
Every family has a past.
Try as we might to hide, bury and whitewash, the mess is there.
Secrets and lies may be hidden, but only for so long.
Redditor fuzzyloulouasked:
"What family secret do you know, that you're not supposed to know?"
I have a small family. Not much to report.
Or so I've been told...
The Extra
"I have another sibling that is unknown except to me and my father."
Mac_nocheeze
Evil Granny
"My paternal grandmother hated my mother. One day she called my mom and asked her to come over and pick up a casserole my grandma had made for us."
"When she got there, my grandmother had shot herself and left a note saying (among other things) that she wanted my mom to find her that way. She was, shall we say, a f**ked up lady and one of the meanest people I've ever known."
"My mom didn't want people to know b/c she didn't want that kind of attention. My dad didn't want people to know b/c he didn't want to give my grandma any level of satisfaction."
"So, it's just me, them and maybe one other person who knows. Everyone else thinks she was just an old lady who was depressed about her recently deceased husband."
haroldtitus425
Forgiveness
"My mom lied to a man and told him I was his son and frequently extorted money from him by telling him she needed it to raise me."
"I found out when he showed up with gifts shortly after I had moved out on my own. He had hired a PI after my mom refused to give him my contact info."
"He apologized for not being in my life and cried while telling me he was dying of pancreatic cancer and he didn't want to go without meeting me."
"I asked my mom about it and she told me she told him that so she could get money for drugs after she left my dad."
"DNA tests confirmed he was not my dad. (tested myself against the man I was always told was my bio dad) I only ever met him the one time."
"I took the gifts because it was such a surreal experience I didn't know how to tell him anything other than that I forgave him. My mom is the only other person that knows this happened."
Brilliant_Succotash1
1912
"My welsh great-grandmother had passage booked on the Titanic in 1912. She ended up not going because she 'fell ill'."
"Turns out it was actually an out-of-wedlock pregnancy that gave her such bad morning sickness, she couldn't go. She lost the baby."
"She came the following year in 1913 and met my great-grandfather. She only told my mom (who she helped raise during the summers) who then told me."
"Great-grandma getting knocked up saved an entire branch of our family tree!"
sassy_steph_
Animosity
"My Great grandmother had a stepson the same age as her. He was the biological father of one of my great uncles.
"My cousins don't know. Always heard my Great uncle knew and had animosity towards my grandad because of it."
Secure-Particular286
The family tree of mess is big.
The Blow Up
"My mother had an affair on my father that he doesn’t know about way before he had an affair on her that blew up the family."
Alternative_Shame_73
The Lost
"My grandma was raised in a Catholic orphanage under the pretext that she lost both her parents and siblings during the Spanish Influenza."
"Turns out her and her dad survived, but her dad didn’t want to take care of her so he left her at an orphanage in Brooklyn and moved to Europe and started a new family."
Human_Commercial_406
The Others
"I had an uncle who was a railroad engineer and worked the Terre Haute, Indiana to Danville, Illinois line. Never took a day off from his one day there, one day back route."
"At his funeral, (I was a kid and didn’t go) a strange woman came into the funeral home with some older children. No one knew who she was and finally my grandma introduced herself to the woman and asked who she was."
"The woman said, 'I’m Mrs.so and so I’m here for my husband’s funeral.' Turns out my uncle had two families, one in Terre Haute and one in Danville."
"I didn’t find out about this until I was an adult. My mom, grandma, aunt and sister kept this a secret for decades."
mildlysceptical22
Broken Heart
"My great grandma told my grandpa that the jewish girl he liked was taken to a concentration camp when in truth they fled (it is said she knew they were safe)."
"Grandpa meets my Grandma shortly after, they get married but apparently he still talked about the other girl from time to time and that she was the one who got away and how awful it all was."
"Many years go by, my aunt and dad are born."
"Grandpa walks around town and meets the girl from back then, is totally shocked and finds out he has been lied to all this time."
"Grandpa got sick pretty soon after that and died when my dad was only 5 years old. My grandma later once said she believes he died of a broken heart."
Aur3lya_175
So, there goes that...
"My great grandparents were high school sweethearts and the only role models I'd ever had for a relationship since my grandparents and parents are divorced and hate each other."
"Then my mom tells me that my great grandma had an affair and that's why one of my grandma's sisters isn't like the others. So, there goes that."
Symnestra
Wow. Some families really need deep therapy.
