Buying your first home?
[rebelmouse-image 18350966 is_animated_gif=Well, we're not, because we're broke millennials, but maybe you are! And if you are--do you feel overwhelmed by the things to check for? Do you even know what to look for? Well, we're here to help.
u/pw1016 asked Reddit: What should someone know before buying their first house?
Here's what they had to say.
One Extra Step
[rebelmouse-image 18350967 is_animated_gif=When searching online, you'll see some great looking exterior pictures. Check Google Street View to see what the surroundings really look like.
That one extra step saved us from going to look at about half the houses in-person.
Gardens
[rebelmouse-image 18350968 is_animated_gif=Everyone talks about the house itself; the yard also matters in terms of how much work and expense the place will be. Is the landscaping competent? Is it kept up?
Lazy gardeners will often attempt a few quick fixes, leaving the buyer with serious work afterward.
Contracts
[rebelmouse-image 18350969 is_animated_gif=Go through the calculations in the paperwork. My husband found a $2,500 mistake. He had to argue it out before the company would acknowledge we were being double charged in one area. We think the company has been doing this for awhile. Most people accept what the professionals do as correct.
Sly Fixes
[rebelmouse-image 18350970 is_animated_gif=If the room below the bathroom has a freshly painted ceiling and it's the only one in the house, you probably have leaks somewhere.
Location Location Location
[rebelmouse-image 18350971 is_animated_gif=You can do a lot to a house in your time there. Repaint, redecorate, change the furniture, change the floors and wallpaper, add or remove walls, convert the attic or even add an extension.
You cannot change the location of your house, so make sure it's an area you like. Traffic noise, congestion, whether there's a lot of pedestrian footfall, and if it's affected by the environment (vulnerable to flooding etc.) should all be checked out.
Upkeep
[rebelmouse-image 18350972 is_animated_gif=When was the roof last replaced, how old is the oil tank/furnace, is there vinyl windows, is the knob and tube wiring replaced, where are your property lines, was there flood/fire/mold/bug/mice problems, how good are your neighbors, is there lead paint. these are just a few...also please buy something you can easily afford because of life
Where Are You?
[rebelmouse-image 18350973 is_animated_gif=Walk through the neighborhood a couple of times on different times during the week. Look at the facilities like shops in the neighborhood.
Also look at the local governments future plans for the neighborhood. That view from your house might get spoiled in 2 years and the value of your house could seriously drop.
In real estate location is everything.
Primordial Flood Plains
[rebelmouse-image 18350974 is_animated_gif=As someone living in an area that was affected by Sandy back in 2012 and purchased a house since then... please look up flood maps from FEMA before you even consider putting in an offer for a house. Sure, it might sound dumb if you think the general area can't be flooded, but just check to make sure... because insurance for that can be a pain.
Thanks to that and a fellow helpful redditor, I actually didn't put in an offer for a house that would have been in a floodzone and probably cost an arm and a leg to insure.
Energy
[rebelmouse-image 18350975 is_animated_gif=How the sun rises and dip throughout the day. It helps with light and heat in a house if it shines in the windows however if it doesn't your house feels cold and dark all the time.
The Little Things
[rebelmouse-image 18350976 is_animated_gif=I always tell people buying their first home to make an estimate of all the little things they'll need to buy and then double it. Most people have a handle on the bigger things they'll need to buy, but don't consider the smaller, ancillary things. Sure, you'll need a lawnmower and you know that, but did you also consider the gas can, the files/bench grinder to sharpen the blades, the weed whacker, a way to water it? Did you consider that you'll want to overseed and aerate and fertilize your lawn every year? Now your lawn looks amazing, but the landscaping looks terrible in comparison, so time to start looking into a wheelbarrow and some garden tools and shrubs and flowers. Now you have all these tools, but you're running out of space to store them. Maybe time to start looking into adding/upgrading your shed or reorganizing your garage to make more space. It all costs more than you'd expect.
Be realistic about what you'll need, because after plopping down your life savings for your down payment, you'll still need money left over if you have any plans of improving your property. Expect several trips to the hardware store every weekend and expect to be depressed every time you swipe your card.
False Inspector
[rebelmouse-image 18350977 is_animated_gif=I'm not sure how applicable this is outside of the UK, but i'll post it anyway:
Do not under any circumstances trust the surveyor / inspector your lender sends to check out the property. So many people try to save money on getting a proper full inspection because they think the bank's surveyor will cover them - they won't. Their job is not to make sure you're getting a deal or that the house is OK, is to check there is enough value in the property for the bank to recoup the loan by selling it at a low price if you default. Since our land values are so high, this is often satisfied by the value of the land alone, and I know people who've bought absolute lemons of houses because the bank surveyor said it was all OK, before later finding serious issues that cost a lot to fix.
