Not everyone is a great judge of character, and not everyone who is a bad person is comic book villain variety evil, so it makes sense that there would be some popular people who aren't quite as great as they seem to lost people.
Reddit user u/tomdrc1 asked:
Some responses edited for content, clarity or profanity.
This girl who I knew from school. She's super religious and is trying to be a famous vlogger on YouTube talking about her faith. She seems so fake to me! Like she also writes blogs. She recently got married and wrote a blog about how they were waiting until the wedding to have their first kiss. But I know she has given her last boyfriend oral. So she writes about how she waited to have her first kiss with her now husband at their wedding because God wants her to. Whatever. She just flaunts her faith and everyone seems to love her and how spiritual she is. I can hardly stand her.
Edit: I didn't even include this but I guess this is probably the main reason she isn't a good person in my eyes. So when she got engaged she started to feel guilty that she has a sexual history her family and fiancé didn't know about. So she told them that she had given someone a blowout. But she said the guy forced her too and didn't consent. For weeks her family and fiancé thought this but weren't planning on taking action because girl didn't want them too. Family kept pushing her to report it to the police.
Then she revealed she lied. She had wanted to and was just embarrassed so she made it up. The guy she lied about is a friend of mine and one of the kindest people. The only reason I know about this is because her dad worked for my dad and had told my dad the entire thing looking for advice.
Former colleague. Was sweet as sugar to everyone, sucking up and being really obvious about it, but also never admitted to making mistakes and somehow... idk, she just did it really well.
At the same time, she bullied me in subtle ways that would be invisible to anyone else. Excluding me from work social events. Sending me out to run the wrong errand or only half of it. 'Forgetting' to tell me about things I needed to do or meetings I needed to be at. What a b*tch.
I used to work with this guy who was nice enough, but everyone swore he was the funniest guy you've ever met. He was taking a few weeks off of work when I first arrived, so I hadn't met him yet and everyone talked him up as the office funny-guy. When I finally met him, he would always just quote 2000s comedy movies (Step-brothers, Superbad, Wedding Crashers, Etc.) but get the quotes extremely wrong. Like painfully incorrect.
Everyone ate it up and said how funny he was, but I never saw it. It was really just bizarre how funny people thought incorrectly regurgitated Will Ferrell quotes were. Especially if he said them at a loud enough volume.
There were only two of us working underneath him and like 45 people above him.
He was obsequious and charming with the higher ups and treated me like garbage. My coworker was on the road 95% of the time so never got to fully experience how unhinged this guy was.
Because everyone liked him so much, my complaints about him fell on deaf ears, and were even turned against me to make me look like the crazy one ("Everyone gets along with Brock, how could you not like him?")
Eventually he was promoted, but that said enough about the company culture for me to quit.
A girl I used to work with was nasty! We're in healthcare so sanitation matters. She was always putting her hand IN her pants to scratch or adjust her thong and then would handle equipment with her nasty hands. I caught several times where she didn't properly clean a room after a procedure and there was blood still on equipment.
I told my manager several times but she was friends with a doctor and our owner so no one wanted to do anything about it.
I finally told my manager that she either needed to fire her or i would call OSHA and make complaints to them. Finally, she was fired.
A teacher from my primary school. His students all thought he was hilarious, entertaining, kind, engaging, etc etc etc. All good things. I only ever saw him as a small minded control freak and bully. He sent me to detention because I didn't remember something from a previous class... A class I had missed due to an unavoidable appointment that he knew full well about.
He made jokes about my performance in school shows. When I answered questions correctly, he called me a show off, know it all etc. When I was in charge of writing something for a school show he told me I'd done everything wrong and was stupid, without any help to improve. One time he pulled my chair out from underneath me to prove some kind of point. F*cking hate that man.
My ex. We broke up 2 years ago. We are both from a very small town where everyone knows everyone and all of their business. In the year or so after we broke up, everyone would come up to me and say "Awww, I didn't know you dated ________. He is SOOOO awesome.
