Former Night Owls Offer Tips For Becoming A Morning Person[rebelmouse-image 18349719 is_animated_gif=
A healthy sleep schedule can be paramount to success and is essential for maintaining overall well-being. Many people, however, find themselves trapped in erratic cycles, resulting in lost productivity and constant exhaustion. If you're a night owl looking for ways to improve your sleep, this thread is for you.
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Great advice. Also, keep your alarm across the room.[rebelmouse-image 18349720 is_animated_gif=
I've been both, and still can be both depending on what I need to accomplish.
Never hit the snooze button ever again. Never. As soon as that alarm goes off sit up and get moving. Drink a glass of water (or orange juice) and have a shower.
If you wake up 5 minutes before the alarm goes off, get up. This ties in with the snooze button but anything less than 30 minutes of sleep is useless and makes it harder to get up.
Dogs have owners, cats have staff. Either way, you can't sleep in.[rebelmouse-image 18349721 is_animated_gif=
Have pets with strong opinions.
I wake up at 6:30 every day because the animals are ready for breakfast. They do not understand concepts like weekends or holidays, so even if I don't set an alarm, someone will be meowing or licking me awake.
Expend calories during the day. Lots of calories.[rebelmouse-image 18349722 is_animated_gif=
Exercise twice as much as you use to. This will make you tired and want to sleep earlier. Then keep track of when you sleep and when you wake up. Keep sleeping ten to fifteen minutes earlier until the problem is solved.
Yeah... no. Do people really get up before noon?[rebelmouse-image 18347135 is_animated_gif=
Go to bed early. Do not consume any caffeine past noon, including chocolate or tea. Do this every day, regardless of whether or not you have obligations in the morning or not.
I've done this, it works.[rebelmouse-image 18349723 is_animated_gif=
My bedroom window faces east. In order to wake up with enough time to properly get ready for work, I stopped sleeping with the curtains closed. Now that they're open, I wake up with the sun. At first, it was a difficult transition but now I find myself walking up naturally early on weekends, even if the curtains are closed.
Sleeping pills au naturale.[rebelmouse-image 18349724 is_animated_gif=
Melatonin supplements are great for getting to bed a reasonable time.
Like a Bandaid, make it quick.[rebelmouse-image 18349725 is_animated_gif=
I used to get up every single morning at 5:30 in the morning to work out before school, so I can speak to this. I think an important thing to note is that "morning" people (especially people getting up before 7:00 am) are not skipping out of bed alert and chipper. Months into waking up at 5:30 am, you will STILL be miserable getting up, and it will feel like hell and you want to go back to bed desperately EVERY SINGLE TIME. The difference is that the momentum and power of your habit overcome that dread and longing to stay in your bed and hit the snooze button and you rise out of bed like a machine to go splash some cold water on your face. It is not easy, and it likely will never be! But habits are a powerful thing, so if you want to be a morning person you just have to do it. Don't ever expect that getting out of bed really early in the morning to be a fun thing to do.
Your work schedule can determine your sleeping habits.[rebelmouse-image 18349726 is_animated_gif=
Until I got myself a job where I had to be at work at 4 in the morning, I was a total night owl. I'd go to bed at 2 or 3 and sleep until noon. Now, I'm just the opposite. It's rare I'm up past midnight and always awake before 8 in the morning. I was forced into it and now if I stay up too late, I get blinding headaches.
This seems so... tranquil.[rebelmouse-image 18349728 is_animated_gif=
I have to wake up at 5:30 to get ready for work, I used to go to sleep at 3/4am.
I set my alarm for 5. I get up, I turn the heating on for a shower, I make a cup of tea and I get back in bed to drink the tea and browse the internet. Once I finish my tea, the boiler has heated the water so I can shower and get ready. Then I eat breakfast.
