Frustrated People Share The Most Uncomfortable Situations "The Nice Guy" Has Put Them In
Nice guys finish last - and the pretend ones try to game their way into first place. Some dudes just don't know when to quit. Take the hints, gents, when someone says they're not interested.
Al027HLHlx asked, What's the most uncomfortable situation a "nice guy" has put you in?
Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.
$20 and an elementary school at night. Totally normal.
Met a "nice guy" over OKC a couple years ago, I gave him my number after we chatted for a bit and talked about possibly meeting. When he suggested we meet at a local elementary school in the middle of the night I noped out and told him it was nice talking to him but I didn't want to meet anymore. He kept trying to convince me by saying he would buy me gifts, he really likes me and thinks we could hit it off. When I told him no he blew up and called me a whore, the usual. He tells me that I now owe him $15 because he had already bought me a present for our "first date" and that I needed to meet him RIGHT NOW to give him his money. Or I could meet him and have a "good time" and forget about all of this. Blocked his number right away and didn't hear from him until the next day when he calls me from a DIFFERENT NUMBER. When I picked up he acted pleasant and asked me what time we were going to meet today for our date. I told him to piss off and blocked him again. Then I get a text a couple hours later from ANOTHER f_cking phone number saying that if I don't meet him, he was going to kill himself. After a bit of (unnecessarily) dramatic conversation.
Fast forward to about six months ago when I got a text from an unknown number. I knew exactly who it was when I read the text, "I have $20 and a fun night planned for us. Want to meet sometime soon? Miss you." Blocked it, changed my number. Never giving it out to a stranger again.
Why are high school kids like this?
There was a guy in high school who had a crush on me. He was never shy about it, and from day one he made me feel really uncomfortable. He'd ask me out multiple times a day, always in front of my friends (who didn't help because they'd always egg me on to go out with him - I was the new kid in school and they'd all been friends with him since elementary school). When I kept saying no, he assumed it was because I was seeing someone else, so he started telling people I was sleeping with random guys in school (I wasn't, I had no interest in dating any of the boys I went to high school with). Any time I tried to tell him to stop doing that he (and anyone else around for that matter) said he was just joking and I needed to lighten up.
It all came to a head at the homecoming dance my junior year. He was a senior, so it was his last homecoming. Apparently, the day before homecoming he told one of my friends that he'd asked me to the dance and I said yes. He had not asked me, I never had any intention of going to the dance. He kept going on to my friend about how special he wanted it to be, that he spent all his money on tickets, gas, new shoes and a corsage. My friend was so excited for him that she went over to his house the day of homecoming and helped him get everything ready. She also told all our friends what was going on, so EVERYONE was under the impression I was going to the dance with him (let me also add, no one checked with ME that I was going to the dance, so this was all going on without my knowledge).
He told everyone that I was going to get dropped off by my parents, so he and all my friends waited outside for me. They waited for 3 hours. Apparently any time my friends told him to come inside and that I wasn't coming he'd start tearing up and say, "just 5 more minutes."
So, of course, I show up to school on Monday and everyone was FURIOUS at me. None of my friends wanted to talk to me. I sat alone at lunch for 3 days completely confused about what was going on before some girl I'd never talked to before asked me why I'd stood this guy up.
So I went up to the guy when he was alone, asked what the Rhe'd done, and he just started laughing hysterically and said, "if you agree to go out with me I'll tell everyone it was just a misunderstanding."
Never talked to the guy again. It permanently damaged my friendships with several people because they thought I was a massive asshole to this guy who they thought was really sweet.
"He's a lucky guy" would have been the appropriate response.
I was like 19 and working 3rd shift at a gas station, casually sweeping the floor. The door opens and I hear that _ding _so I look up and make eye contact with some guy.
I can't explain what was going on in this guy's head, but it was like he thought it was some kind of slo-mo movie situation, and he "staggered" back, gasping, and widening his eyes and staring at me. I am not the kind of person to notice this kind of stuff in other people, I felt like I was reading a scene from Twilight in my head.