I love him! What happened?!" I only told about 3 people (my closest girlfriends) that our relationship ended because he cheated on me. I didn't want to be that bitter girl that talks sh*t about him to everyone. But man, something deep down inside of me wants so badly for people to know how bad he treated me and that he has cheated on almost every one of his exes.
Me. People tend to think I am smart, capable, friendly, even a few peole think I'm attractive. I think that I am lazy, reclusive, curt, and a bit overweight. I hate receiving praise for anything because honestly, I could have done better and every time I get invited to a social event I think people are doing it out of routine since I usually bail on plans. I don't get my appeal.
My AP history teacher
Everyone loved him for flamboyantly dressing up as historical figures for class but I hated his snobby @ss for threatening to send kids who didn't finish their HW to shop class.
The dude literally thought book smarts were superior to mechanical aptitude and the trades.
She spins unbelievable yarns but never anything you can call out. Stuff like 'Ive got the heaviest deadlift of all the girls in my gym' she is pretty strong so ok, maybe. Then 'i shot the biggest deer ever shot in my region' ok, i dont know enough about deer to dispute that. 'I hold the course record for obscure horse race'. Possibly? Tried to google it, but no results came up.
All sound moderately reasonable but the endless stream of elite bests and her own persona make me doubt it all, but people seem to be totally wow-ed by her amazing all round successes. Have tried to buddy buddy (i also like a good deadlift) and she dodges any attempts to lift together. I used to ride so asked more about the race and got a 'oh you wouldn't know it, its invite only for certain level riders' answer. 99% sure its all horsesh*t but the 1% stops me from calling it out.
- People Share The Dumbest Mistake They've Ever Seen An Incompetent Coworker Make - George Takei ›
- People Explain Which Foods Everyone Seems To Love That They Can't Stomach - George Takei ›
- How to Work With Someone You Hate - The Muse ›
- The Pain in Being Loved When You Hate Yourself | The Mighty ›
- Why do some people hate love? - Quora ›
- 17 People Describe Falling In Love With Someone They Hated At First ›
- Why You Should Love The People You Hate ›
- Why Do People Love to Hate Steven Pinker? - The Chronicle of ... ›
- Stossel: Ayn Rand–The Author People Love to Hate – Reason.com ›
- How to love someone you hate | Articles | NewSpring Church ›
- Why Some People Hate Being Hugged, According to Science | Time ›
- The Incompetent Heart: Why People Love to Hate You – Personal ... ›
Life can be full of scary things, including fatal injuries or situations. That's why it's so important for human beings to tap into their creative side, and listen to other human beings.
Redditors are a great example of creative and information-sharing human beings. They've posted many, many crazy facts that could actually save a life!
We have Redditor hazard35 to thank for this, who asked:
"What are some real but crazy facts that could save your life?"
Call The Hospital
"Not too crazy but if someone is acting drunk but didnt had any alcohol, ask them to smile, if one side of their mouth is down, take them to a doctor cause they are having or will have a stroke"
"If you sit down to sh*t in prison, remove one foot completely from your pants so you can get up and fight if attacked."
"Car jacks are for lifting, not holding."
"So f*ckin true. The amount of people that go under their cars while its on a jack is astounding. Jack stands arent even that expensive; there is no excuse to not have them"
Sweating Your Life Away
"If you find yourself stranded in a desert, ration sweat, not water. Of course don’t drink all of your water in one go, but the rate a which you’ll dehydrate and overheat if exerting yourself (e.g. walking/hiking too fast or climbing over obstacles in the heat of the day) will kill you much quicker. Many people are found dead, with water, which is terrifying."
"Teabags stop bleeding. They have an acid called tannic which is a natural clotting agent."
Disaster Is Coming
"If the forest suddenly falls silent stop and listen. More often than not it means apex predator is near."
"Or earthquake or some other natural disasters is incoming QUICK. This happened to me before a 5.(something) in California. The forest got deathly silent, creeped the hell outa me."
