I swear nobody listens anymore. It's like we've all gone deaf. Now I'm not saying that certain things in life don't need a few extra loops of discussion but more often than not, people just don't listen.
So that drives the rest of us to over-explaining and basically wasting time. It's exhausting to always have to be on repeat. After a certain point I just give up and say... "sorry, you're on your own." Maybe if you pay attention the first five times, we wouldn't be here.
And why is it always the easy things? I mean Trigonometry sure, that could take years of talk but... how to restart the cable box? Come on... google it.
Redditoru/The_Tell_Tale_Heartwanted an explanation about over explaining by asking one last time:
What are you tired of having to explain?
I'm not saying I'm perfect, and there have been a few times I genuinely needed a refresh in directions but that is because I actually forgot or I was drunk the first time you told me. What's your excuse?
Invisible
Sick Puppy GIF by Simian RefluxGiphy"That just because you can't see my illness doesn't mean it's not there."
- xoemily
Write it Down
My work schedule to my parents. They always start a conversation with "What's your schedule this week?" "When's the next time you work?" "How come you're not at work?" I work full time. My schedule hasn't changed in a while, and they ask me multiple times a day when they visit."
Use a Pin
"How to reset the router."
"Resetting a router is different than restarting it. There's a small hole labeled "reset" and you have to push the button inside it with a pin, which will reset to factory default. And probably screw up your entire network until you fix it."
During my Studies...
"I study molecular biology. No, I don't know what plant/bird/bug this is. Yes, I know about cancer but no, I don't know what this weird mole you have there is. Yes, I handle bacteria in the lab, no I don't want to know about you digestive problems."
I studied a similar MSc... The one I hate most. "There must be a cure for cancer, they just won't make any money from it so they're hiding it! A) who are 'They' B) 'cancer' isn't one disease C) any cure for any cancer would absolutely be a lucrative medical intervention."
Jemaine Clement Hair GIFBasic human behavior. Why is that so hard to remember? Don't touch other's hair, don't touch others in general. And always keep a pin next to the router. I can't believe it's 2021 and that's the best technology we have for that.
Say it Again...
Brely Evans Love GIF by TV OneGiphy"How to pronounce my name."
"Dom Irrera hilariously addresses others' difficulties with his name in a segment on Dr. Katz Professional Therapist."
I'm Hungry
"That the window for lunch service is 10:30 to noon. It doesn't start at 9:40 or 10:15. Ten-thirty. And, there's no such thing as "second lunch" in the afternoon. Quit asking. Damn, these cats are thick-headed and persistent."
"Lunch ends at noon? That's a bit weird. I'm not surprised people are confused. Noon is a very normal lunch time."
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Not Just...
"Migraine is not "just a headache."
- rozmarka
"Oh my God yessssss. I get severe migraines to the point where I will stop functioning entirely for hours, or days at a time. I have been to the ER twice now. So it is a slight pet peeve of mine when someone says "OMG I have such a migraine right now!!1!1!1!!1 ANYWAYS WANT TO PLAY XBOX FOR THE NEXT THREE HOURS!1!1!!1!1!1!"
I just need to Work
"Why an employer should hire me. I'm crap at interviews, yet every job I've had, I've excelled. My resume didn't just get like this on its own... so why is the fact that I struggle with speaking enough to disqualify me from a job I am fully capable of doing?"
Keep the Schedule
selfie idiot GIF by DiggGiphy"Yes the train is early but we cannot depart the station until our booked departure time because someone may be booked to travel and we physically cannot leave anyway because the signal is RED."
Cheers
"No I don't drink. Very personal reasons. I won't judge you for drinking, please just don't try to get me to drink."
- Troby831
"I'm not a drinker either. My parents were both alcoholics. I am not, I can drink if I wanted to. Some of these adults think there is something wrong with me because I just am not a drinker. I feel your pain."
Alone
"Why I am single and yet uninterested in some dude at the bar. Like just drop it, I don't wanna."
"Theres just soo many people whose first thought seeing someone single is "I bet that loner needs me or my advice on how to get a date" it's ridiculous."
Noting is Free
Pay Day Money GIF by MOST EXPENSIVESTGiphy"What I would do if I get X dollars for free. Probably the most common and low-effort AskReddit question out there."
hush up...
"I'm quiet cause I'm always quiet for God sake."
"And then when you start talking more and they want you to shut the hell up like there's no winning do you want me to talk or do you want me to be silent choose one, witch."
"I feel this. I'm quiet because I'm quiet. I'm not going to talk just for the sake of talking. If I have something to add to a conversation I might say something otherwise I won't."
- zakkil
Eating
"No, Eating disorders doesn't cure by eating. it's not even about "eating", it's about other things in deep. Like gaining control of your life, or trying to amend other errors. And no, you don't have to be skinny to have an eating disorder, be underweight it's like an effect not a prerequisite. It's something that happen IF you have an ED."
Struggles...
"Why I don't drink alcohol at all, and never will."
"As someone who wants to have this mentality and struggles with drinking sometimes, how did you develop this mentality/what's your reason for not drinking? Sorry I know you're tired of explaining to people but I may benefit from hearing your reasons."
Miracles
the lord of the rings no GIFGiphy"No I don't want kids. No I won't change my mind. No my husband doesn't them either. We are in our 30s. I had a bi-salp in April so I can't have any "miracles."
Do you Believe?
"Autotune. As a music producer and studio engineer, it gets tiresome explaining to the laymen that autotune is on pretty much EVERYTHING. When people think autotune, they think T-Pain or Cher... that's autotune as an effect, but otherwise it's freaking everywhere in all genres of music."
A real issue...
Nervous Anxiety GIF by blackbearGiphy"Anxiety. Why do I have to keep explaining to everyone that what I feel is not imaginary or exaggerated."
"just going to bed early"
"Insomnia is not my choice. I'm not sleeping in because I'm lazy, I'm sleeping in because my sleep schedule gets messed up roughly once a month and I wind up unable to sleep until the middle of the day. No, "just going to bed early" will not help and will actually make things worse."
"No, drinking warm milk, counting sheep, taking that herbal supplement you swear works, cutting down on screen time, smoking weed, or whatever other remedy you're about to suggest as though I haven't already heard it a dozen times before isn't going to do the trick either."
"What *does* do the trick is some very heavy duty sleep medications, which I can't take regularly due to their heavily addictive nature (and also because the side effects are awful), so they're reserved for emergencies."
That employer thing always kills me. I'm here for money, duh. Why are you here? Charity of time? So what have we learned? Pay attention, it's just the decent thing to do.
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Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.