I went behind the checkout counter, he grabbed his red bull or whatever. He kept obviously looking at me in shock and shaking his head like he was trying to psych himself up for something (ladies, you know that feeling when you know someone wants to catch your attention and talk to you but you're trying to keep it casual). This went on for like 20 minutes and I couldn't accomplish anything because I'm waiting for this dude to check out.
Anyway, so he walks up to the checkout super dramatically, I check him out, he stares the whole time and finally sighs, saying, "I never expected to see such a beautiful woman at a gas station. This is fate, you shouldn't be working here, I just can't help myself, I have to ask you to go out with me."
I said sorry, I have a boyfriend.
He seriously looked enraged. He clenched his fists and gave me this overly dramatic scary look, grabbed his stuff, and stormed out the door. He moved his car so the bright headlights were facing the front of the store and sat there until the next customer came, probably an hour later.
Honestly, I wasn't too scared, it was just like, really? I just wanted to finish my list of duties at this crappy gas station and live my life. But some joe concocted a bizarre dream scenario in his head and somehow that was my fault.
There are por- *HORROR* movies that start out like this.
I had to get a ride from a "friend" my junior year of high school. For some reason, I didn't have my car (I don't remember all the details). He stopped about a mile from my house and pulled over onto the side of the road. He told me he had a dream where we had made out and that I was a really good kisser and he decided I could either walk home from there or kiss him.
'My sister and I come as a package' is not cute.
Met a guy at a gathering at a mutual friend's place and ended up getting stuck talking to him all night.
Night ends and I don't give it another thought. Couple weeks later he calls my house. I didn't give him my last name or phone number. Since he now has my number, he also knows my address and starts showing up at my house at weird times, sometimes with his equally creepy sister.
Fast forward a few years, I haven't lived at home for at least a year. He shows up. Dad answers the door and just tells him I'm not in, not that I don't live there or anything.
Later that same night, dad lets the dog out for a pee before bed. Dog disappears into the backyard, chasing something she really wants to catch. Thinks it's a skunk or something until he hears the gate on the neighbor's fence open and close quickly. Dog has chased a person out of the backyard. My old bedroom window faced our backyard. We don't know for sure, but I think my dog chased that creep out of our yard.
When you're desperately itching to be the rebound. Why?
Had a VERY difficult, traumatic ending to a long-term, live-in engagement. He went to jail, I decided to go to Europe to backpack for the summer. Best friend (m) agreed to come along and was VERY aware this was a post-breakup get away, to clear my head and have fun.
He flew out ahead of me to visit family. I arrived at the airport to see him waiting for me in Europe on bended knee, ring and flowers and all.
I was furious, and that friendship was destroyed. Vacation was equal parts horrendously awkward and tense, and amazing, but ended with him drunkenly ranting about it all again in a hostel one night, ultimately becoming physically aggressive toward me, and a group of stranger hostel bunkies helping to quietly pack my stuff while he was finally passed out, and get me to the airport and home immediately. I haven't seen him since, about eight years now.
'She's going to love the whole being held hostage thing.' MMMM nope.
I considered him a friend. Stayed at his apartment when visiting his town, he slept in the living room, I in the bedroom. When it got late, he started making "jokes" about how he had hidden the bedroom key and that I should get "ready" for him. I spent the night half-awake and fully dressed from sheer fear. In the morning, I packed and wanted to leave, but he wouldn't let me go without having a "goodbye kiss". He physically blocked the door so I couldn't get out. I tried to play it off and somehow managed to squeeze by him without getting kissed, but it was a terrifying experience. And that was the end of our friendship.
When a man doesn't think women are people...
Nice guy from college (we're talking trenchcoat and fedora, fingerless gloves, pathetically sleazy smile, the whole shebang. In a tropical country, at that.) who kept trying to talk to me even as I was clearly trying to do my homework.
