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People Share The Best First Dates That Don't Involve Alcohol

People Share The Best First Dates That Don't Involve Alcohol
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Going on a first date is nerve-wracking. We've all been there.

Establishing interest in another person on dating apps is easy, and not being fully aware of a potential love interest's nuances and idiosyncratic behavior can be mysteriously sexy.

But when two people into each other are ready for the next step by meeting in person, nerves can make you do and say awkward things that can ruin the person's perception of you.

To take the edge off a little, meeting at a bar or restaurant and starting the romantic evening off with a glass of wine is an ideal option for a first date.But not everyone has the luxury, or option, of being able to leisurely imbibe alcohol any time they want to.



Curious to hear alternative dating ideas, Redditor mod8089 asked:
"What’s a good first date that doesn’t involve alcohol?"

Being entertained is a great way to experience something together without having to worry about initial small talk.

Catch A Flick

"Movie I think is fine, but if it's around 7 or 8PM and you get out with some time left in the night. I say that because it gives you a shared experience and something to connect and talk about which can be a good icebreaker. Not ideal first date but in a pinch it can work."

– Jennyferr0412

Don't Blow Your Cover

"Not a comedy club - if they find out you're on a first date you will get roasted without mercy."

"Source: Been there, done that."

– ConsultantForLife

Get Roasted, Not Toasted

"Great first date if your date is already a friend and you know their taste in comedy and tolerance for the obligatory hazing."

– ThrownAway3764

Getting Down With Marine Life

"Aquarium. Make sure to hold hands."

– AiharaSisters

Some prefer engaging in an activity, where being anti-social is not an option.

Friendly Competition

"Find a place with board games and go there."

– decendingvoid

Scaling New Heights

"My SO and I had our first date at a climbing gym."

– Shantor

Get Cheesy

"My husband took me to a cheese factory on our first date."

"There were free samples. A tour of the new factory, and a heritage tour of the original wooden building and dairy."

"That was a good first date."

– FormalMango

Raising The Bar

"It wasn't our first date, but the first time I brought my girlfriend(now wife) to my hometown I took her on a tour at Saranac in Utica NY. She loved it."

"Downside though, some of the dates after that were kinda boring because that one went so well. It was hard to follow up"

– I_AM_DEATH-INCARNATE

Putting Around

"Mini golf is the best first date ever."

– woolsocksandsandals

Knock Down Pins

"bowling is really good as long as she's into it. There's a slight friendly competition to see who wins, and you can get food/drinks and talk a ton. great time to not be uptight and just be a lil goofy and friendly."

– LuxerIsCool

Can You Work Together?

"Hear me out. An escape room. You’ll never know if you can actually love that person until you’re both trapped in a room."

–Thaanos_

Excursions are a great option, but it would be wise to consider the following:

Not Recommended

"As a woman who loves hiking: absolutely do not go on a hike as a first date, or if you really want to then make it a double date. Unless she already knows you (and even then...) she will be on edge/scared the entire time, more likely than not turn the whole thing down."

– DiscussionPale3216

Stay In The Public Eye

"Try walking at a beach or some other place where you always be in sight of many other people. I live near a very busy rail trail, but that does NOT meet the standard of ALWAYS visible."

"I live near an upscale strip mall, and my first few dates with my wife we got froyo and walked the mall. Window shopping can help provide interesting items to keep the conversation flowing."

– NCBGLC1912

Window Shopping

"Something that I've done with first dates off of dating sites/apps is go to a food court in a mall. This accomplishes a few things: 1) You are meeting for the first time in a public place. 2) There's a wide variety of food to choose from, with the added bonus that you can get a clue of where to take her on a second date. 3) After eating you two can walk around the mall, do some window shopping, maybe blow a few bucks at the arcade. etc."

– II_Confused

Outdoor Seating Preferred

"Picnic is a great idea. If you go to a crowded park in your area so they’re not on edge that way you can control what you’re eating and drinking."

– whitehat_creamer

Getting Icy

"I’m a skater and went skating on a first date with a non skater. I thought it’d be fun, I could wear a cute outfit, and maybe showcase a skill to show myself in a good light. What I didn’t anticipate was that he was so uncoordinated that I lost all interest in him."

– EmmeryAnn

I went to a Six Flags park as a first date once, and that was a lot of fun.

It's a good mix of gradually getting to know the other person while waiting in line to get on one of the rides and experiencing the thrill of a roller coaster together.

