
Fed Up People Reveal What Everyone Else Takes Too Seriously
[rebelmouse-image 18349212 is_animated_gif=Ok y'all sit down, take a breath and slow your roll. THAT should be our life mantra! In this day and age none of us can seem to escape the finite severity of life we all seem to be imposing on one another and ourselves. It feels like nobody has a sense of humor anymore. And nobody even feels like know how to have a good time. Everything little thing is so damn serious. As i write this I realize... my words are so damn serious! Or is it passion?
Redditor _u/rachid-web asked the world What do people take entirely too seriously? How many hours have you got for reading today?
EVERYBODY HAS DONE IT...
The cringy or awful things they did when they were teenagers. Short of something truly obscene people are way too hard on themselves.
EVERYBODY BE CRAY!!
[rebelmouse-image 18349213 is_animated_gif=I read this a few years ago, and it's stuck with me, so I'll share it here. Credit to u/soomuchcoffee for initially writing it.
"The crappy truth is that the upper, say, 5% of every fanbase is insufferable. Basically without variance. There's a guy out there that has like, broccoli t-shirts, broccoli posters, he has a broccoli key chain. And if you're like "Dude, I love broccoli too" he'd say you had no idea what you were talking about. You like broccolini? What about broccoli rabe? I bet you've never even SEEN Chinese broccoli! I eat broccoli with every meal, I can make it 213 different ways, I have a broccoli garden in my back yard.
That's the upper 5% of every interest group. I have no idea why people do this, or how they've convinced themselves this suffices for an identity, but that seems to be the idea.
So, virtually everything has people out there that take it too seriously.
SING OUT!!!
[rebelmouse-image 18349214 is_animated_gif=Music. You don't have to know the band's member history and their birthdays and medical history to be a fan, that's creepy! Who's to say who is a "real fan" or a "poser?"
You don't have to like EVERY song. If you like their music, cool. If you only like a few songs, cool. If you only use the chorus of their most popular song as a ringtone, cool. And if you know the band and their members inside and out, creepy but cool.
JUST SMILE AND BREATHE!
[rebelmouse-image 18349215 is_animated_gif=My view is that we only have one life, and it can be mercilessly short. So you really have a choice; spend your limited time on this planet being ANGRY and OFFENDED most of the time, OR you can choose just to shrug everything off and look for the best in everything. Which do you honestly think will make you happier?
It's sounds naive, like one of those cliched "inspirational" Facebook posts, but really it's true. Try not to get upset by things you can't directly control and have the ability to laugh in the face of adversity.
I OBJECT!
[rebelmouse-image 18349217 is_animated_gif=Don't become a lawyer. You'll be swimming with people who take themselves too seriously. The profession wouldn't be so terrible otherwise.
BYE FELICIA!
[rebelmouse-image 18357974 is_animated_gif=Oh, some random stranger online that I'll most likely never meet or encounter again doesn't like something that I like? He has an opinion that clashes with one of mine?
What's that? You say just ignore and move on, or block the user and move on if I really don't want to see their posts? F**k that! Lets demonize the heretic, call them every name in the book and act like they killed my puppy! They didn't agree with me!!!!
CAN YOU TELL TIME?
[rebelmouse-image 18977999 is_animated_gif=I'm often conflicted about this. I believe I'm a fun guy to be with and I really like to socialize. But there are some things which really piss me off : like cleanliness and people being on time . I sometimes get really worked up when people are late, that it ruins my mood to the point of not wanting to meet them. I'm conflicted because I think I take my rules too seriously and don't know whether I should take it easy, or it's ok to be mad cause people should respect others time.
So many times I'll let things go, but I feel built cause I just did it it to appear 'chill' when in fact it does really bother me.
I feel like I sometimes unnecessarily create drama because of this. Some friends honestly don't care if someone is late. Does that make me too stuck up ? Do I need to be more flexible in my attitude?
AS LONG AS YOU'RE STILL BREATHING!
