It's easy to offend people without meaning to, especially when you think you're complimenting them. That's the hard thing about backhanded compliments. We never speak up about how awful they sound because we know they come from a good place. Reddit user, u/b-tchspaghetti, wanted to know about those times when someone put their foot in their mouths when they asked:

What is the most backhanded compliment you have received?

You speak English really well.

Bruh, I was born and raised in Ohio. What do you expect

jessicatarczynski

From my first girlfriend, back in high school. I was having a bit of a crisis about how I thought I had a sh-tty personality, so she hit me with "Well, I'm not dating you for your looks."

I know what she was going for, but ouch.

f-ckall_methodology

A friend who works in marketing told me a she had a modeling gig I would be perfect for.

It was "very average looking un-intimidating man to model a backpack vacuum cleaner."

I took the job.

1handsomejosh

My mom asked what I was up to via text and I've started cooking a lot so I sent her a pic of the dish I made that night.

She responded, "That looks great honey! Now you just have to find someone to share it with."

Thanks Mom.

happygolucky66

"I mean, you're an 8 to me where most guys would give you 5-6"

This was a 16-year-old boy's way of trying to talk me (20 y/o) into dating him after I had said no multiple times. I laughed my a-- off.

Edit// yall made me finally google what negging means

needlessxxneedles

My friend, who knows nothing about how to talk to women, got told by my other friend, who knows exactly what to say, that if he doesn't know what to say that he should give her a genuine compliment.

Good idea in practice, but my not-so-eloquent friend got super stressed about not saying something trite/cliché and blurted out "you really don't sweat much" to a girl he was dancing with, and realizing how that wasn't a great line immediately amended it by telling her "you know, for a bigger girl".

Needless to say, things didn't work out so well for him.

souIIess

I was playing hide seek with my 8 year-old cousin. She couldn't find me and had My mom come and help her. I heard her say:

"wow for someone so fat she's really good at hiding!"

*my little cousin said that but my mom agreed. I texted my mom from my hiding spot calling them rude.

NeonTaterTots

"I love how you don't care about how you look and how you dress"

I do :(

Anna-Zahane

I was talking with an acquaintance about a ski trip with my wife. I told him how I loved to watch her ski, she was so graceful and fluid, and a better skier than me. "Come to think of it," I said, "she is better than me at just about everything."

"That's not true," he replied.

"Why not?" I asked.

"You married better than she did." He responded.

lobido

"you look like you're 12."

I'm near 24... and it's always, 100% without fail, followed up with

"oh don't look so offended, you'll appreciate it when you're older."

I'll just be a balding 36 yr old, with a growing gut and baby face

jennifer12jones

I'm a foreigner. Was at a party in the US for some family. There was a kid there, he may have been between 11/13. He was asking me where I was from and different questions about my accent. At the end he's like," You know your English isn't that bad for it not being your first language." My face dropped, it is my first and only language. I laughed and proceeded to walk away.

It's been years and years ago and I still think about it every once in awhile.

SketchyMedicalAdvice

Two girls at work

Girl1: (as she holds some of girl 2s hair) Wow! I wish my hair was this thin, I would save so much time on brushing and money on conditioner!

Girl2: :/

alison10tidwell

You look good for 30, lol I just turned 21 around then.

F my life and my horrible hairline.

JuiceGasLean

"You look like a Walmart brand Tom Brady"

Uh, thanks? Lol

DoobaDoobaDooba

A man in a waiting room congratulated me for "being the prettiest face of [his] day," then looked thoughful and followed up with, "Still early, though..."

joshua12specht

You lost so much weight! You just need to lose 20 pounds more to look presentable!

• I had just reached a normal/healthy BMI. I felt bad.

AlcmenaYue

This chick once said "You're super cool and sweet, too bad you're short."

Jokes on her, I'm not cool or sweet.

Aaron10Fulgham

You would've been really pretty if you had fair skin."

I'm from the Philippines and the colorism here is f-cking unreal. Whitening products are all over the place. I'm very tan/brown skinned, so yeah, I get this a lot.

haildecoysnail

I was out on a date with a very attractive young woman... a random guy at the next table decides to approach us. He looks at me, shakes my hand and says "you must have the gift of gab or a really sparkling personality. Your date is beautiful. "

dblshot99

"God, your body is so perfect from the waist down"

-My husband

abigailpierce

My mother never approved of me becoming a chef. After years of grind and struggle I finally rose to head chef of a busy, classy restaurant. 2 years after I took the post she finally agreed to come eat (a free meal) at my establishment, we went on my day off so we could enjoy a 6 course meal together....

"Everything is so good, whoever you hired to cook this is really a good chef."

I designed the entire menu and took inexperienced teens under my wing to teach them how to cook with perfection. Mothers are our toughest critics.

JtheGallant

H/T: Reddit