Not everyone is a great judge of character, and not everyone who is a bad person is comic book villain variety evil, so it makes sense that there would be some popular people who aren't quite as great as they seem to lost people.
Reddit user u/tomdrc1 asked:
Some responses edited for content, clarity or profanity.
This girl who I knew from school. She's super religious and is trying to be a famous vlogger on YouTube talking about her faith. She seems so fake to me! Like she also writes blogs. She recently got married and wrote a blog about how they were waiting until the wedding to have their first kiss. But I know she has given her last boyfriend oral. So she writes about how she waited to have her first kiss with her now husband at their wedding because God wants her to. Whatever. She just flaunts her faith and everyone seems to love her and how spiritual she is. I can hardly stand her.
Edit: I didn't even include this but I guess this is probably the main reason she isn't a good person in my eyes. So when she got engaged she started to feel guilty that she has a sexual history her family and fiancé didn't know about. So she told them that she had given someone a blowout. But she said the guy forced her too and didn't consent. For weeks her family and fiancé thought this but weren't planning on taking action because girl didn't want them too. Family kept pushing her to report it to the police.
Then she revealed she lied. She had wanted to and was just embarrassed so she made it up. The guy she lied about is a friend of mine and one of the kindest people. The only reason I know about this is because her dad worked for my dad and had told my dad the entire thing looking for advice.
Former colleague. Was sweet as sugar to everyone, sucking up and being really obvious about it, but also never admitted to making mistakes and somehow... idk, she just did it really well.
At the same time, she bullied me in subtle ways that would be invisible to anyone else. Excluding me from work social events. Sending me out to run the wrong errand or only half of it. 'Forgetting' to tell me about things I needed to do or meetings I needed to be at. What a b*tch.
I used to work with this guy who was nice enough, but everyone swore he was the funniest guy you've ever met. He was taking a few weeks off of work when I first arrived, so I hadn't met him yet and everyone talked him up as the office funny-guy. When I finally met him, he would always just quote 2000s comedy movies (Step-brothers, Superbad, Wedding Crashers, Etc.) but get the quotes extremely wrong. Like painfully incorrect.
Everyone ate it up and said how funny he was, but I never saw it. It was really just bizarre how funny people thought incorrectly regurgitated Will Ferrell quotes were. Especially if he said them at a loud enough volume.
There were only two of us working underneath him and like 45 people above him.
He was obsequious and charming with the higher ups and treated me like garbage. My coworker was on the road 95% of the time so never got to fully experience how unhinged this guy was.
Because everyone liked him so much, my complaints about him fell on deaf ears, and were even turned against me to make me look like the crazy one ("Everyone gets along with Brock, how could you not like him?")
Eventually he was promoted, but that said enough about the company culture for me to quit.
A girl I used to work with was nasty! We're in healthcare so sanitation matters. She was always putting her hand IN her pants to scratch or adjust her thong and then would handle equipment with her nasty hands. I caught several times where she didn't properly clean a room after a procedure and there was blood still on equipment.
I told my manager several times but she was friends with a doctor and our owner so no one wanted to do anything about it.
I finally told my manager that she either needed to fire her or i would call OSHA and make complaints to them. Finally, she was fired.
A teacher from my primary school. His students all thought he was hilarious, entertaining, kind, engaging, etc etc etc. All good things. I only ever saw him as a small minded control freak and bully. He sent me to detention because I didn't remember something from a previous class... A class I had missed due to an unavoidable appointment that he knew full well about.
He made jokes about my performance in school shows. When I answered questions correctly, he called me a show off, know it all etc. When I was in charge of writing something for a school show he told me I'd done everything wrong and was stupid, without any help to improve. One time he pulled my chair out from underneath me to prove some kind of point. F*cking hate that man.
My ex. We broke up 2 years ago. We are both from a very small town where everyone knows everyone and all of their business. In the year or so after we broke up, everyone would come up to me and say "Awww, I didn't know you dated ________. He is SOOOO awesome.
I love him! What happened?!" I only told about 3 people (my closest girlfriends) that our relationship ended because he cheated on me. I didn't want to be that bitter girl that talks sh*t about him to everyone. But man, something deep down inside of me wants so badly for people to know how bad he treated me and that he has cheated on almost every one of his exes.
Me. People tend to think I am smart, capable, friendly, even a few peole think I'm attractive. I think that I am lazy, reclusive, curt, and a bit overweight. I hate receiving praise for anything because honestly, I could have done better and every time I get invited to a social event I think people are doing it out of routine since I usually bail on plans. I don't get my appeal.