Now, I was okay with multitasking. I could do homework and listen and respond to him but he wouldn't have it. "Hey, Tuna, you know what? I REALLY hate it when women (yes. Not people. Women, specifically.) ignore me." I was dumbfounded but also really offended so I shot back that I WAS listening to him, even if I wasn't looking at him. "No, but when I'm talking to someone, I want them to LOOK at me." Friend overheard this and went off on him faster than I did. He left me alone after that.
Not as terrible as the other answers here but that was my first real taste of it.
"FAPFAPFAPFAPFAP" isn't the most tactful way to woo a stranger.
I worked for a few years at a children's museum. There was this single dad with three daughters, who was cute but way too old for me, especially at the time, when I was 19 and he was about 35. I also got a weird vibe from him, but he was always very sweet, if a little uncomfortable. His daughters were adorable. The following events happened over probably a 6-month-period.
One day, some guest approaches me and asks me if I've seen this "missed connections" on Craigslist about the museum. It. Was. About. Me. The guy was writing about the things we had talked about and was saying how good we would be together, etc. Thinking back, I honestly think that she must have been friends with the guy???? Because it was too weird that she approached me out of all the other workers, then ASKED ME what I thought about the guy who wrote the ad???
Later, he found me on Facebook and tried to add me. I didn't add him, and the next time he was in the museum, he followed me room to room and just glared at me from afar, not talking to me. Super uncomfortable. I thought it would be easier just to add him, so I did. Then he starts commenting really weird cringey sexual stuff on my photos, like a gif of Pikachu biting his lip, or just "FAPFAPFAPFAPFAP" so I decided enough is enough and deleted him.
THEN he tries to win me back or something??? He brings a wrapped canvas to the museum and gives it to MY BOSS saying it "would be too weird to just give it to her..." and my boss calls me down later and makes me open it in front of everyone (it was a very fun workplace and we loved to rip on each other) and it was a painting of one of my photos from Facebook! I was so mortified. I put it away, but one of my coworkers (and also my best friend) replaced the clock in the breakroom with my portrait, because she is a worst lol.
While it was funny, I also asked my boss to kinda watch out for him, so from then on I didn't see him anymore, and I blocked him on Facebook. So I think I'm safe!
Dude should have been fired for this.
He was my coworker, and 20 years older than me. I know some people might go for that, but it personally weirds me out.
Anyway, he started harassing me. He would call at odd hours. He left me racy pictures in my box at work. Gave me presents. So I reported him, and he got a little slap on the wrist. But next time he saw me, he started rubbing my shoulders and I told him to stop, not to touch me. He blew up, started screaming at me, in front of all the customers.
After that though, he left me alone. Should have been fired, but eh, at least he left me alone. But unfortunately, I'm pretty sure he chose another woman to harass in my place. Good thing is he's on disability now, out of the workforce for good.
'I know you have a boyfriend, but I'll objectify you.'
Wouldn't leave me alone while I was working. Kept saying it was a 'shame I had a boyfriend' because 'you're so pretty and I'd treat you right'. Overtipped ( like, WAY too much) 'because you're so beautiful'. I work at a busy music venue, so he basically had to yell all of this at me while I was helping a hundred other customers. I eventually had to tell him to buzz off, which just meant he stared at me all night from the crowd, waving at me. After the lights went up he came over and launched into his 'it's a shame you have a boyfriend' bit, so I gave him some excuse and booked it. Why come to a show if you're just going to creep on someone WHILE SHE'S WORKING? Dudes creep on me sometimes, but never as a self-described better-than-your-boyfriend guy
I'm 31 - show me your credit score and a bank statement and I'll consider it. Can we at least finish the second date?
Second date, and "nice guy" surprise proposed me in a mall surrounded by too many people.
I need new shoes.
I'm a guy. I had a close female friend years ago who was super friendly and outgoing. We easily became friends because we had a lot in common but I never liked her in that way and vice versa. However, her outgoing and friendly personality would often attract the 'nice guys'.