[rebelmouse-image 18357065 is_animated_gif=So for example if I slipped over and didn't hurt myself but somebody laughed at me falling over, my initial reaction is to be quite annoyed (because I'm self conscious) at them. But what you're saying is I should laugh with them at how silly I made myself look?
IT IS WHAT IT IS...
[rebelmouse-image 18977904 is_animated_gif=I was told by someone to never take anything too seriously. You never take it seriously, you never get hurt. You never get hurt, you always have fun. And if you ever get lonely, you just got down to the record store and visit your friends.
PLAY NICE!
[rebelmouse-image 18978000 is_animated_gif=This is something I've learned to do over the past year, especially last summer. I spent a good amount of my summer hanging out with one friend who had a tendency to tease me about things. We would go back and forth jokingly making fun of each other. It never reached a point that was hurtful or mean. It really helped me learn to laugh at myself when I said or did something stupid.
YOU DO YOU!
[rebelmouse-image 18978001 is_animated_gif=One of the best things I did was come to terms with the fact that I'm not special. Very few people, in the grand scheme of things, care about me.
That's not depressing. That means that if I sing off key karaoke, I'm just that chick that sang off key karaoke. If I make some fashion mistakes, what the hell, who will even remember? Go do something stupid in front of my coworkers? Sure, why not? Goof up on a presentation, no one cares.
My in-laws are the world's worst narcissists. If something bad happens to them - like someone forgets their food order, or they get cut off in traffic - it's because someone is trying to piss them off. They are so miserable all the time because they're always looking for ways the world hates them instead of accepting that suck is sometimes just part of life.
IT AIN'T EASY SOLDIER!
[rebelmouse-image 18361468 is_animated_gif=But HOW do you stop taking yourself too seriously? When I was a kid, I was the class clown. Then, I joined the Marine Corps right after high school and when I got back, everyone said I had changed, that I had become a very serious person. I'm aware that I take myself too seriously, and I'd love to change that and be a happier person, but I have no idea how to _"let go." _Any and all advice is so very greatly appreciated, you have no idea.
SIT. REFLECT.
[rebelmouse-image 18978002 is_animated_gif=It took me a long, long time to change my nature from highly self-conscious and people-pleasing to just chilling the hell out, and though my situation in general is worse than it was back then, I'm considerably happier. It's all in the perspective; all you have are moments, and every moment spent taking yourself too seriously or hating yourself or whatever is a moment of potential happiness that you have robbed yourself of.
THAT'LL INDUCE STROKE!
[rebelmouse-image 18978003 is_animated_gif=One thing that shocks me is the ferocity from people in their late 20s early 30s of how much they hate stuff that is blatantly aimed at kids, not them.
I see all the time how people my age are amazed and shocked that Nickelodeon isn't showing the same cartoons from the mid-90s or that video games today suck. For some kid, Minecraft means as much to them as Super Mario did to you. So just relax. Your childhood games aren't going anywhere.
GET OFF THE INTERNET... WELL AFTER YOU READ THIS!
[rebelmouse-image 18978004 is_animated_gif=Social Media. I accept a level of irony that I am calling out social media WHILE on a social media platform, but too many people lose their minds in the cyber world and forget the REAL world is so much better.
IT'S NOT THAT DEEP!
[rebelmouse-image 18978005 is_animated_gif="Deep meanings" in little things. I've witnessed many people reading too much into things, like a little joke or when a girl touches them and they suddenly suspect the girl of wanting to marry and have kids with them.
HELLO? CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?
[rebelmouse-image 18978006 is_animated_gif=The type of phone other people have.
THEY'RE PEOPLE TOO!!
[rebelmouse-image 18978008 is_animated_gif=When a celebrity gives their opinion about anything.
SLOW DOWN JANET!
[rebelmouse-image 18978009 is_animated_gif=Kids' sporting events. Your son is 5, Janet. There's no need to start fights with the coach and other moms.
Though it's often used as the butt of jokes, there's still a lot to appreciate in the United States, whether you live there or are visiting.
But there are also a lot of things that leave onlookers infinitely perplexed about what it's actually like to live in the United States and why they do things like that.
