Frustrated People Share Their Neighbor Horror Stories
When you buy your home, you expect a certain level of politeness and consideration from your neighbors. Keep your dogs off each others lawns. Let them know about any loud parties going on. Trim your hedges and keep your sports equipment off their roofs. Simple, right? Not for some, apparently, as evidence by these frustrated homeowners answers to Reddit user, u/narwhal_attack2394, who asked: What did your a--hole neighbor do?
I moved onto a dirt road with several houses on it. My friend has lived down the road his whole life. The people next to my house only come up for the summer and are never there in the winter. When summer comes, however, there's multiple pot holes on the road. Curious, I asked my friend. He said the neighbors come up in the summer and dig the holes themselves in order to 'slow down' traffic.
Picking A Fight With The Wrong Senior Citizen
Picked a fight with our 70 year old Indian neighbor. Like, an actual physical fight.
Indian neighbor has seen waaay too much BS in his life to tolerate any more and hit him with a nectarine tree in a pot.
EDIT: yes the tree is ok. Hilariously, he actually gifted it to me last weekend after I helped him do a bunch of trellis work (we're both keen food gardeners). I haven't been able to look at it without cracking up.
Being TOO Nosey
He used to stand on the footpath drunk every afternoon and yell to my husband about what a b**** I was. Once my husband told him to go home and he shaped up to try and punch my husband, who was around 50 years younger than the neighbor.
My infraction? He rang one day to be nosy check why my husband's car was home on a work day. I politely thanked him for his call and let him know my husband was sleeping and had a cold, nothing to worry about.
Apparently I was meant to praise him profusely for being such a caring neighbour, and my husband was meant to follow up with a call once he was awake and also lavish him with praise for caring. Because we didn't, we got to hear about it loudly every afternoon until we moved several months later.
Calling Out Your Kids
Called the cops on our then 6 yr old son because he was playing outdoors in public property.
It wasn't a road or anything. There was no danger whatsoever. He wasn't screaming or anything, she just didn't like kids.
She also told our 3 yr old daughter that she was ugly.
Water On Concrete
Late last year mine said he'll bash me because I got his driveway wet while I had the sprinkler going to water my yard. Not even joking - he flipped his s*** over his driveway getting water on it!
Yelled at me for entering a shared garage to get some of our stuff. He later claimed I was after his gun, which was stored in a gun locker with a lock, that only he had the key for. He was in his 60's or 70's at the time.
Jerry Sounds Like The Literal Worst
When I moved in, he seemed eccentric, but harmless. Apparently my landlord had a conversation with him and told him to leave me alone. This upset Jerry greatly. He cornered me one day while I was unlocking my door and asked me to come sit with him in his apartment. I don't think the place had ever been cleaned and he had Hoarder mentalities. He drank a bottle of wine in about 30 minutes, commenting on all the sad things in his life. Luckily he passed out, so I could leave.
A couple weeks later, he got into a 3am fight with his boyfriend, which resulted in his boyfriend trying to get into my apartment for safety, and eventually breaking into an empty unit down the hall. Cops were called and Jerry was taken to jail.
About a week after that, same boyfriend was over and a fight ensued. This time it ended in very loud sex.
Jerry would flush things you're not supposed to flush down the toilet and would back up sewage into mine and my neighbor's bathtubs and bathroom sinks. Eventually he clogged his toilet so badly that he just ripped it from the wall and left it there.
The cops came twice to my door to ask if I had seen Jerry lately, and asked to search my apartment to make sure I wasn't hiding him.
One day while I was getting ready for work, he came into my apartment with another guy and tried to measure my walls for the "renovation" he was going to do to combine his and my apartments into one unit. But, don't worry, I could just live with him when it was all finished.
Eventually, Jerry got evicted, but would still convince people to let him into the building. For months his mugshot was pasted on all entrances saying to not let him in.
Misusing Your Authority
Got his cop buddies to come put stickers on our cars claiming they were illegally parked so we had to move them so he would have room for his guests to park.
