You think you know someone. Until they open their mouths and spew negative nonsense.
"Have you ever genuinely lost respect in someone because of their opinion? Why?"
People with no compassion and don't have an open mind can stay living under a rock.
Undermining
"Any time I hear from someone that my depression is fake, my doctors are brainwashing my brain and the pills is just placebo to act like a zombie, I can handle it. And an ex-friend did that except she wanted to sell to me her Bach roses/mlm sh*t and told me they CURE everything. I asked her if she even had a time per month to listen to my worries and said 'I don't have time for that.'"
– Edgefish
Questionable Therapy
"A friend I have since withdrawn from told me that she wanted her boyfriend; who has Aspergers; to go on a 5 day course to 'change his personality'. I didn't even know this existed! Horrifying."
– Cute_Island_260
The Xenophobe
"I'm an immigrant, and I have lived my whole in Europe ever since I was 4 months old . A 'friend' of mine back in high school complained about immigrants, and that they're 'filthy'. I told him 'Well, I'm an immigrant as well, and he just answered 'Well, you're a different immigrant. You're not like them'. I had known him since middle school. I guess I saw his true colors lol."
– EntertainmentFit2023
The Racist
"When I was in the break room, watching videos on my phone and my boss walked in, sat down, and was waved at me to take my headphones off and so I did and she said"
“'Do you go to the mall? Cuz I don’t, I hate seeing Mexicans and blacks just living off the government.'”
"I'm Spanish decent and I’m brown as well, what the f'k."
"Edit : added Spanish descent because an account reposted my story throughout my comment history because they were mad I said I was brown."
– Flywire789
Blaming The Victim
"Yeah Mt ex said that women who walk by themselves in the dark and get raped need to blame themselves."
"He was the ugliest man I ever met after that discussion."
"'I know it's illegal to rape someone but why walk about on your own after dark if you don't want that to happen to you?' BECAUSE WE NEED TO GET HOME FROM WORK, DANIEL. IT'S DARK AT 4PM HERE."
– [deleted]
An unpopular belief system is enough to write off a friendship.
Pro-War
"An old friend of mine thought wars are good and necessary due to overpopulation. She specifically mentioned WWI & WWII and why innocent people had to die."
– HotIcePack
Just The Facts, Please
"Yes. If someone’s opinion contradicts a scientific fact then I can’t respect them. Flat earthers are a good example of what I mean."
– Bjorn_Suicide
Flat-Out Believer
"A guy I was friends with started going on about how the earth is flat. I thought he was joking at first as there are a lot of flat earthers out there. But no, he's one of them. I struggle to hold a conversation with him now as it's all I think about when I (now rarely) see him."
– An-Englishman-in-NY
Support For An Autocrat
"A classmate of mine posts stuff on Facebook how it's NATO countries fault that Russia is invading Ukraine and not Putin. He makes it sound like Putin never had any fault in this and is blaming western countries. He also supports a dictator's son who is obviously a liar and a thief who is running for President. Seriously, that Dictator's son is a coward who doesn't show up at debates and interviews because they are 'biased'. That coward also has lots of troll farms on Facebook and Twitter."
– 567stranger
Outdated Norms
"A friend had his nephew (2 yrs) with him at another friend's place, I said i have toys at my place that I could bring over. I brought the toys over and he straight up said NO, he's not playing with these. Why? Because it was a kitchen set."
"I have had many of my nephews and cousins (boys and girls) play with them. I had already been realising that he was kind of sexist, but that just left no room for doubt."
– 1_step_at_atime
Perception Of Attractiveness
"People who think a relationship only works if you're entirely physically attracted to them. No I'm happy with being half into their looks. Really isn't as important as having a good personality with matching chemistry."
– joelfoy44
About Healthcare
"A former friend of mine once said that he hoped that healthcare was privatized here again. He said that he was 'sick of paying for other people's healthcare' and that people who couldn't afford it deserved to die anyway.He's from a middle class family and he said that to a group of people who were from working class families, who wouldn't be able to afford privatized healthcare and who in his eyes 'deserve to die.'"
These Redditors frowned upon those who lack having any sense of morality.
Cheaters
"People who cheat on significant others, when I learn you cheat I instantly assume you have zero integrity, I have 0 respect for you and I will distance myself from you any way possible because you are a backstabbing piece of sh*t."
– Kusanagi8811
Perception Of Criminals
"I work in medical research. It's a complicated topic and I don't want to get into an ethical debate in the comments, but I lose respect for somebody every time they say 'Why don't we just test drugs on criminals instead of poor little animals?'"
"You're philosophically bankrupt. We've got historic evidence that defining someone's right to human dignity and human rights based on criminal status is a bad f'kin idea. Tying that to profit motive and encouraging an increased 'production' of criminals to test on just gives you a system that is somehow even worse than the current American prison system."
"Kind of a niche rant, I know, but it bugs me that people actually believe this would work."
– Stradoverius
Bullies
"people who treat the weak badly."
– rasbperr1
Actions Speak Louder
"I have a sibling who is one of those people who makes a huge performative display of empathy and liberalism, but never undertakes action to back up the displays. A virtue signaler, I guess would be the term."
"Anyway, after years of outward display of being an LGBTQ+ ally, they justified Hillary’s stance against marriage equality in 2008 because 'it just wasn’t a smart political move'. This same sibling also told me they could never love a bisexual person because you could never trust that they wouldn’t cheat on you."
"Me and my fiancée are both bi and haven’t come out to our families."
– MagnusCranmegranate
Human beings are complex individuals, and we are constantly being influenced by our environment and those around us as things change.
So it's unsurprising how we grow distant from certain people as we get to know others who come into our lives.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.