Guys Reveal The Hints From Women They Obliviously Ignored
[rebelmouse-image 18350564 is_animated_gif=A missed opportunity in life stings, especially if it's a guy who doesn't catch onto a girl coming onto him. Some men can be dense, but these guys are on another planet. This is how a magical moment got away from these guys.
u/Ahmedthrowaway997 asks:
Guys, what is the most obvious hint from a girl you've missed?
This seems a little forward...
[rebelmouse-image 18350565 is_animated_gif=Sitting backstage at a high school show I was crewing for, I was talking to one of the dancers and for some reason we started talking about clicking/popping fingers, necks etc. She told me she could click all sorts of joints (hips, lower back, and so on) and said "Here, feel." She spent a good five minutes literally putting my hands all over her body... and I only realised what had happened several years later.
In my defense, she really could click all sorts of strange joints...
Strike!
[rebelmouse-image 18350566 is_animated_gif=Girl: "Can I kiss you?" Me: "Why would you wanna do that?"
This is how you fail at taking a relationship all the way
[rebelmouse-image 18346755 is_animated_gif=I wouldn't know I missed it... The one I eventually caught was a girl telling me that she liked me a lot and I went:
"(DUH) I like you a lot too I'm glad we're friends :D"
What is wrong with you man!?
[rebelmouse-image 18348875 is_animated_gif=- She slept in my bed
- She stole my phone, putting it in her bra and daring me to get it
This would have been a good time to have another conversation about that comment...
[rebelmouse-image 18348872 is_animated_gif=I was a busboy when I was seventeen. Got to talking to one waitress during a shift. Never met her before. She was new, blond, cute, and when I told her my name, she said: "That sounds like a fun name to scream out." I didn't understand what she meant until 3 years later.
God, I was an awkward teen.
When he thought it was a joke....
[rebelmouse-image 18350567 is_animated_gif=A girl asked me out but I was convinced that I was the victim of a cruel joke
It wasn't a complete waste...
[rebelmouse-image 18350569 is_animated_gif="So you can either watch me shower or wait with my uncle until I'm done."
Ended up watching star trek for the first time in my life....
That's never a joke!
[rebelmouse-image 18350570 is_animated_gif=Whe she showed me her boobs as a "joke"
A little nap never hurt anyone
[rebelmouse-image 18350572 is_animated_gif=Was at a party in highschool.
She said " I'm gonna go upstairs and take a nap, you can come and join me if you want"
I say, "no thanks I'm not tired"
Turns out she wasn't even tired
The casual touch
[rebelmouse-image 18350574 is_animated_gif=I don't miss this anymore, but for years I missed the casual/flirtatious touch.
An unnecessary yet intentional caress on the arm, shoulder, back, etc can be very telling. I'm sure someone will be here to tell me I'm wrong and they just touch their friends all the time. But it's always been my experience that if a girl is finding an excuse to put her hands on you, there's a pretty good chance she's at least a little interested.
Strange...
[rebelmouse-image 18345621 is_animated_gif=I went on a blind date with a girl that went pretty well, and dropped her off at her apartment where she invited me in. We hung out for a little bit having a pretty good time just hanging out, it was getting late and she told me she had to go take a shower "but were not having sex." So I just think, OK, sure no problem I respect that.
Then after her shower she asks me to come into her bedroom and hang out in her bed. She wasn't wearing anything suggestive and said a few times "we're not going to have sex" and again, I'm like OK sure yeah this is still a fun time talking.
I finally go to leave and she goes "Um....ok....bye." And I thought that was weird and then I left.
We didn't go on another date but still talked and some time later she asked me why I didn't want to have sex that night.
I guess "We're not having sex." to her, obviously means "lets have sex"
She was aggressive!
[rebelmouse-image 18345194 is_animated_gif=Super cute girl in college, we got on really well, but I thought I was firmly in the friend-zone. One night we were chatting and I'd said I wasn't very ticklish and she said she could find a ticklish spot in under 10 seconds.
I took her up on this, fully expecting her to go for the usual spots, but she leant in, stuck her tongue in my mouth and licked the roof of my mouth.
It was ticklish.
Took me another few days to realise what was going on....I wasn't very bright
Missed the boat
[rebelmouse-image 18350091 is_animated_gif=Shortly after high school ended, this really hot girl told me that she had a crush on me for the entirety of my senior year. My response was basically "Oh that's nice". Her parents were out of town and we had her entire house to ourselves for the rest of the evening. Could've done it right then and there. You win some, you lose some, I guess (sigh)
That's an appropriate response
[rebelmouse-image 18350575 is_animated_gif=My girlfriend still likes to tease me about the time (before we were together) when she put her arm around me and I just stood still and asked her "...are you okay?"