I bought a corner lot in a newer subdivision so i have curb and sidewalk on two sides of my property. The side of my house has plenty of room for parking which i sometimes use, my stepson uses, and sometimes the other neighbors I like use. New neighbor bought a house on the other side of the street from my side, and doesn't have a lot of street parking for his lot. He claims that the parking on my side of the road is his because it is across the street from his house.
When confronted about the fact that it is just parking and no way belongs to him, me or anybody he told us he knows people in the police department that can take care of this. He also picked this time to scream pretty specific mean things about all his new neighbors and how each one was s**** like he is watching us.
I Need To Sleep, Jerry!
Rang my doorbell at 4am over and over and asked me to go with him because there was an emergency and it was important. Went with him and he took me over to his car and started asking what I thought of it and looked very proud.
In other words this dude rang every apartment in the building at 4am to get people to look at his new car.
When They Do ALL The Things Wrong
Ahhhhhhh! Please allow me to vent because I am in the throes of this b.s. at the moment.
First, they have 4 mini-Dachsunds that never shut up. I cannot even open my backdoor without these little dogs going off, and they just leave their dogs outside all day. I enjoy sitting outside on a nice day and reading, but nope, I can't concentrate over the ear-splitting constant yapping. Now, I am a dog person, I own dogs and love dogs, but this complete lack of consideration is mind-boggling.
Second, they rent (and I own), but the crazy wife told me she owns a 3' strip of my property and they'll be moving the fence over. I don't have a huge yard, 3' is a lot of space, and did I mention THEY RENT. I brought out my survey to say "No, you don't own it and no, you aren't going to be moving the fence," and she continued to say that they had their own survey but refused to show it to me.
Third, they seem to think it's no big deal if they come into my yard. I came home from work to find they'd moved their water drainage into my backyard.
They complain about my tree and asked me to cut it down. I said no. They put their garbage cans in my driveway. I've witnessed the wife empty her vacuum cleaner in my driveway. She has blown piles of leaves that haven't even come from my tree into my driveway. Even after I put locks on my gate, she climbed up on a ladder, LEANED OVER THE FENCE, and leaf blew all the leaves IN MY YARD AND THAT WERE ALREADY IN PILES all over my yard. After that, I put up cameras and have future plans to press charges for trespassing the next time this crazy b-tch pulls another stunt...
Cats Are People Too, Darn It
Moved in with 2 cats. Decided she would rather have a dog. Took the 2 cats, set them on her porch, and made them "outdoor cats". Stopped feeding them. Didn't spay either. Now our neigbhorhood is overrun with 10 or so male cats and these 2 have a new litter each every few months.
A--holes. Animals aren't a decoration you can just throw out when you're bored with them. They are living creatures, damnit.
Early Morning Shots
One of them was a cowboy builder who even conned his elderly nextdoor neighbours into getting their roof done for £10,000 even though their tiles were almost brand new, he then took all their tiles to re-tile his roof for free and put about 10% of his old crappy tiles on their roof then abandoned the project completely, don't worry though we got him arrested and he had to sell his house to pay back his victims although the cost of his house didn't even come close to covering the full costs
another neighbour would stand in his back garden really early in the morning then start shooting local birds with a crossbow when they woke up and he put the bodies in regular bin bags and left them in the street where foxes ripped them open and dragged dead birds all over the place, now we have no songbirds in the area
Sicking Her Son On You
Not one of her neighbors can stand her, she's pissed off everyone on all sides of her.
Her son's a cop so she'll send him over to b**** at you if you violate any of her peeves. She did that about one of the dogs, (she hates animals) and my wife answered the door. Her poor kid got an earful and told to go home before she called his captain to complain about the momma's boy that lives next door harassing people. Hilarious.
She regularly gets into it with her neighbor on the other side, which is a mistake, since that woman is taking care of a dementia suffering husband and puts up with zero BS. I can hear her regularly telling her to get bent.
- Screamed obscenities through the wall at my children because they were "talking too loudly" in the middle of the day.
- Screamed at us through the walls in the middle of the night so we could "see how it felt to be disturbed."
- Regularly dumped his old food out of his bathroom window into our shared backyard. Rodent infestation took place shortly thereafter.
- Stopped paying rent to our landlord because he felt that the landlord should have warned him that he might be able to hear his neighbors.
