Life can change in an instant. One minute you have money––the next you have nothing.
Just think of all the people who were riding high before the Covid-19 pandemic dealt a devastating financial blow. How many people are now impoverished? How many of those people now struggle to make ends meet? How did it happen? Will they ever get back to the same standard of living they previously enjoyed?
People were keen on sharing their experiences after Redditor beesduck asked the online community,
"People who grew up rich but are now poor––what's your story?"
"He died soon after..."
"My grandfather ran an incredibly successful cafe in Lebanon a long time ago. Civil war broke out and it was destroyed. He died soon after of heart disease and our assets were lost along the way."
"Be thankful for your struggles..."
"My mom married my step-dad when I was in kindergarten and he ended up becoming really successful in his field. We moved into a huge house in a new neighborhood and never wanted for anything financially. Unfortunately, my parents weren't the most loving and pretty much just held everything over my head. I remember asking if I could get a work permit when I was 14 so I could just make my own money and not have to rely on them. But they wouldn't go for it. We went on nice vacations, had nice clothes and appliances and stuff. There were a lot of good parts. Then my mom got too comfortable, cheated on my step-dad, and had us move all of our stuff out of the house one day while he was at work.
She had me convinced that he was crazy and if I said anything to him, he'd go nuts and kill us, so I was too scared to say anything. I didn't agree with what she did but I didn't have a choice. I was 17 and financially dependent because they wouldn't let me work. I started having weekly dinners with my stepdad and he eventually told me that my mom closed out the account they had mine and my brother's college savings in. It was saved up child support from my dad and totaled about $150k. She didn't tell me about it, but she sure was spending money left and right.
Long story short, she pissed away all the money and I left home at 18 with nothing to go into the world and figure it out. I'm 31 now and still poor, paying off $65k in student loans. It's been really hard, but I've learned so many lessons that people who haven't struggled never will. Plus, I have the pride of knowing that what little I DO have, I earned. That pride is what's kept me going.
Finally, the hustle has paid off maybe because I'm starting a new job with an amazing pay increase on Tuesday and it hopefully looks like things are finally looking up. Be thankful for your struggles and learn from them because they show you how strong and resilient you really are."
We would totally understand if you held a grudge against your mom for what she did, but it sounds like you have done quite well for yourself. Congratulations; hope the job is what you want it to be––and more!
"I'm broke now..."
"My parents were abusive, I was raised to be abused. Married an abusive person. Took everything I had made in my own career to get away and divorce. I cut off communication with my parents during the divorce due to their continued toxic behaviors.
I'm broke now, have no family contact, and no inheritance. I do have a partner now that supports my healing and isn't abusive. I'm building my version of life now."
Breaking out of the cycle of the abuse is incredibly difficult––and those who manage to do it are incredibly accomplished in their own right.
"When my grandfather..."
"Family had a very well-established drilling and surveying company about 40-50 years ago. Owned multiple aircraft and sites around the country. We were very well off. Maids 24/7, personal chefs, drivers, etc.
When my grandfather (founder) died, the company was mismanaged and full ownership went to one member of the family. He sold it all to pay off gambling debts. The rest of the family didn't see a cent. Our family name used to have prestige and fame to it, but now it's unknown to today's generation.
Parted ways, moved overseas, and started over. Even though fortune and prestige are gone, I find we are a different kind of happy now. There's less societal pressure and we spend more time together as a family."
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"I'm pretty sure..."
"I had a friend that went through this. Her mother and stepfather ran a business building luxury homes. They were all kind of nuts, though. I'm pretty sure her stepfather abused her, although she denied it. They were terrible parents. All of the kids are maladjusted adults with drug and employment issues. Her mother got divorced a second time and ran her business into the ground. Now they live together in a one-bedroom cottage. Two adult kids and the mom."
"I graduated in 2016..."
"A string of bad breaks, mostly.