The desire to stay up late never goes away.[rebelmouse-image 18349729 is_animated_gif=
I was a night owl and then got a 9-5 job. I had the motivation to do it and just started getting up earlier. It was definitely a tough adjustment because I generally wasn't tired when I knew I had to go to bed but you gradually get used to it. The most important thing was to just set a time to go to sleep and stick to it. After a couple of months, as long as I had gotten enough sleep I was wide awake in the morning. Now I actually get more work done before lunch than after on most days! I still want to just stay up until 3 am and play video games sometimes though.
Being a night owl could be genetic, says science.[rebelmouse-image 18349730 is_animated_gif=
Some scientists believe that people are genetically set to be night or morning people or something in between.
This makes sense if you think about the way different peoples lived way back in the day. Some people were agrarian, meaning they generally stay in one place, have a regular schedule for eating and sleeping and tend to crops/livestock. I imagine these would be early risers.
Then you had nomadic tribes, whose diet and sleep schedule depended on resources in whatever area they were in. Being constantly on the move, one can imagine that they'd need to be on high alert to guard against theft or predators at night. It would serve someone well back then to be able to stay up well past dark for these reasons. Warriors would have this type of schedule as well. Perhaps they'd take turns taking naps etc. Sleep habits like these form epigenetic traits that are passed down from your ancestors.
Anyway, to answer your question (i'm an extreme night owl) whenever I've had to set myself an early schedule I set my alarm for the target time and keep an orange or something refreshing to eat right as the alarm rings. After a couple of days, you'll start waking up at this time more easily as your stomach signals food intake to your brain as the start of a new day. Or so I've read. Works for me.
Having a kid means NO sleep.[rebelmouse-image 18349731 is_animated_gif=
Honestly, for me, having a kid was the ultimate switch. But seriously, take a shower as soon as you get up and don't hesitate to get out of bed as soon as you open your eyes.
Goals. Single af.[rebelmouse-image 18349732 is_animated_gif=
I made the switch only when I had something I really looked forward to every morning. I met someone who was an early bird and was giddy looking forward to texts from him when he woke up. It just stuck after that.
This method of self-torture is actually quite effective.[rebelmouse-image 18349733 is_animated_gif=
I have two alarms, one is set for an hour before I actually need to get up. It breaks me out of my deep sleep and leaves me with another hour to rest. It takes a bit of getting used to in the beginning, but nowadays I actually wake up feeling good and not groggy!
We night owls do have routines... of bad habits.[rebelmouse-image 18349734 is_animated_gif=
Routine routine routine. I can not stress this enough. People get into bad habits sleep wise because they do not have a routine. Doesn't matter if you go to bed at 4 am or 10 pm. You need to do it consistently. You're impacting your health of you vary your sleep time every other day.
Daylight Saving Time for sleep? How novel.[rebelmouse-image 18349736 is_animated_gif=
I switched from night owl to morning person because I wanted to be able to work on some of my hobbies before work because I was always too tired/cranky afterward. So my no. 1 tip would be:
- Have a reason to get up early. Literally, something to get you out of bed. For me, it's drawing while listening to music and enjoying a cup of coffee or tea.
- Do some light reading before your new bedtime. Try to avoid your TV, computer, and phone. Even just 30 minutes of reading can make a big difference and helps quiet down your brain. Music works too, or something like meditation.
As for the actual process, I made the switch the weekend DST ended. It gives you that extra hour to help with the adjustment.
I need to buy some blue lights.[rebelmouse-image 18349738 is_animated_gif=
I'll assume you already know about basic sleep hygiene.
Some seriously effective way for shifting your sleep cycle is through light therapy. You'll need a bit of equipment or the opportunity to be outside in clear weather in the morning.
The recommended protocol is:
Day 1. Wake up and rise at your natural time. Immediately get as much light exposure as you can through a 10000 lux lamp or sunlight. Get to bed at a reasonable time with good sleep hygiene.
Day 2 wake up one hour earlier than day 1. Immediately get as much light exposure as you can through a 10000 lux lamp or sunlight. Get to bed at a reasonable time with good sleep hygiene.