- Dumped his trash on our shared front porch.
Landlord did not renew his lease. Took him to court, got his unpaid rent money back plus additional payment for damages to the apartment. It was a glorious vindication.
Worst Dinner Guest Ever
On a near daily basis, he throws temper tantrums, yelling, stomping, throwing tools, slamming doors and screaming at his family over some petty nonsense.
I feel bad for is family and I'm genuinely annoyed each time I hear his voice.
It started by letting her kids and animals run wild in my back yard. So, I dropped $5k on a 6' privacy fence that my father-in-law and I built. Then she had her water turned off for lack of payment and began pooping in plastic bags and throwing them over my fence. When confronted about it, she kindly denied and then took to social media.
I called the landlord and had an eviction notice served the next day.
Offer Unsolicted Gardening Advice
Ripped up and threw away my mum's sweet pea plant that she got from her friend who died of cancer.
When she complained he started ranting about how our garden is a disgrace and an embarrassment to the neighborhood and we need to replace all the grass and plants with concrete.
It's A Neighborhood, Not A Club
He would blast EDM music almost every day starting from 9 AM, especially on the weekends, and once I asked him to please keep it down until 10 AM he changed his habit.. to 8:30 AM.
When I was 10, my neighbor -- an 80-something year old man with a Christian radio station -- shot and killed one of my dogs. When I went looking for my dog, I asked my neighbor if he had seen him.
He told me that he shot a dog like that this morning.
Frozen, I asked where he was so I could bury him. The old man told me that his body was in the dumpster and that he would shoot me too if I didn't get off his land.
I ran through the woods back to my house, screaming out loud in anger and punching trees until my knuckles were torn and bloody.
When I got home, I called the police and the K9 unit came out to my house. He retrieved my dog's body and I buried him.
The worst part was that my dog was very sweet (I know that generally sweet dogs can be threatening, but it was very against his nature) my neighbor had tied him up and broken all of his legs.
I have never felt more rage in my life. My mom took the man to court and he was charged with animal cruelty and the judge asked how much money I thought the dog was worth. I was dumbfounded and croaked out that I didn't want money -- I wanted my dog.
The neighbor was fined $500 and I made him pay it to the local humane society.
The man had the ten commandments posted all around his house, so the next night I took a red sharpie and circled "Thou Shalt Not Kill" on all of his signs.
I doubt anyone will see this comment, but damn... writing it was kind of therapeutic. My dog's name was Hershey, he was a mutt that was born in my bedroom -- he was only 2 years old and such a good boy. Thanks Reddit.
Ignoring The Ones You're Supposed To Not
Neglected their daughter to the point that she'd sneak into our house and steal food from our kitchen.
CPS was called.
When I was a teenager and lived with my parents we had this one neighbor family that seemed sorta off. One day the father knocks on our door and tells my parents they haven't had power for a long time and begged to run an extention cord to one of our outside outlets for the day so his young kids could have cold milk with their cereal in the morning.
My parents agreed to do this for one day. The neighbor kept up their part and disconnected the cable after that day. A week later they hook it back up again without us noticing. A month goes by and our electricity bill is basically double what it normally is. Parents head to the backyard and find the cable plugged in, yank it out, and confront the neighbor.
At first the father doesn't show his whole body and cracks the door, but my stepdad gets him to open up the door after pointing out that he is concealing a gun (he didn't have to pull the gun out). Stepdad demands and explanation as to why the cable was run to our outlet and the dude just sorta mumbles incoherently and shuts the door, locking it.
Bad neighbor family was in a duplex and their neighbor, sharing the building, comes around and asks what's up. Parents explain the whole story and how the next step was calling the police. Good neighbor is a former police chief and is friends with the entire force, he offers to make the call.
Several cop cars arrive. Bad neighbor father and mother are arrested. Turns out they were running a meth lab inside the house. The mother was a prostitute and the kids (a boy and girl between ages 7-10) were malnourished. The kids were put into foster care.
No other bad neighbor has beat that high score yet.
Before there was Seth Rogen and Zac Efron duking it out on the block, it was John Belushi and Dan Aykroyd in 1981's Neighbors, available here in retro packaging designed to make your blu-ray look like a VHS tape.