She was telling me about this guy who she was sort of friends with who offered to take her shopping one day when she said she needed new shoes. Being polite and friendly she went with him but then he insisted on paying for her shoes which were 200 dollars because he was a 'nice guy'. Then he asked if it was ok for them to drop by his house on their way to her house. When they got there, his mother apparently made a big deal about my friend and left the two of them alone in the house assuming they were boyfriend and girlfriend. During this time apparently the guy was grinning sheepishly and taking in all the praise.
She had to set him straight after that but he'd get annoyed and harass her about stupid stuff like hanging out with other guy friends etc. I think eventually he got the message but I thought the story was worth sharing.
Respect the friend zone, dude.
I was at a friend's house when their friend shows up. He keeps saying he wants to go to an amusement park, but he has nobody to go with (heavily hinting towards me). My friend suggests the guy take me, and I tell him I'm too broke to go. He offers to pay, and I say no a few times, he insists more so I say " ok, if you insist... But this is NOT a date and we are just going as friends." He says ok and he understands. He did not.
The way there, he kept telling me how beautiful I was and trying to hold my hand. I continued to tell him, "I said we were going as friends", and he said, "of course!" But when we got there and we're waiting in lines for rides, he kept trying to kiss me and hold my hand. I turned my head away idk how many times, and I slapped his hand away... And he continued to persist. Eventually, I just pretended not to feel good and he took me home.
The guy tried to message me on Facebook the next day, asking me out on a date. I told him I was not interested in dating him, as I had explained before. We could be friends though. He then called every name in the book before blocking me. Good riddance.
Found the incel.
Last semester of college I had a class with this weird and obviously desperate, but super awkward and negative guy. He acted really "fake" to boot. He always tried talking to me, but his intentions were super obvious (aka "women are not human, they are this elusive thing and I need to catch one of them") One day, I ran into the guy at the college shuttle. He said hi to me, and I did respond with a simple hi. I didn't really know him, so I left it at that. He sat behind me, and starts audibly and angrily muttering to himself about how girls don't pay attention to him and that he just tries and tries so hard yadda yadda yadda. That he's being nice, but they're just b****es, etc. It was so uncomfortable and he kept complaining the whole time.
Spiderman memes and calling a d_ck pic "cute" is a sure sign she ain't interested.
I was trying to leave a frat party and the two guys "guarding" the closet claimed it was 'house rule' that a girl has to give them her number to get their coats. This was not a place I was familiar with, and it was a narrow hallway tucked out of the way from the rest of the party. They were larger than me, drunk AF, and kept trying to sweet talk me into staying upstairs with them instead because they're so nice. Since they had been so nice to make sure no one stole our things at the party we had to pay them back. One guy even said I could just flash him instead.
I gave them my number, and when a guy started to text me I only responded with spiderman memes until he gave up. Literally never saw them again.
Edit: I was drunk, it was late, the party sucked and just wanted to go home. I felt cornered (my purse with my room key, phone and wallet were in the closet, as was my jacket and it was 35F out) and had also never been in the situation where a guy asked for my number wouldn't take a no. I'm older and I know better now, as this was years ago.
Reason number 517 I don't use Snapchat.
I went on one date with a guy I had 'met' online after a year of talking. After the date, I didn't think it would be going anywhere (he had exaggerated what he looked like lmao) and after I told him this and we stopped talking he rang SIX florists in my area to send me a dozen red roses. The worst thing about it, I had never told him where I lived, he had used my location on the Snapchat map for the estate that I lived in. When confronted about the roses he sent me a full-length song that he had written about me and our one date. I was traumatized.
No need to feel terrible, nice guys don't do this.
We were friends until one day on Valentine's Day he brought out his guitar and sang to me in front of a crowd and ended up asking me to be his girlfriend. I had a boyfriend of 2 years so I had to say no to him in front of all those people. Thing is I had mentioned my boyfriend in almost every conversation and he still looked completely shocked that day when I told him I had a boyfriend. He was the nicest guy and I really appreciated our friendship! we stopped talking after that day though. I felt terrible!