Day 3 wake up one hour earlier than day 2. Immediately get as much light exposure as you can through a 10000 lux lamp or sunlight. Get to bed at a reasonable time with good sleep hygiene.
In addition, you might use glasses blocking blue light in the evening before sleep. They will stimulate melatonin production and help shift your sleep cycle. There are some medically certified brands, but the orange Uvex Skyper glasses are a cheaper option that does work just as well. Wear them from about 12 hours prior to waking up.
(Sources: I'm a resident doctor with special interest in sleep, have worked with leading sleep researchers and dated younger sleep researchers. To lazy to paste any links right now)
Well, that's one way to be woken up early.[rebelmouse-image 18349739 is_animated_gif=
I joined the military, that did the trick.
Spoiler alert: some of us kids are always needy.[rebelmouse-image 18349741 is_animated_gif=
Having small children. By the time you're able to sleep in again, they've trained you out of it.
This is great advice. Naps are amazing, but they'll keep you up at night.[rebelmouse-image 18347426 is_animated_gif=
Do not take naps during the day. Ever. You'll have trouble sleeping that night, then getting up the following morning.
Affordable housing. The ozone layer. Tan m&m's.
The past was full of awesomeness that we really should get back to.
It wasn't all sunshine and roses, we know that.
None of us are over here with the whole "I was born in the wrong decade" mentality—but you gotta admit a lower cost of living would be pretty dope.
Also that blue m&m's are inferior.
Reddit user Darko992 asked:
"What should we bring back from the past?"
Here are some things Reddit really wishes we never let go of.
"They look cool, often one size fits all, easier to take on or off than a jacket, and don’t have a dumb zipper."
"Ya know how in Harry Potter they walk around London in cloaks and sh*t and people don’t even notice? "
"Well I was in the line at TSA and didn’t notice for a full 10 minutes that the lady in front of me was wearing a full-on velvety cloak. Once I did notice, my first thought was 'sh*t that’s a cool cloak.' So now I understand Muggle London"
"When I was stationed in Yongsan, South Korea I was waiting in line at Taco Bell when I see another soldier I kind of know walk up. We were both in civilian clothes - but her version of civvies was an awesome cloak."
"I got to talking with her and asked if she was going to a larp, she said no and said she just felt like rocking a cloak that day. "
"To this day her confidence has inspired me!"
"More real effects instead of CGI in movies. Obviously, CGI has made the impossible possible, but directors like Guillermo Tel Toro prove that there is a lot that can be created believably and beautifully on film."
"Good practical effects will hold up basically forever, too. Look at The Thing; that movie is now forty years old and the effects still look top notch."
"Good CGI goes unnoticed. Slightly bad CGI looks f*cking terrible."
"It still doesn't age well. The best CGI from the 90s looks decent (IE: Terminator 2) but you still have to be like 'It looks good....for 1991' since it never holds up to age."
What Wear When?
"Every fashion from every era at the same time. I'd love the mess it would make"
"The 1720s. Puffy pants and powdered wigs baby"
"Well right now 60's-90's is apparently coming back in style, plus Amish attire."
"Source- worked at Nordstroms for a bit this year."
"If capes were back in style I'd cry from joy."
"Definitely already a thing, with people coming in mullets and thrifting"
"The expectation of lack of availability."
"The amount of technology we have is truly amazing and I love that I get to experience it. That being said, the idea that I am available 100% of the time from morning to night is easily the biggest source of stress I have in my life."
"I miss the time before smartphones."
"I felt the same, that anyone could demand my attention at any time and I would be expected to give it especially with phone calls."
"For the last few years I've had my phone on silent (no vibration). I choose when I look at my phone and respond to texts or call people back. Its freeing."
"Some people get frustrated by that, but that's a them problem."
"Just because they want to talk to me at a particular time does not mean that they can, I have a life too."
"Unless it's my girlfriend or my family, I just don't respond to texts or anything after like 5pm."