If Rogen and Efron are more your style, you can get 2014's Neighbors here.
If there's one thing we can rely on history for it's that it never changes.
What historical inaccuracies are still taught?
Let's get the basics out of the way, the things we were most likely taught in school by teachers who perhaps didn't have access to a real history book.
Not Short At All
"That Napoleon was very short."
"He was slightly taller than an average Frenchman of his time. Around 168-170 cm."
"It was English propaganda. He was also often surrounded by his Imperial Guard who used to be a lot taller.
"Still, alot shorter than average Europeans these days."
"My mother and all her siblings were taught at a Catholic school that [men] have one less rib than [women] and that's to origin of the Adam and Eve story. Completely untrue. Men and women have the same number of ribs."
Did He Even Sail The Ocean Blue?! These Are The Questions.
"I don't know if it's still taught, but I know that a commonly held belief is that the whole world thought that the Earth was flat except for Columbus. In actuality it was well known that the Earth was round as early as the 6th century BC."
"It turned out that he was absolutely wrong about that, but luckily for him he ran into a whole unexpected continent that was sitting right in the middle of his route, because otherwise his miscalculation would have meant he was super screwed."
Sometimes, history changes because we don't want to know the truth. The story behind the fact is a lot more fascinating to hear and easier to swallow.
They All Knew
"There's definitely this thought process that normal Germans (and Poles, Austrians, Hungarians, etc) didn't know about the camps at all during the holocaust that gets pushed as fact in schools, which is bullsh*t. The concept of the goings-on at a KZ was absolutely something people knew. When my grandfather was growing up it was normal to 'hire' people from Dachau satellite camps to build fences or work in fields or whatever. T
he industrialization process and scale of it was news to them, for sure, but if something happened to you and you were sent to a KZ, everyone knew it was a death sentence, and you were going to be forced into labor until you died. By the time 1944 rolled around they were pretty aware of the gas chambers too, though most people didn't believe it."
Losing The Most
"In New Zealand, they sometimes seem to be taught that they had the highest casualty rate in both World Wars. I worked with a New Zealander who got genuinely angry when I said that it wasn't even close to being true. I put it down to him being misinformed, but then I saw another NZer making the same claim on the Guardian website."
"Post-war calculations indicated that New Zealand's ratio of killed per million of population (at 6684) was the highest in the Commonwealth (with Britain at 5123 and Australia, 3232).
He Was A Regular Einstein
"Albert Einstein didnt fail his classes.. He succeeded very well."
"Sometimes it's repeated by adults trying to uplift younger kids who struggle in school. 3rd grader having trouble with long division and is crying because he thinks he's stupid? "Aw, don't worry, even Einstein failed math. Math is hard. You're smart you just need to keep at it." The "keep at it" part being the point (because in this legend, Einstein eventually stopped being bad at math)."
"But yes, that is something that older kids take and run with to argue that their crap grades are in fact evidence that they are brilliant geniuses, and it's the school's fault for not challenging their genius."
If there's one thing Americans know, it's their own history.
Exploiting A Workforce? America? Really?!
"No so much inaccurate but heavily downplayed. The American labor movement from 1880 - 1920's was so bloody that my Anthropology professor referred to it as the second civil war."
"The Battle of Blair Mountain, over 1,000,000 rounds were fired in a battle with workers who'd been fed up with 14 hour days in coal mines and living in tents and being brutalized by "private investigators," thugs hired the Capitalists."
"lots of good music came from it too. The IWW, communist Party, socialist party, and so on feature heavily here."
"The National Guard was called in by the Capitalists, who shot or imprisoned anyone who didn't immediately get back in the mines."
America Failed Longer Than We Thought
"The Vietnam War started in the mid-sixties when it started in the fifties."
"Some misinformed people still teach that the USA did not lose the war (by using the red herring of a slow withdrawal) when in reality North Vietnam succeeded in their goal of kicking out the occupying foreigners and reunifying Vietnam."
Maybe The People Shooting Off Fireworks Early Have A Point
"The Declaration of Independence was signed on July 4, 1776. No, it was signed on July 2, it wasn't announced until July 4 but regardless even Thomas Jefferson and John Adams, and others, wrote that they expected July 2 would be the date that would be celebrated with great festivities."