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Accomplishments prove we tried to do something and did something.
A little flex every now and again doesn't hurt.
I did this.
I tried this.
It proves we lived.
Just don't be arrogant about your success, but sometimes you want to show off just a little.
Redditor vjts87 wanted to hear about what everyone feels they deserve to brag about, so they asked:
"What’s the weirdest flex you have?"
I brag about nothing.
Except that I can sing word for word every Whitney song.
The Win
"I work the overnight shift and still get eight hours of uninterrupted quality sleep every day."
ITookAPooInTheICU
CHARGE
"I have dextrocardia. As in, my heart is on the right-hand side of my chest. My heart defects all fall under an even rarer condition called CHARGE Syndrome (CHARGE is an acronym for different health complications). CHARGE is so rare that I was like the third-known case of its kind on the whole island when I was born. I'm a popular 'you'll never see this again in your career' examination subject with student doctors and that."
Digimortis
“Love Shack”
"I’ve been booed by 10,000 people at once. I know athletes and celebrities have been booed by more people, but I’m neither. I was randomly picked out of the crowd at an NBA game to attempt a 3-point shot, to win everyone a free pizza. I bricked it."
Shonuff8
"At least you had a task that only lasted like maybe 10 seconds."
"I was at a radio concert in a venue that size with 6 big acts on the bill. In between acts, they had fans do karaoke. A mother-daughter team got tasked with 'Love Shack' and sh*t the bed hard. One of the DJs told the crowd to give them a round of applause and they got hit by a massive wave of boos."
patrickwithtraffic
Gross
"I got picked up in a white van as a child by a stranger to get a lift to somewhere 5 mins away, I was in the back off the van for half an hour, then they opened the door at the place I was trying to go. To this day I'm not sure but I think he changed his mind. The guy seemed nice enough at the time but, it was just such a strange experience to think back on, I was about 12ish I think at the time too so definitely old enough to have known better."
WhatAmI111WhatAmI111
Genius
"I can always pick the exact right size container to put leftovers in."
Money_Pomegranate_51
Knowing how to portion leftovers is a MIRACLE gift.
The Gift
"I can get rid of hiccups on demand. Like without fail if I have hiccups I can just think about it and they go."
DoIReallyNeedAnAcc
Trauma
"A tree fell on me in 2021 and broke all my ribs, my spine, and popped both my lungs. I dragged myself out and survived long enough slowly drowning in my own blood (and internally bleeding out) to be found and get airlifted to a trauma ward. So I got almost as much metal grafted to my bones as wolverine though I don't flex much because I got so much metal making me rather stiff and rigid."
Setantaoceillaigh
Kevin! Come back!
"I had to take an IQ test when I was being evaluated for ADHD and apparently I am in the 99th percentile in spatial reasoning. I can’t do math or talk good but I can pack the hell out of a suitcase!"
yekirati
"This is actually an amazing skill to have! One of my old cooks was the same way. Quiet kid, very bright but not cut out for the restaurant industry. He loved being on prep for EXACTLY this reason. The fridge was never as organized, cleaned, labeled, dated, rotated and stocked properly unless it was he or I or one other person. I miss you Kevin! Come back!"
subtxtcan40
"I survived 9 heart attacks, before I turned 40. Have 4 stints following 3 angiograms and 1 open heart surgery with vein transfer... that failed... been in heart failure status for a year. But honestly I am healthier than I was a year ago. A year ago couldn't walk half a mile. Now can walk 3 miles without issue. Even survived covid this year after 2 years of isolating."
BadGenesWoman
Savior
"I have donated over 15 gallons of blood!"
DonkeymanPicklebutt
"As someone whose life has been saved due to a blood donation: THANK YOU! I love you and hope others will take after your example."
Friendly_Chemical
Life is always full of flex. Embrace it.
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Figuring out the mind of a woman is a fascinating topic.
How do women tick?
They are smarter than men, for sure.
But is it innate... or do they learn their special ways?
Redditor hennessyandjack wanted to know how to crack the mystery that is... woman, so they asked:
"Men of Reddit, what is something you’ll never understand about women?"
I know very little about women, so I am ready to learn.
Save the limbs
"How are their feet always so cold?"
dammitdan57
"PLEEEEAASSEE help us find a solution to this!!!! I’m sooo over having icicles for toes!!!"
