Why do we keep standing for things that have proven unworthy?
We as humans are gluttons for punishment sure, but there should be a learning curve by now.
Some aspects of life are just not worthy of our time and energy.
Or some people.
Redditorhippolyte_pixiiwanted to hear about what many of us are wasting life on by championing the obsolete.
"What do people defend so fervently that you can tell they know it actually sucks?"
Ipods. I miss Ipods and still want them back. But I hear we're past them.
It's Over
Relationship GIF by GIPHY Studios OriginalsGiphy"Bad relationships."
KitKat2014
"Trauma bonding is real and so sad."
Weekly-Quality6243
It's All Fake
uncleskeleton
"Sunk cost fallacy. By the time you realise you're further in the hole than you'd intended, you convince yourself that your success is just around the corner."
"Also a read a blog a few years ago about someones adventures through an MLM, from the start to finally getting out and the impression I get is that there is very much a 'fake it till you make it' situation. Yes maybe there are some people who do well in MLM's, but the vast majority that appear to do well are faking it on social media with the goal of recruiting as many suckers as possible to be part of their downstream. Stay well away."
joshi38
It's Round
"Flat Earth nonsense. We watched a documentary about the flat Earthers, and it was obvious that many of the higher profile 'celebrities' in that community no longer believe their bull (if they ever did), but they've invested too much of their lives in it to be able to admit they were wrong, and for some of them, it's become their income source."
EarhornJones
The Grind
"Working super long hours - despite all your talk of ‘grindset,' I know you know it sucks."
"Burn-babies-burn. My dad gets 20 Vacation days a year and brags about not taking them. I'm like bro, that's not a flex but he just doesn't see it that way."
TheFluffersFluffer
"I was like that until about 2 years ago, I'm 28 now. From 19-26 I laughed at people taking vacation days and thought 'How lazy are you that you need to take time off other than your scheduled 2 days?' Well, thankfully I'm not like that anymore as I finally realized loyalty doesn't buy you anything and the business could care less about you."
JD2694
Schemes
Drink Gym GIF by Bucked UpGiphy"Some lady tried to sale my wife and I this supplement or whatever called 'thrive.' It was just some dumb pyramid scheme. Those who buy into it really drive home how great it is, way too extensively."
gould_35g
I tried Thrive. And I don't want to talk about it.
death will GIF"Don't get me started on those things. If you find a Jeep addict driving a mall-crawler, if you just keep asking them about their mods, they eventually start to crack and barely admit that they made the vehicle a pain in the butt to drive, for off-roading capability that they will never use."
crapgarbage
Soda Brainwash
"The Coca-Cola marketing in Mexico is extremely overbearing. It has been for a very long time. it has gotten to the point where they have convinced Mexicans that Coca-Cola is part of their cultural traditions. To shy away from Coca-Cola is to shy away from your friends, family, and community."
"Basically, they have convinced a large portion of the Mexican people that if they don't like Coca-Cola, then they are odd and/or unethical people. That being said, my Mexican wife refuses to acknowledge that she likes Pepsi better. I've given her Pepsi in a cup without telling her and she has praised how good the 'Coke' was."
"After I reveal that it is Pepsi, she throws it away and claims she didn't really like it. If her family is around, she won't offer Pepsi to them if it's all we have. It's not just Pepsi either. RC and store-brand is the same. If it's not Coca-Cola, then it's an insult to her heritage. The brainwashing is remarkable to say the least."
qwerty4007
'pay our dues'
"Being a 'company man.' At FedEx I met a lot of old men decades deep into their, erm, 'careers' as mail sorters. They seem to think that just because FedEx will throw them a couple cents more per hour every year they stay, that makes hard work and loyalty to the company somehow invaluable."
"Then they freak out at us young guys all the time for not taking the job seriously because we have bills due NOW, not 20 years from now when we 'pay our dues' and eventually get a comfortable wage."
KithMyAirs
Thankless...
"Nursing. Don't get me wrong, those people do a thankless job and deserve a lot of recognition. But my best friend is a nurse and she's told me that 90% of her job is wiping @sses , and a lot of her coworkers are ex-high school mean girls who love to martyr themselves."
jesters_privelage
Apple Life
New York Holiday GIF by Virgin AtlanticGiphy"Living in New York City. Sure, there are all sorts of fantastic things to do… theatre, concerts, comedy, clubs, nightlife, authentic ethnic cuisine… it’s just a shame you can’t afford any of it."
EastCoastExile
Males
"Being alpha males or sigma males. If you ask me it's just means of justifying shi**y behavior and being pretentious."
MundaneConclusion246
"The Sigma male thing is hilarious. A bunch of neckbeards have decided that the coolest man to be is the one without charisma, influence or friends. Like it's some kind of political position to be a complete social outcast, and not something that's forced on them because they're unlikeable."