"That got lost to history."
The Wild West Is A Lie
"I don't think it's taught but the general American seem to believe that cowboys were mostly White people. When in actuality it was Mexicans and even Black people after they were freed. It was considered a lowly position in the Wild West. If a cowboy was White, he was a very poor White."
"White people were on the frontier farming and such. Asians (the Chinese) did laundry and were cooks. That's where a lot of Chinese-American foods originated from."
"People also seem to forget that this time period, which was maybe only 30-50 years, had three pinnacle events unfold in US history—the Transcontinental Railroad was completed, The Chinese Exclusion Act went into law, and slavery was abolished. I may be wrong but I believe in that order too."
Double check your sources. Use more than one resource. Try to look for the bias in writing. There's lots of ways to learn about history. Don't always accept the first story being told because it's easier to accept.
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I consider myself quite the film buff and I have a thing for disturbing films. Perhaps it's the way they've challenged me intellectually and emotionally. Some of the darkest subject matter is the most engaging, revealing truths about the world and the society we live in.
A lot of disturbing films take inspiration from reality. There have been some truly excellent ones, as we were so kindly reminded after Redditor JarJarBinks asked the online community,
"What disturbing films are based on true stories?"
Wolf Creek (2005)
It's based on the Backpacker Murders in the 90s. What happened was that a guy called Ivan Milat (basis for Mick Taylor) would pick up backpackers hitchhiking on the Hume Highway between Melbourne and Sydney. Instead of taking them to where they wanted to go, he'd tie them up, take them out to the Belanglo State Forest and torture them before killing them. He succeeded in killing at least 7 people (that we know of), but failed to abduct another chap, who ended up being the person who identified him."
A truly unnerving film. The "head on a stick" scene––you know the one––is probably the most unnerving.
"Conspiracy. A group of intelligent, high-ranking, sophisticated individuals meet for a conference to catch up, share a laugh, and calmly debate the merits of industrial scale genocide."
The true story of the newspaper that managed to uncover how far the pedophilia went in the Catholic Church."
An unsettling, if quiet film. It grabs you and doesn't let go. The journalists who handled this are heroes.
Come and See (1985)
"While not based on any one individual's experiences, Elem Klimov and Ales Adamovich based the movie on the real experiences of the civilians who lived on the Eastern Front during WW2. Klimov drew on his experiences as a refugee surviving the Battle of Stalingrad while Adamovich drew on his experiences as a Belorussian partisan. It gives an unflinching look at the reality of the Holocaust by bullets and partisan warfare."
Probably one of the most disturbing films that I've ever seen. Not for the faint of heart. The barn scene alone is the stuff of nightmares.
The Sacrament (2013)
"The Sacrament. It's this found footage film based on the story of Jonestown. It's about this camera crew that travels to Guyana to find one crew member's sister. They act out the lectures Jim would give, the suicide, the shooting, etc. It's one thing to read about the massacre or watch documentaries but to actually watch the massacre acted out is another kind of disturbing."
Jonestown was the largest loss of American life until September 11. The gravity of the event cannot be underestimated.
The Snowtown Murders (2011)
"Snowtown Murders. I couldn't finish it. That bathtub scene.....f***.
I did listen to an interview today with the guy who played the main psycho. He seemed really pleasant and said that, yeah, that scene was brutal to shoot."
The director, Justin Kurzel, is known for making subversive and engaging films. His latest, Nitram, is based on the Port Arthur shooting. Sure to be unsettlling.
"Changeling is about the mother of one of the victims of the Wineville Chicken Coop Murders. She really was committed to a psych ward because she insisted the 'Changeling' (the boy who claimed to be her son) was not her son, the LAPD was trying to use an uplifting story to distract from the fact they were garbage."
This film gutted me. Christine Collins never got a break.
"Downfall / Das Untergang
What really was disturbing was the fact that, after all was said and done, Trudle Jung never really seemed ashamed or even sorry for what happened during the war."