Redditor DadIsMadAtMe asked:
"What’s the hardest thing for you to comprehend about the American culture?"
School Pride!
"School mascots. Where I live, we just have teams and just play matches against people."
"In America, it’s all like, 'GO, EASTTOWN EAGLES!!! OOGACHACKA!' and there would be some person in a cheapo eagle suit spinning a basketball on his fingers or something. You would have a full dramatic cheerleader dance-off before your match, we just shake hands and stare hard at each other."
- benderbrodriguez2
No Child Left Behind
"Canadian here on spring break in Florida."
"I can't get over the baseline... I don't know how to say it, the baseline education level? There are smart people, but there are also completely uneducated people. Like, the divide is massive."
- Spiffydude98
Little-To-No Paid Time Off
"Having two weeks vacation or no PTO (Personal Time Off) for most."
"In my current country, you have to take two weeks of mandatory leave in a row. Including public holidays, I get about seven weeks of vacation per year."
- poor_decision
Financial Debt Culture
"How casual debt is, how easy it is to take loans and credit cards out in other people's names without their knowledge, and how casual it is to rack up huge amounts of debt."
- StrangeDarkling
...Enough Said.
"College fraternities."
- Gorazde
Where's the Poutine?
"Americans love french fries, cheese, and gravy, but poutine never took off south of the border. Always found that odd."
- righhanddan
Zero-Tolerance Policies
"The zero-tolerance rule... Who came up with that s**t? The victim is the one who is f**ked. Either he gets bullied or he gets a penalty for defending himself."
- vomahaf244
Political Followers
"A lot of people follow and worship politicians like they’re gods with flags and all that s**t. In the UK, it’s universally acknowledged that we hate all politicians pretty much equally."
- Monkeytennis01
Tipping Culture
"Having to tip almost everywhere. It definitely makes sense at some places, but feel like we have to tip at the most random of places these days."
- Educational_Word_647
Cultural Appropriation
"I speak as a Latin American, just setting that down on the table."
"I don’t get why people think that using something from my culture or showing interest in Latin culture is 'cultural appropriation.' I’ve even spoken to a lot of people in my culture about this thing and we all think it’s alright."
- OG_sweaterguy
Healthcare
"Your healthcare system, it's so complicated and expensive. And people going bankrupt because they get sick, what bulls**ttery is this?"
- MrTempleDene
The Stereotypical American Eagle
"American here, fun fact! That stereotypical screech you commonly hear associated with the bald eagle is actually a red-tailed hawk. Bald eagles do not make that sound. They make more of a weird (way less cool) chirping sound."
"I was too old when I learned this for the first time."
- ay-aye-ron
Plus Tax... What?
"Why don't they include tax in the total price of something? Just include it and make life easier. I don't want to have to do maths every time I go there and buy something."
- Old_Understanding325
Not In That Exact Order
"You are allowed to drive a car at 16, own guns, and sign up for the military at 18. But alcohol, behold the devil's liquid!, is only for 21+. The math ain't mathin'."
- lover_of_wisdom_
Money Money Money Money
"Lobbying."
"Legal bribery, what the h**l."
"Also, why do you have to do your taxes? If the Government, in the end, knows if what you paid was what you actually owed, why not just tell you."
- Lolleos
People looking in on the United States definitely had some questions about the people who live there and the systems they have to observe. But the big secret is that many Americans are asking the same exact questions.
People Confess Which Things They Swore They'd Never Do As A Kid But Ended Up Doing Anyway
When you were younger, your protected perspective on life and the world was probably significantly different compared to now.
Before life experience informed your decisions, younger you most likely had higher aspirations to achieve a specific goal or swore off doing something you found objectionable.
But here you are, as an adult, doing the exact opposite of what you had intended.
Curious to hear from strangers online about their developmental growth, Redditor 1234kyou_ asked:
"What did you swear in your childhood you would never do, but ended up doing anyways?"
Some hobbies that delighted us as kids never really go away as these Redditors have experienced.