Big Picture
[rebelmouse-image 18350978 is_animated_gif=After you put in your offer there's often some minor back and forth negotiating. For example, you offer $10,000 below their asking price and they counter with "OK, but we want to take the chandelier."
It's easy to get wrapped up in these negotiations and lose sight of the big picture. You probably didn't care about the chandelier, but as soon as they made it an issue you feel obliged to fight for it. "If you want the chandelier, then you have to throw in the patio furniture."
"No, we're keeping the patio furniture!"
"Screw you, the deals off!"
Don't let yourself get taken advantage of, but don't walk away from a good deal because of a minor disagreement.
Equity
[rebelmouse-image 18350980 is_animated_gif=Small but worthwhile fact: If your down payment is less than 20% of the home's price, you'll have to pay PMI (private mortgage insurance). But as you slowly pay it off and your equity rises above 20%, you can cancel the PMI.
I mention this for two reasons: so you're aware you'll be paying that monthly fee, and so you can make a note to cancel it when you get above 20%. (Your lender won't do that automatically - you have to inform them.)
Le Paint
[rebelmouse-image 18350981 is_animated_gif=For the love of god, if you don't like the color of the paint and that somehow makes the house less attractive, YOU CAN PAINT OVER IT YOUR GOD DAMN SELF.
Neighbz
[rebelmouse-image 18350982 is_animated_gif=My first house was more than I could afford, I had a constant feeling of drowning or a huge weight pressing down on my chest, my second house takes much less of my income to pay for and it feels really good. I can travel and do cool stuff with my family now.
Also, you are buying a neighborhood. Make sure you like the neighbors.
Tail Flipper
[rebelmouse-image 18350983 is_animated_gif=Never buy a house from a flipper. They are very good at covering up problems in such a way that you won't notice them until you've lived in the house for a bit.
After we bought our house, we discovered a bunch of problems clearly caused by shoddy work, but the plumbing was a doozy. One week after we moved in, sewage started leaking up from a floor drain that had been hastily covered up. Turns out main drain pipe under the house was falling apart . We spent a couple weeks with very limited water use and a trench dug through our finished basement.
With that in mind, make sure the home inspector scopes the plumbing, including the drain pipes leaving the house. They don't all do this, so make sure you ask.
Home Werk
[rebelmouse-image 18350985 is_animated_gif=Get the damn thing professionally inspected, and study the output report carefully.
Walk the neighborhood and look at the condition of the close neighbor's homes. Check for things like lawns covered in dog turds or junky half-repaired cars that could indicate loud neighbors or pets.
Figure out which rooms are going to get the most use and concentrate on selecting a house that provides those rooms. For example, if you like a lot of light and sun, ensure the decks and windows line up with where the sun is at. If you appreciate good food, prioritize the kitchen.
Costs Of Removal
[rebelmouse-image 18350986 is_animated_gif=If you have a lot of trees, have them checked out by an arborist, especially in the winter or spring if they haven't bloomed yet. When we bought our first house we had a lot of dead and very expensive trees to remove.
Repairs
[rebelmouse-image 18350988 is_animated_gif=It's not fun being "house poor". That's where you can't afford to do anything (travel, entertainment, travel, etc...) because of your payments. Just because your budget is 250k doesn't mean you should get a house for 249k. You don't need to spend the max. Get a 150 or 175k. Also, homes need repairs. Always something happening.
A Cohesive Unit
[rebelmouse-image 18350989 is_animated_gif=Check out the neighbors. You'll probably be looking at the house around mid-day, but keep in mind most people are at work during this time. If you check it out around 6-7, you get a much better feel for how the neighborhood operates. For example, is there that one family that hangs out in their front yard, letting their dog run around the neighborhood unleashed, with their child running around in diapers crying? Yeah, avoid that street.
With the world's finances the way they are, it's a miracle if people can save their spare change.
Inflation has a stronghold on too many people.
Sometimes it feels like just breathing can cost you money.
It's hard to make and absurdly easy to lose.
So be vigilant with your wallet.
And try to spend on certain things in moderation.
Going out for meals three times a day adds up.
Even with Wendy's value menu.