Effective-Basil-1512
Next Monday
"When I was in High school, for a week just about every single girl at that school wore a head scarf. They were everywhere. Not a single bare head to be seen. The following Monday they were gone like it never happened. I still can not wrap my head around it, 20 years later."
ALL_CAPS_VOICE
Relax
"Shower temperature. Wtf is up with this Mordor water, why must you feel pain to feel cleansed?"
darthgandalf
"That’s because we’re cold all the time. It’s not painful, it’s relaxing."
dreamofwires
"Hot water relieves all of our problems and stress. Idk lol but it’s so niiiice to shower with hot water! warm water just doesn’t do it anymore. it almost feels like really good sleep but you’re standing and fully awake cx."
ppoopscoopp
First Sips
"Why my wife always leaves a small amount of tea or coffee in her mug. Just drink the whole thing!"
dubdrummerz
"Ohhh, I actually do this, so I will tell you why I do it, doesn't mean she has the same reasons for it. Nothing hits you better than that first sip of coffee or tea when it is at the right temperature."
"I don't drink it fast, so sometimes it gets cold or it's not the right temperature anymore before getting to finish the whole mug. I am trying to put less in the mug, but I don't know, it feels different, and I can't explain it. I like the feeling of the whole mug warming my fingers, especially during winter."
SnitchSandyStorm
Magic
"How they can magically make things appear in front of them that I’ve spent 15 minutes looking for."
Ecstatic_Conflict621
Finding things are a gift.
Inches
"Bra sizes."
LankySquash4
"The number is how many inches around the ribs are and the letter is how many inches the breast protrudes from the chest. So a 34DD (or E) would be 34 inch ribs and 5 inches of breast protrusion."
oo0Lucidity0oo
Listen
"I have a wife and two daughters who will bring up issues and problems they encounter. I still have not quite learned that they do not want a discussion about how to solve these problems."
Callmeoneofakind
"I've heard a podcaster (psychologist) say that 'sometimes listening IS the solution,' because what the person may looking for is really just a bond with another person to calm their negative feelings."
Sipyloidea
Talk to Me
"How you can talk to your mom on the phone for multiple hours every week. My dad calls me when he needs me to order something on Amazon for him and that's about it."
the_bollo
"It’s something that completely depends on what kind of bond you and your parents made while growing up.
For example, while super loving, my parents never seemed to really care about the mundane things of my life so here I am 33 and I almost never talk to them on the phone because we never grew that kind of interaction together."
2M4D
"Hand bags like why are they so expensive."
Ok-Ihatetiktoc
"Men's clothing have pants that HAVE POCKETS Unlike the sh*tty women pants that I used to wear you can only fit a tic-tac in there And so bc we don't have pockets we're expected to carry around bags. But I will not. (Joking)."
the_lazybones_uwu_
"Handbags are our cars. If you have a character who wants to show off, men usually take cars, women use handbags. But not all women care about handbags that much. For me, it’s about quality. Expensive brands are a waste of money. Most of them don’t even have good quality."
Blondisgift
Yum
"How they always smell SO GOOD ALL OF THE TIME. Like, how!?!?"s
alty_headz
Well, we've learned quite a lot here! Do you have any burning questions for the fairer sex? Let us know in the comments below.
Every day, people are faced with small choices like what clothes to wear or what to make for breakfast.
They make their day-to-day decisions without thinking too hard, and the result isn't something that can drastically alter their lives.
But there are some decisions that can take a devastating turn that wind up being self-sabotaging.
Maybe they should've considered their decision more carefully.
Curious to hear from those who've witnessed people take a major misstep, Redditor hairyhedge asked:
"What Was The Worst Way You Saw Someone Ruin Their Life?"
It took an instant of carelessness to cause permanent consequences.
Fatal Swing
"A fellow barfly I knew was an MMA fighter. Had won some regional matches as an amatuer, his gym was promoting him, he was in talks with a MMA promotion."
"A guy mouths off to him. He replies. The guy takes a swing. He punches him and the guy hits his head on the pavement. Dies. 5 years for manslaughter."
– BakedTatter
Unprotected
"A friend of mine decided to not use protection with a girl he’d just met… for a whole weekend… without asking if she was using any contraception at all. I often feel really bad for this poor baby dragged into this world out of sheer stupidity."
– Onelinersandblues
Misjudgment
"Drunk buddy climbed into bed with his Mother in Law because she thought she was into him…she wasn’t. Ended…poorly."