I grappled with mental health issues in high school and college. They're more or less resolved now and while I don't regret taking the time to get my sh*t in order, one consequence was that I didn't do any internships in college. For whatever reason, no one told me how important they were either, so I started behind in the job market. Oh, and I got a degree in English and wanted to work in publishing.
I graduated in 2016 and it's been a series of bad breaks. Got an internship, but didn't have a job when it ended. Did a program that was supposed to help me get a job and applied to jobs for almost a year before securing a part-time job in my field. Finally got a full-time job at a magazine but got laid off in October because the company lost so much money due to Covid.
My parents help me so I'm not homeless, but I often feel like a failure that I had all these advantages in life and I still can't seem to hack it. I feel so lucky and grateful that I have parents who can and want to help me and don't blame me for my situation even though I blame myself."
I can relate to bad breaks and I feel for you. But you are not a failure! Hold your parents close. It sounds like they're doing right by you.
"I've fallen prey..."
"My family were/are comfortably well off. I'm the youngest of four, and they just kind of gave up on me. I had undiagnosed ADHD but as a girl, it just looked like I was a dreamer and lazy, so they didn't invest much effort in my education. When I was 16, just starting my A-levels, they found their dream home 250 miles away. I asked if I could stay in school so my mum stayed for a few months while my dad moved into the new house, but I could see she wasn't happy, so I made other arrangements and they readily agreed to leave me. The house I moved to was supposed to be supervised by another school parent but she had her own plans and left me with her daughter, another 16-year-old. Our lives unraveled and pretty soon I had left school and was working full time and drinking heavily, scared every day about what I would come home to.
It's been difficult to get my life back on track again. I'm now 40, a single mum, running a business from a home I'll never own. My parents still believe they did the best for me, and I'll always know that they believed in a house more than they believed in me. The signs were all there that something was going on for me, but they liked their life to be tidy and pleasant, and meeting my needs was at odds with that.
I've fallen prey to a few abusive relationships since then and lived a lot of trauma. I got divorced recently and my ex bought my half of the house, and I invested a chunk of that money in therapy so I can claim control of my life again.
I'll never be rich, but I like who I am and I endeavor to leave my corner of the world better than I found it; each person I meet more heard and understood than when I met them, and tell the truth about what it is to be human until the day I die. I think it's a life well lived and I feel grateful to be me, but a little sad that my parents were so ready to use me as a scapegoat for their disappointments. They've grown as people and understand cognitive dysfunction and mental health problems so much better now and I'm proud of them for that."
"Most of my extended family..."
"I grew up in a Jewish family in Beirut, Lebanon. Back then Beirut used to be called the 'Paris of the Middle East'. I was 9 years old when we had to flee Beirut.
Most of my extended family had emigrated to Canada prior to 1975 but my parents were progressive and idealistic, they didn't like the thought of having to be exiled from their place of birth. We were among the last wave of Jewish people to leave Lebanon, and when we did leave, we had to leave everything behind. My father's family business (in textiles), all our belongings.
We arrived in Montreal practically penniless, and although things improved over time, and I'm grateful that we survived, needless to say, our finances were never the same after that. I eventually found work as a teacher, and have lived frugally for decades."
Money isn't everything––but it can certainly make life easier and more accessible. Few people know this better than those who've had and lost money or those who have never had any money (but know what it can get).
Have some stories of your own? Feel free to share them in the comments below.
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Oh the beginning of the interwebs.
We really thought it wouldn't be much of a fuss.
We definitely did not see what was to come.
Maybe it should've stayed simple.
We'll never know.
Computers rule the world now.
The internet is God.
Let's see where we are in another twenty years.
Those were the days.
Redditor EzucraAaAa wanted to wax nostalgic about the good old days of technology and its humble beginnings.They asked:
"Redditors, what's something the internet was crazy about but is now forgotten?"
I miss the simplicity of not having a thousand apps. I'm simple.
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"Search engines before Google existed. Alta Vista, Lycos, Web Crawler..."