My AP history teacher
Everyone loved him for flamboyantly dressing up as historical figures for class but I hated his snobby @ss for threatening to send kids who didn't finish their HW to shop class.
The dude literally thought book smarts were superior to mechanical aptitude and the trades.
She spins unbelievable yarns but never anything you can call out. Stuff like 'Ive got the heaviest deadlift of all the girls in my gym' she is pretty strong so ok, maybe. Then 'i shot the biggest deer ever shot in my region' ok, i dont know enough about deer to dispute that. 'I hold the course record for obscure horse race'. Possibly? Tried to google it, but no results came up.
All sound moderately reasonable but the endless stream of elite bests and her own persona make me doubt it all, but people seem to be totally wow-ed by her amazing all round successes. Have tried to buddy buddy (i also like a good deadlift) and she dodges any attempts to lift together. I used to ride so asked more about the race and got a 'oh you wouldn't know it, its invite only for certain level riders' answer. 99% sure its all horsesh*t but the 1% stops me from calling it out.
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Narcissism is never a particularly attractive quality.
Which is rather ironic, considering narcissists believe they are simply the be all and end all, that everyone wants them or wants to be them.
Yet spending extended periods of time with people who are so egregiously obsessed with themselves can be simply exhausting, as they frequently find a way of veering the conversation back to themselves.
Making it all the more tempting to give them a taste of their own medicine, and find a way to annoy them.
Redditor RockyCasino was curious to hear people's favorite ways to annoy or anger narcissists, leading them to ask:
"How do you get under a narcissist's skin?"
A Bit Underwhelming, No?
"Grey rock technique."
"I don’t know if it was specifically designed to deal with narcissistic people, but it works wonders on people with NPD or just narcissistic traits."
"If they say 'I just won an award that’s only given to a handful of people. I really don’t work that hard (fishing for compliment) though, teehee!'"
"You just say 'that’s cool' and nothing more."
"They’ll try another line or two, so you may have to repeat the process."- False-Guess
Ignorance Is TRULY Bliss
"Don't try to."
"Just ignore them."- Envy_The_King
"Ignore them."- mimijane73ron swanson spinning GIFGiphy
Seriously, Just Ignore Them!
"Give them zero attention."
"That will drive them insane."- sigmindm
"My father is a narcissist."
"Ignoring them will almost certainly get under their skin and even make them angry."- handsomejack191
"Go no contact."
"It's the only way."- Motor-Beach-4564Go Away Reaction GIFGiphy
"Start communicating with the other people they manipulate."
"Narcissists will often pit people against each other."
"They like to keep the people they lie to separated so they don't communicate with one another and possibly figure out they're being manipulate."
"When you start communicating with them independently, it takes away the narcissists feeling of power and control."
Don't Take The Bait!
" think my mom's one."
"She LOVES pushing people's buttons til they snap at her, then acting like she's been wronged."
"But it totally enrages her if you don't engage her baiting game."- Altruistic_Proof_272
Take Your Pick...
"Things that worked for me were ignoring them, being very unemotional, not reacting to their contrived insults, limiting eye contact and keeping interactions very short."- Nice_Feeling4398
Move On, And Don't Look Back
"When you live a really happy life and forget about them."
"Like genuinely, take the time, heal from the trauma, block them from all social media, they will lash out, so it's best to establish distance before moving on."- MinghaolegsLeaving James Harden GIF by Farmers Insurance ®Giphy
Indeed, for people who thrive off of being the center of attention, nothing could possibly annoy them more than being ignored.
Unless, perhaps, everyone devotes their attention to someone else in plain sight of them...
With more and more unfortunate stories about misconduct in the news, there is an understandably low opinion of police officers in the United States.
Though we should always remember that the corrupt or ill-suited cops we read about in the news do not represent all police officers.
For law enforcement is by all means necessary, and can be an extremely taxing job, both physically and emotionally.
With many police officers coming in contact with people who have gone through experiences no one deserves to go through.
Redditor Fish_f*cker12300 was curious to hear some of the most unfortunate things police officers have been told by convicts they've come in contact with, leading them to ask:
"Cops of Reddit what is the saddest thing a criminal has said?"
Cold Comfort At It's Worst
"I nicked a guy for attempted murder once."
"I had met him before a few times, usually when he was a suspect."
"He just said 'even now, you're still the closest thing I've got to a proper friend'."- ConsTisi
They Learn At A Young Age, For Better Or Worse
"Work security in a town's retail supermarket."
