Family members may think they know everything about you. But nothing could be further from the truth.
Parents especially have an idea of who you are based on their observations of watching you grow up
But just because blood is thicker than water, it doesn't mean they can easily relate to you.
Curious to explore family relationships, Redditor Belle_Artist_Jade asked:
"People of reddit, what is one thing your family will never understand about you?"
Being anti-social with family doesn't necessarily mean there's resentment.
"My desire to be left alone, I love solitude."
"That having boundaries doesn't mean I don't care or love you. They are there for a reason because of how I was treated growing up, but I still want you in my life despite everything. Boundaries are not walls, they are bridges for you to maintain a relationship with me in a way that allows us to respect each other."
"This is my parents but they assume I'm private and never tell anybody what's going on in my life. Nope, I just figured out around 30 that I can't trust either of you enough to confide in you. One of you is judgy and wants to advise on 'fixing' any problem I mention, no matter how small or unrelated to me, and the other files tidbits away to use against me in arguments in the future. So yeah, it's just you two."
Here's A Thought
"I don’t know who said this but it’s on the wall at my therapist’s office: 'Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and myself simultaneously.'”
These Redditors don't have an identity crisis. They just happen to be more comfortable around friends.
"That I'm not always as quiet and boring as I am when I'm around them. It's just that they're so judgy and hateful of everyone and it makes me uncomfortable. So I don't behave the same around them as I do with my friends, etc."
"Same. I’m 17 and they complain that I don’t talk to them anymore. I stopped talking to them because almost every time I do, they start a huge argument for no reason. So I basically just talk about what I have to talk to them about and in the most monotone voice I can."
Highly Suspicious Folks
"That I've literally never done anything that they've accused me of over the years. And now they don't understand why I don't like to be around them. Being the family scapegoat is a pain in the a**. It makes me sad."
I'm Not Boring
"I so get you! My family has always been judgmental of my 'introvertedness' to the point that I'm anxious and can't be my normal self around them. This makes me boring in their eyes which makes them judge/lecture me more."
"It's a horrible cycle."
"It Wasn't All Sunshine And Flowers"
"My mom doesn't understand why I'm so different than when I was a child. Why I don't smile so often anymore."
"Well, I stopped hiding my emotions. I don't know how to tell them that no, it wasn't all sunshine and flowers when I was young even if they loved me and raised me well."
"They f'ked up things, and it shaped me. Not always in a good way."
Just because they're your parents, it doesn't mean they're always right.
Learning By Example
"That the reason I have found success, both personal and financial, in life is because I watched them for years and do the exact opposite. Bad part is that they seem to reward and normalize bad decisions."
The Successful Sibling
"It's so frustrating being the only sibling to pull themselves out of poverty when your parents are like that, because my parents simultaneously act like they know everything and override advice that I give my siblings, while also telling them to ask me because they haven't touched X in 2 decades.They take pride in the fact that I'm considered successful, but nobody learns from anything that I've done to pull themselves out - instead they spend every dollar that hits their account, burn bridges with their ego, and stay loyal to the wrong people."
The Passionate Traveler
"Not all of my family do, but some think it’s very weird and a bad thing that I’m prioritizing travel and seeing the world while I’m young(ish). Left the US for the first time at 19, I’m 28 now and have been to 44 countries and 38 US states. I’ve worked my butt off, saved up, then travelled. Have done that 2 times now. Currently working hard again in preparation for my next trip."
"They all tell me to work now and travel when I’m retired. In the year before covid I backpacked asia, rode a motorcycle through 14 European countries, and lived out of a van in New Zealand. I don’t think I’d enjoy those things as much when I’m 65!"
Redditors with medical conditions talk about their frustrations.
"That I have young onset Parkinson's disease. They don't get that I can't write or balance things. Despite scans and specialists, they think I'm too young (36M). They keep telling me to breathe and it'll all be fixed."
"Kinda depressing, but just how painful the ringing in my ears are."
"That I don't always want to wear my hearing aids. It's exhausting to constantly hear sounds you normally never hear/understand."
Parents may think they got you pegged, when in fact, there's a lot they can learn about you.
And that depends on how much you want to open up to them and if they're subsequently willing to understand you on a deeper level.
This also makes me wonder–are there things about your family you just never understood? And are you willing to bridge that gap?
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As much as many of us don't like to disrupt the status quo, there is only so much time a person can tolerate a miserable situation before things become so unbearable that they ultimately have to peace out.