"Downloading custom cursors for your computer. I gave my family computer so many viruses back in the '00s trying to click things with a lightsaber."
"Amazing. I had totally forgotten about all the virusy stuff I downloaded to my home computer, purely so the cursor would disappear and reappear. My parents had zero knowhow with computers either, so likely had no idea wtf I was downloading. Cursors were cool though, despite all the malware."
"During the early days of the web, when most websites weren't plastered with advertising... Website view counters."
"Back in the day of counters, one day I went to my website and the counter was in the thousands. I just thought it malfunctioned and ignored it. Years later I learned that my website, which had a MIDI collection, was published in a newspaper in another country. I couldn't say for sure if that was true and whether it aligned with the counter change."
"Yea the internet was simpler too, layout style I mean. I like old style HTML webpage layouts. I personally don’t like hyper modern logos and designs on interfaces. Something about old slightly pixelated designs about them home screens and app logos really made them satisfying. I’ve even went as far as seeing if I could install some extensions that could change the layout of sites, make them feel older, give them that 2000’s html look."
Found ItLooking The Loud House GIF by NickelodeonGiphy
"I used to waste so much time with stumble upon."
What a strange and crazy place the internet was.
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"Poking on Facebook."
"I had a friend that poked me and I never noticed the notification. He died. I now have this unreturned poke as a reminder that I’ll never be able to poke them back."
"Many flash games are not dead. BEHOLD! The flashpoint project. They have saved thousands of the old flash games in a playable format. Go forth and relive your childhood Also paging u/The_Middler_is_Here"
"Rip flash games... A neat alternative I've found a lot of games on is an application called Flashpoint. Check it out!"
I will find you...
"There was a rhythm game that I don't remember the name of that me and some friends would challenge each other in, and it had the song Guitar vs Piano 2 which introduced me to Envy, who was a pretty big newgrounds artist at the time. I wanna go check out their stuff again now, I'd completely forgot about them till now."
"Forums. There used to be so many, incredibly active and dedicated forums."
"A lot of the forums I visited were ruined by photobucket when they decided they wanted paid a lot of money from their users. So many build threads and tutorials ruined."
"IMDb had the best message boards back in the day. Chatting with your internet friends around the globe about every nuance in your fave movie. Man I miss that. Reddit is close, but nothing beats the olden days."
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"Do you guys remember those egg things that hatched little creatures after a while? You'd put one on your website and then the artist would update the source url with images of it hatching? There were all kinds of little fun things like that."
And those were the.... DAAAYYYYSSSS!!!!
Not all television and movies are loved by all.
A story and its characters have to appeal to you in order for you to be engaged.
It can take next to nothing for us to lose interest and let the screen go black.
Redditor BarooTangClan wanted to compare notes on all the entertainment we've said "that's enough" to.
"What will make you instantly stop watching a movie or show and why?"
I hate bad acting, writing, storytelling... I hate bad anything.
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"Fight scenes with a million visual cuts. Gives me motion sickness. Contrast the absolutely masterful work in John Wick. long cuts, realistic use of weapons (mostly), 100% skill."
"When the actors whisper the whole movie and you have to crank the volume to hear what's being said - but the soundtrack or some other misc noise starts blaring at a higher volume directly after."
"I basically had to watch Stranger Things up in my attic with the windows and doors closed. I was worried the neighbors would think something was wrong or be annoyed if I watched it downstairs in my single family home. It was ridiculous."
"spice things up"
"Love triangles out of no where in a second or third season to 'spice things up' because studio writers are hacks and their idea of relationship drama is 'potential infidelity' at all times. It's the most tired trope on the go**amn planet and the second I see it rear its head I dip right the hell out."
"The whole concept of a love triangle to begin with an incredibly juvenile. Any healthy functioning adult who found themselves in a love triangle would soon choose to find themselves single."
Save your lips...
"When couples in a movie/show have a fight and one of them instantly goes to a friend and end up kissing her/him after talking for 5 minutes. I cringe so hard i turn it off and never watch it again."