"Watched the local drug dealer force his son of about 8 to shoplift some pastries."
"Nothing about this boy would have made him stand out as this man's son, just an ordinary looking kid but his father wanted to make him into a man by teaching him how to steal."
"Four years later and this boy is clearly his fathers son."- Seoirse82
Their Fate Is Already In the Cards
"Speaking to a juvenile in the cells with a butt load of warrants for stealing cars and armed robberies."
"Told me the only way he could get toys is if he stole them, and his parents would never help him with his homework but showed him what to say to get free McDonald's and how to avoid getting caught shop lifting."
"Some kids have no hope and are just going to end up in the system."- Terror_Tanuki
Some Rob Out Of Necessity
"A lot of stores were looted, and people were walking off with multiple TVs, appliances etc."
"Some citizen journalist was out on the streets, stopping looters, and interviewing them."
"It's winter, it's dark, and suddenly this little kid appears, holding a single bag."
"Couldn't have been more than 8."
"The citizen journalist stops him, and demands to see what's in the bag."
"He opens it up."
"One pair of pants."
"One pair of shoes."
"A three pack of underwear."
"This little kid had followed a group of adults into a chaotic situation and taken what he needed, and only what he needed."
"I can't watch the clip without sobbing."
"The interviewer sent the kid off with his little bag of one single, looted outfit."
"The final shot is of this tiny little thing, walking into the darkness, barefoot and alone."
"It was absolutely heartbreaking."- GCB78
Victims Of Circumstance
"Afghan in 2011-2012."
"Was on patrol pretty much doing cop work sometimes."
"We’d go door to door or compound to compound and our Lieutenant would talk to locals with our translator."
"During one of the meetings I was inside working as a sort of guard for my Lt."
"The guy he was talking to came up positive for gun trace residue and was a confirmed Taliban in the eye scanner thing we had."
"When my Lt questioned him before we detained him, he told my Lt that he didn’t want to fight us, but if he didn’t the Taliban would kill his family."
"I was 18-19 and my Lt was 24-25, now I’m 29 and I realize that war was all f*cked."- surf0302
Desperate To Change Their Circumstance
"I worked in a day program and a prevocational program."
"My clients came from institutions and were doing program as part of their conditions of release."
"One of my groups ran a hotdogs cart and they profit shared, after cart expenses."
"They made very little, they were on assistance so it wasn't an income supplement it was more of a perk."
"Anyways I had this one woman, she had been a sex worker since she 12, she was in her 40s."
"Her first week was a nightmare."
"She was late."
"Struggled to cut the onions."
"But she showed up each day late, frantic and crying to not be fired."
"She worked for 1 hour each day."
"The following week when she came to pick up her pay, a whole whopping $11.50, she burst into tears."
"I thought it was because it was it was so little money."
"She acted as if I had given her a thousand dollars and an Oscar."
"She clutched the little envelope and cried."
"She said 'it's the first money I ever made not on my back'."
"'Never thought I could'."
"We hugged she skipped off happily."
"Then I sobbed in the bathroom for 5 minutes."- MoxieAndSass
A Warning For Others...
"Sex worker asked if I had a daughter & likely could tell by my face that I did before I could answer."
"Tell her she's two bad choices away."- jjreason
Day in and day out, cops and others working in criminal justice are forced to come face to face with the fact that not everyone is dealt an equal hand in life.
And learn that some people break the law, not for self-gain, but because they truly and utterly feel that they have no other choice.
Making the need for programs to help them find a better path forward all the more important.
The term "fan" is believed to be derived from "fanatic" or "fanatical.
Meaning "a person filled with excessive and single-minded zeal".
Indeed, some fans simply can't hide their excitement for their favorite franchises, sports teams, recording artists, or political figures, no matter how hard they try.
Resulting in the birth of such monikers as "Trekkies", "Beliebers", or "Cumberb*tches."
And while these passionate, some might say obsessive, fan bases often find compatriots at conventions, premieres and meet-ups, those unfamiliar with the apples of their respective eyes might be confused by their level of fandom, if not down right annoyed.
"What is the most annoying fan base?"
"This will probably get buried, but back in 2012-2015 I was in the Creepypasta Fandom."
"The people in that Fandom were psychotic, it was crazy."- ElenoaL
"Serial killer fans."- xcxaxsxpxexr
Bring On The Clap-Backs...
"The fanbase of Rupauls Drag Race is pretty notorious for sending death threats to the hard working talented people they’re supposed to be a fan of."- rubenblomRupauls Drag Race Reaction GIFGiphy
All Of Them. Literally, ALL OF THEM!
