Why do people seem to waste their time judging what other people do and say, especially if they're not actually hurting anyone?
It's one of life's greatest mysteries, even if we as a society have agreed to greet anyone who defends the eighth season of Game of Thrones with collective disdain. (What was up with that writing? Seriously, explain it to me. See? You don't have an answer, just as we figured.)
After Redditor MrStrangeIsStrange asked the online community, "What group of people get too much hate? Why?" people vented their hearts out.
"People don't understand..."
Fat people, even when they're trying to put their health first. I've heard so many stories of fat people going to the gym or going for a run, only to get made fun of or called a "whale."
People don't understand that while losing weight is usually simple, that doesn't mean it's easy. There are a whole host of mental blocks, lifelong habits, socioeconomic factors, and mental or physical health conditions that contribute to gaining and maintaining a higher weight.
If you've ever been fat, you know not to judge. Even if you've lost that weight, you understand how much of a struggle it is to both be fat and to lose weight. But not everyone does, unfortunately, and so they think of fat people as inherently lazy and morally hedonistic.
"People ought to like the things..."
Folks with excentric hobbies. Ain't no harm in that. People ought to like the things they want to like without judgement provided it doesn't cause harm.
"Nobody cares about us..."
Middle age women. Nobody cares about us even if a lot of us are really busy working full time, raising kids, taking care of our elderly parents, volunteering... But because we don't all look like Kate Beckinsale we are rarely appreciated. We are so uncool that everything we like is ridiculed. If I drink a glass of wine I'm a drunk, if I like cats, I'm a crazy cat lady...
We are just like any group of people. We are all different with different likes and dislikes. It's not because we are the same age that we like the same things.
"While it's not my choice..."
While it's not my choice of reading material, I've never quite understood the hate towards YA books and those who read them.
"Not all people..."
People who like anime. Not all people who like anime are those weird annoying weeb kids but because it's so common, liking anime gets associated with that.
"We are literally..."
Cosplayers. We are literally dressed like Disney characters and we aren't using our hobby to hurt anyone and we are doing it for fun.
Get hate for using too many medications (big pharma, woohoo, pardon me but I'd rather stay alive), get hate for not accepting every alt. cure (can't exercise, can't do yoga, can't use saunas...the list goes on), get hate from anti-vaxxers, get hate for apparently 'faking' our illnesses.
And, amazingly, walk out with joint braces on or a feeding tube on your face and you'll get some of the dirtiest looks of your life. Just...what the f***?
"I do understand that collectors..."
Collectors. Like, a collector who likes Funko Pops for example. Why hate them? Because you're envious or something?
I do understand that collectors, depending on who they are, can be kinda bad to have around. The kind of collectors I personally favor are collectors who preserve things like video games.
"I am not a gamer..."
Gamers, like World of Warcraft type. I am not a gamer, but every now and then I'll see a gamer gang in public and just nod with a smile. They are so happy with each other it makes me happy for them.
"Pretty much anything they enjoy..."
Teenage girls. Pretty much everything they enjoy gets vilified to the point where a lot of them end up internalizing the misogyny and end up suppressing big parts of their personality so they don't get seen as a "vapid girl". It doesn't make any sense - plenty of things teenage boys are into are vapid and pointless (not shaming, I'm into some stupid stuff too), but they don't get treated like they are whats wrong with society for it.
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Some people typically don't like being told what to do because they think they already know what they're doing.
That is until they stumble and land on their face.
It turns out what they were resistant to accepting in the first place was accurate all along.
If only they listened.
Curious to hear of other people's growing pains, Redditor TinyUnderstanding948 asked:
"What lesson did you have to learn the hard way?"
You can protect yourself with these reminders.
Leave A Paper Trail
"Any monetary or business agreement needs to be in writing!"
Observing The Fine Print
"Read the contract."
Generally speaking, business relationships and friendships are mutually exclusive.
"Not everyone you work with is your friend."
What Venting Led To
"My grandmother learned that the hard way a few years ago. Had been in the same industry since the 90s, was being paid less than she was worth honestly. On a break at work, she was venting to a coworker she thought she was friends with, about someone who worked in the same place as them."
"Word got back to the boss pretty fast and they used it as an excuse to stop giving her work and forced her out; they preferred a younger workforce that they could pay less. She had to retire without much savings, had to sell her house and move in with my aunt, and now has to live off of social security benefits. She probably would have never retired if she hadn't been forced to; because of her age, she wasn't able to get hired anywhere else."
"I work with someone who will laugh with you and pretend to be your buddy but as soon as you turn your back, she's already b*tched about you to 20 people and whined about you asking for her help with some small tasks (even though she offered her support)."
"The worst part is she is part of the HR team and she has a documented history of exploding at people, harassment and bullying, and not doing her job (because she spends most of her time crying and complaining). She is the stereotypical HR representative."