Accents are anthropological, sociological constructs that are fascinating for human ears.
Someone speaking the same language as you, with the same rules as the language you are using, but with an affectation that you can hear but possibly can't quite place? It's wonderful.
It's also a huge identifier that will tell you things about where that person is from; the culture they grew up in; and where they've spent their adult life.
Here were some of those answers.
Transatlantic. Really gets my gears going.
The 40s movie accent? Apparently that one didn't really exist, came from it being taught as proper pronunciation in schools around the turn of the last century and became the "Hollywood" accent for a while.
I literally clicked on this thread because I'm Irish, I felt curious as to where the Irish accent would fall on the list.
I don't personally understand how anyone likes the accent honestly, but I'm vaguely validated too... So yes, OP planned this.
I like posh English accent but not Royalty posh, Emma Watson posh.
She has exactly the sort of accent you'd expect from Hermione - upper middle class privately educated daughter of dentists
Truly, the proper accent can make us just swoon.
Australian. I was once slacking off in the first day of my second semester of physics in high school. Trying to sleep through the class and the teacher called me out to answer a question. I was a cocky jock at the time and just blew him off and put my head back down. (In all honesty I had done well in the class prior so he let me get away with it, he was a really cool teacher).
As I was getting my head comfortable again I heard the most angelic voice come from behind me and answer the question. I had not even noticed that we had a new student in the class who was a foreign exchange student from australia. I fell in love immediately. Nothing I could do would woe her but we became good friends. Still to this day that accent gets me.
I think Scottish is really cute to listen to.
Get David Tennant, James McAvoy and Evan Macgregor together and I'm a happy girl. I could listen to any one of them talk for hours.
Take Your Pick
As an American, literally any accent is attractive.
How about a female south side Chicago accent, I grew up there and now that I've been away I sometimes find it funny.
They Always Win
Travelled quite a bit. England, South Korea, Japan, Ireland, Scotland, Australia and Germany.
Aussie women win.
I watch Masterchef Australia, but refuse to watch Masterchef America. Just for the accents.
What is it that makes us swoon? Is it the rounded "claw" sound? Is it the tall "a" sound?
Time For Some Underrated Love
Women from Jamaica or West Africa have the most underrated accents ever. That is godly.
Yes. Agree. But men and women for me, I'm greedy
A Pleasant Little Lilt
Welsh, Taron Egerton has the best.
I'm pretty sure Huw Edwards' voice is the main reason my mum watches BBC News
I didn't think I liked that accent until I watched the German dude try to woo the Indian woman in Sense8- flirty German is sexy!
Definitely. I'd listen to a German male talk all day 🤤
If you have a lilt, a twang, or a stiff upper lip, you are someone's cup of tea.
What is the most attractive accent to you?
Some of our possessions are no-brainer, have to have them, best things in the universe. Others are total beaters, through and through liabilities, that should have been trashed years ago.
But what about those possessions that fall right in between?
These are the things we love as much as we hate. Like some people or places in our lives, these objects and us have a love/hate relationship--and, surprisingly, almost as much baggage as the human version includes.
Some Redditors sat down and shared their best examples of these kinds of possessions.
lliorca336 asked, "What do you have a love / hate relationship with?"
Some set their sights on the elephant in the room. They described their excitement as well as all the issues that come with the expansive, unbelievably powerful internet.
The Whole Dang Thing
"The internet." -- LM1120
"Yup. On one side, it can really help people who feel alone. However, it can also breed toxicity." -- RHCube
"Back down it was as simple as don't use it but thats not really possible anymore" -- Derpsterio29
Even More Whole
"Technology in general."
"On the one hand, it's nice that I was able to deposit a check just now while sitting down on my bedroom. On the other, screw anyone who has the audacity to call me and greet me with a robot."
"I have it with none other than 'Google.' "
"I hate it when Google tracks my every move. I even feel scared sometimes. Like just the other day, I was watching 'Padmavat' on Amazon Prime. It wasn't even my account, but my husband's. We had to stop in the middle due to something."