When the adrenaline is pumping and your heart is throbbing, it's a great ice-breaker that could culminate in the greatest thrill of all at the end of the day–That first kiss.

Things People Secretly Love But Would Never Admit To In Public

Reddit user sweet_chick283 asked: 'What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?;

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What makes us all unique is our passions and the things we love, whether it's singing in the shower, reading books, or listening to specific music artists.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are judged for our various tastes and interests thanks to social media, and it makes us consciously selective about sharing the things we love on the internet.

Curious to hear about people's personal desires under anonymity, Redditor sweet_chick283 asked:

"What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?"

These aren't really chores for the following Redditors.

Good Clean Fun

"Mopping, im a janitor and generally hate my work... but damn mopping is so good."

– MrDDog06

"When you have a great rhythm going it is something special. I get the same feeling while I vacuum, but won’t let my wife know I enjoy it."

– Bogus_34

Act Of Unwrinkling

"Ironing clothes. A dozen of them. Can’t explain how it relaxes me. I told one person and they looked at me like I’m crazy."

– eerie_white_glow

"My mum misses the days when dad would be out on a Friday night, my brother out with friends and me upstairs quietly playing PS1. She would pour herself a Bacardi & Coke and do the ironing while watching her TV shows."

"I'm sure she doesn't really miss it now that we've moved out and they've retired but it was her wind-down after a busy working week so I can see how people can find it relaxing."

– xdq

Our solo actions can spark joy.

Big Brother Is Watching

"pretending to be on the Truman show and whenever im in my house i act all inconspicuous so they dont know that i know that they’re watching me."

– Bec_121

"C’mon man, you’re not supposed to let him know. You signed a contract when signing up for live views. I’m reporting you."

– doeswaspsmakehoney

The Multi-Tasker

"Playing video games naked at home while eating cheese."

– thickening_agent

Releasing The Kraken

"I love the feeling when you've eaten good fibre and let out a solid long train log in the toilet. That feeling is heavenly."

– therapoootic

"Even better when it’s a clean wipe and not a poo crayon."

– TheWarmestHugz

Ultimate Comfort

"My (male 41) weekend routine is coming home from work, make hot chocolate, start a fire, dress in a ugly pink nightgown made for old ladies and watch forensic files."

– crazyloomis

Some people are obsessed with collecting things.

So Kawai

"Sanrio stationery stores. All those different multicolor pens, a thousand kinds of erasers, spiral bound notebooks galore... my kids sadly have absolutely no appreciation for this wonderland..."

– HavingNotAttained

It's A Staple

"Office supplies have a weird, special place in my heart ever since I was a kid. They don't even have to be 'cute' necessarily."

"Japan's legendary stationery stores is unironically a reason I want to go."

– _CozyLavender_

Not Caring Anymore

"The older I get the shorter that list gets. Not because I love less things, but because I don't care about hiding it."

– Bi-Beast

"YES!! I'm 53 now. I'm working my first job in public since 2006. Today is Halloween and we're allowed to dress up so I am sitting here waiting to go to work dressed as a VERY bad Wednesday Addams. My bf said I'd 'look stupid' because no one else will probably dress up and I'm like, 'WHO CARES!' My makeup looks horrible and not like I practiced, but I DO NOT CARE! I'm having fun with it anyhow and I don't care if my coworkers dress up or not. I'm bein' ME! :)"

– deanie1970

Honorable mentions start here.

The Savior

"Picking up worms from the street and sidewalks when it rains and moving them into the dirt so they don’t burn in the sun, every time it rains I do this."

– sky_kitten89

Hero Of The Moment

"Yoooo I scoot SO many snails and worms. I work as a tech/mechanic at an automotive shop, I had a peoject car towed to my house the other day and it was covered in snails. I saw them when the tow guy/coworker was unloading and I was like, 'oh! It comes with free snails!' and began moving them. He laughed then realized and said, '... Oh, you're serious. Uh... Okay.'"

"I don't care who knows it. These little things barely can look out for themselves, why shouldn't we if we can take a moment to help? I don't care what happens next, it probably doesn't matter overall but I can help this moment."

– chris14020

Why should some of the hidden desires mentioned above have to be secret?

Redditors opening up about some of these would make them a hit at parties–no shaming.

As a matter of fact, I'll totally be down for a Forensic Files viewing party where we all make hot chocolate, light the fireplace, and cozy up together in our respective pink ugly nightgowns for old ladies.

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