"Bully. Directed by Larry Clarke. A group of teenagers plots how they're going to murder a friend. So real and so raw. The whole time watching it I thought, "This is exactly how it'd play out in real life." Got to the credits and they start showing photos of the actual people."
Few films feel as much a slice of life as this one. It's graphic, it's cutting, it's disgusting––and it's also unforgettable. The performances are great.
"Room was a movie made in 2015 and took inspiration, if that's the right word, from several real-life cases where young girls were kidnapped and kept prisoner for years or decades and had children with their abductor."
If you have a strong stomach, it's worth checking out these films, because they're all exceptional. If nothing else, they're worth a conversation. And who knows, you might introduce others to films they might appreciate (if not necessarily enjoy).
Have some recommendations of your own? Feel free to tell us in the comments below!
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Anyone who doubted the value a little piece of cardboard could carry should look around the neck of Logan Paul. Pokemon cards are still worth so much!
Not every guilty pleasure will manifest in the coming years as a financially viable interest. They do emerge in a number of ways, through the shows we watch or the music we listen to. There can be a bit of self-imposed resentment over the activities we enjoy. While today's modern internet sensibilities would say "life is short" or "like what you love," when it comes to the matter of money invested, that can bring about a whole other discussion.
Reddit user, u/SAWildDog, wanted to hear what you feel like you should dial back your spending on when they aske:
What is your guilty pleasure that you know you shouldn't spend money on but you do anyways?
Some guilty pleasures shouldn't be frowned upon, as at the end of the expenditure you get to at least walk away with something.
Game After Game After Game...
"Same. I have stacks I have barely played. Some I have never played but I still buy more knowing I probably won't play them either. But Hundle Bundle subscription is so cheap compared to the price you'd pay for that many games. I'm sure I'll find time to play them all. Ohh, look, 12 more games."
"...Keeps play same 3 sandbox games.."
Sending Shiver Down Your Spines
"Halloween decorations. F-ck, any and all horror / spooky stuff I got coffee cups, art, shirts, air fresheners, candles, blankets, that are all horror-related or spooky vibes. I'm just a spooky b-tch and I love it (:"
Just One More Notebook...
"Stationary and art supplies when I already have perfectly usable stuff. Daiso is my favorite store :)"
"When I lived in Japan, I hit Daiso at least once a week. Amazing place."
Some guilty pleasures can feel a little out of left field. An activity not everyone knows about, but one you enjoy regardless.
"plants 🌱 getting better at shopping clearance plants and bringing them back to life rather than buying new tho"
"Same, I like to rescue the cactuses on "death row" that are half dead and marked down for under a dollar. So far, all my rescues have thrived, been repotted a bunch, and some even had little cactus babies!!"
Gambling On A Way Out
"I play lotteries. Not because I think it's fun, but it's the only way I can think of to try and save myself from enduring office work for the rest of my adult life."
Making Your Own Life Sweeter
"Haagen Daaz and or Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream, vanilla. Also Key Lime Pie. Good Lord do I love me some Key Lime Pie."
And then there's these pleasures, which could be considered shameful by some, but remember, it's the age of the internet. Like what you love.
"I have a vast collection of the original 1998 special edition Furbys. I usually spend between $50-$200 on any of the ones I've gotten so far. All I need is 1 more and the collection is finished. wish me luck"
Different Ways To Play The Game
"Dice. I literally just blew $14 on a set of shiny click clack rocks because they had tiny penguins inside the clear plastic."
"Also yes I am in debt. But goddamn will I be the envy of the table when I bust out the penguin dice during D&D this Saturday."
One. More. Set...
"I can concur I definitely don't have the room for my sets yet, but I still keep buying them."
"I was gifted a set that is 3,500+ pieces. It's 8 boxes and I've spent about 6 hours on it so far, I am just getting started on the second box. It's very therapeutic for me actually. I catch up on podcasts, ignore my phone, I really enjoy it."
Remember, enjoy what you like. Just be sure you can afford your bills for the month and take care of those in your life who need it!
Otherwise, go nuts! Buy your Furbies and dice!
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Pretty people have problems, too.
But when you get to look like you've stepped off the cover of Vogue and you've never once bought your own drinks, feeling sympathy is hard to summon.
