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In the world of modern dating, real honesty is shockingly rare. It's hard enough to find even in positive situations and even rarer when there's bad news to deliver. Oftentimes, instead of telling a date they're not interested in seeing them again romantically, people will simply "ghost" each other and let their silence do the talking.

One Tinder user, however, impressed his date by being honest and upfront about how he felt things had went.


Reddit user karmabandido posted a photo of a Tinder exchange that may not have been the most pleasant she'd ever had, but was certainly nicer than ghosting her.

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And in case you were wondering why they were eating breakfast together, karmabindo clarified:

"First meeting :) can't go wrong with a Waffle House date. If she's too good for Waffle House, you're too good for her."

Other Reddit commenters agreed with her sentiment. steppenfloyd wished his dates had been this honest with him:

"The last 4 or 5 girls that have given me their number ghosted me almost immediately. I don't get it, why give me your number if you're not even gonna respond to the first text?"

Lawliet_LXIV could empathize:

"Exactly. They go from heavy flirting to straight ghosting in a matter of a few seconds."

ChampionOfTheSunAhhh, however, thought ghosting wasn't as bad as people made it out to be:

"It's all a game dude, you have to have zero expectations and not get too invested. Getting ghosted isn't always a knock against you, they might've just found what they wanted a little faster"

english_gritts agreed:

"Correct. Zero expectations, take it all with a grain of salt, stop giving a shit, let it happen or not happen."

On the other hand, however, Gualdrapo thought honesty is the best policy:

"Still I think ghosting is rude and childish. You can just tell'em you don't want to talk anymore. After all, we're all people."

And the majority of people, like Waht3rB0y, were also in the anti-ghosting camp:

"Agree 100%. A person invested time and energy in getting to know you and then you just completely ignore them? Not cool."

CourageousGizmo summed up everyone's feelings—no matter where you stand on ghosting, a nice, honest text is still a great thing.

"Lovely to see some real adults."
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