Some years ago, an ex of mine gave me a teddy bear that I've had no desire to get rid of. For one thing, it's soft and cuddly and nice to sleep with. Why would I want to get rid of it?

The relationship also did not end badly so I saw no reason to get rid of it. It would have felt like a waste.

I'm not the only one who has kept something from a prior relationship either. People have their reasons. We heard some of them after Redditor wham_12 asked the online community,

"What's one thing your ex gave you that you can't get rid of?"

"Can't get rid of..."

"Curtains for my super uninsulated apartment. Can’t get rid of something so convenient."

jez187

Good curtains are worth their weight in gold. Keep them!

"She taught me to save up..."

"My ex converted me to a “buy-it-for-life” attitude with a lot of items. She taught me to save up and buy something quality rather than going for what you can afford at that instant. I’ve followed through with this with mattress, my couch, my wardrobe, my cookware, my jewelry, my appliances."

mm2m2

Yes! You literally get what you pay for. A lot of large cash purchases last soooo much longer than the bargain buys.

"The ability..."

"The ability to pronounce most Spanish words properly."

Issidian

Knowing another language, even if only a bit, pays dividends.

"She showed me..."

"Confidence in myself. She showed me what I was worth and what I deserved in a partner and for that I’ll be forever grateful."

OlDanBoy

That’s beautiful… she sounds like a kind soul!

"A larger..."

"A larger vocabulary and I am thankful for it."

MoansandScones

Dating someone articulate pretty much pays for itself.

"They're cuter..."

"The plush toys he gave me are still with me as part of my collection. They're cuter and not as mouthy as my ex anyway, so they stayed."

Happy_Collector

See what I mean? My plush toys are adorable and I wouldn't want to get rid of them.

"She gave me a belief..."

"A sense of not feeling like I'm unlovable. She gave me a belief that someone can love me and want to spend a life with me. The life wasn't with her, but I'm thankful for the relationship and the lesson is taught me."

ocelotrevs

Some people have exes who give them the opposite. You're lucky!

"I still have the shirt..."

"I still have the shirt he gave me when we broke up. It was my favorite and I always borrowed it when we were together. He knew how much I loved it and gave it to me as a parting gift, even though it was one of his favorites too. He was a good guy."

spiral

It’d be nice if all breakups had “parting gifts.” Like when you lose on a game show.

"Mine showed me..."

"Mine showed me what not to look for in a relationship."

GroundbreakingPop802

This is immensely valuable. You don't know what you don't know. You're all the better for it.

"Some great memories. We might not have ended up partners for life, but it was fun whilst it lasted."

[deleted]

This is a great perspective!

You see? Breakups aren't all bad. In many cases, you'll come away from them with a better understanding of yourself and where you stand. That's an invaluable gift.

Have some observations of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!

Want to "know" more?

Sign up for the Knowable newsletter here.

Never miss another big, odd, funny, or heartbreaking moment again.

People Describe The Exact Moment They Realized Their Friends Were A-Holes
Photo by Luke Porter on Unsplash

Everyone has friends who you become less and less close to with each passing year.

This isn't always by choice, though, but simply by circumstance, when your lives both take different directions.

In some cases, however, we do find ourselves making a very conscious decision to stop spending time with certain friends.

Owing to the fact that these people might not be our friends after all.

In certain cases, the communication ends as the result of one specific moment.

Keep reading...Show less
People Break Down The Greatest TV Theme Songs Of All-Time
Photo by Will Francis on Unsplash

We all have songs that we can't get out of our heads, resulting in our randomly humming them while walking down the street.

Among the most infectious songs are theme songs to TV shows.

Be it from tuning in every week to catch up with Friends who will always" be there for [us]", or being "stuck in the middle" of a Grace And Frankie binge, we often find ourselves humming the theme songs of our favorite shows more often than we find ourselves quoting the best lines.

Even if it means humming an infectious melody to a wordless piece of music (Will & Grace or Seinfeld anyone?)

Keep reading...Show less
People Explain Which Bits Of Common Knowledge They Learned Way Too Late In Life
Photo by AbsolutVision on Unsplash

Who hasn't had a moment when they learned what they thought was a revelatory piece of information, ran to share it with their friends, and were then greeted by a barrage of stone faces?

Owing to the fact that what we only just learned a few minutes ago, was apparently common knowledge.

These include your favorite movie star was in fact the offspring of another movie star, what gelatin is actually made of, or little tricks and strategies which make certain experiences so much more pleasurable.

For no particular reason, some people learn these things far later than just about everyone else.

Keep reading...Show less

I'm a simple person when it comes to video games.

I prefer to go with nostalgia.

All of these fancy deals put me on sensory overload.

But my goodness the technology really has come a long way.

And there are actual storylines and drama.

Good for y'all gamers.

Keep reading...Show less