In The Meantime
"A non-permeable snack bag, like a potato chip bag, and duct tape can be used to seal a sucking chest wound long enough to get the victim to a hospital."
"Would imagine though, it would be best to ensure the side covered in flaming hot cheeto dust is on the outside"
""Dude your breath totally smells like cool ranch""
""Drive me to the hospital a**hole""
"If you see a male who’s been in an accident and he has a massive b*ner; then he likely has spinal damage. You should not move him in the slightest, unless otherwise directed."
"If your house smells like fish for absolutely no reason, 9 times out of 10 it means that there is an electrical fire. The other time it means you need to take a shower."
"If it’s cloudy outside and you suddenly feel static run down your body and your hairs raise. Better pucker them cheeks and drop to the ground. Lightning is about to hit dangerously close to you."
I just learned 10 new facts that will help me to save a life. Of course, I hope I never have to!
Life is full of social situations, and social situations call for certain rules of behavior. Professional dinners require professional clothing, in retail, the customer is always right, and when you're with other people, you should be bubbly and outgoing, not quiet and reserved.
The thing is, some of these rules and behaviors are ridiculous, and just stress people out.
There are plenty of behaviors that aren't considered socially acceptable, but should be.
"What is something that is considered socially unacceptable, however honestly shouldn't be?"
Death Is Not Happening
"Tell folks you’re dying and they’ll find ways to pretend that you’re not. It’s weird."
"Man, I still remember when I was like 22, my cousin asked if he could come see me, and I said sure come on over at like 2. I was so excited for him to come over, I bought snacks and beer, and set up both my xboxes and tv's in the living room so we could hang out and game."
"He showed up and he explained he's having a hard time because his biological dad OD'd and it was up to him as next of kin to decide whether to pull the plug. My cousin didn't even know the man. He was absent from his life since before day one."
"I didn't know what to do, so I offered him some Dorito's and a controller."
"I still panic thinking about the fact that he came to me for help and I just shut down."
Maybe I Just Don't Want A Drink
"In my country (especially on the island I am from) it is considered an offend by most people when you refuse the drink they offer you."
"It doesn't matter if you have to drive (and it's obviously illegal to drink and drive) or already feel drunk and don't want to drink any more."
"This shouldn't be a thing... People should respect others when they wish to stay sober."
"Me and my husband have found a way around it though. We always carry a pack of medicine and whenever someone tries to pressure us into drinking we show it and be say "sorry, I am on medication for my tooth and it shouldn't be mixed with alcohol". That seems to do the trick... (it's a good excuse if any of you people need to avoid drinking, that's why I am sharing it, sorry if it's off topic)"
Rude Does Not Equal Right
"Calling customers out on poor behaviour."
"I got fired for this last year after I had had it from all older customers berating me after the holidays"
"Fr. They gotta make some kind of law that states that service staff cant be fired for standing up for themselves and not taking sh*t from customers"
Isn't Honesty The Best Policy?
"Telling someone you don’t want to go or do something without making up an excuse. We all sometimes just “don’t feel like it.” That is ok!!!
EDIT: Woah… glad so many of you can relate. And of course, thank you everyone for the awards!"
"Or leaving a function when you feel like it."
"I was wing-woman on a double date with my friend and two guys I couldn’t have been less interested in. We did dinner and then ended up at a bar. I said I was leaving and they protested but I left anyway. My girlfriend texted me after saying “I had to lie and say you didn’t feel well”. Like why? We’d been together for hours by that point and I wanted to leave. It’s that simple!"
Date Me Because...
"Being honest about your intentions while dating"
"This one blows my mind. People I would otherwise respect will lie, pressure or coerce the opposite sex in order to get laid and then laugh it off like it was the other parties fault for making it out to be such a big deal. When I've brought this up with friends as "not cool" it just makes people uncomfortable and I am told to lighten up."
"“I’m looking for companionship but I’m okay with sex on the first date or even a one night stand, I’ll just get that out in the open. But if I’m with you, then I’m with only you.”"