But being attractive is not everything. Physical attributes still don't make life perfect. Which is why I'm skipping the gym today.
It is good to know though, that even people gifted with physical perfection can still be as unsure about life, just like the rest of us average looking gnomes.
Redditor u/pauseitron_ wanted to know how life can be not so perfect for those picture perfect types, by asking:
People who're considered physically attractive, what are some of the things that you feel insecure about?
Insecurity is a horrible affliction. It holds us all back from fulfilling our greatest potentials and nobody is immune. We often feel like we're the only ones walking about with these issues but we're not.
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"I'm short. As a 5'5 male compliments are nearly always followed up with something along the lines of "if only you were taller."
"My job and income. (I'm a receptionist)."
"You're not alone. I wouldn't consider myself really attractive, pretty average. However, I have trouble feeling confident with people I believe are in the same attractiveness range as me because so many of my peers have achieved "status" and I'm still not there."
It all Matters
"Whether I mean as much to the people who mean so much to me. I took a friend out for dinner for his birthday recently and he said something that made me realize he was having as good a time as I was. It made me tear up for a second, remembering that the people I love also love me."
"They want to be included by me as much as I do by them. Sometimes this thought process has led me to treat people I love as an afterthought because I didn't think it would matter to them. But it did. I do."
"I'm considered "physically attractive" from the neck down, which is fair, I agree. So, my face is what I'm insecure about."
"Bruh some guy once came up to me and said "me and 'guy group' rated all girls in our year from 0-10 (yes they actually gave someone a zero), wanna know your score?" after unpolitely declining he went ahead anyway and said "your body is an 8 but your face is pulling you down"... Well... Tf am I supposed to say to that?"
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"I worry about how I look without clothes, my personality flaws, and my income (guy btw)."
How can the flawless feel so many flaws? I wonder how many are in therapy. I worry about all of those things every day.
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"When I was thin and hot, my boyfriend told me he was scared I'd cheat on him because I could "get someone better." He ended up cheating on me, saying he couldn't take the pressure. I worry about that still. Even though I'm single I have a hard time trusting someone's loyalty."
is it me?
"I was considered quite attractive in my 20s and never had much trouble meeting guys. But I had real trouble keeping boyfriends. I was told more than once that I was boring. I'm quiet and a huge introvert and am perfectly happy spending a day reading or watching movies. But I guess that wasn't fun for the men I liked. So as a result I was, and still am quite insecure about my personality."
"Never feel good enough."
"This. No matter how attractive you are there is always someone that looks better. The grass is always greener. I get told I'm attractive and I'll agree to an extent that I'm not ugly but I will never be perfect. I will constantly pick at my flaws no matter how small they are."
"My hips are too square, my teeth are yellow and crooked, my boobs aren't perky enough, my butt isn't fat enough, my lips aren't big enough, my eyes aren't perfectly equal... that's just scraping the surface. People I love and want to have loved me will tell me they think I'm beautiful and I won't believe them. Like it's a lie. I'll get mad sometimes when my boyfriend tells me I'm the most beautiful woman in the world."
"He might believe it but it's not true, and it's too much pressure to keep that up. I have wide hips a small waist and big boobs. I'm symmetrical and proportionate but there is no way I can ever compete with the thousands and thousands of Instagram models or pornstars or even beautiful strangers that my partner will be exposed to every day. Why even bother with me?"
"My partner not really loving me."
"Oh that hit home. I have this but I am female, guys will date me for months saying all the things I want to hear and sleep with me, only to then tell me they've found someone else and they're together. I have been told numerous times I was used as an ego boost by guys I generally liked, I'm actually still friends with one. Now I have been single for 7 years (I've had some dates) with huge trust issues, knowing the older I get as a woman the less attractive I become and it's a never-ending cycle."
"How cool I actually am. I'm a good looking guy but I've had a boring life in some capacities."
"When the world shut down last year I found out other people had to give up a lot more fun and exciting plans than I did. That really hit home and I'm working to change it."
No matter who you are, or what you're feeling, you're not alone. There is a life lesson we seem to cross paths with everyday. And now we know those we envy are in the same boat, they're just in a prettier one.