"And as soon as I opened my Gmail next, the very first email on the top was a 'Spam' email asking me if I missed out on watching 'Padmawat?' Really Scary!"
"And then, I love it when it takes me down the memory lane. Like just today, my Google Photos app asked me if I would like to see where I was on this day in 2010? I thought why not. Turns out, I was at my friend's wedding. Which reminded me, 'Oh! It's her anniversary today!' "
"I simply sent one of her gorgeous pics wishing her happy anniversary. We had a long chat, after which I sent over all of the pics from that day. She was really happy to re-visit them and tagged them as the best anniversary gift!"
Others chose to discuss those necessities of day-to-day life that they've actually come to love completing over and over.
But that doesn't mean they don't get annoying all the time too.
"That weird thing where I'll waste time before entering the shower because it feels like such a chore that takes a long time, I'm gonna need 5 h to dry my hair afterwards etc., but then when I'm in the shower i never wanna get out."
Cruising, Until Your Not
"Driving is my biggest love/ hate relationship. I absolutely love the feel of driving when there's a small amount/ no traffic and the feel of being able to go wherever you want in your country is so freeing. Start/stop traffic, car maintenance costs, insurance, monthly payments, terrible roads, the possibility of an accident, driving through new places without clear signage etc..."
"Man, driving at its best is one of my favourite things in life but at its worst I wonder why I ever got my license and look toward busses with jealousy."
It Will Never End
"Cooking. I hate the necessity of having to prepare food and the process itself, but I usually like the result, and if I cook for other people, I get many compliments for how it's good."
"You know, when I hate to do that, then at least it gotta be tasty."
Others spoke about the luxuries in life. It almost feels absurd to complain about such wonderful, unnecessary possessions.
And yet, they are luxuries with a slight catch.
The Nut Barrier
"Probably my biggest trigger to ruin my diet. Doesn't even have to be good chocolate. Doesn't even have to be mediocre chocolate (by American standards). I'm talking about, like Palmer's Double Crisp super-cheap, probably-not-even-actually-chocolate Chocolate."
"My only saving grace is that I'm allergic to peanuts, and a lot of the really really cheap chocolate has peanuts/peanut butter in it, so it's no longer a temptation."
More and More
"Having a home gym:"
"Love: Not having to go far and not having to deal with other ppl and their bs."
"Hate: Everything you want is much more expensive than you expect... and you keep wanting more"
Another Take on Tech
"Modern technology. For every way it makes our lives easier, there's at least five ways it makes things harder."
"But overall, it's generally worth it... if you can get the stuff to finally work, which might take you all day."
So the next time you find yourself out of wits in frustration, only to come back to that same object or task the very next day, don't feel so alone.
Everyone out here is emotionally confused about their inanimate objects and abstract concepts.
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We live in an era defined, amongst other things, by the unparalleled barrage of content that blasts our eyes and ears throughout every hour of every single day.
Truly, it's exhausting to be alive in the contemporary media landscape.
Generations before had to deal with posters, billboards, and magazine advertisements, then radio commercials after that, and then TV commercials came along.
We thought the consumer seduction reached its peak with those.
But then, lo and behold, social media came about. And now the "information" peddled by brands and advertisers is everywhere. And so so much of it is misleading, or flat out incorrect.
Some Redditors shared the examples that came to mind.
Many people chose to talk about the marketing efforts used to push health and nutrition products onto consumers.
It's no surprise that there were so many examples to choose from. People in contemporary times are obsessed with health, fitness, diet, and longevity.
So of course, marketers have taken some liberties.