Redditor gejiw94601 wanted to compare notes on how money can slip away so easily, so they asked:
"What's the biggest waste of money?"
Money is so easy to lose.
Just ask my best friend... vodka.
WHY?!
"Donating to rich Twitch streamers. I’ll probably never understand why people do it."
dring157
"I remember watching one guy drop $60k to Ninja. I was making 30k a year at the time, this guy drop double my salary in one stream."
IanFPS
Adulting
"Credit Card interest."
DweeblesX
"When I first go a credit card I used it only when I was short on cash, but it ended up me throwing money at stupid things because I knew I had a credit card to fall back on if I needed it."
"Now I use my card for the points, and I pay it off about every two weeks. While I'm still not great at adulting, at least I figured out this part."
boardmonkey
What about Florida?
"The $50 scratch-off lottery tickets you can buy in Iowa."
notthesedays
"I used to work for the VA lottery. I got to see the numbers, the payout was only about 20% (if that) of profit for scratch-offs. Slightly higher for the draw games. But print-n-play was almost 1-1 for payout vs profit. Don't know how it is now or how other state's payout margins are, but print-n-play is where it's at if you're gonna play anything."
DarthWeabu
Always Upgrade
"Buying cheap crap you have to replace."
coinkeeper8
"My dad once told me to not spend excessive money on tools at first. Buy them for dirt cheap, and learn which tools you really need. And when they break: replace them with quality ones. Buying pro-grade stuff you don't need is wasted money."
.HarlequinSyndrom
Spending a little extra can go a long way.
Cheap doesn't often equal quality.
Flex
"Buying ridiculously expensive clothes to flex."
PinkLemon4
"Clothes are a two-way issue. Good clothes last a long time and the price is worth it for the comfort on top of that. But some clothes are 100x the price and 1/10th the quality. So there is a fine line here."
Wdrussell1
Pay to Lose
"Pay to win games."
testthrowawayzz
"I played a lot of mobile games with in-game currencies. I have never spent a cent on these games. Why would I spend hundreds of dollars if I can enjoy the game and learn how to play even if it's slow? And many items don't even help you at the game. It's just skins or titles that only show other players how stupid you were to pay for a free app."
Pintermarc
And Silver?
"Gold Food, or more accurately food that is covered in something called gold leaf. In my eyes, food is worth buying if they provide a great amount of nutrition for considerably good prices. After all, you probably avoid paying 50 million dollars just to buy a few molecules that are useless to your health and needs."
"And then there's gold leaf food, sure the food looks fancy but at the cost of a ludicrous amount of money! And with the gold having no usable nutrients at all, it is just not worth it to buy such expensive food for a relatively small amount of nutrients."
"For instance, Industry Kitchen (hopefully that's the name of the place) in NYC serves a pizza with a gold leaf covering for a whopping price of $2000. While at my home country which is Indonesia, Domino's serves an American Classic Cheeseburger Pizza (IDK that's a thing) which is the most expensive pizza I could find on the website costs around $7 which is just baffling to me."
ScopeRicrit
Pretty Boom
"Fireworks, I love them, but it's like $50 per second for the good ones."
endisnigh-ish
"Yeah, I end up spending probably $300 each summer buying fountains and batteries and helicopters and cardboard tanks and sh*t--none of the big professional skyrockets. It's absurd, I'll be the first to admit."
"But it's fun!"
-RadarRanger-
Just Elope
"Weddings."
"Crazy expensive day. Guaranteed at least one relative will kick up a stink. Massive pressure to be The Happiest Day of Your Life. Everything doubles in cost if you say it's for a wedding (dress, suit, cake, venue) Just do the quick registry office paperwork, have a surprise party, and run away for a long honeymoon with the money you saved."
PinchAssault52
Roll of the Dice
"Gambling for sure."
snazyfragz
"I live in a small town where a casino is the big attraction They've had numerous people crap and pee themselves because they didn't wanna get up from the slots because 'it's just about to pay out.'"
11BREWER
Gambling is the greatest way to lose money.
Addiction will take everything if you let it.
We all have strong opinions about something, but when we think of opinions, we often think of hot button topics like political subjects.
But as it turns out, sometimes we can have just as strong of opinions of our preferred types of pasta.
Redditor PeeB4uGoToBed asked:
"What's the best pasta shape and why?"
The Right Answer
"I prefer my pasta, like my nuggets, to be dinosaur-shaped."
- bearstrugglethunder
"This is my true answer, but if I have to pretend to be an adult, I always say Cavatappi."