FatStoic
Beholden
"US healthcare and private insurance. It sucks in so many ways: you are beholden to an employer for your well-being, you get gouged prices, you can’t get care unless approved, it just goes on and on yet people insist that private insurance is somehow worth defending."
liarbility
Rugrats
"Their kids."
New_Horse3033
"Every parent loves their kids. But only parents who truly admit they love their kids can admit to other adults that they can’t stand their kids sometimes. But if you tell your kids you can’t stand them, you definitely don’t love your kids."
sketchysketchist
"I had to scroll down way too far to find this. KIDS."
multiplesneezer
Generations
Working Mothers Day GIF by Libby VanderPloegGiphy"Being a mother. My God I wish women would openly discuss the things they hate about motherhood to better prepare the next generation for parenthood."
LippyWeightLoss
"Not to mention, it’s the woman that usually ends up doing most of the work anyway. If you’re lucky enough to have one with a man that does his equal share it’s STILL a lot on the woman."
KekeSmall
That BTS
"I hope I don't get flagged or banned for this one... but... some of the members of BTS's singing ability is genuinely not good. I'm an army myself and I've been to a live concert but I know they sing along to back tracks and I think some of them lip sync often and those clips are the evidence that fans give when they want to prove their 'talent.'"
"I think most of their popularity is chalked up to a couple of them being talented singers, dancers, rappers and the rest is just how charismatic they are and the kind of content they put out. That said, I think a few of them have improved their singing abilities a ton over the last few years with practice so I really love how seriously they take their career since they really don't need to do that."
pendant_fawn
TV Love
"Their favorite show that nobody else watches."
TheUnblinkingEye1001
"There are so many shows out there, and their popularity is so reliant on communication and adverts that many awesome things are bound to remain unnoticed."
"The few times I tried something that a friend fervently recommended, it ended up being great. Simply, there are too many great things out there to experience them all, so I focus on things tailored to my specific tastes."
BarelyBearableHuman
I'm Fine
"Spanking. I don’t know why people like to die on that hill. Tell them that spanking is bad. And every study that has ever come out says it’s bad. People will die on that hill. The most common being 'I was spanked and I’m fine!'"
cleaning-meaning
Get Up
New York Showtime GIF by Desus & MeroGiphy"The whole 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' mentality. People that want others to suffer only because they once had to suffer is a particular kind of a**hole."
The_Gristle
Somethings are just meant to go by the wayside. Everything can't stay in fashion forever.
Redditor Frozen_yoghurt123 asked:
"Who is the 'black sheep' of your family?"
I'm the black sheep or at least I'd like to think so.
Join me...
Scandal
"Probably my dad's cousin, who went to prison for murdering his lover's husband."
DW_555
Oh My Wow GIFGiphy"biggest disappointment"
"My Dad. He is the only one of 6 siblings who wasn't a huge f**k up. And yet, before my Grandma died she stated that he was her 'biggest disappointment.' He is estranged from his surviving siblings... not by his choice. It honestly blows my mind."
Unfair_Biscotti2828
"Toxicity is often a group mindset thing; people don't want you to leave because they are dysfunctionally co-dependent on each other and need each other to justify their own shortcomings in life. A lot of the 'family loyalty' stuff is typically shouted loudest by those who are the least good idea to stay loyal towards."
Creative_Recover
The Dead
"My great uncle who stole my great grandfathers identity, stole a couple million dollars, and ran off. No one even knew he was alive until my great grandfathers funeral in 2009. No one has seen him since. My grandma started to cry because she honestly thought he was dead."
"Everyone else just kind of nodded on his direction and went on with the rest of the funeral. I just remember being very confused because I was 9 and I had never met this guy who my dad pulled me aside and told me he was my great uncle. It was a few years later that I got the full story."
valkyrieonaunicorn
"matriarch"
"According to my mean aunt, the 'matriarch' in her own mind, it's my twin brother because "he doesn't care about family now that he's a doctor." (He's a resident. Chief resident. He works ridiculous hours and spends the rest of the time recovering from work.)"
"According to my ex-MIL (who still counts because she's Son's grandma), it's me, for divorcing her son."
"According to everyone else, it's Mean Aunt. The rest of us are warm and caring and compassionate. We have our moments; all of us have been accidentally thoughtless or done something selfish once in a while, but we're not deliberately mean and snarky all the time."
insertcaffeine
Everybody
"My immediate family are the black sheep of the entire family."
DarthDregan
John Stamos Cheers GIF by GrandfatheredGiphySounds like everyone has a little black sheep in them.
People Issues
"By now, my brother for cutting off everyone because he prefers his rude, selfish, paranoid, narcissist wife over all of us."
