People Who Married In Their Early 20s Explain Whether They Regret Their Decision Or Not
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There are so many cultural narratives about "being in your 20s."


We're supposed to explore, travel, educate ourselves, meet people, try new things and "get life experience," whatever that means.

But in the same breathe, people tell us we're not kids anymore, so we need to grow up, find a decent job, focus on career development, handle personal finances wisely, and consider the long view.

All the different advice is enough to make the head spin.

So it's no surprise that marrying early is a rather loaded concept. Choosing to tie the knot before 25 is a big commitment made a young age, there is no doubt about it.

A recent Reddit thread illustrated that while the decision is definitely not for everyone, it worked for plenty of folks out there.

sonOfTheSun28 asked, "People that married early (between 20-25), how has it impacted your life, do you regret it or was it the best decision you ever made?"

All Worked Out 

"I was 25, she was 23. It's been 10 years that we formed a couple, and 6 years married. She's currently on the PC, and I'm watching over our 7 months old baby."

"Pretty good decision to marry her."

-- OnTheList-YouTube

"Diplomacy"

"Got married at age 18. Still married to the same man at age 70. 51 years of diplomacy 💕" -- Dobba1969

"I can't wait to get here. My husband and I got married at 19/20, we are now both 27 and going strong. Been together since we were 15." -- bindsaybindsay

The Right Choice 

"No regrets. Been married since I was 24, I'm 50 now. Best. Woman. Ever. IMO." -- keltoy1549

"Early? I was 25 and thought it was kinda' late."

3 plus decades later, still laughing and enjoying married life. Here's some unsolicited advice; find someone who not only laughs at your jokes, but makes you laugh just as much. And have as many kids as you can afford, because they give you pure joy." -- originalmango

A Seamless Flow 

"My husband and I got married when we were both 23. We had already been living together for years, had combined finances, etc. so we had basically been married beforehand anyway."

"We went to the courthouse and got married by a justice of the peace. Then we went back to our apartment and back to our lives."

"Literally nothing changed lol. We're still very happy and own a home now with 2 dogs, so I'd say it worked out for us so far. Our 4th wedding anniversary will be in January."

-- glowbaby

Other Factors Besides Age 

"I have one friend who married his high school sweetheart when they were 18. They have 3 children and seem very happy and content. He is always talking about how much he loves his wife."

"I have another friend who married his college girlfriend once he graduated and hit 21. They moved to California and only lasted 2 years before he found out she was cheating on him. He has said numerous times that it was one of the biggest mistakes he has ever made."

"I guess it all depends on you, and the other person..."

-- Stevie-Avail

A Tumultuous Decade 

"We were 23 and 24 when we married, we had been together for 3 years then. That was 12 years ago, currently we are sipping coffee together while he plays a game and I browse reddit. He is hands down the best decision of my life."

"That being said, it wasn't easy especially in the beginning. It's been a lot of hard work and raw emotion getting to where we are today. We agree that that age range is a bit young and somewhat foolish to decide to marry, though sometimes it works."

"There's so much growth that takes place between 20-30, we were fortunate to grow together instead of apart."

-- SlackAsh

The Other Side 

"It was stupid. Wish I hadn't. I regret it to this day."

"Wrecked my life - she's got psychological problems and decided to ditch me a couple of months after marriage."

-- DavidHaller41

Inarguable Outcomes 

"I got married at twenty five. It lasted ten years or so. I can't regret it, because it produced the best daughter a guy could ever want."

"That alone makes me a man wealthy beyond measure."

-- stupidlyugly

Constantly Evolving 

"I was 24 so at the top end of your spectrum but yes, in all honesty, I regret it."

"I am a completely different person now with new ideas, new goals, new views on marriage itself. I didn't give myself enough time to 'find myself' even though I had lived on my own for 6 years at the time."

"I wish I had waited until at least 30 or never gotten married at all. This is stuff my husband knows, we've talked about it a lot. It's not about him at all, it's about how I've changed."

"He hasn't changed along with me - I mean, he has changed of course (been married 17 years), but not in the same ways I have. That isn't a criticism of him at all, just the way it is."

-- DTownForever

Living Alone is Pretty Wonderful 

"We got married when we were 18. It's been 20 years, and we've had a few rough patches, but I only have one regret. I'm almost 40, and I've never lived alone."

"I feel like we both missed out on an important part of growing up by not having that experience."

-- froggiehud

Be Ready 

"I was 22, but my husband was 28. He's definitely one of the good ones. It's been 10 years, and he's still my best friend."

"However, I wouldn't recommend getting married young, or at all, if you aren't committed to communicating through the hard times and fighting for your marriage, because the hard times will come."

-- sunspotshavefaded

Lukewarm 

"Started dating at 19, married at 24, divorced at 39."

"I don't know. Both she and I are in much better places now. I'd say it was a learning experience; but it was also an experience experience..."

"I don't regret my relationship with her. I regret how much we both let it drag on during some really passionless and tense years at the end. The last 7 years of our marriage we were basically room-mates."

-- boxed_monkey

No Rush 

"It was the worst decision I ever made, and I do regret it. We got divorced. Just don't be in such a rush. You can always get married a little later!" -- queennbee

"I just don't plan on getting married at all. I believe in committed relationships, but people can change and/or situations can change. 1 year down the line, 10 years, etc. and the end will usually suck, but complicating it even more with divorce proceedings just seems like a good thing to avoid." -- QuasarsRcool

Thrilled as Ever 

"Best decision of my life. I was 21. She was 20. We're mid 50s now and still happily together. 3 kids, 5 grandkids, and we're blessed with (or fortunate to have) enough health to enjoy them all."

"The way I see it, I married someone way too good for me, but she doesn't seem to realize it. Shhhh! Please don't tell her! I've got a great thing going here!"

-- blibbidyblam

20/20 Hindsight 

"I was 17 and he was 20 when we got married. I had always been sheltered by my parents so didn't know how to make such life choice. I definitely married the wrong person. I thought I loved him but didn't really know what love was or what to expect."

"We were married for 4 years when I called it off. I just couldn't take anymore of his controlling crap. I married my parents so to speak."

-- Think-Anywhere-7751

External Factors 

"I was with my husband at age 16, we got married at 20. We split up when I was 30. I don't regret it, we had a good 10 years of love that were actually nearly perfect."

"But then he got into heroin. That sucks the soul out of people. Say no to drugs, everyone."

-- PeachPitiless

Something More Important Than Timing 

"Best. Second best was to not have kids."

"But it wasn't the "early" part that was or is important."

"The important question is 'is this the right person to spend the rest of your life with?'"

"If you have any reservations, it's not the right time. For you."

-- michaelh98

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