You can always s*** at her house
[rebelmouse-image 18350576 is_animated_gif=I hope I am not missing any with the girl I have a crush on currently...
Missed a few hints because I am just oblivious to such things. The most obvious being, her inviting me to her home because her parents were away. But I needed to take a crap so badly that I just told her I need to go home.
I realized at home while shitting what an idiot move that was, I mean I could have shat at her house.
It's in the little things...
[rebelmouse-image 18350577 is_animated_gif=Coming to school early and staying late just to talk to me, i had no idea
The nipple is a clear signal!
[rebelmouse-image 18347291 is_animated_gif=As a teenager I had a girl bite my nipple while hugging me and then tell me I taste good, now either she was a vampire or I'm the biggest moron.
The phone number is the ticket
[rebelmouse-image 18350578 is_animated_gif=Oh so many missed, but the most obvious was probably when I was out at a pub one night, suited up as their was a local race day event on, I was standing near the dance floor drinking and had a lass come over to me and start talking then dragged me to the dance floor, I faux danced (I have no rhythm) a bit and returned to my spot, this happened again, and at one stage she was so close while talking our foreheads where touching, she asked to see my phone and put her number in.
I realised what was going on while I was walking home, so much alcohol drank that day but still wow... I failed.
Indeed you are...
[rebelmouse-image 18344988 is_animated_gif=She would invite me over to hangout, make me food, and try to cuddle. I was a dumb***.
June is a happy and exciting month for the LGBTQ+ community, being Pride Month.
Where people can proudly celebrate who they are and who they love.
And the crowds at these events seem to only grow bigger every year, as more and more LGBTQ+ allies also partake in the celebration.
Some of these allies might be late to the party, as it were, owing to the fact that they once held homophobic views, and only recently became more educated and changed their minds.
Redditor aestheticbear was curious what exactly it was that led former homophobes to change their previous views, leading them to ask:
"Former homophobic people of Reddit: what happened that made you stop being homophobic?"
It was what they were taught.
"Like many here, I grew up around people where homophobia was the norm."
"I come from a Latino, Mexican, background and I'm really ashamed of how much homophobia/hate in general there is in our culture."
"Since most Mexicans are Catholic, I grew up around the church a lot, especially since my father had once been a Catholic priest, long story."
"Growing up, and to this day, I was surrounded by lots of hate towards the LGTBQ+ community."
"My parents would often make remarks making queer people seem almost as if they were crazy."
"They would often say that they were crazy for wanting 'gay rights' and even saying 'yuck' if they saw a movie scene where 2 people of the same sex where kissing."
"As a kid, I was sort of brain washed into all of this."
"As I grew older, I learned more about the world around me especially learning from friends who had come out."
"I especially owe a lot to a teacher of mine who had opened my eyes up to many issues of our world."
"Now I'm a proud pansexual."- davvaz62
By simply getting to know them.
"I met some gay people."
"As it turns out they were just people"- moolord
By witnessing unjustified judgment.
"Not homophobic, but I woke up at about 10 when my mom said my uncle was banned from coming to our vacation condo by my father because he was gay."
"Before then I kind of let the arguments and both sides bit wash over me, but that was a crystallization point where I started noticing it as pure bigotry."
"I'm sorry the nicest dude in the family full of domestic violence and white collar drug abusers cant come to Christmas because he's gay?"
"You're both cheating on each other, sanctity of what marriage now?"- Robin_games
My mother knocked some sense into me
"My mom slapped me and told me everyone has a right to be happy."
"That was in 9th grade 13 years ago."- Bloodllust
Growing up
"Homophobia was the norm when I was growing up."
"Then I got older and the political landscape changed which made me question my belief and I came to the conclusion it just didn't make any sense to be homophobic."- LuciferIsFallen
"Realized that, fundamentally, being gay is just 'what' you are. It’s not 'who' you are."
Self-discovery
"I came out as gay."- pethal
"Stopped listening to my homophobic family and left their religion."
"Oh and also realized I myself was pretty gay."- Raidden
Just one moment of clarity
"I wasn't super homophobic, just a 'love the sinner, hate the sin' kind of guy."
"On my last day in high school, someone said 'Why do I care? They're not hurting me'."
"Cured me in three seconds."
"I still remember how magical that moment was for me."- Dirgonite
Re-evaluating religion
"There are 20 years between myself and my youngest brother."
"I, and my SO, was raised in an explicitly homophobic/biphobic/transphobic fundamentalist religion, that I left with my SO in my early 20s.
"So I had a lot of internalized, conditioned, toxic beliefs about the LGBTQ that needed to be deconstructed."
"My little brother was obviously either gay or bi and it was obvious from the time he was six imho."