For some people, it takes a while for them to reach a breaking point. Eventually, there comes a time when they realize their self-worth is more important than continuing to please others who don't appreciate them for the sake of keeping up with appearances.
Curious to hear from people whose patience ran thin and made a strong decision, Reddit Prestigious-Order-62 asked:
"What made you say 'f'k this sh*t im out?'"
The unwarranted reprimanding was something that was never mentioned in the initial job description.
"In the late 90’s."
"One time I got pulled into the Security office at a Department store I worked at. They accused me of constantly using the sales day coupons for people that didn’t present one (we always kept an extra copy at each register). I had watched my own department boss do it many times so I assumed it was okay. We didn’t even collect the coupons to be counted for the cash office, we just chucked them after use."
"They claimed I lost the store hundreds of dollars and had been watching me 'for months' do this awful, unforgivable crime for people spending 90 bucks on already bloated price designer jeans. I’m sure the occasional 10% discount was just devastating. 🙄""I got this huge lecture of how I was LITERALLY stealing from the store and they COULD call the police but would give me a chance to work off the damage. I couldn’t believe how criminal I was made to feel over it. The best part when they called my boss in who pretended to have never done it before to save her own a**."
"I asked if they were firing me. They said 'Yes and No. You will be let go, but you can choose to work off the damages so we don’t take you to court.' I told them I will just quit and asked for my last check. They said they will deduct what I owe from my last check. And I said 'Well then you need to show me all the footage and prove that I was stealing.' They wouldn’t produce footage, finally called the cops, and when the cops arrived, they were just as confused and called it an internal problem and advised them that this was overblown. I think they felt sorry for me. So finally upper management came in and just said 'just issue the last check, I will sign it here.' So much drama over so stupid a thing."
"It was sad because that actual day my Mom and daughter had come to the mall to meet me for lunch and I had to explain I just was forced to quit that job and was never allowed in that store again like I was some awful jerk."
"It was nice a few short years later, the entire chain bankrupted."
"A coworker waited until we were in front of a large group of people to start 'disciplining' me for something 'wrong' I did (I took my lunch 15 mins late to help another coworker) when she wasn’t even my supervisor. Applied for a job transfer the next day and couldn’t be happier where I am now."
"I had a piece of sh*t of a boss. He'd praise you in private but berate you in public. In front of coworkers and customers. Always about stuff that didn't matter."
"He'd also happily break company policy to side with customers after you spent an hour telling a customer you can't give them stuff for free, for example. Any time he was around, everything was miserable."
"My only regret is that I wasn't there to see him marched out by corporate when he got fired, because I had gone on to a better job by then."
Human Punching Bag
"I used to work in a Kitchen at a pub, it was grim work, but I had freinds there and had worked there for 3 years, So it wasn't too bad."
"One Christmas season we were being absolutely pumped, full out functions and busy services. My boss at the time was very stressed and fair enough, We were busy, We were all working overtime and full out. He used any excuse to completely blow up and absolutely scream at me for little to no reason, essentially him yelling at me was his stress relief. But fine, whatever, kitchens are rough places, no appolagies or anything, move on."
"I then go away for 3 weeks over the Christmas holidays and spend the time road tripping around the country having an amazing time."
"First shift back, not pleased being back, he makes a snarky comment."
"F'k this, Im out."
Even though these employees weren't chewed out in front of co-workers, the low salary without room for negotiation made them not wanting to stick around for much longer.
You Only Get One Job
"They cut my hours so I had to get a second job. 3 days before I was supposed to start said second job, my manager at the main job told me that I couldn't get this second job because I had main job first and I needed to make it my priority. That's when I said f'k you and left. I didn't even give a notice, I literally just sent an email saying I wouldn't be coming in the next day, grabbed my sh*t and went home."
"I used to work Retail and after 7 years at the company, I found out I was only making 50 cents more an hour than someone who just started yesterday. I understood if they couldn't pay me more and asked for a good schedule. 7-3 or 8-4 every day and the same two days off every week. I didn't even ask for weekends off."
"I was told that they couldn't give me a good schedule so I quit."
Situations weren't much different outside the work place. Social dilemmas prompted these Redditors to say, "nope."
"Went to a pub because a friend kept asking. When I got there, he was with a group of people I didn't know, so I introduced myself and got the next round. As I come back with the tray, I hear them saying something along the lines of 'why is that b*tch still here? I thought she was just supposed to drop off a bicycle?' 'Ya, we don't want her to come to <this other town with more pubs> and now she is drinking with us?' 'She's so dumb' *proceeds to imitate and ridicule me as I was actively listening and nodding when I was having a conversation with my friend."