– Chance-Rush-9983
You always have a choice between a good and bad decision. These people chose the latter.
That's A Turnoff
"A girl I crushed on super hard in high school started doing meth, and began sleeping with her dealer, who was a Juggalo with a rapidly diminishing amount of teeth."
– littlebitsofspider
The Price Of Addiction
"I watched a mate lose 2 houses and $500,000 to cocaine in one year."
– ThunderClap_Fween
Breaking Trust
"19 yr old cousin. Started hanging with gangs, introduced to Meth and gained a gambling habit also, faked pregnancy and stole from family and made it look like others were involved which irreparable trust was broken between innocent parties that some have never recovered from."
– Superunkown781
Point Of No Return
"One of my friends turned to alcohol and all but gave up on life after his mom passed. It eventually caught up with him and he passed away at the age of 32. The sad part is that there were signs that he wanted to get better and wanted to get life together again. It was just too little too late and he went about it the wrong way."
– wert989
Remembered
"My brother. Heroin addiction. He was always an odd kid, but a very talented guitar player, and one of the most thoughtful, caring, funny, and unique people I've ever known. He passed away four years ago from a fentanyl overdose. I miss him everyday, but he brought so much joy to the lives of those around him that the memory of him isn't a sad one. I laugh way more than I cry when I think about him."
– Wepoozelator
Poor management of finances led to impoverished lives.
Sure Path To Bankruptcy
"A guy I used to work with got himself into crazy levels of debt."
"A local guy won the lottery. Nothing major, but still life changing. Something like $30,000. We were all on our lunch break, talking about what we would do if we won that much. I would pay off these credit cards, or I would trade in my car for a newer model. This guy says that it wouldn’t make a difference. At 23 he was already over $200,000 in debt between credit cards and personal loans."
"He would just get another loan to pay something off, and keep borrowing. A few months later he was complaining about how he was now an additional $50,000 in debt on top of it. This guy was only making around $40,000 a year."
"He got the bright idea to file bankruptcy. Lost his car, his house, his job. Last I knew he was staying at friends houses couch surfing, working for a pittance just trying to survive."
– flyingsusquatch
Bad Investment
"Sell their condo that was rented out, and invest all the profit in crypto in December 2021."
– Saugeen-Uwo
Popular Scheme
"I had a coworker that was supposed to move in england to work at his sister's bar. He gave it up for a pyramid scheme and tried to get me in."
– Aiizimor
Depending on the situation, we're not often given second chances in life.
So whenever something in your gut informs you not to do something–and you know what those actions are–you might want to pay attention.
Because once you cross the threshold of no return, there's no going back.
While we have not all witnessed something that will forever keep us up at night, we've all seen or heard something that was terrifying.
And it seems the scarier it was, the harder it becomes to forget.
Redditor AncientTranslator405 asked:
"What's the scariest sound you've ever heard?"
Unidentified Animals
"A fox in the middle of the night. It sounds like a legitimate screaming ghost. I was in bed and chilled from the sound until I learned what it was."
- Due_Difference8575
Feeling Territorial
"My dog ran out the front door one night and didn't see the opossum on the porch until she turned around to come back in."
"That growl scream thing they do is horrifying, especially when it's a large opossum standing between you and your dog."
- mel2mdl
An Accident's Aftermath
"Two years ago, I witnessed a near-fatal accident. A truck t-boned a small sedan with kids in it."
"I'll never forget that sound of the crunch, the mom crying hysterically because she thought her kids were dead, and the sight of it all."
"The worst part is I knew the kids. They were students of mine. Everyone survived but not without permanent injuries."
- amahler03
Living with Dementia
"One thing my grandmother did when she was near the end of her dementia was to call out, 'Mama, Mama' in a long and drawn out 'Maaaaaaammaaaa.'"
"She passed in 2007, and now my mom lives with us and is also suffering from dementia. I was awakened one night by the same long drawn out 'Maaaaaammaaaaa...'"
- pastelpizza
Sad Goodbyes
"My grandmother passed last month. She was 96 and the absolute best."
"She was suffering from vascular dementia. Luckily she was peaceful with it and not violent or agitated. She remembered everyone but kept thinking people who died 50+ years earlier were still alive."
"The day before she passed, she sat up all of a sudden after being asleep basically for the entire previous week."
