Unfortunately, friends don't always stay friends forever.
Sometimes, toxic behaviors build up to a point where you may find it hard to stomach being in the same room as them.
Often, you might explode and cut them off. We all have a breaking point. Sadly, sometimes those friends reach it.
u/milkman1000 asked:
What's a moment with a friend where you just had ENOUGH of their bullsh*t?
Here were some of those answers.
Truly A Jerk 5000x Over
GiphyYou know that friend? The one who asks you for favors and you're happy to oblige because that's what friends do?
Yeah... I asked him for a favor, after dropping my plans numerous times to help him. He agrees, we make plans.
He conveniently forgets. No big deal.
Ffwd a few months, I've helped him a few more times, I ask him to help me move a shelf from my garage to my living room the following weekend. He says sure, I confirm plans a few times with him as the week progresses, friendly reminders "We're still on for this weekend right?" Kinda thing. To which he agrees. The following weekend arrives, I text him saying LMK when you are on the way. No response.
Day moves into evening, I call him and hear "nah man, maybe tomorrow, I got plans with the GF for dinner tonight with her family" Okay. Tomorrow arrives, text again and get the response that he's helping his GFs family do something. Okay... sure, "let me know when you're done" His reply is that itl'l take all day. Work up motivation to attempt moving it myself and get on Facebook to see that he just posted something.
His post: "I'm bored, anyone down to hang out?"
I commented:"you could help me like we planned"
He deleted the post and I never heard from him again... I never tried calling him either. That's when I decided not to help others that wont do the same for me.
Nicer Friends, Nicer Me
I had a friend in middle school who was always kind of a dick, but that's what you did in middle school right? You were mean to each other. Well, high-school rolled by and he ended up staying out of school for chronic headaches. We still played Xbox Live a lot, and he was one of my most consistent people I played video games with. Still kind of a dick, but we were close and hung out a lot when I got a car and could come visit him after school and on the weekends.
College rolls around, and I ended up having a lot less time to play video games. Soul Calibur V comes out, and he ends up getting really pissy because I only played Nightmare, because frankly he was way better at the game than I was because he was still living at home playing video games all day, and Nightmare was the only character I had a chance with.
This was sophomore year of college, and I think it was at that point that I realized we had just grown way too far apart. I had grown up a lot in college, and he was still stuck in middle school mode of sh*tting on your friends as a primary source of interaction. It was when I started making friends in college that I realized that not all friendships needed to be that mean.
Lazy Jerks
Friend wanted help to move to a new apartment. He arranged for movers to move the furniture , but wanted me and my van to move some stuff he considered too "fragile" for the movers.
My job was very busy and I tried to get out of it, but he and his wife begged and cajoled. Okay... I worked a double shift on Friday to get Saturday off, and turned up Saturday morning to help. My friends were still asleep in bed. They hadn't packed anything and the movers were coming in 3 hours. Oh. they're also unemployed and had plenty of time to pack, but were just too f*cking lazy.
So I spent 3 hours helping them pack all their sh*t in boxes . When that's done, I spend the next 8 hours carrying and loading stuff into my van, drive 20 miles to the new place and unload.... 3 van- loads.
Eventually it dawns on me their sh*t is not fragile, its ordinary household stuff. They just used me as free labour.
The movers charged by the hour and had a big truck that they didn't fill. They had the room and the manpower , and could have easily loaded up all the stuff I moved and drove... for $100 extra.
I calculate my 12 hours of work, 150 miles of driving (includes driving to the friends house) saved my useless cheap-*ss friend about $100. He didn't pay for gas, or food or anything. Totally f*cking useless tool and I never helped him out again.
Bye Felicia, Hello Felicity
This was years ago before Uber was a thing. I had a very toxic best friend who was constantly making terrible and irresponsible decisions. It was her 21st birthday and I offered to be the DD because I don't drink. She told me no and that her boyfriend would drive us home. Long story short, she encouraged him to get wasted and I ended up stranded in Hollywood. Thankfully, I had just befriended this awesome new girl and called her for a ride home at 2am. This new girl became family and just stood beside me in my wedding last month. One door closed, another opened.
