Gentlemen? How does it feel? Being objectified isn't always fun is it? You should remember those moments. And in the moments when it was fun.... recall the proper language you used. Be decent about how you tell someone they fine.
Redditor u/Loulous18x wanted all the boys out there to speak up by asking.... Reddit - have you ever been cat called in public? How did you feel about it? Does this even happen to guys?
Love Starbucks.
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A gay dude loudly called me cute at a Starbucks one time. I'm not gay but it was flattering.
Glitchwinkle
I've got green-blue eyes.....
I've got green-blue eyes, and given I've got a Mediterranean coloring, my eyes are really brought out, so I should be used to having comments by women over the years about my eyes but I actually get really embarrassed when it happens. It's more awkward for me it's one of the first things they say to me because I just feel put on the spot and don't know where to go from there.
comrade_batman
 "You have a nice butt, sir!"
One time I was walking on campus and someone yelled at me "You have a nice butt, sir!"
I was flattered.
kengtron3000
As an Arrow...
Flattered. I was at a red light on my motorcycle.
This gay guy whistled at me.
I laughed and slapped my butt.
I have no idea why I did that, I'm straight as an arrow.
wseibert
Damn Chicago man.
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After a Chicago Cubs game, walking passed the bars and some chick who was totally crapfaced started yelling at me that she thought I was cute and wanted me to come talk to her. Since I was with family I just kept walking, and then some brodouche started yelling "hey bro this girl wants to talk to you." Damn Chicago man.
Alexallen21
"YOU'RE REALLY HOT"
I pulled over to help a car that was on the side of the road a few years ago. A guy and two girls, and they turned out to be lost (I live out in the sticks). I told em to just follow me and I'd get em back to town. As I pulled up to a stoplight, they pulled alongside me to let me know they had finally gotten cellphone service and could use GPS the rest of the way.
As they pulled off, one of the girls leaned out the window and yelled "YOU'RE REALLY HOT" and tbh I don't think I've ever smiled that hard.
But yeah, that's the only time it's ever happened.
ShoddyBiscotti1
"you can keep doing that alllllll night!"Â
Only time I can remember is back in high school when I was playing baseball.
We were at an away game and just out on the field doing stretches and warm ups while people got into the stands.
I was near the stands but facing away from the crowd doing some stretches. Bending over and touching my toes, squats, stuff like that. Things I did before literally every game. All of a sudden from behind me I hear "you can keep doing that alllllll night!" my head whips around to see three girls all giggling. I'm sure my face turned beet red.
I have to say, as a guy, it was a pretty nice confidence boost.
JohnyUtah_
It happened a few times when I was younger.
One time I was working at Woolco (Canadian store that eventually became WalMart). I was gathering carts though the relatively empty strip mall, and two women started following behind me, back maybe, I don't know ... 50 feet? Anyway, they started talking loud enough for me to hear. "I would ride him so he couldn't walk." That sort of thing. I didn't know what to do - I was only 18 and pretty shy - so I just kind of hunched my shoulders and kept gathering carts.
Another time I was walking through a mall downtown and a bunch of girls were hanging out. I remember I was walking really confident like, because that was around the time in my life I decided I was just going to fake feeling confident until I actually FELT confident ... so I walked by them and the lead girl said "Now THAT is a man".
That actually felt pretty good. I liked that one. I could have done without them being obviously mid-teens though. But ... shrug. Still was cool.
StygianUnknown
Lollipop.Â
A lot of times although i think i am not really that attractive.
The earliest i can remember was when i was 14 yrs old having a haircut. The friend of the hair dresser came in and she made a pop sound and she asked the hair dresser "Can you ask him if he already experienced getting lollipopped". And since then, i would always drag a friend or my cousin to accompany me going to salon/barbershop.
eggsyran
The Stache.....
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Most recent- incredibly gorgeous blonde, very drunk, leans out the window of an SUV while I was walking by. Yells "Hey BABY, I'm a mustache rider! Can I ride your mustache?"
fskern
Try not to follow the bad advice given here, because you don't want to get the results that these guys did.
U/Duckerton375 asked: What's the worst advice someone ever gave you, but you still followed?
The workplace can bring a cornucopia of terrible advice. Don’t follow these unless you want to get fired.
​Bad jobs are usually not worth it.