The "Bird Creep"
"Birdwatching. I used to think it was the lamest way someone could spend their time when I was a kid. How could anyone just sit around and look at birds? What are you, some kind of bird creep? ... 20 years later and I'm obsessed with birds. Love hearing their songs and seeing all the beautiful colors."
– Koala-teas
Unfilled Dream
"Give up drawing."
"I actually broke my own heart when I recently found a school project we did back when I was a kid. We had to write a letter for our future selves and mine starts with: 'Hey, did you become an artist already? I really hope you did not become a boring adult with a boring job who gave up on his dreams and passions.'"
"Well, sorry little me, but I kinda did."
– Aesma_
Tending To One's Garden
"Gardening. We had a large garden. We raised and preserved what we grew. It was me and my sister's job to care for this garden. This was back when whipping your child was acceptable punishment. I was whipped sooo many times, because I hated that I had to grew and preserved vegetables I did not like. I hated it! Swore I'd never have a garden. Never do THAT to my kids. Then I had kids. A switch flipped in my head. I had to have a garden! I never made my kids take care of it. Gardening was my 'me' time. But being little kids, they wanted to be with mom and 'help' with the garden. I 'gave' them an area and they were allowed to grow whatever they wanted. If it was a fruit or vegetables , they had to eat it. As a result, they both love gardening and neither are picky eaters."
– Eogh21
When it comes to keeping it in the family, it's not always the goal.
Like Father...
"I have become my father."
– jer1303
Like Mother...
"I have become my mom.... even the voice is similar."
– rogue1206
Dad's Cynicism
"I've taken on a lot more of my dad's cynicism than I would like, but mostly I have my mom's wonder and carefreeness."
"But my dad is rich and mom is poor."
"He does not share the wealth he just shares 'you should've done X like this'. But his advice is the level of 'tear down the sign punch them in the face and say you're looking at your new employee'. I've also never heard a single dad joke from him."
– BugTester350
Posthumous Disapproval
"When I was touring houses to buy before the pandemic, my mother's spirit must have possessed me because I opened my mouth and her voice said 'i don't know, i don't think I could live in a house without both a coat closet and a linen closet.'"
– TJtherock
Adulting is hard.
The Financial Hole
"Get into debt I can't pay off."
– lilviviv
Potty-Mouth
"I said I wouldn’t curse unless a nuke was dropped on my house. That was a f'king lie."
– -notjosh-
Can't Wait, Don't Hate
"Have sex before marriage. Thank f'k I never made good on that one since I'm 41 and have never been married."
– squid1891
I'm a pretty fussy eater. Always have been.
I grew up in a Japanese family where regularly eating natto was a thing.
Natto is a Japanese dish made from Bacillus subtilis-fermented soybeans. It's known to have magical health benefits but the smell is overwhelmingly powerful, and the nutty taste leaves little to be desired.
Many people not used to eating exotic foods can't stand the flavor and slimy, sticky texture–let alone the pungent aroma.
I swore as a child that would be the one food I would never eat again after having a bad experience.
And yet, here I am as an adult, eating it for breakfast 2-3 times a week after truly understanding the health benefits.
Natto–which is rich in protein, vitamins, and minerals– helps maintain healthy cholesterol levels, reduces blood pressure, and can prevent heart disease. Some studies have suggested it can prevent certain cancers.
Once I trained myself to get used to flavor and smell, I actually crave it now.
It's definitely an acquired taste, but it's crazy to know that we are all capable of liking or appreciating something previously thought of as repulsive once we set our mind to it.
Finding love is something that nearly everyone hopes for at some point in their life.
For some, love practically finds them. They hardly need any time searching for the true love.
Others might have to work a little harder and be a little more patient. They never give up the hope that their one true love is out there, somewhere.
Then there are those for whom the search simply isn't worth it and have found themselves resigned to the fact that they may never find someone.
Whether or not that's how they want their life to be.
"Have you given up on love, if so why?"
Fear Of Getting Hurt
"To me the price I have to pay if I want to be in a relationship is I have to be vulnerable."
"And at some level I just don’t want to get hurt that bad again."