"Phone call? Go to voice-mail."
"You don't owe anybody your time, regardless of how they may feel about that."
"I agree and I've learned to set boundaries so this is no longer an expectation."
"Work knows my hours and that I am not going to respond outside of those hours."
"The worst offender was my mother, who'd call like 5x in as many minutes at 10pm (I usually go to bed at 9pm, she knows this)."
"I set the boundary and told her that unless its an emergency, please do not call after 7pm (that's family time for us). Texting is ok, but I'll respond at my leisure then."
Love Thy Neighbor
"A sense of community"
"It's odd, this one. Because everyone alive would love for it to happen, but nobody wants to make it happen."
"When was the last time you spoke to your neighbours? A while ago I bet."
"I read a book about this. It's the idea of social infrastructure- creating spaces that encourage physical, human interaction and a community."
"Cars and suburbs in America have really f*cked this up because they prevent social interaction/sense of community."
"You get up in your suburban home where your nearest neighbor is still fairly distant, get in your car, and drive straight to work. Then you drive back home. Maybe you drive to some large superstores."
"In contrast, imagine more walkable cities like some in Europe or Asia. Neighborhoods where people live in closer proximity, where shops/cafes/libraries/small businesses owned by families are within walking distance, and where walkable paths and parks abound."
"A day might involve a lot more walking, passing by your neighbors on your street, building common interactions with locals, and where communities can hold more community events like farmers markets and stuff. "
"It's better for humans, better for the environment, better in almost every aspect."
"Not to say these things don't exist in America, or only exist in other countries, but most cities are such a far cry from this kind of community."
"Stuff being made to last a lifetime rather than a few months to a few years."
"Yes. A ban on planned obsolescence would be VERY nice."
"Poorly made throwaway goods have always been a staple of the market."
"It's not planned obsolescence, it's a 'defined service life.' "
"Materials science got to a point where they can cut costs down and deliver absolute minimum quality of material to hit a desired lifespan on a product."
"You can still buy things that last forever, they're just considered luxury product and cost 3-4 times as much."
"Go to the grill section of your local Home Depot and check out a Weber Genesis next to your average Charbroil or NexGrill for a visual example. "
"The Weber will easily last you a decade-plus, probably 20 years if you take care of it. On the other hand, the Charbroil will rust out within 3-5 years."
"Basically, if we want things that last, we either have to accept that everything is going to get at least 30% more expensive, or we just need to go pay for luxury items now."
Get Ronald On The Phone
"Old design of McDonalds buildings"
"Right?! The new design looks like a depressed millennial. I want my free circus again!"
"Including the ball pits and play places"
"When the new commercials came out that featured the retro lamps I got excited. I thought a franchise wide re-design was on the way. Nope."
"A relaxed life style and more family gatherings"
"I would kill for the first one alone."
"Take me back to a time where like, you would just need to do your job, your part, and maintain your responsibilities and that's it."
"Yeah. Now, it's more complex than just that."
"I think now we have too many responsibilities and higher expectations that those of the old days. This brings more worries and stress."
"Expunging juvenile records for stupid and petty crimes."
"I get having to prosecute minors as adults for serious crimes, but for stupid and petty things they don't automatically expunge them anymore like they used to and a juvenile record can haunt them for years."
"As long as the crime was petty and non-violent I want to get back to letting that child have a fresh start once they're an adult."
"Wow! I didn’t know that changed. I’ll have to look in to that. Kids make stupid decisions and shouldn’t have to carry that burden in to adulthood."
Let's Get Physical
"Physical media. I miss the days of VHS and browsing video stores."
"Yes! Physical all the way! I hate it when I hear an album or song and I find out it’s not on CD. I need something to play in the car!"
"That's more on the consumer's end. Most digital media is still available in a physical counterpart."
"I'm somewhere in between, I get the appeal of physical media but I don't like having things. I still dislike streaming that turned media into basically a service that most of their users take for granted."