"He came out to my sisters, SO, and I as bi when he was 11 and we were like 'tell us something we don't know lol'."
"I think watching him just grow up, it was obvious that he hadn't chosen to be that way, it was just how he was."
"This false narrative that LGBTQ are somehow defective or sinners became more disgusting to me over time."
"I can't remember exactly when it happened but my SO and I were like 'if our future child happened to be LGBTQ, could we teach that child the things we were taught about the LGBTQ?'"
"'We were like 'no, that would be evil'."
"Now, we have an 18yo niece that recently came out as lesbian and we feel honored to be the only family that she trusts enough to introduce to her first GF."
"Spending time with her just reaffirms the fact that there is nothing wrong with the LGBTQ, it was our upbringing that was defective."- Jormungandr91
It's amazing how so many ignorant people don't realize that all one needs to do to see a little more clearly is to open your eyes.
Here's hoping that they help others who remain as ignorant as they once were to open their eyes as well.
Everyone has unusual phobias.
Things which they simply can't bear the sight of, and are forced to turn away when they find themselves in the presence of it.
More often than not, these things are usually habits or behaviors which one normally wouldn't do in polite society.
But, have you ever been repulsed by something that the majority of people might consider "normal"?
Something that's just an everyday occurrence in life?
Redditor Allthelights011 was curious to learn what "normal" things fellow Reddit users were disgusted by, leading them to ask:
"What’s a completely normal thing you find disgusting?"
Fun to do, not to watch.
"Watching people eat."- elladeighthecat·
Just not my style
"Gauged ears, or is it gaged ears?"
"I don't know."
"Big gross holes in people's ears gross me the f*ck out."- alienanimal
Blood? No problem. Saliva on the other hand...
"Spit."
"I was a nurse for 6 months before I found a better paying job and I could deal with blood, feces and urine no problem but if someone is drooling or spitting it grossed me out."- sayziell
watching arrested development GIFGiphyJust because it's nature doesn't mean it isn't gross.
"When animals are 'doin' it'."- Colonelfudgenustard
Every month!
"Periods."
"I know it's completely normal but just the initial cramps and mood swings honestly suck."
oscar isaac eating GIFNot pleasant to watch or do.
"Vomiting."
"The feeling after you puke is terrific."
"It's all the sh*t you feel beforehand and the act of throwing up itself that weirds me out."- geico_fire
No one needs them or needs to see them.
"Skin tags."
"I know people can’t help them and they’re painful to remove but they make me physically ill."- Stealthnt13
Wash your freakin' hands!
"Dirt in your nails"- dejavuthrills
If I didn't actually have to, I wouldn't...
"Pooping!"- stormwaltz
Toilet Pooping GIF by Alberto PozoGiphyPerhaps what's most difficult about these particular aversions, is that ignoring or avoiding them, or simply looking the other way might not be possible.
Leaving one no other choice than to grin and bear it.
And maybe occasionally withhold the vomit you feel coming...
Chances are, you've been told to try new things ever since you were a little kid. I know I was.
Sometimes, certain activities or experiences seem crazy, and you don't even want to give them a chance.
This could be true of some things. For example, there is no reason to ingest tide pods.
Sometimes an activity or experience that seems crazy only seems that way because you haven't tried it yet.
I thought nothing good could come of mixing buttery popcorn with Swedish Fish, but now it's my favorite snack!
Redditor TheUnthinkableVids wanted to know about other things that seem crazy, but should be given a chance.
He asked:
"What’s a “don’t knock it till you try it” experience that you would weirdly recommend?"
Having Fun Doing You
"LARPing."
"It has a bad reputation of power tripping nerds deluding themselves in public with seemingly no self awareness, but give it a go."
"I found it was more like sparring with a stunt troupe. It was harder than it looked, and everyone was having fun doing their thing while ignoring the haters, which was pretty cool I must admit."
– obscureferences
The Perfect Sauce
"Balsamic glaze on pizza."
– Advanced_Nerve_7602
"Have it on Vanilla ice cream. Amazing."
– henri915
"Basalmic on watermelon is refreshing!"
– spacemantrip
Aim High
"Climbing onto your roof"
– Responsible-Fold1755
"I like how most of the responses in this thread are "try psychedelics" or "go skydiving" or "see a therapist" but you're like, "have you ever been on your roof?""
"Gotta admit though, I've been on my roof and it's strangely satisfying. You get a vantage point to see something that you see everyday, just a little higher up."
– you_did_wot_to_it
Multiple Screens
"A lot of computer noobs think that they would never use more than one monitor, and they don't see the purpose behind it. Bruh. It's magical, trust me."
