People Explain What Major Life Event Completely Changed Their Perspective
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One of the most freeing realizations I've had was when I understood that not everyone was going to like me.

That's just the way it is for all of us, and I learned that it would be unfair for me to dedicate so much time worrying about what others might think.

It changed my life—improved it, I'd say.

That, combined with my willingness to take responsibility for my own actions, was crucial to my self-development.

Whether it's an epiphany or experience, there are many things that can happen and can successfully shift your perspective.

People shared their stories after Redditor drewyourstory asked the online community:

"What life event or experience changed your perspective?"

"From this, I learned..."

"Nearly died of a post-surgical hypoxic brain injury, followed by a variety of problems subsequently."

"From this, I learned that mortality is a fragile thing in a random, amoral universe."

yeliaBde

It truly is. We really have no say in it either.

We really do not have control.

"Once you get your own place..."

"Homelessness."

"Once you finally get your own place, you appreciate and feel gratitude for things that you used to take for granted."

Scallywagstv2

"It's helped me maintain..."

"My husband died after a sudden short illness. My life is divided by that point in time."

"There is before and after, I'm a different person now nearly 12 years later but I'm okay with that. It's helped me maintain a good perspective dealing with my current partner's stroke."

"He's doing ok but will never have the mobility he once had. Just taking one day at a time."

Parvanu

Sorry for your loss.

Silver linings exist... even in tragedy.

"I can put up with..."

"My spouse developed a chronic pain illness. She spent months in debilitating pain and there wasn't a goddamn thing I could do to help."

"When we finally got a diagnosis, she was able to start on some medications that improved her quality of life to near where it had been."

"Suddenly little problems just didn't seem important anymore. I can put up with a whole hell of a lot more than I ever thought possible because at least my partner's not in burning pain constantly anymore."

edgarpickle

Thankfully, your partner is healthier, and the experience undoubtedly made you a stronger person!

"I had both hips replaced..."

"I had both hips replaced at 25 and will owe money for the rest of my life."

"My debt to income ratio keeps me from normal things like owning a house. I don't sweat missing a bill now and then anymore."

casualthis

Society really should not allow this to happen.

"I think every single human..."

"I think every single human has experienced the feeling of post-traumatic guilt caused by something they've done in the past."

"For example, in elementary school, I had a best friend whose family was struggling financially. One day, he brings coins (pennies and nickels only) for his school lunch that day."

"I, for some stupid reason, smacked the change out of his hand as he took the change out to count how much he had."

"I got yelled at by the principal, who was walking behind me, and got suspended. Ever since that day, I have never ever made fun of someone's financial stability, given people money (especially the homeless), and never smacked anything out of anyone's hands."

"That moment changed my perspective on how the treatment towards others comes back to bite you."

alexandersuxx

"Holding my eight year old brother as he died from extreme medical incompetence then being stuck with his body for twenty minutes as a ventilator made his corpse breathe and a fault in the heart monitor didn't trigger the alarm to bring help and the nurses ignored the call light because they were 'busy with another patient'."

"I cared about people before then. I can switch that off and on at will now."

RepresentativeAD560

"Being from Canada..."

"Being from Canada, we're pretty sheltered here, so traveling to other parts of the world and seeing how poor some communities are really made me realize how lucky we are and how good we have it."

arabacuspulp

Many people in the Western world would learn a hell of a lot if they were humbled by the way others around the world live.

"I love him..."

"Having a child with autism. He is the most loving, kind, intelligent young man."

"I love him more than anything in the world, but I have to consider everyday events that others take for granted. There are things that will be overly stressful for him, and without any glaring differences, people are often not understanding."

"Family gatherings, grocery store visits, haircuts, the dentist, everything is planned."

"The world can be a noisy, chaotic, inconsistent place which are all things he really hates, but he meets every challenge head-on and I couldn't be prouder to call him my son."

canthaveitindetroit

"Have you ever just stood..."

"Have you ever just stood and looked at a dead person? The first dead person I ever saw was my father... I've seen probably more than my share after that too."

"Looking at someone with their lights permanently turned off changes something in you."

MaxMouseOCX

No one is immune from life's tragedies or trials and tribulations.

How do you handle them, though? That's the real test.

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