"That things with 'zero sugar' can still have 0.2 grams of sugar per unit which is why tic tacs claim to be zero sugar but can still be dangerous for a diabetic person" -- Whynotgarlicbagel
"Always check the ingredients"
"I found some 'no added sugar' ice cream that had concentrated caramelised sugar syrup as a flavoring"
"Also no added sugar just means they haven't added any sugar. Not that it's zero sugar" -- EmergencyAdvance
The Natural World
" 'Natural' food isn't your definition of natural." -- Gmax100
"Cyanide is natural" -- Izwe
"Everything is natural, nuclear power plants are as natural as beaver dams" -- Skylake52
The Anti-Fat Movement
"Low fat is good for you. Well not just clever marketing, also lots of lobbying from the sugar industry" -- UltimateAnswer42
"That's a big one. Fat being the 'bad' macronutrient was something that took me a while to unlearn. I felt my healthiest when I ate a high fat, lower carb (50g or so) diet." -- Cameron213
Give Tators a Chance
"White potatoes are somehow unhealthy even though they are a very nutritious starchy root VEGETABLE."
"Just because when you smother oil and ranch on it it becomes unhealthy does not mean potatoes themselves are unhealthy."
Leave It Alone
"Vaginal odor being bad was a thing for a while, and that it could easily be corrected with over the counter treatments such as douching."
"First of all. A vagina is gonna smell like a vagina, not like flowers. If you're concerned about the way your vagina smells you should see a doctor."
"Second of all, the vagina is self-cleaning and doesn't need extra soaps to help keep it 'fresh.' In fact, those soaps and chemicals can cause harm and create real infections."
Other people chose to point out the marketing efforts that have aimed to influence our expectations of culture and the social playing field.
What is "cool" and acceptable is what sells. The question is, who decides what is "cool?"
"Makeup as a necessary norm." -- b2lose
"Man, FU** makeup! I don't wear it and have yet to have anyone I work with question my professionalism for it. I hate it, it's expensive, and I won't wear it." -- TheRedMaiden
"I love this, and I'll also throw in: shaving as a necessity. I've had so many people tell me it's 'unhygienic' for women to have leg hair." -- buriedclementines
"That teenagers are cool, tbh. Teen culture is 95% manufactured by suits trying to make a buck." -- crookedhope
"When have teenagers ever been cool to anyone but themselves?" -- troomer50
"right? this kills me as an adult. all the cool teenager sh** that 'parents don't understand' was absolutely designed by grown a** dorks just like their parents." -- likearealreptile
Passing the Buck
"The notion that climate change needs to be combated by individuals making changes in their day to day lives by buying green products. Corporations, global shipping, and factory farms all contribute massive amounts of pollution and greenhouse gasses that can't be offset by using less straws or buying a hybrid car."
"An entire city's worth of individuals couldn't even come close to offsetting the pollution created by a handful of ships used for global shipping, yet advertising would have you think that individuals could replace real systemic change and regulation."
And then there was one total, bald-faced lie. It had to do with an upsettingly common purchase that comes with an arbitrarily high price tag.
Maybe it's time to rethink it.
Pulling the Strings of Supply and Demand
"That diamonds are rare." -- icecreamterror
"That you should spend so much on a diamond and wedding, but can barely scrape by. Sure, let's throw a $30k banquet then go jumpstart the car again to get home." -- Choontz
"Futhermore on this; that 'cognac' diamonds are a desirable colour in a diamond, and are worth more than colourless. Jewellers originally struggled to sell stones of this colour so came up with a marketing concept to make them seem more unique, more special, and just as desirable as, or moreso than, colourless diamonds (which are generally far rarer, particularly if they are classified as flawless with few/imperceptible inclusions)."
"Similar idea with "champagne" diamonds...they were given this name to make them sound more appealing, too, so jewellers could still use them and increase the volume of jewellery they produce and sell." -- teenytinytinkerer
Of course, this list is so far from exhaustive. Pay attention for just the next few hours and I'm sure you'll come up with your own list of at least ten in no time.
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In the age of the internet, sometimes it can be very cool to hate on things just because other people do. Bandwagons can be fun, right? But honestly, not all of the things hated on actually deserve it. Save your hate for things that actually call for it.
Wanna jump off the bandwagon? Then keep reading!
Film and media are probably the biggest contender for being hated on randomly. It may seem harmless, but not always deserved.