"This pissed me off so much in Manifest. Girl is desperate to get back her ex-fiancé, he finally breaks up with his wife to get back with her and she's like 'nah, it's not fair to your wife, let me do this other dude I just met through a calling and be pissed at you for being jealous.' Michaela was the worst and everyone acted as if she were a saint the entire time."
Talk to MeIn Love Flirt GIF by OriginalsGiphy
"Shows where a single polite conversation could fix everything."
We are going overboard with the witty repartee. Talk normal...
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"Annoying main character, especially if it's a kid."
"Kids who have a quippy, sassy retort to everything, and everyone just kind of crumbles before their wit."
"Shows where kids in high school talk like they are 30 years olds who have done everything, been everywhere, know it all and use a ridiculously flowery and extensive vocabulary in every conversation. Like, have any of these writers ever been to high school? Literally no one talks like that. Even worse is when, in addition to this, all the adults talk normal or are just plain stupid, like so weird parallel universe."
"If the movie is too dark. Not graphic, just literally dark. I lose all sense of intensity in dark scenes and I'm not straining my damn eyes trying to figure out what the hell is going on."
"I've seen about 10 percent of all DC movies recently. I've seen all of the individual films in full, just actually saw 10% of each of them."
"Movies in the late 80s had a lot of dark but you could see the depth because of different shooting techniques. Now you cant see crap because its a CGI fest drowned in black color so you can't see crap because you have no depth in a scene. Compare night scenes in dark alleys in 80's movies and movies now. Utter crap show in the new ones."
Pay Attention Storytellers
"Bad editing would be a big one. A lot of modern horror movies can't help but edit the movies like they're trailers, with added noises to scare the audience because they are afraid the script alone isn't enough to keep people watching."
"I remember this is where the first transformers movie lost me. When the transformers are fighting at the end, it's all a big, jumbled mess of metal and I can barely tell what's going on or who is who."
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"When they go straight to relationship drama right away when it wasn't the selling point of the show."
Do better, Hollywood. It's not that hard.
I fear death.
I wake up in cold sweats dreaming about it.
I think about it in my waking hours.
It's an obsession and clearly, I'm not alone.
But there are more preferred ways to exit.
All we can do is hope to be lucky enough to skip the mercilessly awful.
Please just let me go quick and in my sleep.
RedditorCallMehRiverwanted to hear about all the ways none of us what to leave this life.
"What Do You Think Would Be The Worst Death Imaginable?"
My list of the worst deaths is long. My imagination runs amok.
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"For me? Being trapped in a small tube or cave (like the ones you have to wiggle through) and getting stuck to where you can’t move your arms. And all you can do is wait to die. I’m getting chills just thinking about it."
"The more I hear about cavers that get stuck, the more I think that's a crap way to go."
"There’s a great YouTube channel called Ask a Mortician and this was her #1 worse way to die. I can’t remember the exact details or their names, but two well-known divers went into an underwater cave."
"One of them became entangled and died. Years later, his friend dives back down there to try and retrieve his body, the body itself is rotten and his head comes off and the other guy also becomes tangled and dies. Really sad."
A Long Process
"Believed to be in a coma but coherent through the whole 20 year process until they pull the plug."
"Oh man this just reminded me of a story I read on here about a guy who lost the ability to move and speak but was completely conscious. Had to just lay there and be awake but trapped in a useless body. His family thought he was brain dead or something and he couldn’t communicate to them that he was 'all there.' Crazy"
Slow & Steady
"Being slowly impaled by a growing bamboo. It was a form of torture probably used by the japanese during WW2 against Allied prisoners."
"The scariest part is that once you have symptoms, you 100% will die. A 100% mortality rate has to be a psychological torture in itself."
"Not only that, you feel irrational fear. Your brain is literally being eaten apart by the virus and it fu*ks up everything on it. You can't drink water because it hurts you. You feel dizzy, present a fever, excessively salivate, everything hurts and it only gets worse. I'd rather take a bullet and die when the symptoms are still tolerable."