"My wife is the black sheep of her family in the sense that she's the only one who isn't a rude, selfish, paranoid narcissist."
Lvcivs2311
Joe Dirt Brother GIFGiphySo Dumb
"Me. My granddaddy told me 'I’ve only had the sheriff knock on my door two times in my 80 years, and both times he was looking for you! 'I did some dumb sh*t, caused a little trouble, burned a few bridges but always managed to stay out of jail. Partly because my sister has kept an attorney on retainer for me since I was 16."
This_Personality3731
Liar Liar
"My younger brother (2nd of 4) is a compulsive liar and it got him in a lot of little trouble as a teen, then he told his wife he graduated a big college when we're not even sure if he got his GED because he failed to graduate HS, went to some GED school and eventually just stopped going."
"IF he graduated college, he never mentioned he was going in the 4+ years it takes nor mention graduation or have a diploma. He's not a bad dude, but now family time is super awkward when he and his wife are talking about 'their' college team."
UniqueUsername82D
The NOT good girl...
"My aunt's daughter. She’s been in jail for drugs, stolen money from my aunt and other family members to use on drugs and physically abused my aunt. My aunt has tried getting her help, but nothing has worked. She’s just not a good person, and everyone in my family, except my aunt, doesn’t want anything to do with her. I haven’t seen her in 8 years now, and I’m happy about that."
Hello_Im_the_world
Maria?
"A former nun - my great aunt - left the religious life and got married. She called herself 'the black sheep of the family' because her habit was black."
Back2Bach
Excited Julie Andrews GIF by The Rodgers & Hammerstein OrganizationGiphyWell the black sheep sound like the most interesting family members.
Redditor OldAboba asked:
"What is the best non-sexual physical feeling you’ve ever felt?"
Adele. Adele live. She sends me.
Floating
Relaxed Exit Strategy GIF by Hannah Bronfman Giphy"I got a professional full body (everything but my man parts) massage a few years back for the first and so far only time at a spa after the recommendation from a coworker. I felt like I was floating on a cloud for the next few days."
gil_beard
Through your nose...
"Sneezing when you're sick. Then you get that about 20 second feeling of breathing through your nose again and you like ahh that's what I aspire to at the moment."
Sanguiniutron
"Or the very last sneeze of your illness. During a fire drill in high school, I was ambling out after fighting a head old for a few days. The alarm was killing my head which was already throbbing from the sinus pressure."
"I was nearing the field, well away from my classmates, when I cough/sneezed out a huge, green loogie - cleared it about three feet, no icky trail - and by the time I was walking back to the building I was feeling pretty much back to normal. No more head cold after that. Never had something like that ever happen again where there was such an abrupt end to the head cold."
NnyIsSpooky
'migraine cocktail'
"Right after a migraine goes away. It's almost a spiritual experience."
LarryLong*alls_
"This was going to be my answer. I was in the ER one time for a really bad migraine. They gave me what they called a 'migraine cocktail.' When they pushed it through the IV I could feel the cold liquid make its way through my body, up to my head. Once it hit my brain, the migraine was gone. It was pure ecstasy. Even better was that cocktail had Benadryl in it so I fell asleep not long after and slept so good."
master_baitor12
Shake It
"That stretch til you shake when you wake up."
Quanisha8472
"I once stretched too hard in the morning and got the worst calf cramp ever... it looked like a prune and I thought I would die from the pain. Couldn't stretch in bed for months afterwards out of fear it would happen again."
tevelis
"When you move over 50, it turns into that stretch til you put your back into a muscle spasm that lasts days."
wrichards12
The Itch
Scratching Feel Good GIF by 60 Second DocsGiphy"I had a cast and splint on both my legs for 2 months. When they cut it off, they scratched my legs for me and the itch was just top notch! Yeah."
Existing-Seat5962
Itching an itch can change a life.
YUM!
Emma Stone High Quality GIFGiphy"When you're starving all day and devour a bomb a** meal."
Lime_Rose
Sleep for Life
"When you’ve been up for 20 hours+ and finally get into bed and you just know it’ll be the best sleep of your life."
Ok_Sprinkles_8777
"But man, after 36+ hours, the body sort of aches and it's hard to fall asleep despite being completely exhausted. Then the restless legs kick in... ugh. I do agree that a 20hr-ish stint is amazing to cuddle into, especially if you don't have to get up at any specific time the next day."
curlyfat
"Makes it better when you’ve been sleep deprived for weeks and know you have NO PLANS tomorrow and can sleep as much as you need."
Batcraft10
That Feeling
"When you're absolutely busting for a pee and you can finally go!"