Actors are people too!
Actors who played characters that people didn't like.
Really if you hated the character then the actor did a good job (assuming that was the role).
The best cartoons.nice day summer GIF by PBS KIDSGiphy
Child cartoons. Some are actually really good, even as an adult.
I feel like watching cartoons aimed at generally a younger audience allows for you to be reminded of some life lessons, I know I forget some things, or didn't realise others, or it at least partially renews my awareness of something I should still like or appreciate
This doesn't deserve awards, it's just my opinion that is apparently shared by many.
This man did nothing wrong.
Guy Fieri, he literally is the nicest person in the world but since he looks like he was electrocuted by mountain dew people want to saw his head off.
Even before that, I was witness to his other charitable work. A few years back, Santa Rosa was hit by some terrible fires and he showed up at a few shelters and personally cooked up and served some killer buffet food. No cameras, no massive team of PR, just a dude with an assistant to keep him on schedule to hit up other shelters in the area. Guy Fieri legit earned a lot of respect in my book for that.
You know who DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve hate? Animals. They’re just living their best lives, and need to be left alone.
The best cats.
We got a black cat for the first time last year. I've since formulated the theory that black cats might get some of their reputation from the fact that people can't see them well in the dark and so they seemingly appear out of nowhere and they might be instinctually cautious because they know people have a tendency to kick them while walking in the dark. Our black cat is the sweetest cat I've ever known.
They get a bad rep.Discovery Sharks GIF by Shark WeekGiphy
Sharks. They are beautiful, complex creatures, deserving of respect and, like any wild animal should be left alone in their natural habitat, but they get this reputation as vicious bloodthirsty monsters. This is only because every shark attack is news, and only then because they are so rare. More people are killed EVERY DAY by mosquitoes than sharks kill in a year.
Any apex predator that has remained evolutionarily unchanged for hundreds of millions of years, whose existance predates TREES, is deserving or our respect and admiration. Shine on, you crazy cartlaginous fish, shine on.
So cute too!
Opossums. They're neat little critters. They eat tons of ticks that carry Lyme disease, (mostly) don't carry rabies because their body temp is too low, and they're the only marsupial native to North America! They get a bad rap because their first defense is to hiss and bare teeth, but failing that, they just play dead.
If you don't have the predisposition to hate them, you'll find they're pretty cute too.
E: this is about /opossums/, the north American species.
Kiwis, I feel for you, but this comment isn't about your possums.
Hating on other people for just living their lives also seems to be a big contender for things that don’t deserve to be hated on.
This is so true.
Unemployed people. A lot of people genuinely are looking for work and did not want to lose their last job/it was beyond their control (like a layoff) but they get so much hate and called lazy by most people. I know too many unemployed people that are actually really trying hard. They definitely aren't lazy. (Not saying lazy unemployed people don't exist, but to be fair, so do lazy employed people too lol)
Leave the weather man alone!Fox Raining GIF by Family GuyGiphy
Meteorologists. They try their best to predict the weather based on patterns, models, and data. They're not perfect because predicting the weather is insanely difficult. When they get it wrong, I think we should go easy on them. It was probably an outlier result almost no one could have foreseen.
I've seen people get angry over the meteorologists for getting it right. Like they control the weather - it is their fault we are having rain, that kind of BS. Never made sense to me, but hey, I have plenty of relatives I clashed with growing up.
Please stop being d*cks to these people.
Customer service associates.
I hate when customers think that I, the minimum wage person forced to sit there and listen to them yell, am personally responsible for every policy they disagree with. Like, ma'am, if I had that much power and influence, I wouldn't be sitting here on a Saturday evening serving you.
Wholesome and necessary.
People don't deserve hate they give themselves when they are not doing too good at the moment.
If you haven't heard it from anyone else today, I'm proud of you.
It seems like people hate on things simply because they think they're meant to hate them. But you can always be the change and make an effort to stop being an a**hole about certain things.
No matter what though, sometimes haters gonna hate