I'm Not Your Emotional Receptacle Friend
When I realized I was their 'fallback' friend. Whenever they pushed others away they'd come to me and act like they were a close friend, even though they ignored me or treated me poorly whenever I tried to initiate conversation before. I don't know why I put up with it so long, but I eventually cut off contact. It's dumb but I still hope they're okay- they had a rough background, but at the same time I was sick of being toyed with. I feel like they used me because they knew I had low self-esteem and they could manipulate that. And for a long while they did. Again- they had a rough life, and I wish them the best- but it got to a point where I couldn't take it anymore.
The Vacation Is What Killed Us
Horrible toxic friend who only ever talked about herself. She constantly complained about every aspect of her life. I knew WAY too much about her marriage. She and her husband both had drinking problems, but she just talked sh*t about him and his drinking all the time to anyone who would listen and constantly berated him no matter who was around. Friends, strangers, people they had just met that day, it didn't matter.
Made the mistake of going on a group vacation with them. By the end, I never wanted to see either of them again. And I didn't.
Tall But Also Prejudiced
I had a friend who was obsessed with height. He would constantly bring up how tall he was in comparison to other people, and gleefully point out shortness in others (his fixation on this, and the way he took in social cues made me suspect he had some level of Asperger's, but I digress).
I have dwarfism, so I'm only 4ft tall. And this guy loved that. He would point out times when I looked particularly short, or when I would struggle to do something because of my height. It was just this tone deaf thing he would do, and my friends and I just kinda ignored it.
There was one time when he picked me up without warning as a joke, and I made it very clear how much I hated it when people do that. It felt like a disregard of my autonomy, and I asked him firmly to never do it again.
Then one day, we had class, and the classroom it was in had changed. I hadn't been told this, so I was on my way to the wrong place, walking along the main busy corridor, when my friend came up behind me, yanked me off my feet and started carrying me, and said "Oh no you don't!" Everyone was staring, and I felt humiliated. I twisted around until he dropped me and just lost my shit at him right there.
I think that is honestly one of the only times I've lost my temper and actually yelled. I'm not an angry person, but on that day, I was livid.
He just thought it was funny, so that was it. He wasn't my friend after that. It has been 6 years now.
Just A Simple Rude Gesture
He was a "sometimes" friend.
He'd only text if his other friends that he was closer with were busy and he was bored. I'd invite him to stuff and he would say "maybe" because he was always looking for something else to do that was "better" and then if he couldn't find anything he would come.
I was fine with it for a long time because it's not like we were super close or anything. But what pushed me over the edge was the he got legit mad at me for not playing a video game with him because he was bored and I told him I simply didn't wanna play the game he was playing. He said "Good luck getting me to play with you in the future".
I replied "K" and haven't talked to him since.
Degrading Jerks Too
In high school, my friend always claimed to sleep with so many women. He would point at random hot girls in public and be like "yeah that's Amanda, I slept with her", and I would just have to take his word for it. It was always at convenient times like when we are pulling away on a bus or train while she is outside so the random girls could never verify the account. One day we were standing on a train platform and he pulls this shit again and points at a random hot girl, "that's Becky. She goes to my high school, we slept together".
I was having no more of this shit. "Well let's go say hi!" I said to my friend as I started walking in her direction. That's when my friend suddenly becomes panicked and is trying to stop me frantically. I continue on, "Becky hi! I'm *****'s friend", as I point to my friend who is beet red with embarrassment. This girl stares at us in utter confusion, "my name isn't Becky...who are you guys?" I just said, "thank you, that will be all." My pal swears to this day that he just made a mistake and only thought that she was his friend. But he stopped doing it.
The Best Revenge Is A Life Well Lived
GiphyWe worked together. My husband herniated a disc in his neck. When I told her I had to leave to take him to the ER because he couldn't drive he was in so much pain, she got mad at me and said "Do you know the position that leaves me in? We're not supposed to be by ourselves." We answer phones all day, other people were there that could help.
She said the only way I could leave was if I called our boss (who was on vacation, and I was already working it out with the person in charge that day) and ask if I could leave to take him to the ER. Mind you, she took off at least one day every other week, without notice, to go get shots for her "back issues." Now, someone who has back issues should know good and damn well how painful and possibly serious a herniated disc can be. Needless to say, we are no longer friends, she got fired for her bs 5 days later (it wasn't the first time, she had apparently been causing issues before I started and I had no idea). I am now a manager at the company in the position she wanted.
What is a moment where you'd had enough of a friend's BS?
Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.