"I tend to buy digital copes of albums and keep listening to them in the same behavior I did when I was a kid and bought a cassette tape and was the only thing I heard for some time."
"Get that too. For me I miss the ritual of browsing and picking up an album or movie, reading the box, opening the box first time, etc."
I just remembered another thing.
Do you guys remember when Pizza Hut was an awesome sit down experience with a salad bar and everything?
That crust just hit different—especially if you were there to celebrate your grades or reading accomplishments and you got your free little personal pizza.
I'm pretty sure it's all been down hill since pizza hut stopped being awesome.
Many people put on a brave face in fearful times, and those are the people whom we often look to for protection.
However, it doesn't mean the brave are without their vulnerable moments.
Everyone–regardless of how they present themselves–has at one time experienced their share of terrifying situations.
They just don't open up about them to save face. Thankfully, for Reddit, the forum was open to discussion.
Curious to hear examples from strangers online, Redditor Wonderful-Wash-2145 asked:
"Have you ever been scared to the core of your soul? What’s the story?"
Some people have wildly vivid imaginations.
Lucky for them, they remained as such.
The Tall Man In The Dark
"years ago when I still lived at my parents house, I was sleeping on the couch in the unfinished basement with my girlfriend at the time. I woke up to her shaking me awake with absolute panic in her voice whispering that there was a very tall man across the basement watching us. Hearing that made my blood run cold so i slowly peeked over the back of the couch and sure enough, I could just barely make out the shape of an EXTREMELY tall man facing us in the darkness. He was so tall that his head was close to the ceiling. I whispered to my girlfriend at the time that I was going to jump up and turn the light on which had a string that you needed to pull to turn it on, and right when I did that she needed to use the light to run to the stairs and get out of the basement. So after a second of psyching myself up for whatever came next, I counted to 3 and jumped off the couch and turned the light on."
"I finally got a proper look at the guy. It was my dads f'king scuba suit that he hung from the rafters to let it dry. My hands were shaking for a half hour after that but we both got a good laugh out of it….eventually."
The Pale Figure
"I was 11 maybe 12 years old. Dad worked late most nights so I was home alone per usual. Home however was a ranch house far out of town in a Florida pine forest. It was late and dark. The doors were all French style glass with no blinds or curtains. Outside those glass doors was only a hauntingly dark tree line, dimly lit by the moon. Leaving all the lights on and a TV gave some comfort but this meant it was much easier to see in than it was for me to see out."
"On this night I had to get something out of the 'back room,' this was our name for a garage that was absorbed into the house. The concrete floors and unfinished walls gave the room a cold air. As I’m searching for what I need, I glance up to see a large bleach-white figure standing outside the glass door. 6 feet tall with no head and no expression. Just white hair draped in front like a ring girl. This was the night I learned there was another option besides fight or flight. It was freeze. I stood frozen in fear, as if the blood in my body just drained. Unable to do anything until my brain recognized it was a horses a**. The horse got out of its pen and was chilling under the carport, with its a** against the glass door."
"Cleaning out an abandoned meat packing two-story celler that had been used as a brothel. Me and my coworker were opening this steel door that was bolted shut. It apparently led to the old boiler room. When we peeled it open, this high pitched shrieking, screeching noise started coming toward us in the dark like someone was dragging a steel chair on concrete. My blood turned to absolute ICE in my veins."
"I've faced down guns before and had my share of awful experiences, but the TERROR that grabbed my brain was unreal. We both turned and bolted up those stairs so fast there was probably smoke coming off our shoes. No idea what made the noise, but we didn't go back downstairs."
Some horrors are not entirely imagined.
Escaping The Wreckage
"Got into a head on collision when a dude swerved into my lane. When I came to I saw smoke coming from the engine and my driver side door was smashed in so I couldn’t open it. Was so scared I couldn’t think straight to try another door so I pulled myself out of the broken window in my drivers side door. Terrifying to think you are trapped in a burning car."