- YourGlacier
Radiatori
"Radiatori. Thick and perfect for pasta sauces."
- AuthenticVanillaOwl
"They're so fun. They're my favorite, ahead of rotini. I just like ridges, I guess."
- arcosapphire
Cavatappi
"Cavatappi!!!!"
- floatingvibes
"Best for mac and cheese."
- pacheckyourself
"My first time having cavatappi mac and cheese changed my life."
- Salt_Blackberry_1903
"Cavatappi gang, RISE UP."
- Sharp_Easy
Cavatelli
"I see your cavatappi and raise you cavatelli."
- dumbf**k
"Cavatelli is the bee's knees, man."
- elhooper
Conchiglie
"Conchiglie (shells)."
"The shell shape stores cheese and sauces, so with each bite, you get tons of flavor."
- WingerRules
"Yes! Mac n cheese always tastes amazing with Conchiglie, I don't make the rules."
- Inconvenient-Pebble9
Rigatoni
"Rigatoni. My favorite dish is baked rigatoni with bolognese. I love the texture of the ridges and the larger hollow part scoops up the sauce very well as compared to ziti or penne."
- AllDressedJalapenos
Cascatelli
"Cascatelli. Some crazy f**k got obsessed with answering the OP's question and invented this."
- PhantomMenaceWasOK
Vesuvio
"Cascatelli is great, but his second round of shapes, specifically vesuvio, might be better."
- mriners
"Agreed. Vesuvio is peak."
- jll3523
Quattrotini
"I prefer quattrotini. I find it has better forkability and toothsinkability."
- banjo215
Fusilli
"Fusilli because it's silly."
- HorrorxHeart
Bucatini
"Bucatini is the best of all worlds. You have everything that's great about the long noodles and it's hollow! It absorbs sauce and oil on the inside."
- winterORgethen
"I hate bucatini! You can't suck a protruding part into your mouth because of the hole in the middle. You can't pick it up with a fork, because it's too slippery with sauce."
- CalTechie-55
Penne
"Penne... because the sauce is in AND on it, lol (laughing out loud)."
- secretxamy
Orecchiette
"Orecchiette."
- Realistic_Try_6738
"The pasta that would literally drive me insane if I tried to make it from scratch."
- BullsOnParadeFloats
Farfalle
"Farfalle."
- Preference-Best
"I came to say this. Just something about it. Amazing mouth feel. Great texture. Good with light and heavy, meaty sauces."
- Fracture_98
"This one. There’s something so nostalgic about it for me. And I feel like it does well with most sauces. A very versatile shape for a variety of pasta dishes."
- BlueHeelerChemist
Linguine
"Linguine: the spaghetti that went to private school."
- feeflet
"I am totally on board with linguine. Flat to catch the sauce and thin enough to cook evenly for the perfect consistency! Pairs with many sauces too!"
- Odd_Calligrapher_407
Pappardelle
"Pappardelle."
"Flat pasta is better than round pasta (like spaghetti) for sauces and flavors being absorbed. It's long enough to give the lady and the tramp vibes and not feel like you're a kid eating some superhero shapes out of a bowl like Fusilli and Farfalle can give off."
"It's thicker than tagliatelle to give it enough girth to feel like more of a main event than just being the bed your sauce and toppings sit on."
"Overall, it's just the best all-rounder in my book."
- bawjaws2000
This conversation just goes to show how many pasta options there actually are in the world, some that we may have not even heard of yet, because of them being invented in 2020!
But it also goes to show that we all have our favorites, and we can have very strong opinions about them.
One of life's most unfortunate moments is when we feel our lives are genuinely in danger.
These horrific moments can involve the behavior of people with malicious intentions or just being at the wrong place and time.
Even though many people live to share their harrowing stories, the trauma doesn't necessarily go away completely.
But all anyone who's experienced a terrifying ordeal can do to find peace is to count their blessings and be grateful they are survivors.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Fearless-surfur-ee asked:
"What was the scariest incident happened with you?"
These Redditors experienced heart-stopping false alarms.
Wrong Target
"Half a dozen masked men broke into my bedroom, threatened me and my girlfriend, realised they had the wrong house, apologised and left. Edit - I told the full story here a while back."
– The-Go-Kid
Witness At A Shopping Mall
"Similar thing happened to my Aunt. She witnessed an attack at a shopping centre (on going disagreement between 2 well known families) and was threatened. A few days later one of the older family members approached her in her driveway and apologised profusely for the younger persons behaviour and offered her compensation. She was so scared she just said no thanks and he left."