"I accept this, and have family, friends, work, hobbies, and things to look forward to."
"So while I wouldn’t say I have given up on love, I’m not looking for it and would be very wary of any new situation."- hdhdhdhdzjursx
"Gotta be honest, pretty much have."
"The last person I loved romantically found just about every way to put me down and reject me, all the while pulling me back in repeatedly."
"It was not worth it."
"I'm going solo but still kind of hoping for Miracle."
"I like me."- ATXDefenseAttorney
Don't Have The Energy
"Yes, because I'm tired."
"Tired of going out to find someone to love, tired of getting to know a new person and being comfortable enough to fall in love, tired of learning new things about this new person and whether we are compatible, tired of meeting each other's families and getting to know a whole new bunch of people..."
"Being single may be lonely, but I won't be exhausted."- Avelevanstar
"Not sure if I've given up, but I am getting real tired."
"Having to get to know new people, putting my heart out there without knowing if I'll succeed this time, so tiring."
"I'm learning more about myself in therapy, and I've seen ladies' heads turn when I speak, I've been told I have a nice voice, but chasing a lady is so much work for so little payoff."
"Never had a girlfriend before too, and I'm hitting 40 soon."
"Each new lady is a learning experience but it's also incredibly draining."
"Sometimes I just wanna curl up on my bed and ignore the whole world."- Blim004
It's Given Up On Them
"I haven't given up on love, but I doubt I will ever love again."
"After 53 years and so many attempts that ended in tears, I don't think I will ever have that chance again for a variety of reasons."
"I spend times just trying to come to terms that I will die alone someday."- kalwayne3573
For Their own Self-Care
"Yes."
"For now."
"Need to repair myself so the next guy doesn’t have to do it for me."- Beginning-Match592
Lack Of Reciprocation
"Given up on love as I am the only one loving, the others just need me."
"When they're done, they push me away."- gameygamer15
Traumatized By Past Mistakes
"Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love?"
"So that's why, though I hope time will heal me or sth."- guess_I_feed
"I was in a 10-year abusive relationship."
"Unfortunately I didn’t realize until very late and then I ended it."
"It’s too much of a risk to meet someone again as these type of people are very manipulative and you don’t realize the cruelty they are capable of until you are trauma bonded."
"It’s not easier being single but it’s a lot less heartache."
"I thank my lucky stars every day that I got out."- corickle
"My last four love interests either cheated or 'found a girlfriend'."
"It's left me believing I'm just not a person who can be romantically loved."- Owlmystery
Happy Being Alone
"I’m not capable of giving someone my all and I enjoy my time alone more than anything."
"Two failed marriages later, we chillin."- HDTempo
Life Is Good The Way It Is
"I had a big love."
"It didn't work out."
"Now I live a truly beautiful life alone and I wouldn't trade it for the world."
"I just spent the weekend with my friend, her toddler, new puppy and failing marriage and when I got home I nearly cried with the feeling of gratitude for my peaceful life."- spice-pop
"On romantic love, yes."
"I have so many social aversions and require so much space that I'm neither capable or interested to nurture such a relationship."
"I'm happier and more functional on my own."- USAIsAUcountry
Literally Don't Know What They're Missing
"Never been loved before, can't miss what I haven't experienced."- Allnutsz
Social Anxiety
"I wasn't socialized from the ages 12-22 and have severe social anxiety."
"It's hard to meet people when you're terrified of them."- owe-me
The true romantics should never give up the hope that their soulmate is out there, somewhere.
That being said, being without a partner is nothing to be ashamed of.
As the only person in control of your own happiness, is you and you alone.
Hiring Managers Explain Which Mistakes Make Them Want To Throw Away Someone's Resume
A resume is so much more than just a simple list of your work experience.
Indeed, your resume is the first step in getting your foot in the door to your dream job, highlighting not only your past experience but your skill set, as well as things about you that will make recruiters want to get to know you more.
On the flip side, sometimes there are things on your resume that will automatically send you to the reject pile.
