next door)1551586944.0
There's this guy who reminded his father that women and girl's bodies aren't inherently sexual.
There was this astute advice.
@emrazz Personally, I’ve found the best way to shut that kind of talk down is just to say, “Dude, it’s 2019. We don’t do that anymore.”— Kid Awesome1 (@Kid Awesome1)1551587597.0
Sometimes a physical barrier helps.
@emrazz I just step in between the predator and victim and stare them down- on the rare time(s) I've had to say som… https://t.co/VOMgjHM0Iy— DKA (@DKA)1551587622.0
Some men need reminders that catcalling is predatory.
@emrazz My best friend whistled at a girl and I told him to cut it out, he was being aggressive. I think I insulted… https://t.co/l7NztHX0kL— Jason #NeverAgain (@Jason #NeverAgain)1551587222.0
There was this man who understood the ways transphobia and misogyny interact to create the monster that is transmisogyny.
@emrazz Someone i respected joked about pretending to be trans so they could get a job because of hiring quotas, an… https://t.co/QaPF2FCmgG— Benge-ing on love. (@Benge-ing on love.)1551587189.0
This man understood that sometimes talking through a behavior is helpful.
@emrazz I call out my high school students all the time. They respect me for some reason 🤷🏽♂️. I explain what it l… https://t.co/tvESAyHXyT— 🤴🏽AJ Sisneros (@🤴🏽AJ Sisneros)1551589756.0
Unfortunately this behavior isn't unique to a certain kind of man or profession.
@emrazz I saw a doctor, sitting by a phone, demand the female nurse dial the operator for him. I showed him the mag… https://t.co/lKGZWuGr9t— Ja Mes (@Ja Mes)1551587374.0
Some men have stepped up to be wing-men.
Sometimes being a wing-man is subtle.
@emrazz i am petrified of confrontations, but one time i stood up on the bus to get between a guy hitting obviously… https://t.co/wrxcgCb8YR— Panic! at the mispeling (@Panic! at the mispeling)1551588208.0
Sometimes it's not.
@emrazz One of few times I’ve been to a club a guy was trying to get a girl to dance and was being aggressive so I… https://t.co/ebfuL6YSki— Cody Collins (@Cody Collins)1551587533.0
Sometimes teachers have to find teachable moments.
@emrazz I teach. Whenever I see students dismissive of female students, demeaning, or the like, I stop them and use… https://t.co/DcvmfNGbK3— So That Others May Learn (@So That Others May Learn)1551587170.0
And finally, there was this man who helped educate his boss about work-place double standards.
@emrazz Senior male exec suggested, in presence of only woman on exec team, that another woman at our company was s… https://t.co/XnLrfAD3pO— Jon Mott (@Jon Mott)1551589984.0
@emrazz I pulled my male colleague aside and asked if he noticed her reaction. “Yeah, what was that about?” I asked… https://t.co/HsvyN6Sl5F— Jon Mott (@Jon Mott)1551590145.0
@emrazz I encouraged him to take our colleague aside, apologize, and ask for her guidance in understanding why what… https://t.co/IqGu4NckMb— Jon Mott (@Jon Mott)1551590281.0
@emrazz To his credit, he did. And was sincere about it. I also followed up privately with my colleague. She knew I… https://t.co/FSALqRH1ZC— Jon Mott (@Jon Mott)1551590660.0
@emrazz I didn’t do much. But we couldn’t ignore it. And both of my colleagues needed help. 6/6— Jon Mott (@Jon Mott)1551590806.0
It's important for men to be allies in this fight and say something to other men when they're being inappropriate. If you don't know how to start the conversation, The Guy's Guide to Feminism"The Guy's Guide to Feminism by Michael Kimmel and Michael Kaufman is a great way to start.
More of this in 2019, please.