"Gave the beer to random people and walked right out after saying good evening to my friend and briefly explaining I did not appreciate being tricked into being a bicycle taxi for people who hate me directly after meeting me."
A Shocking Incident
"I was on my boat fishing for bass. I casted out my line and watched the lure hit the water but the line just floated in the air. Lightning and thunder crashed and the line fell to the water. F'k this sh*t, I'm out."
"She lined my bed with broken glass put the blankets over it and I dove on in lol."
"Edit: She was violent/crazy and on drugs, was like the 20th attack I took and that made me really think lol."– MyLifeForAuir1
Ally For The Ex
"I found nudes of his ex (from ten years ago) that I’d previously asked him twice to get rid of tucked in a pair of MY socks. Our couples counselor asked why he’d kept them and he said, 'You know. In case I ever needed to blackmail her.' He said it like it was a perfectly normal and reasonable thing to plan to do. The therapist and I locked eyes and I noped the f'k out of there and moved out."
Most of these Redditors realized leaving their situation was better than dealing with the consequences of sticking around.
The latter is never a good option. Why remain in a scenario you know is already going to consume your soul?
The lesson for today is–Don't be miserable. Your sanity is worth saving.Besides, you would never know that something better awaits if you just don't get the F out.
As we enter into the summer months, people now have to decide whether or not they want their morning coffee to be hot or iced.
Lucky for them, it's delicious either way.
One could make an argument that foods that are equally delicious hot or cold are perhaps the best, or at least the most reliable.
And this can include foods which are not customarily sold both hot and cold (cold pizza anyone?).
Redditor NectarineOther4989 was curious to hear which foods people enjoy either hot or cold, leading them to ask:
"What is something that tastes good both hot and cold?"
Fresh out of the oven, or the next day!
Chocolate withstands all temperatrues
"Chocolate."Chocolate Satisfying GIF by HuffPostGiphy
Can't go wrong with fruit and pastry
"Apple pie."- Hak_Saw5000
This doesn't only apply to food
"Revenge."- pushthestartbuttonkarine vanasse revenge GIF by HULUGiphy
Let the flavor develop
"2 totally different flavors depending on warm vs cold from fridge."- nonkowledge
So many to choose from!
A matter of textural preference
"Cheese, ya fools."- eat_dontpray_loveCloudy With A Chance Of Meatballs Eating GIFGiphy
Under a hot greek sun, or during a cold winter's eve.
While there's no better smell than a batch of chocolate chip cookies fresh out of the oven, those eating them the next day likely aren't missing out either.
Those who are truly superstitious have trouble shaking off customs which others might find somewhat silly.
These include holding your breath when passing a cemetery, throwing salt over your shoulder after spilling it, or not stepping on cracks for fear of breaking their mother's backs.
But even though it has been irrefutably proven that there is absolutely no validity to these superstitions, these same people will likely never stop performing these customs.
Nor will some others ever stop believing myths and hoaxes which have likewise proven to be one-hundred percent false.
Redditor Jimbo_Jigs was curious to learn the things people will never stop believing, despite ample evidence to the contrary, leading them to ask:
"What is proven to be a hoax but people still believe it to be true?"
"That cracking your knuckles gives you arthritis."- SnooCompliments9257
Though, it's still wise to avoid doing this...
"If you pull out a grey hair three more grow in its place, my sister still believes this one."- oopySpaff
Something to seriously think about.
"We only use 10% or our brain."- wiggywithitbrain GIFGiphy
Though they might still not be please you'r touching their child!
"Touching a baby bird will make its parents reject it."
"Any baby animal."
"When in doubt, reach out to your local wildlife rehabilitation network/individual."- JustMeerkats
I can sleep with my mouth open? Who knew!
"That you swallow 8 spiders a year in your sleep."- rentinghappiness
Never pay others to be an entrepreneur.
"MLMs, Boss babes, 'be your own boss' scams."
"I'm not sure how many documentaries need to be put on YouTube before people will stop buying into these companies and wasting their money."- ImAGhostOooooooo
It's literally quite the opposite
"Shaving making hair grow in thicker."- offbrandbarbie
Though a balanced diet doesn't hurt...
"The food pyramid."- sd2528
Best to stay out of the mouths of others regardless
"That dogs mouths are cleaner than humans!"- Mental_Investigator3Giphy
Just makes you more visible.