– Rogue_Like
"I could use a third tbh"
– halfcookies
"I was one of those computer noobs for the longest time. A second monitor changed my life. Then I eventually got a third.... And I can't lie if every now and then I didn't tell myself "a fourth monitor would be quite convenient in this situation....."
– furbit73
Cheese And Everything
"Fresh Mozzarella and honey"
– duskhelm2595
"Or really any cheese and honey. I love eating sharp aged cheddar with hot honey."
– accountability_bot
"Cheese and jam on toast"
– Fickle_Landscape6761
"Cream cheese and grape jelly sandwiches! (On toast)"
– itsstillmeagain
Pampering Is Always Good
"Pedicure for men."
– woodbarber
"My mom made me get one with her when I was a teenager. It rocked. Adult me gets a pedi at least once a month now. $25 to sit in a massage chair while someone cuts my toenails and massages my feet/legs? Yes please!"
– Sichael
The Magic of Salt
"Black pepper and salt on watermelon"
– curiousy_tea
"Salt on pineapple!"
– UnSuccessfulTree61
"A little sprinkle of salt in your coffee"
– Vanilla_Tom
"Salt in Fanta"
– Capable-Reading-8766
Uh...What?
"Draw a bath, turn the shower on, turn the lights off, prop up an umbrella, have a headlamp, a beverage and a good book."
"You look crazy, but try it, you’ll like it."
– ThinkIGotHacked
Be Your Own Best Friend
"Go to a restaurant on your own. Cinema on your own."
– Painting-Powerful
Jumping Out Of A Plane...Safely
"Skydiving. I did a tandem for my 60th I wish I had of done it when I was younger and learnt to do it solo."
– shazj57
"Tandem skydiving instructor here - I wish everyone would try it at least once, it isn't as bad as most people expect, and is much safer than the general public is willing to admit! Glad you had fun :)"
– JustAnotherDude1990
You don't even have to try something if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, but sometimes pushing boundaries and stepping out of your comfort zone can be the best thing for you.
Give seemingly crazy things a chance, and who knows what could happen? You could end up finding a great new hobby... or at least something delicious to eat!
Wise people tend to glorify the past for good reason. Simpler times seemed to indicate just that. Less life drama.
While many technical advances have also made our current life easier, it certainly has come with its share of complications that never existed prior to another time.
Curious to hear from strangers online, one Redditor asked:
"What was actually better in the past?"
People found traveling, particularly flying, was less dramatic back in the day.
Travel Scene
"Airports."
– Ron_deBeaulieu
"This is true. We used to go to the airport to go to the cafe within the airport, watch the planes take off, people watch."
– Botryoid2000
Comfort In The Skies
"Flying in general."
"More seat space, meals included (and a choice of meals), actual metal utensils, luggage included, no need to get to the airport 2 hours before your flight..."
– cinemascifi
A Proper Send-Off
"And you could say goodbye to your friends at the gate. Get there early before the flight and grab a leisurely meal with them. Man, airports used to be fun."
– Ron_deBeaulieu
TSA Efficiency
"In the 90s airport security took half as long."
– oarngebean
Many Redditors believe living in the present is a huge economical inconvenience.
Income Injustice
"Prices vs earnings."
– Jimbruno55
Parenthood Crisis
"Psh. Try childcare. Our childcare cost for two children is more than our mortgage. When I was the same age, it cost my parents about $50/week. Today that would be roughly $135/week per kid. We’re paying $500/wk and still don’t have full time care for both kids. Sh*t’s crazy."
– JsDaFax
Criminals seemed to have a field day once upon a time.
Untraceable
"Being a criminal. If there was a security camera, it was too low resolution to make your face very identifiable."
– Delica
Before CSI
"also DNA analysis and fingerprinting wasn't as good, no Internet to track you."
– ScorpionX-123
Leaving The Country Undetected
"It used to be that it was possible for someone to commit a serious crime, move across the country, and never be caught. As communications technology has improved, that’s no longer feasible."
– RealHumanFromEarth
How people occupied their time in the past seemed to be more favorable.
The Life-Line Device
"Smart phones too, Reddit is the only social media I use and still I stare at this f'king thing 5 hours a day. I know I’m addicted to it and I’d love to punt it but unfortunately it’s also my phone, my map, my camera, my tape measure, my dictaphone, my Walkman etc. etc."
– tarkuspig
The sentiment that the past was better stems largely from nostalgia.
Aside from accessing our Gameboys and Tamagochis, my friends and I would ride our bikes or skateboard out in the cul-de-sac.
We would scrape our knees from falling, get knocked to the ground playing freeze tag, and come home with dried mud on our clothes from a day of roughhousing.
It was some of the best times of my childhood, and I feel for today's youth who still have the option of playing outside but choose to live on their iPads and iPhones instead.
They don't know what they're missing, TBH. Maybe it's just me.