You Don't HAVE To Ask
"Hi, how are you?"
"I'm tired as sin and my back hurts."
"Oh, uh, ok."
"Like, don't ask if you're not ready for an honest answer. When I ask someone what's up, and they say for example, that they are sad. I'll then ask them if they need any help. Yet when I give an answer that isn't the same old stupid song and dance, I'm looked at like I just said I want to rub peanut butter on mailboxes."
Working, Not Playing
"Treating work like just work. I like my work and get along great with my colleagues - at work. But I just don’t want to go out for drinks afterwards, have team events, Christmas parties and whatever. Work. Get paid. Have life outside of work with other people."
"To be clear, I don’t want to cancel social events at work. I just want them becoming very explicitly optional, with no weird looks for not attending."
"To piggyback, mandatory work potlucks and now you have to go buy groceries to make extra to feed people you don’t care about. Or you’re not a team player. I just want to eat my sandwich in my car okay"
"“But we’re a family!”" 🤢
Oh, My Aching Legs
"Staff sitting down while on the job (like cashiers)."
"I know this is generally a North American thing, but "socially acceptable" isn't generally something globally universal."
"I’m a cashier and let me tell you, it’s mentally draining. Also, what about people who work in an office? Writers? Receptionists? There are plenty of sit down jobs."
It's Just Sharing Information
"Discussing salaries / finances. Such a ridiculous taboo. If people knew how little or how much their peers make, employers would have a much tougher time lowballing salaries or offering poverty level wages. It (theoretically) eliminate the whole “keeping up with the Jones’s” mentality, as well. If you’re not trying to one up everyone, it would be less likely to live beyond your means."
Me, Myself, & I
"Going to movies/ concerts/ sporting events/ restaurants/ etc alone."
"You should be able to go out and enjoy things without needing friends/ someone else to be there with you."
"Especially movies? Why do you need someone to join you to sit in silence and watch a film? That taboo never made sense to me"
I'm in full agreement with that last one. I go to diners and movies by myself all the time. Me time is the best time!
Ideally, everyone should try to get at least eight hours of sleep.
But for some people, that simply isn't possible.
Be it having multiple jobs at varying hours, children waking you up every hour, or being plagued by insomnia, some people will simply have to do their best with what little sleep they can get.
But, how do they do it?
And better yet, should they be doing it?
Redditor Neftroshi was eager to learn the answer to these questions, leading them to ask:
"People of reddit who survive on less than 8 hours of sleep, how?"
One Does What One Must
"Hatred and the need to pay bills."- Inside_Ice_6175
"Hate myself, decide I'm going to bed earlier tonight, fail, repeat."- cmac4ster
Two Easy Steps
"Step 1 : ignore all the cries for help your body releases."
"Step 2: there is no step 2."- Lacrus314
We'd All Like To Know...
"I have a co-worker who is a cleaner in a psych hospital who is 50, only works nights and says she only sleeps 3 or 4 hours a day."
"Don't know how she does it."- weezybreezy747
You Find Ways Of Compensating.
"I do this neat little trick where I borrow a few hours from the end of my life every time I don't get enough sleep."
"Been doing it for years and I don't see any potential problems or downsides."- MatTheScarecrow
"I remember one time in my life were I woke up feeling fully refreshed and I've never forgot that moment ever since."- Able_Visual955
Just Act Like It's Not An Issue
"I usually get somewhere between 5-7 hours sleep, there is a constant feeling of tiredness but at some point you just learn to ignore it or get used to it and carry on."- the_starlight_girl
A Professional Opinion
"Friendly neighborhood sleep scientist stopping in."
"Most adults need 8-9 hours to function optimally."
"This is supported by a pretty robust body of research."
"Shorter sleep duration than this is associated with performance decrements across a variety of domains, and there is evidence for negative impacts on physiological health in the short and long term as well."
"Sleep is key to processes like restoration in various physical systems."
"There is also growing evidence that short sleep interferes with the consolidation of memory from short- to long-term storage."