– pokerdotts
Sometimes, you gotta listen to your gut.
Unplanned Detour
"Wife and I took a dark exit towards out neighborhood. Whole backseat full of bags cause we went shopping at the mall. There’s a red light at the intersection once you get off the exit and we pull up to this tinted oldsmobile. They were in the right lane to go straight or turn right and we were in the left lane to turn left."
"Nobody is around, maybe 10 at night. I turn left and look in my rear view and it’s the car that was next to us a bit back. I pull in my driveway and just had a really weird feeling, so I told my wife I’m gonna reverse and drive around the block. She thinks it’s weird as hell, but as we are reversing, this dude is walking towards us from that Oldsmobile parked around the corner. I dip the f**k out and make it look like I was just turning around and drove like a mile away before heading back."
"Just had this gut feeling, man. Who knows what would have happened? But it was scary as f'k, nonetheless."
– One_pop_each
A Tragic Stop
"Friend borrowed dad’s Benz to take wife on anniversary date. He stopped for flowers and was followed home by someone thinking he was wealthy. He was shot dead in his driveway in what turned out to be a gang initiation; you did the right thing."
– busjockey
These Redditors looked down the barrel of a gun...and lived to tell their story.
Fearless
"Was at a train station that was empty and I was sitting down waiting for a train and a man walks over with a bag, opens it and takes out a shotgun and points it at me and I just stare at him, he then says 'you're not scared are you' then puts the shotgun back in the bag then walks out of the train station."
"Actually not sure if that was the scariest or weirdest or if I was even scared."
– XenomorphXx121
The Right Answer
"Reminds me of the time a guy put a gun to my neck and said, 'What would you do if I pull the trigger right now.'"
"I was in a completely apathetic state of mind at that time anyway and said, 'Not much I can do, but I'll haunt you.'"
– lazerchin
These Redditors experienced medical emergencies.
Lucky Patient
"Last week had a heart attack after almost recovering from chemotherapy."
"I asked the nurse if I was going to die and she said I’m in the right place and they will look after me. Then I got more scared then I ever have before"
"I should not have survived but I did."
– Fistandantalus
Urgent Appointment
"The scan came back and we found a mass. We'd like you to come in to talk to the doctor today or tomorrow. You should see if someone can drive for you as you may be upset afterwards"
"Can I come in next week, I have a trip planned?"
"The doctor says you should come in today anytime and we will clear an appointment for you."
"Luckily that doctor kicked a**. 3 years post-surgery. Scans are clean in August and I move into the "only 10% chance of reoccurrence" bracket."
– Meet_the_Meat
Mysterious Illness
"Felt sick, kind of like the flu. Felt completely fine in the morning, but got worse as the day went on. It was the middle of the night and I was up with my husband and our new 6 week old baby. I was pumping breastmilk."
"Next thing I know, I’m waking up to EMTs surrounding me on my bed telling me not to move or sit up. My heart rate was incredibly high and blood pressure incredibly low. They took me to the hospital and no one knew what was wrong with me for a while. They kept asking me what drugs I took. I kept telling them nothing (which is true). I just had a baby, the biggest 'drug' I was taking was Tylenol. They didn’t believe me for a while."
"I couldn’t remember a lot of things at this point. I could barely even remember my own kid’s name. I couldn’t tell them who the president was or what year it was when they asked. It was a weird feeling to have memory missing. Kind of like having lost some puzzle pieces. Talking was also kind of difficult."
"After a BUNCH of tests, turns out I had a UTI so bad that I went into septic shock and my kidneys were shutting down. Didn’t know I had a UTI because I was still healing from childbirth and I am pretty asymptomatic when it comes to UTIs. I don’t feel pain when I get them. Spent a few days in the ICCU. Was extra scary considering my brand new baby was at home and I wasn’t and there was a chance I wouldn’t make it home at all."
"In the end, I thankfully made a full recovery."
"Not as intense as some of these other stories, but please don’t sleep on a UTI guys. Sepsis is no joke."
– mxbear
The last time I truly feared for my life was when I was at a party and a fight between two drunk partygoers turned into a Swiss army knife fight.
I'm not kidding.
A couple of my friends and I jumped off the second floor balcony and got chased in the parking lot.
After some fumbling with the car keys, my buddy managed to get five of us crammed into his car and the perpetrator started pounding on the rear window with his fists and bloodying it up from smashing his knuckles onto the glass.