Meeting A Murderer
"I was almost murdered. It's a long story but I'll try to paraphrase it."
"When I was a senior in high school a girl in my neighborhood went missing and about a month later was found dead. During that time her adoptive father was contacting people left and right. Apparently he had his suspicions about my ex boyfriend of 3 years who dated the missing girl in middle school. Adoptive father comes to my house to talk to me about ex and never really asked me anything about him but he talked about himself the whole time and how he was in a white supremacy gang and kills 12 people a year. After he left my house he kept trying to get me to meet with him alone without my mom present to talk to me more about my ex because he felt like I was leaving stuff out in front of my mom. I told him no, I wasn't comfortable and he just kept insisting. It got to the point where I had to have security walk me to and from my car at work and school."
"Adoptive father ends up getting arrested on unrelated charges and the detectives come and talk to me to figure out what he said to me etc. They told me to stay away from him and that he is dangerous. They pulled my mom away to speak privately to her and I didn't find out til I was in college that they told her that they think he murdered the girl and that he was planning on murdering me and blaming it on my ex that he went crazy and started murdering all his ex girlfriends."
"It's been 7 years since this happened and the adoptive father was just convicted of murdering his daughter in February. But, I'm always terrified that one of his 'brothers' are watching me since I testified against him."
Lost At Sea
"Sucked farther and farther out to sea on my bodyboard after sunset while surfing triple overhead waves, just as the fogbank rolled in obscuring the coastline- and the direction I needed to swim to get home."
"Took a couple hours in near dark open ocean to land a couple miles up the coast, guided solely by the faint, faraway string of a few streetlights and headlights that broke though the fog."
"Every splash I heard behind me was definitely a great white shark. I'd panic paddle whenever there was a big splash behind me (again, I was in 20 foot seas. this happened constantly) until I could regain my calm center and try to drop my heart rate, the whole while thinking about how all that fast paddling I did probably just attracted a shark."
"This was near San Francisco, lost at sea in great white breeding grounds while looking like a seal on a winter night, in horrendous conditions. It's not easy landing on a tiny strip of beach when twelve foot waves are dumping onto dry sand and the current is ripping at a decent pace... two miles away, I landed safely."
"Slept like a baby, waking up screaming every two hours."
Encounter In The Woods
"Met a bear cub walking through the forest. It was 10 ft away from me, and was curious so was walking towards me. Couldn't see it's Mom. Just slowly backed away and kept walking backwards for probably half a mile."
Even though their lives were not threatened, observing someone on the brink of death was a horrific ordeal for these Redditors.
The Student Who Was Not Entirely Present
"When I was new to teaching (HS), I was being observed by a principal. The class was being mostly good, but this one student was head down sleeping. I called his name, no response, so I went over to wake him up. I touched his arm and he just fell over, yellow foamy drool everywhere. He had Over dosed, thank God the principal was there with their walkie to call for help while I did what first aid I knew. Student survived- but I was so scared because I wasn’t sure how to help, or if my helping was hurting. Its the feeling of being utterly powerless and incompetent when someone’s life is in your hands."
"Went into my then 2 year old nephew's room to wake him up for the day. He was in his crib laying in a kind of weird posture, with his eyes wide open staring off at nothing. I figured he was awake already and thought 'haha he looks dead...' to myself, and said 'Good morning Matthew!' and his eyes didn't move to look at me. I said 'Matthew?' and got closer to the crib and the way he looked was worse up close, just unfocused dead eyes looking at nothing, body limp."
"I shook him gently, then harder, saying 'Matthew? Matthew?! MATTHEW?!' and when I yelled his name his eyes suddenly focused and he smiled at me and stretched like he often does when he first wakes up. Little f'ker was asleep with his eyes open! It was only a few seconds but I swear my blood turned to ice, was never so scared in my goddamn life. No idea what caused it and he never did it again!"