"Sleep and relationships also appear to affect each other reciprocally."
"Good relationships promote good sleep, and bad sleep can hurt relationship functioning."
"Tl;dr—it’s bad for you bro (for the vast majority of people, anyway), even if it feels like it isn’t."
"Sleeping too much is also associated with negative outcomes."
"For example, sleeping more than 9 hours is predictive of elevated cardiovascular risk."
"There is limited but growing evidence that some people are true 'short sleepers' who may experience fewer or no apparent negative cognitive effects of short sleep."
"This phenomenon is poorly understood, but is being investigated increasingly."
"Research is slowed in part by the difficulty of finding participants who are true short sleepers, but it is clear that most of us are not in this category, even if we think we are."
"The truth, according to the best available evidence, is that the vast majority of adults NEED 8 hours for best results."
"It is also critical to note that it is not clear whether people who feel like they experience no negative effects from short sleep are at lower risk for well-established physiological costs of short sleep, such as elevated cardiovascular risk."
"Emerging evidence is beginning to suggest that even if you feel you are not experiencing psychological or physical costs of short sleep, your actual physical health costs may be the same as for people who do feel the cognitive effects of short sleep."
"See for example, Williams et al., 2021."
"You can improve the quality of your sleep by prioritizing 'sleep hygiene'.”
"This includes having a regular bed/wake time each day, even on the weekends."
"There’s no such thing as catching up on lost sleep, not in a true sense."
'You can’t undo the damage completely."
"Further, some evidence is beginning to indicate that the tempting practice of sleeping in on weekends to try to repay sleep debt has negative effects beyond the sleep that has already been lost."
"A consistent bed/wake schedule is one of the best gifts you can give yourself."
"Other tips you may have heard include minimizing light exposure, especially to blue light, for a few hours before bed."
"There is limited evidence about the effectiveness of things like phones’ native settings for blue light reduction, so consider getting some filter glasses to put on when you are approaching bedtime, and avoid screens."
"Other good resources are available via you googling it."
"You may think you are getting more sleep than you are."
"Smartphones and wearables can help track your sleep to try to assess how much you’re getting."
"Alexa can alert you if you snore at night, which can indicate sleep problems."
"This tech isn’t as good as research-grade sleep actigraphy or polysomnography, but it’s getting better."
"If you go this route, be sure you don’t get obsessive about the data and quantifying or gamifying it."
"Good sleep is the goal, not making your phone happy at all costs."
"Caffeine is definitely worth thinking about when thinking about your sleep hygiene as well."
"For example, my sleep is fairly delicate, but getting better, thanks to science!, so I won't start a new serving of coffee after noon or finish one after 2 p.m."
"Caffeine can compound sleep problems because, although it can help you get through the day, it is very easy to then have it interfere with nighttime sleep latency.'
"How long it takes you to fall asleep, quality, or quantity."
"If you are using caffeine to get through the day because you're tired and dragging, it may well feel useful within days, but be detrimental to your sleep and performance across days."
"It's like putting a bandaid over a fresh wound to cover it immediately, but then ripping it off that night before the underlying problem has healed."
"If caffeine is interfering with your sleep quality, consider switching to something caffeine-free to fill that space as an afternoon ritual."
"You may find that the break in your routine still helps refresh you without interfering with a good night's rest."
"You can use your phone or other smart devices to remind you to start winding down and getting ready for bed in advance of your bedtime."
"I have my spare speakers remind me with phrases like 'You're a sleep scientist, go to bed, it's important' and 'Go to bed now; it promotes a healthy immune system'."
"Additionally, pretty much any flatscreen TV has, buried in its annoying, hard-to-navigate settings menu, an auto-off timer feature."
"Do some quick googling to figure out where this setting is on your TV and set it to turn off at a certain time each day."
"Similarly, if you have smart plugs or switches in your home, you can set them to turn lights off at a given time."
"Mine are set to go off in advance of my Mandatory Bedtime."
"You only have to set this up once, and then every night, your smart home will help nudge you toward bed."
