Friends And Relatives Of Porn Stars Explain How They First Reacted When They Found Out

Friends And Relatives Of Porn Stars Explain How They First Reacted When They Found Out
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Sex work is work.

We really have to let go of the purist idea of sex.

People can do whatever they want with their bodies.

And make quite a fabulous living at the same time.

Porn has long been looked down upon but now thanks to the rise of OnlyFans and such, everybody is becoming more acclimated.

Is it the dream? Probably not for most.

Is it wrong? Absolutely not.

So what if you knew somebody doing it?

Is that an issue? Why?


Redditorh00psz004wanted to hear about the times people learned the profession of a loved one or acquaintance and it a bit of a surprise.

They asked:

"Friends or family of porn stars what was your first reaction when you found out?"

I have known several porn stars. All good people and a load of fun. And no, I won't name names.

Her Niche

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"I had a roommate who did porn. She told us about it herself and was very open about it. She was popular in a very niche kink, but didn’t work enough to be able to support herself solely off of porn. Now she has a masters in education and works as an elementary school teacher."

bittyitty

Mommy Dearest

"My mother is a porn star. It kind of tore our relationship apart. We were never close in the first place because she was a terrible mother but that pushed me over the edge to not want to talk to her anymore. I was 13 when I found out by the way. I didn't just find out, I saw. Things change in your mind when you see your mom's anal fisting porn. (I wish that was a joke)."

undergroundpolarbear

In the Woods

"I found my flatmate on a porn site too 😬 The shoot took place out on a hike somewhere (I believe she told me about the sexual encounter over a drink one night but not the fact it was all over the internet). I absolutely shat myself when I realised it was her- I felt so yucky and guilty for seeing her like that. I immediately shut everything down and didn't look at porn for ages afterwards lol."

Devojka_Iz_Svemira

That Girl

"First thought: Oh wow, she has nice breasts."

"Second thought: Yea, that's not gonna look good for her mom."

"The woman in question was a student in the grade below me in high school. I knew her sister and their mom was a teacher at that school."

slick1260

Something is Familiar

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"Was browsing and came across one of my housemate titled 'Russian teen amateur.' First, she's Mexican. Second, she's like 28. Third, THAT'S MY F**ING BED!!"

voice_of_craisin

It must be daunting when you recognize the stars and your apartment. Like, you could've at least invited me.

Freaky & Brilliant

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"My friend got into the porn industry because it’s much more lucrative than her degreed field (microbiology). I wasn’t surprised at all because she’s uninhibited and freaky anyway, and just assured her I had no issues or judgements about it."

xxplodingboy

Those We Lose

"Male porn actor here! My mom found out... and she was surprisingly way more chill than I thought she'd be. Of course she hates it and doesn't want me doing it, but she was essentially like 'the past is the past, now let's never talk about this again.'" I actually lost a group of friends over it."

"Not sure how they found out but apparently they started talking behind my back about it on Facebook. One of those guys reached out to me to let me know what was happening, and that he personally didn't care. I reached out to the group but they weren't interested in hearing what I had to say, and pretty much cut me off. I think they were worried that it might somehow affect them professionally in a negative way."

"I've had a few girlfriends/girls I was seeing find out. So far most have been fairly cool about it. One actually cried upon finding out, but at her insistence we watched a few of my vids together, and it was absurd enough that we could both laugh about it. My other friends (the true friends) were just like okay, cool."

pornishard

Family Matters

"Okay. So I woke up one day to a text sent from my cousin, M. Who sent me a pornhub link to another cousin, S. Apparently she has been doing it for awhile, and got another cousin involved in her sexual endeavors, T. So now I have family members who do porn and took Incest Porn a little too literally."

forskin_curtains

Mind your Business

"Recently in my friends group it came to light that one of our buddies wife's sister (F 23) started an OF page over the pandemic (she lost her job as a hair stylist, and where we live was in lockdown for quite a long time), and now has a page on PornHub, even a sub-reddit. She does mainly solo stuff, but pretty heavy with one particular kink."

"When we found out, most of use guys were not surprised as she always had a promiscuous attitude. I feel for my buddy though, him, his wife are born again Christian, and it has destroyed the relationship between the sisters, as well, it has also created a huge rift in his wife's family, were half want to shun her, and the half are accepting, (the parents are divorced, so there is lots of people in play)."