Why can't we all just go engulfed in calm and quiet?
"Some pulpy sci-fi book I read a while back had one of the best deaths of this real piece of crap bad guy. Left to die in a drowning sea lab under the Antarctic ice, he freezes himself in a state of the art suspended animation pod with some kind cold fusion power source that would keep it running for millions of years."
"But he forgot to inject himself with the drug that would put him to sleep. So basically he is in suspended animation at the bottom of the Antarctic ocean while his mind is perfectly awake and conscious in a near unbreakable machine that won't run out of power for millions of years and nobody knows about it."
"As an RN I have always thought that the worst way to die (natural process) is ALS. Lou Gehrig's Disease."
"My mom and grandmother have Huntington's disease, which is essentially ALS, Alzheimer's, and Dementia combined into one really messed up genetic disease. I have a 50% chance of inheriting it and if I hit 40 and there's still no cure I can't promise I'll feel like continuing on with my life because that disease is absolutely freaking miserable."
"The fact your chromosomes can be so destroyed your body basically lost it's genetic code and with it the ability to make any new cells. It's literally a 'dead man walking' and you slowly rot away in agony. Stuff is so unimaginably f**ked up."
"What's also bad about radiation is that it affects your nerves and brain cells last, so you have everything in place to feel all the pain of the rest of your cells being destroyed."
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"I want to believe anything that slowly kills you painfully to be the worst. Such as slowly being crushed or something where the pain is beyond compare and yet not enough to throw you into shock or unconsciousness."
"Alternatively, being rapidly crushed into goo would probably be the least painful. I'm talking one of those massive industrial hammers they use for large steel work. Basically smooshed before the nerve signals make it to the brain."
Now I'll never sleep again without nightmares of death.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
Most Americans think nothing of their humdrum daily activities or amenities available to them.
However, others with a different perspective might romanticize the things that are otherwise commonplace ideas and concepts for US citizens, like going to a diner or riding the school bus.
One Redditor looked to foreigners to hear of their American desires to respond to the following:
"Non-Americans of Reddit: what is an American thing you have always wanted to try?"
The things depicted in film really captivated foreign audiences.
"To visit a diner like in the movies. In the middle of the night, it’s raining and just a few people there with great music from a jukebox."
Iconic Student Transport
"Ride a yellow school bus even if I'm too old. Growing up I always loved seeing them on TV."
Just Like The Ones We Used To Know
"A white Christmas."
"Living in an Australian state where I've never even seen snow in our winter, let alone experiencing that classic Hallmark movie moment of waking up to a street full of it and sitting around a fireplace while opening gifts/preparing a feast."
"Guess it's not strictly American, but the imagery and trope is something I've only really seen from American Films."
They may be ubiquitous for us, but they sure seem to be novel ideas to foreigners.
Let's Be Frank
"One of the hotdogs from those little street cart things."
"A friend of mine from Indonesia said, 'the food chewer in the sink.'"
"Apple Pie made by white-haired grandma, placed near window, who says 'oh dear...' as I levitate towards it."
"Proper tailgating before a ball game, the kind where there's ribs and stuff."
"Deep fried foods at a state fair. I'm from Scotland and we love to deep fry everything and I wanna know if it's just as good or better."
There are places to see!
Places To See
"America’s greatest invention!"
Backpacking In Nature
"I always wanted to hike The Appalachian Trail if that counts. Or see Yellowstone."
"Being able to start a whole new life 'elsewhere' without having to leave my country and going through an arduous immigration process."
My cousin told me she looks forward to visiting a Trader Joe's someday when she visits America for the first time.
Her bucket list option was hardly surprising. My parents used to bring treats from TJs as a novelty souvenir gift item, and my relatives ate it up. Literally.
Let's face it. The snacks at TJs rocks.
Even store locations in New York City would have ridiculously long lines during busy hours because the West-coast-based grocer was a novelty on the East Coast.