Dad's Brush With Death
"I was about to fall asleep in my bedroom (I was 16 at the time so it's a while ago). Suddenly my dad calls me, which is weird considering it was 2 in the morning and my dad never calls me because we're literally in the same house. My dad tells me to come downstairs because he doesn't feel very well, so I do. My dad is rarely sick so I started worrying. When I came downstairs, he was drenched in sweat and held a hand clutching to his heart, making weird noises in pain. When I sat down beside him, he told me he called an ambulance. Then he went quiet, and around half a minute later he just said 'Can you hold my hand.'"
"It terrified me because it felt like he was making sure to say goodbye in case he died. It took longer than it should've for the ambulance to arrive, and my dads condition only got worse and worse. When they finally arrived, they were all very calm, but suddenly there was a change. They did an EKG on the spot and suddenly started hurrying around with bags of liquid and needles and monitors around my living room, and they even told me to hold stuff and carry things for them. I tried to keep my composure, but I was shaking in terror. I overheard them saying that he was having a heart attack."
"They asked me to call my mom (I lived alone with my dad at the time), so I tried but she didn't pick up. I told them she didn't pick up and they basically said 'Okay, take care of yourself' and left with my dad."
"My dad was admitted to the hospital and ended up surviving the heart attack with minor complications, but I was left alone at home for 5 days straight. I was 16 ffs, and no one did the slightest effort to make sure that I was alright. I didn't sleep, I didn't eat. I just waited for my dad to come home. My dad is my best friend, he's the only one I have, and I catch myself going to check on him during the night just to make sure he's alive. I'm terrified every day."
Nothing will ever compare to the fear of your life in danger.
Ghosts, ghouls and goblins, come at me, I can handle it. But being hit in a side-swipe collision at night by an 18-wheeler that raced off afterwards after swerving into my lane still terrifies me.
I count my blessings everyday after surviving and I'm reminded of the harsh reality that our lives can be zapped from us at any given time.
Live out loud, folks. You never know when the time comes when you will meet with your maker.
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As much as we love tv and movie love, we have to admit, some stories are a but much when you break it down.
When we're in the moment with bated breath, we can't help but be mesmerized.
But are we considering logistics?
Is this relationship more toxic than healthy?
RedditorSmeggfaffawanted to know:
"What situation is always made out to be really sexy or romantic on TV, but is actually horrible and traumatizing in real life?"
TV romance is the stuff of legend. Can we be wrong?
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"They always make awkward situations look like a good way to start a convo, but in reality it just makes you wanna die."
"When the guy knocks on the girl’s bedroom window in the middle of the night."
"An ex did this to me after we had broken up (he cheated). I was going through a phase of blasting music in my headphones and staying up til like 5am, and for hours I kept hearing this lil knock now and again, until I was like okay wtf is that and turned off my music and realised it was pebbles being thrown at my window. My ex was there... throwing pebbles at my window... for several hours... it wasn't romantic."
"When you've broken up but then get back together. In movies it seems like fireworks fly, but in reality there are a lot of trust/commitment issues to work through."
"I met up with an ex years ago (about 3 years after we'd broken up) and within 2 hours their voice was like nails on a blackboard and I thought 'now I remember!'"
"Stopping a wedding to profess how they love/never stopped loving him or her. Then they both run off together."
"I absolutely agree except for in one case... The Graduate. That shot of them on the bus where reality of their actions sink in is brilliant. Their laughter going to smiles and then the smiles fading as they stare straight ahead and don’t face one another."
"I quite like how they handled this on Frasier. Daphne and Niles finally confess their feelings for each other right when she's about to marry someone else, decide to run off together, get into a car, and that's how the season ends. But in the first episode of the next season they're shown to only have made it to the end of the driveway where they decide to turn around and go deal with the situation like adults. Which of course doesn't do much to soften the fallout - Daphne's fiancé even sues her for emotional damages."
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"-Stalking a person until they agree to go on a date with you."
"-Lock two people in a room to confess their feelings, (they did it to me, I ended up escaping through a window)."