Of course, this is bound to include common, careless mistakes such as spelling and grammar errors or missing vital information, such as a phone number or email.
However, no two hiring managers will have the same set of red flags they look for on a resume. This can make finding a format that will please everyone something of a fool's errand.
"Hiring managers of Reddit: What makes you immediately throw out a résumé?"
Not In It For The Long Run
"I once received an application from a man in his 60s."
"Solid CV, lots of experience."
"In his cover letter he wrote 'I'm applying because the Job Centre asked me to'."
"Please note that I intend to retire in 6 months time'."
"We had a good laugh, then sent him a very polite rejection letter and wished him a great retirement."-BeerPoweredNonsense
Make Sure They Actually Get The Right Document...
"One time I had someone upload how to upload their resume from Dropbox instead of their resume."- rabidwhale
Always Proof Read!
"I'll usually still interview unless there is no relevant experience, but I've seen some atrocious resumes."
"I've seen people use crutch words like 'uh' in writing for a job description."
"I've also seen a sentence 4 lines long with zero punctuation."
"The same resume will have 'attention to detail' as a skill set."
"I've interviewed for one of those resumes, and the applicant said 'I dunno" to about 80% of my questions, and it turned out he didn't even know what job he applied for'."
"It's not that I'm overly picky, but if someone can't spend the 20 minutes or less that it takes to proof read their resume, are they going to put a lot of effort into their job?"
"Maybe, but it's hard to know."- ChristyM4ck
Make Sure It's Legible
"The only time I have ever had to throw out a resume was because someone possibly had it in a bag with their lunch and the paper was soaking wet and dissolving as I tried to unfold it."
"It was just unacceptable to process."
"The application was left in a drop box so I don’t know if it was a prank or an actual applicant."- 416unknown
Unprofessional Email Address
"Back in 98 I asked a new group of hires at GIECO to write their email addresses on a list that was passed around."
"Remember email was kinda new back then.. "
"One young female employee's email address included 'mybaldc**tchie'."- catjugglinpimp
Never Send Someone In Your Place
"It’s been a long time but I used to do hiring for a cinema."
"Staff were often young, for many it was a first job, making popcorn and selling tickets type of gig."
"I would not pursue anything where parents came in with a CV for their teenager or if parents were contacting me on behalf of their teen."
"Big red flag."
"Either their kid didn’t want he job in the first place or they’re incapable of taking initiative and it doesn’t bode well for how they’d be as an employee."- FigJamAndCitrus
"Having your parents submit your resume while you stand silently beside them."- krim2182
It's Pure, Dumb Luck!
"I remember a meme or maybe a tv skit from a while back."
"The hiring manager had a huge pile of resumes on his desk."
"Someone asked how he was going to sift through them all."
"He took 2/3rds of the pile, threw them in the trash, and remarked 'I don't hire unlucky people'."
"Lol."- SpecialSpite7115
All About The Formatting
"This doesn’t matter 100% of the time but bad formatting."
"If it’s hard to read I probably won’t read it."- Far-Gain-3081
Depends On The Job
"If it's a professional position, significant spelling errors will make me pass on a resume."
"If it's a warehouse job or something, I'm less concerned."- staffsargent
Don't Treat It Like A Text Message!
"Former hiring manager here."
"I tossed MULTIPLE resumes that used text message abbreviations throughout the resume and cover letter and one that included emojis."
"While you can do pretty much anything from your phone, it doesn’t mean you should."- spectacularuhoh
Choose Your References Wisely
"Not me, but a friend who checks resumes/CVs had a belter."
"Candidate had a conviction and his reference was his friend 'Baz'."- LexiRae24
Make Sure You Have The Relevant Skills
"I know it’s pretty specific but If your looking for a scheduling job make sure you know how to use Excel and clearly state it on your resume."
"It will probably get thrown out otherwise."- LoyalPlanets
As stated before, no two hiring departments will have exactly the same prerequisites and red flags, so no matter how hard you work, your resume is never going to please everyone.
That being said, multiple misspellings and a cheeky e-mail address are a surefire guarantee of not pleasing anyone.