"It also doesn't help that one of our other buddies went on a massive hunt for all the links and videos and sent them to us all, and presumably many more people, absolutely pissing off our buddy, as I guess he feels obligated in trying to defend his wife's family, it has created a rift between them, and overall a very messy situation."

cynicalyak

Who Cares?

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"I overheard my parents fighting and heard my dad scream, “WHO GIVES A F**K IF I SMOKE POT AND YOU’RE A PORNSTAR?!?” As a slightly innocent 10 y.o. I was pretty shocked."

GoAndrevv

It figures...

"Meh. It wasn’t surprising. A girl in my class ended up doing porn after high school. She was only in a few videos and it really wasn’t anything special, kinda lazy actually. However, this girl was very attractive and dumb as a rock. I distinctly remember having her in my entrepreneurship class where we were shown a slideshow of Bill Gates, with no pictures, to which she said out loud 'Isn’t that the guy from National Treasure?/ As far as I know now she’s an insurance agent and has 3 kids."

HooptyBiggums

She Made It

"I was surprised and then went back to eating my bagel… My aunt made her first million in real estate during the 80s-90s when construction and development boomed in California. She then invested in an adult entertainment company that revolutionized the adult content and distribution model in the industry and was one of the first female owners of a production company in that business."

"The films she helped produce were the highest budget films in adult entertainment and earned many AVN awards. This was during the late 90s and early 2000s when DVDs were still the mainstream method of distributing films of all types. She is pretty amazing and I always enjoy listening to her stories. Definitely made many many many millions over her career."

Accomplished_Cup_922

"schoolteacher"

"Not a family member, but a friend of mine from high school, Pete. it was a really low budget effort. the woman playing the 'schoolteacher' undressed and tossed her skirt on the bed and then they started going at it. While they were doing it, an old guy with a white beard."

"(Pete's grandfather, maybe?) walked into the frame and took away the skirt. I guess he wanted to save on dry cleaning or something. anyway, the grandfather was a building superintendent on Central Park West, and Pete was truly hung. I'm sorry I passed on that, dude!"

Gina-Smith

Top 100?

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"A girl I used to date started doing porn, I was disappointed that my penis wasn’t in the top 10 penis’ by comparison, but it wasn’t in the bottom 650 either."

Odintodd

The Ex

"Ex girlfriend is now a pornstar. She always wanted to make videos with me. I obliged to the videos but refused to upload them anywhere. She’s insanely hot and instantly recognizable so anything with her face in it would be a dead giveaway that it was me on the other side. 2 months after we broke up, my friends pointed out that she’s all over the front page of pornhub. She immediately jumped into porn and I’m sure my friends probably masturbated it to her (which I absolutely hate the thought of)."

WhoDat_37

hacked...

"Not a pornstar, but a friend from high school made some cuckold/gangbang videos with her boyfriend. Her iCloud got hacked and the videos found their way onto some popular porn sites. Somehow, her name was connected to the videos and a bunch of 4chan cretins found her family (including grandmother) on social media and sent them screenshots. I found all this out a few years back when I googled her name looking to reconnect. All that popped up were the videos and the archived 4chan thread. I have no idea where she is now, but I hope she's okay."

el_goyo_rojo

Go for you...

"My best friend does cam shows. We talk about it from time to time, she seems to enjoy it and it makes my monthly wage in 3 nights so I can only be happy and supportive."

Angry_Strawberries

Pay Per View

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"They were a girl one year above me in high school. Obviously this was a few years after graduation. She had her own pay site so I never saw anything, but I did see that she also sold her underwear and thought was hilarious at the time."

Nerdfatha

It Just Is

"I stumbled on a movie that had someone I knew in it. I did have sex to it, then felt awkward about it. We chatted privately about it and he told me that though he retired from porn, he didn't feel ashamed of that chapter of his life. It stopped being awkward for me."

"Then I moved to SF, which has a giant porn industry. It was not unusual to cross paths with a porn star on a typical Thursday. Or to stumble upon a movie that a friend had filmed for Kink.com. The mystique of it wore off pretty quick."

j0m1n1n

Sex is fun. And if you can make cash doing it, more power to you.

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