Stalking can be sexy. Right?
"Beach sex is just not good."
"Being forcibly kissed to make you shut up."
"I went to a party with a male friend who I knew liked me. I always made it clear I didn't feel the same about him. Before the party he told me that he thought I would like one of his friends that was going to be there and he was right."
"The friend and I hit it off and I ended up staying the night with him (he lived there). In the morning, the guy went outside, I was standing in a doorway, and my friend was across the room. He walked over to me, grabbed my face and kissed me before I knew what was happening. He asked me if I felt anything and I said no. I was shocked, like dude I just hooked up with your friend, you can't kiss me like we're in a movie or some crap.
"A person dropping their entire life to 'run away' with someone they just met. My sister literally just did this. Took off on a boat for 2 weeks with a man she met 3 weeks before. They found out they are NOTHING alike and it was all just lust not love. Too late now they are stuck together on boat. They quickly realized they CANNOT handle living together and were miserable. It’s not all just roses and rainbows when you run off with 'the love of your life.'"
"When a guy shows way too much interest in you after you've made it crystal clear you are not interested."
"The only time I found it flattering when a guy kept asking me was in high school. I only turned him down because his parents were the owners of the grocery store I worked at and I thought it’d be awkward if it ended badly. And I did like him, he was a great guy, but I always said no. When I quit, I finally agreed to go out with him."
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"Sex in the shower. The amount of times I’ve had patients come into the ER after slipping and falling after having shower sex? Numerous."
TV and movies have ruined us all. I'm on a break!!
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Great writing changes lives.
Great snippets can stay with us forever.
And beyond the grave.
So many people put great quotes on tombstones.
Redditor downtownshibawanted to discuss the words of wisdom that have left a forever mark. They asked:
"What quote changed your life?"
Wisdom is everywhere. I have found hope in the witty advertisement of a vodka bottle. You?
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"There is no problem so bad that you can’t make it worse."
I Love You
"Grief is just love that has nowhere to go."
Andrew Garfield’s quote on this subject really touched me. When talking about his mother who passed away he said, 'I hope this grief stays with me. It’s all the unexpressed love I didn’t get to tell her.'”
“'What really frightens and dismays us is not external events themselves, but the way in which we think about them. It is not things that disturb us, but our interpretation of their significance.'”
"'Do not be daunted by the enormity of the world's grief. Do justly, now. Love mercy, now. Walk humbly, now. You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to abandon it. -Rabbi Tarfon'"
"It helps when I'm feeling anxious about geopolitical events I have no control over."
"'Doing what you love as a job is a great way to make it something you used to love.'"
"Former boss that got burnt hard. That's funny but honestly idk what his past was. He was a very bitter person when I knew him. He said that when I was talking about wanting to be a full time artist when I was younger. The idea gave me pause."
"'It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life.'"
I'm feeling slightly inspired so far. You?
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"Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm."
"There's this awesome webcomic called Multiplex that I used to read ( it finished its run a few years ago). It's mostly goofy jokes and snarky digs at Hollywood, but one of the characters said, 'You should get out of the mindset that for you to win, someone else has to lose. It's unhealthy.' Don't know why it stuck with me, but I've been trying to get out of that way of thinking ever since (I don't always succeed, but I'm trying man, I'm trying real hard)."
“it is what it is”
"Might be lame but my mom gave me a mug with 'it is what it is' written on it and it truly changed my philosophy about how I handle my anxiety. I was going through a lot but drinking coffee everyday with that mug really gave me a weird sense of peace."
"'Don't tell yourself no. Let someone else tell you no.' -- a co-worker who stopped me from canceling an interview 16 years ago. He's embarrassed that I bring it up because to him, it was just an off-the-cuff comment. But it literally put me where I am now."
'It's always those off-the-cuff remarks that do it. I will say, this one might be THE one from this thread that sticks with me... Most often it seems that the only person who ever gets in my way is myself."
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"The graveyard is full of people who had the right of way."
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