Stick with a job no matter how bad it is. I stayed with a terrible job working retail, dealing with horrible customers and sexual harassment. I was told I wouldn't find anything better.
"No, no, you misunderstand. I said you wouldn't find anything better at making you feel like complete garbage."
This gets really creepy really fast.
frustrated workplace GIFGiphy"After you put in a job application, you need to call them at least once a day every day until they hire you."
Note: this did not get me hired. It got me called out by the HR person I was calling and forbidden to ever contact their facility again.
I work for a law firm that employees over 1500 people in the home office alone. Once I received a call from the building security saying, "Insert Name is here to speak with the owner." Well we are run by a committee so that's odd. Found out they just applied for a job and wanted to talk directly to the person that would potentially hire them. Told him the firm will contact them to schedule an interview. They refused to leave without "talking to the owner." Had security escort them out of the building.
​This is absolutely not true.
"Sleep is for people who do not want success" great words from my uncle, it almost killed me.
Now I may be oversleeping.
​Interpersonal relationships are also a big breeding ground for terrible advice. Don’t listen to any of these.
Heartbreaking.
My father always tought me and my brother that "having friends is bad and in the end they will never be there for you" so everytime I told my father about my friends he would get kinda mad and give me the advice to stop talking to them.
Now I am afraid of people and have several trust issues, thanks dad.
​This won’t end well.
A Christmas Story GIF by filmeditorGiphyIn the fifth grade my teacher was talking about bullying, then she said "if anyone tries to bully you just agree with them." So the next time I got bullied I agreed with the bully and they bullied me more.
Dude one time I saw an anti bullying video that told the victims to just BE NICE TO THE BULLY. Like the bully was hurling insults and the victim was smiling and complimenting him. My first thought was about how much I hated the mere thought that this would work. My second thought was of how the people who came up with that method had clearly never been bullied.
​Oof.
When I met my now wife at the age of 19, one of my coworkers said that it's very important to start at the bottom with presents and work your way up, she still has the socks I gave her on our first anniversary on the wall over our bed as a reminder...
I'm still trying to teach my boyfriend about good presents and bad presents. Biscuits from the supermarket = bad present. Cheap unbranded laptop battery from China as my only present = bad present (and only lasted 2 months). Anything off my 7-page wishlist = good present. It's literally a list of things I want to receive as presents.
​Can tell you from experience that this is a bad idea.
Had a falling out with some friends. My husband recommended I reach out to an old friend who ghosted me suddenly in a manner that induced some pretty severe abandonment trauma. Went for it anyways because "it's been so long, surely they changed". Am now experiencing the same things as last time.
When you follow bad advice, it can lead to mistakes that you just can’t come back from.​
Buying a house is tricky.
for sale dancing GIF by Lisa VertudachesGiphy"Buy a home now before the prices go up!" -my FIL in 2006.
We bought in 2007 and paid $259,500 for our 1,300 sq ft house (we really couldn't afford it and had an 80/20 so we had 8% interest for one loan and 6% on the other) and in 2008 it was worth $97,000 so refinancing wasn't even an option. We watched all of our neighbors walk away or get foreclosed on but we kept paying our bills and as of this very moment our house is worth $462,000. I'm so happy we stuck it out, we both worked our @sses off and the house will be paid off in 2 years.
It worked out for us, it's a horrible idea. Especially since 1300 sq ft houses are $460+k
My heartbreaks for future generations, I honestly don't know how people are going to afford housing in the future.
It’s there for a reason.
"Never apply for any government assistance."
Cue years of suffering trying to work full-time with a painful disability. Quit a particularly terrible job, and wanted to apply for food aid until I could find another gig; a friend with lots of DHS experience recommended I apply for Social Security "just to get in the system." Turns out my disability was bad enough to get accepted the first time, which I wasn't expecting. Really could've used that support, oh, the 30+ previous years of my life.
Credit is important to have.
I was told to not get a credit card until after college. I was super fortunate to have my college paid for so I had no loans, car paid in cash, no credit card or anything to start building credit. Found myself out in the world at 22 years old with a credit score of 0.
So while a lot of this bad advice came from trusted people, oftentimes they were too misinformed to give that advice in the first place. Don't trust the word of one person--do your research, and make decisions for yourself.
It'll be way better in the long run