"She looked at me, a tear rolled down her face, and she said, 'Take care.'"
"I told her I loved her. She then said, 'I love you' back."
"I am so glad I was able to be there for that and to be there for her at the end."
- Gravath
Lost Partners
"I woke up in the middle of the night with my elderly neighbor crying and asking for help because she had just found her husband's body in their house."
"It made me horrifically sad, and when I finally went back to bed, I couldn't let go of my wife, fearing the day this might happen to one of us."
- TheAwesomePenguin106
Bad News
"I was at work and a mom got a call that her 19-year-old had just died in an accident."
"That sort of misery is a sound I hope to never hear again."
- Independent-Face-959
Missing Child
"When I worked in retail more than a decade ago, a woman came into the store crying for something in another language."
"Her cries were blood-curdling and it was her daughter's name."
"She lost her child somehow in the parking lot and hoped she wandered into the store (she didn't)."
"I can still hear her cries echoing in my head."
"Thankfully, they found the little girl wandering between parked cars. Happy ending."
- itsmarvin
Waiting for the Inevitable
"Sudden screeching car tires behind you."
"A few years ago, we were sitting at a stop sign and got rear-ended by a girl texting on her phone (going 60 miles per hour) and it was the scariest three seconds of my life. My two-year-old son was in the back seat too."
"We had been at the lake and had bags piled up, so we couldn’t really see out the back window, and all of a sudden, there was the sound of LOUD screeching tires erupting behind us."
"I just knew I was about to die while I waited a couple of seconds for it to hit us. Thank god it wasn’t a semi-truck or something."
- masterpate
A Mechanical Error
"A CNC machine I was operating made a horrifying screeching noise as it dropped a 10-inch saw blade and fired it at me. Nearly lost my leg that day, it missed the main artery in my leg by two millimeters."
"I still get PTSD dreams where I hear it screech, bang, and it whistling toward/through me."
- natha134
Storm of the Century
"My husband and I were awakened by a thunderstorm so loud and physical that we thought it was an earthquake, and a strong one. It was extremely loud and shook the house and everything in it, and the rumble that woke us up lasted for probably 10 seconds."
"It was such a violent shake, I was thinking, 'This will be the earthquake that kills us.' I swore that the ground was going to open. It took several seconds to realize what it was."
"I only have experienced thunder like that a few other times in my life, and I grew up in a high-altitude part of the Pacific Northwest."
"Where I live now, we have a fault line, and they always go on about 'the big one' and how devastating it will be. So in my disorientation, I thought it was the beginning of the big one that had woken us."
- SapphireHaze
Someone Approaching
"I was standing in the middle of Death Valley at midnight several months ago, with no light or anything else around me, as I was taking pictures of the Milky Way."
"I suddenly heard footsteps approaching. I grabbed my camera and turned to run."
"It ended up being another photographer who had been sleeping near me and then woke up and came to talk with me. It took a good two hours for my heart to calm down."
- jscheel
Breaking In
"Someone breaking into my home is genuinely my worst nightmare. It doesn't help when you have a cat that likes to do zoomies in the middle of the night, either."
- PlayerAlert
A Child in Need
"Hearing my seven-year-old scream/wailing from their room at 2:00 AM. That eerie sound of fear and despair and hopelessness calling for someone to stop whatever is going on. Hearing it come closer and closer before you can even get out of the covers to check on them."
"Fortunately, it turned out their hand had fallen asleep and they thought it was a dead hand stuck in the pajamas. They stopped screaming as we were yelling 'What?! What?!'"
"'Oh. It's just my hand.'"
"Still the scariest sound I have ever heard. I have nightmares about it sometimes..."
- mel2mdl
Houseguests
"When I was 13, I was lying in bed, trying to fall asleep."
"I went to grab a drink of water from the bottle next to my bed, and my elbow bumped the wall next to it by accident."
"Almost immediately, a singular bump ‘responded’ from the other side of the wall."
"I froze, stared at the wall, and then knocked twice in the same spot."
"Two knocks responded a moment later."
"The other side of the wall was our lounge room. There was no one in there, and I know because I didn’t get another wink of sleep until the sun rose."
"Still freaks me out, and I occasionally knock the walls of my bedroom now, hoping I don’t hear anything knock back."
- Anxiety_bunni
While almost all of these sounds are explainable, if tragic or terrifying, they undoubtedly would keep someone thinking about them for a long time.