Consumers who were previously taken advantage of have the following advice to pass along.
Splurge On Good Quality
"Buy it nice or buy it twice."
"This is 100% accurate but needs a disclaimer: expensive does not always equate to nice."
The relationships we have with people are complex, but you may want to keep these in mind.
Extending A Lifeline
"You can’t always help people. You can show them you care and point them toward help, but it’s up to them to get better. And if you fail, it’s not your fault."
"You can't have a relationship with someone's potential."
Achieve Mutual Adoration
"Loving someone doesn't mean they will keep loving you."
And when it comes to your health, listen up.
"Drink plenty of water."
"It's hard to know when you're dehydrated sometimes. Felt terrible and didn't know why. Never felt thirsty. Had skin issues, lack of sleep, irritability, lack of concentration, dizzy spells, could not function at work, among other things."
"Ended up at the ICU with an IV drip for severe dehydration."
"DRINK YOUR WATER!"
While advice from the people we care about comes from a good place, they are not always appreciated.
Sometimes, we have to make our own mistakes in order to fully comprehend why we should apply certain standards to the way we go about our lives.
At least for me, I've found that picking myself up and dusting myself off was most effective.
That has to come naturally.
"What’s the most out of line thing a doctor has every said to you?"
Not Going Mental
The wrong treatment after a misdiagnosis can be a doctor's serious mistake.
"I was petrified. Went home in tears and absolutely petrified."
"Then my dad took me to his doctor, who took a biopsy."
"It was just a random skin growth and she cut it off then and there."
"Too Young" For Cancer
The "Sad" Pill
It's even more unsettling when someone you entrust your life to crosses a line.
Assessment Or Pick-Up Line?
"Mental health doctor told my daughter, 'You're too pretty to be depressed.'"
A NSFW Observation
Mom To The Rescue
The Gynocologist's Love Advice
The Gyno Who Jumped To Conclusions
Going to the doctor's office for any reason can cause a lot of anxiety.
Hopefully, you're in good hands with a physician who is professional, as well as compassionate.
Growing up, I had zero idea that the food I ate daily was "cultural."
She had to explain it because we were about to eat at a white friend's house for the first time.
"What do you mean there's no rice with the beans? Did they run out? Should we bring some?"
"No, they just don't eat rice and beans."
"So what do they eat with their chicharron de pollo?"
Y'all should have seen my face.
Reddit user remyleboi00 asked:
"Non-Americans, what is the best 'American' food?"
Even as someone born in America, it took a while before I got familiar with American food.
So if it's just not your comfort zone - let Reddit guide you to the can't miss dishes.
"Cajun food. Definitely the most unique American food"
"As an American I 100% agree with you. Cajun food is heaven sent"
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"Curly fries 👌"
"It’s especially good with some pulled pork and caramelized onions mixed in. And some insulin."
"Solid choice. We Americans LOVE cheese."
"No need to apologize. One of our favorites too."
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"We also get spoiled with your traditional cuisine."
"I usually get a food coma on Thanksgiving"
"Same with the ham or prime rib dinner at Christmas. And all the pies. God I love pumpkin pie."
"I smoke meatloaf, can't go back to oven baked ever again."
"This tread has me wanting to smoke a brisket sooner rather than later."
"Now, pork and chicken, whatever else... Go nuts... Just leave beef alone."
"I had smoked mac and cheese once, it was heavenly."
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The Holy Pudding
"I can’t find someone who’s listed it so"
"That shit is LIFE CHANGING"
"Gotta have the Nilla wafers or it isn't right."
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"A nice warm cornbread muffin with some butter and a little drizzle of honey is amazing."
"Cornbread with a nice bowl of chili is such a nice comfort food."
"And the spicier the chili the nicer the sweet, buttery cornbread is with it."
"Farmer’s market jam is the way."
"It's easily top 3 greatest sandwich ever."
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"Took them to my favorite little spot, they loved the waitress filling up their cups unprompted."
Now that youve heard Reddit, it's my turn.
I was 22 before I had meatloaf and mashed potatoes.
FAM. Fam. Faaaaaaaaaaam.
Keep your greasy pizza, amateurs. It's potato time over here.
"How does someone politely end a conversation with a person who won't stop talking?"
Extricate Yourself Immediately
"When they draw a breath, politely say:"
""On that note, I must be on my way.""
Then, simply leave."
Couldn't Get Him To Shut Up
"But some people just need to talk for whatever reason. I need my freaking silence."
Put It In Writing
Put Them (Back) To Work
Taking Care Of Each Other
Talk To The Door
Take Your Turn
Create A Deadline
"My entire dad's side of the family are the type that never stop talking."
No Need To Feel Bad