"Sure, you might be tempted to turn the TV on to finish an episode or to turn the lights back on and finish the chapter you're reading, but anything you can do to decrease friction in the direction of your target bedtime and good sleep hygiene will help."
"I once heard a very eminent colleague speak on this subject and he said 'If you were a sleep scientist, if you understood sleep and its importance the way I do, you would never shortchange yourself on another night of it'."
"I found that quite sobering because I am a sleep scientist, I do understand the importance, and I was still shortchanging myself."
"Many cultures today have succumbed to the 'glorification of business,' in which it is seen as some kind of badge of honor to not 'need' much sleep."
"For almost all of us, however, 8-9 is the magic number and we can't shortchange that fact...just ourselves."- LilSebastianFlyte
As Maria says in The Sound Of Music: "strength lies in nights of peaceful slumbers".
Even if you can't get a solid eight hours, try making a good night's sleep a priority.
It will make your morning coffee taste oh-so-much better.
Driving can be extremely relaxing and liberating.
Being out on the open road, blasting your favorite music, ideally with a dreamy final destination.
But driving still comes with its share of stress and frustrations.
Namely other drivers, and the irritating, sometimes reckless and dangerous behavior they exhibit on the road.
Redditor xplorerex was curious to hear the things people hate most that drivers ahead of them or behind them do on the road, leading them to ask:
"What is the most annoying thing other road users do that irritates you?"
Is Anyone In That Big A Hurry?
"People that pass you and then turn in at the very next road."
"Like they couldn't wait five more seconds."- p38-lightning
We Can See You Coming From A Mile Away!
"High beams on while driving towards oncoming traffic."- AteTooMuchBoneMarrow
Slow And Steady Doesn't Always Win The Race...
"Not using the on ramp to get up to speed or close to what the traffic is going at."- yankstravelerlowrider drive slow GIF by Off The JacksGiphy
Between A Rock And A Hard Place
"Being stuck behind someone doing 10 under the speed limit, AND THEN another dude ON YOUR @SS trying to get you to speed up like there ISN'T A F*CKING CAR IN FRONT OF ME!"
"Whew I guess I needed to get that one out."- sorvis
A Heads Up Would Be Nice!
"Not indicating, just pulling in front, turning etc without indicating, it's bad driving and lack of consideration."- mazdanc
Make Up Your Mind!!!
'Speed up when I'm trying to pass when just before they were going 10 under."
"Makes me hate humanity sometimes."- darkmauveshoreSee Goodwood Festival Of Speed GIFGiphy
Some People Shouldn't Be Behind The Wheel
"Not one thing specifically, but just overall awareness, and the willingness to BE aware."
"Stop driving like dumba**es, get off your phones, pay attention."
"It's not that hard, and it should be MUCH easier than it is to LOSE your drivers license."
"I was in a life-threatening motorcycle accident a couple years ago and you wanna know why? "
"Someone turned the WRONG WAY on a one-way street and hit me head-on."
'Did she lose her license?"
"Of course not."
"A drivers license IS NOT a right, it's a privilege, and I'm so f*cking tired of lazy drivers."- BootyfulMiami
These Rules Exist For A Reason
"Not using turn signal."
"Driving at non-passing speeds in the passing lane."
"Making right turns without getting over to the right."- ProfitsOfProphets
Always Needing To Be Top Dog...
"When I'm behind someone in the passing/acceleration lane going the same speed as the car in the right lane, and they just stay neck in neck for eternity."- meanyapicklesszybcy i wciekli video games GIFGiphy
Those Lanes Are There For A Reason
"Driving on the emergency lane."
"An ambulance once didn't make it in time to a man in dire need of first aid during a traffic jam."
"The emergency lane was also completely jammed because some thought they were too good to wait in traffic and went there instead."
"I genuinely hope all of them total their cars while surviving with annoying injuries."- Simplordx69
Your parents warned you to keep your "eyes on the road" for a reason.
You never know what you may encounter while driving, no matter how long or short the distance.