"It’s illegal to keep the light on in the car while driving."- rerhodes770
It seems that there is no amount of convincing that will ever lead these people to realize that they've been duped.
And one can't help but wonder what people do with the false information that a dog's mouth is cleaner than a humans?
If there was one thing every high school has in common, it's gossip.
Be it about two students who were secretly dating, a teacher who was up to no good behind the scenes, or that the girls bathroom on the lower level was haunted, every high school had their share of outrageous rumors.
But, did any of the truly unbelievable rumors from your high school actually turn out to be true?
Redditor Sam_21000 was eager to know of any high school gossip previously assumed to be fiction but later proven to be fact, leading them to ask:
"What was 'the big rumor' in your high school, did turn out to be true?"
Poaching the best atheletes
"Athletics coordinator was fudging documents on kids’ addresses so they would be able to go to our school instead of others in the district."
"We won like five state championships that year."- SL1Fun
That's "Doctor" to you!
"'Dr' Palermo, the band teacher never received his doctorate in music like he claimed."
"It was weird, he use to force all his students to address him as 'Dr', but when he came back from his leave of absence we all called him by 'Mr' like nothing happened."- googlyevileye
An underground operation!
"When I was a freshman some seniors were counterfeiting money."
"This was around 2004-05."
"They made some pretty convincing bills and spent them around town (including the school cafeteria)."
"That year I learned that the secret service has a counterfeit investigations department."- DLun203
Not fit to be a teacher
"That one of the English teachers used to physically assault kids."
"No one believed it because he was elderly and very kind."
"One day he told our class that back in the 80s when he was teaching any time a kid got mouthy or started a fight in his classroom he would pick them up physically and throw them out of his class."
"He gave a kid a concussion once because he bounced his head off a locker."
"They sent him to anger management classes but he stayed teaching at the school until his retirement."- dopiesarmy
Horrible acts never to be erased
"Not nearly as exciting as some of the replies, but at my old high school I was always told that if you go to school after dark, in certain conditions you'd see a bunch of swastikas painted on the brick walls of the building."
"I thought it was fake bc 'if they're really painted on there why cant you see them at all times'.
"One night I stayed late for an art club meeting."
"We were studying photo exposure and playing with some light tubes to make cool pictures, so we were having the meeting outside in the dark."
"As we were messing around I approached the building from a certain angle and saw them."
"Idk if it was spray paint that got scrubbed off and left some kind of residue/chemical on the bricks, or if someone sprayed them with clear coat or something, but there were very obviously swastikas on the wall."- CliffLanterns
The line that should never be crossed.
"That the English teacher had been sleeping with students."
"I found out when I was a freshman in 2008."
"Fast forward 8 years later, the chemistry teacher got caught and decided to bring the English teacher down with him to get some heat off his back."
"A total of three teachers went to jail."- backyardkinny
21 Jump Street?
"That a new student was actually a police officer."
"He was and the idiots were busted for selling drugs."- LilMissStormCloud
A truly heartbreaking story
"There was an 18-year-old freshman who was pregnant, and there was a joke spread that this was her 4th kid."
"They said she was first pregnant at 12 years old and that was why she never finished 9th grade."
"I actually made friends with her because we both walked the mile in PE, and I felt bad that people were spreading this rumor and making fun of someone who obviously is trying to better themselves for their baby."
"Well, turns out, it was actually her 5th kid."
"She had one set of twins at the age of 13."
"Then at 14 she was trying to be a mother of 2 and finish 9th grade, but she got pregnant again and dropped out."
"I realize now that the entire situation was very concerning."
"I hope she got some guidance."- zapsquad
A hard lesson learned, which he can continue to teach
"That an english teacher was using heroin."
"It’s pretty sad actually."
"He was just a regular guy who destroyed his knee."
"So after surgery he got painkillers, got hooked on them, and then eventually started using heroin."
"Nobody really believed it until he abruptly went on leave."
"He was gone for most of the school year and when he eventually got sober and came back, he told his story to the students to try to show them how dangerous that stuff is, and confirmed everything to be true."- Mirraco323
Who did they think they would fool?
"On a ski trip, the PhysEd teacher allegedly porked the science teacher."
"Someone saw him go in to her room in the middle of the night."
"They denied it but years later they got married."- PlanetOfTheAprons
It must be said, most rumors begin from an element of truth.
Even though I'm sure there are many people who still can't believe these rumors weren't just the work of devious children.