Apprehensive_Pen_793
"Apparently there’s a thing called a 'pee-gasm' that people (usually women) have that causes an orgasmic feeling when you pee after holding it for a while! I’ve definitely experienced this and I’ve intentionally waited a while so I could have that good feeling... lol."
cocoawhirl
I Can Hear!!
"The feeling of water leaving your ear after being there all day."
Apprehensive_Bet_438
"I had some impacted earwax for a week in one ear, and when it finally got removed it was the best feeling in the world. Initially it was like having a tv or radio in my ear that only had static, but then I could hear. Good god, I could hear. It was amazing."
doodwhatsrsly
"Oh man, and it’s WARM from being in your head, and the warmth makes the sensation of leaving even better."
AngiesPhalanges
A Good Rest
dog puppy GIFGiphy"Sleeping in a warm blanket in winters."
Puitzza
"Or sleeping in a cold blanket in summer."
pitypuruty
I am enthralled by all of those things.
Redditor Gold-Ad-2827 asked:
"People with mental disorders: What do you hate being told the most?"
I hated being told to just smile. You smile and go away.
Duh
seth meyers GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy"It's all in your head. Where else would it?! My colon?"
glorified_throwaway
Don't Minimize
"Everybody goes through that."
rukasu83
"This saying makes my blood boil. Or the 'I was that age once too ya know' yeah no sh*t you were that age once. And just because you were that age once doesn’t mean we have the same experience."
MasterOfRNoSleep
"They try to minimize it."
Previous_Ad7725
Stellar Advice
"You're worried? Just stop."
"You're sad? Just don't be."
"You're compulsively binge eating? Eat less."
"Thanks for that stellar advice."
CrayolaSocks
"Or even better, 'Just do it!' As if ADHD paralysis can be stopped with a can-do attitude."
HumanityIsACesspool
"physical health"
"I get so frustrated when people treat the idea of 'holistic medicine' as some kind of woo. How does it escape so many people that the body works holistically? Even a lot of doctors seem to ignore this. It's very frustrating when you have 2 or 3 or 4 illnesses that are all affecting each other, and your 'physical health' is held distinct from your mental health, and nothing anyone is doing to treat you works because no one's looking at the whole system."
"I just got a lecture from a psychiatrist I am seeing about nutrition, and he apologized to me for doing so but I told him, 'No, I appreciate it. Do it for all your patients.' because it told me he's trying to look at the whole picture and actually fix what's wrong. It gave me faith in him."
TheLastKirin
Relax
Calm Down Golden Girls GIF by TV LandGiphy"You need to calm down."
sorceress__stoned
"Never is the history of calm down has calm down ever caused anyone to calm down."
LBIdockrat
Calm down. I hate that one. You calm down.
Tips
Season 23 Reaction GIF by Law & OrderGiphy"When they try to give me tips on what to do, like bruh as if I didn't already try that."
Mediocre_Ad8282
The Standard
"You don't look sad. No crap... that's so I can avoid having this conversation. Also depression isn't 'being sad' like people think."
allgamerprogram
"God, I hate this. It's because saying 'I'm depressed' has been standard for people expressing that they're slightly unhappy about something dumb like not getting enough croutons on their salad or some crap. Now that's just what everyone assumes you mean when you say you have depression."
NilPill
Be Faster
"'Stop being lazy.'"
LadyBirdLadyBirdLady
“'Lazy' is when you don’t want to do anything at all. 'Executive disfunction' is when you can do everything at all, but that one easy quick thing that you do want to do just makes you and your brain freeze completely days ahead. I’m tired of people not understand that even when I explain and look at me like I’m bullshitting instead."
_Varien_
Ways to Cope
"Maybe you should try praying harder. I did, He prescribed medication."
Ms_Schuesher
"Praying is a way to cope for a lot of people, I think. That's totally fine, but insisting on praying in lieu of getting real help or actually addressing the issue is when it is not only unhelpful, but dangerously detrimental."
TheFrustrated
"Religious people will bypass everyone’s cultures, identity, views, and feelings just to be right and make a point. it’s disgusting. I read somewhere that real so called Christianity is all wrong. The real faith is from the Aramaic history and all the meanings were misinterpreted and the stories and all were made up by Catholics wanting to control their people. Yuck."
RisingPhoenix5271
'contamination'
Disgusted Season 6 GIF by Brooklyn Nine-NineGiphy"As someone with OCD with a lot of attention to 'contamination', having someone try to explain contradictions in why I'm doing something that is technically unclean when I wouldn't do something that is technically clean due to OCD. There are a few doorknobs that I will not touch no matter how much you clean them in front of me and I know it makes no sense, if it made sense I wouldn't have OCD i'd just be cleanly."
Zoooples
Stop trying to be an armchair therapist. Be empathetic to people first.