The police came just in time. Thank you annoyed neighbor who called the cops on us for our blood-curdling screams disturbing the peace.
Perhaps the best thing about our friends is that we can always rely on them.
To help us out, to give us words of comfort and wisdom when we need them, or to just be a willing pair of ears.
Even so, our friends still have a way of surprising us, as well as disappointing us from time to time.
Sometimes they'll do things that just make us groan and roll our eyes but are easily forgiven over time.
Other times, however, they might do or say something which can only be described as "f*cked up."
Potentially putting an effective end to your friendship.
"What is the most f**ked up thing you've seen a friend do?"
Those Poor Cats...
"A guy I worked with was about to take his wife on a trip back to their mutual hometown in another state."
"They had a pair of delightful kittens and they asked me if I would watch them while they were gone."
"I had little experience with cats but these 2 were just wonderfully playful."
"I gave him a call when he got back to arrange returning the kittens but he said they had picked up a non-cat friendly dog on the journey and he would just drop off the kittens in the woods."
"Needless to say, I kept them and they were wonderful furry friends for me and eventually to my wife and kids."
"I still think what would have happened to them if I had not been in the right place at the right time."- PoloGrounder
"I went on holiday for a week and asked my 'best friend' to pop in and feed my cat (he lived a few doors away)."
"When I got back, my cat was laying by the back door of my house, went inside and his bowl was empty, I called him and asked when the last time he fed him, he said 'oh yeah, I forgot'."
"My cat had been outside for a week with no food or water. "
"I haven't spoken to him in 12 years."- Reddit
Always Listen To Your Doctor
"Convinced his girlfriend she was suffering from gluten intolerance instead of schizophrenia, and got her to stop taking medication."- lightningandmadness
But Was It A Point Worth Proving?
"Deliberately get knocked down by a car, in order to prove that when drunk (and we were very drunk), his bones were flexible."
"Fortunately, the car had been slowing to turn."
"There followed a couple of minutes trying to reassure the driver he was ok, whilst calling him an idiot."
"Meanwhile, he was laying flat on his back, maintaining he'd proved his point."- anothercynicaloldgit
It Is Never Attractive To Gloat
"Best friend was excited for me to meet his new gf."
"The whole evening he bragged about how she was still married and he was going to be the reason she got divorced."
"Haven't spoken to him since."
"Did hear she broke up with him and sorted out the issues with her husband."- hmfiddlesworth
Karma Is Pretty Unforgiving...
"Brought my friend to watch my boyfriend practice his drumming."
"She kept spreading her legs wide wearing a skirt with no underwear."
"She slept with him and he left me thinking he would be with her."
"Needless to say she didn’t date him because she already had a boyfriend."- Final_Objective_6204Kar
Shameless
"We were working in an old lady's attic and he kicked the sh*t out of a pipe on purpose then went and told her it needed to be replaced."
"I never worked with him again after that."- FriendlyDifference72
Oh, Honey...
"Brag about a then—boyfriend not leaving her despite constant cheating."
"Then cry when he left her."
"I don’t know either."- Snapesnape716
In With The Wrong Crowd
"They were arguing and he made fun of the friend for being an orphan."
"Tried to stab the other friend cuz his ex was crushing on him."- we_are_ghetto
Not Worth A Second Thought
"Throw McDonald’s fries and burger as hard as he could at a homeless lady asking for food."
"I called him a piece of sh*t and never spoke to him again."- Mundane_Tour_3215
You Don't Mess With Family...
"My best friend had just broken up with my brother—who had moved over a thousand miles and changed jobs to be with her—citing personal differences."
"My brother was devastated, but I tried to respect her decision and be a source of support for both of them, especially because they truly weren’t the best fit."
"But then she shared with me, because she knew that I loved her and would be happy for her so long as she was happy, that she’d been cheating on my brother for the past month and had found her soulmate."
"The depth of my brother’s heartbreak, already immense, was further compounded by the infidelity."
"To my bewilderment, she truly couldn’t understand why I was ending the friendship, seemed so distraught that I would end a years long relationship over something so 'small'."
"And I still can’t comprehend why she thought telling me would result in anything other than a complete door slam."
"Hannah, you still suck."
"And I’m still angry."
"I had also asked her to be the maid of 'honor' in my upcoming wedding."
"Ironic."- bitetime
Some friendships can withstand fundamental differences of opinion.
But no friendship is worth hanging onto when people (and kittens) are physically or emotionally harmed.