"Any fan base if you go deep enough."
"Just go to one of those subs for a small Netflix show you’ve binged in a day."- qwerty12qwerty
"Evil Is Out There"... It's The Fans!
"Coming from a genuine fan of the show, I think that the Supernatural fanbase needs to pipe the f*ck down."- AaryanKearns
My Favorite Group Is Better Than Yours!!!
"Kpop fans who take things a bit too far."
"I had friends who'd have fights over who is 'worthy' to be called the wife of one of the kpop idols, no they weren't joking."- CaprisalK Pop Reaction GIFGiphy
Hence The State Of American Politics...
"Politicians' fan base."- NikinhoRobo
It's A Hedgehog Guys...
"Sonic fans are always a gamble."
"They can be so god damn wholesome and nice but then you got the f*cking weirdos."
"I don’t mean the kids who make fan characters."
"I personally don’t know why they are hated I find it to be wholesome seeing kids make art based of their interests."
"Im talking about the people who rage over any criticism towards the games, comics, developers, etc."- CaptainCringeOng
You Know They've Gone Too Far When They Name Themselves...
"I'm put off by any fanbase that has a collective name."
"'The B-Hive' and so forth."
"In almost every case it feels really forced."
"Football (soccer) Twitter is full of d*ckheads too.'
'The further away from the team's home ground they live, the worse they get.'Euro 2016 England GIF by SporzaGiphy
"Playstation VS Xbox ."
'iPhone vs Android."
"Those people."- L33HDX
There's nothing wrong being a fan of someone or something, no matter how fanatical you get.
Though it would be in everyone's best interest to learn how to temper those feelings around others, as not everyone will share your passionate feelings.
Just ask any Yankees fan who's dared to wear their team's cap in Boston...
Usually when we meet someone for the first time whether at a social function, at work, or randomly in public, we generally have a good Spidey sense about the type of person they are.
Even with alcohol in the mix, our instincts can be dulled but we still continue engaging with someone who seems outgoing and friendly enough at the bar.
But we also have the ability to tell right away if that person doesn't have good intentions.
Curious to hear of possible identifiers signaling that someone is suspicious, Redditor PsychologicalPop8776 asked:
"What is a subtle sign someone isn’t a good person?"
These familiar types of behavior really shows a person's true colors.
It Works Both Ways
"They believe that respect is earned but demand it immediately from you."
Prelude To A Diss
"Or, conversely, when they love to constantly say 'With all due respect' right before they disrespect someone."
A World Of Their Own
"Someone who is incapable of reflecting. They are the centre of their own universe. They are unable to grasp the big picture or how they fit within it. Everyone has a place in the larger picture, which is their small view of the world."
"They share private information about others with you."
"Casual unnecessary lying."
Saying "sorry" is too much for some people to say.
Passing On Responsibility
"Not owning up to their mistakes and always attributing it to someone or something else."
"My mom's famous line when caught doing something wrong 'Well, I didn't know' instead of 'I'm sorry.'"
"Obligatory posting of The Narcissist's Prayer:"
'That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.'
Sometimes, it's the visible signals that indicate what kind of person someone is.
"Littering. It's not a violent act or anything, but it does indicate a lack of respect that usually carries into other aspects of the person's life."
"Yes. Watched a guy stick his gum on the underside of the bar and instantly knew we wouldn’t be going on another date."
Parking Lot Protocol
"Yes, kinda along the same lines of people who don’t return their grocery cart. That lack of respect."
Communicating With Drivers
"I feel the same way about a number of things people do when driving, specifically using your turn signal. The use of your signal lets other drivers (and sometimes pedestrians) know your intent - allowing them to better anticipate your actions. Not using it indicates you are only thinking about yourself...which is probably how you live the rest of your life."
I was in a packed movie theater once when I saw a woman sitting by herself. She wasn't waiting on anyone but she still saved a seat on either side of her.
When a couple entered her row, one of them politely asked if it would be cool if the woman moved down one seat so she could sit together with her boyfriend.
The woman said, "No" and stayed in her seat. I could hear a chorus of snickers from other audience members witnessing this.
Shocked, the girlfriend said, "Really? You're a horrible person."
Yeah, sounds about right.
Throughout the entire movie, the couple–who wound up flanking the woman on either side of her in their respective seats–kept passing the popcorn bucket to each other right in front of the woman.
In addition to the movie, this was a satisfying plot line to watch.