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Ideal Life Goals For People Who Don't Plan To Have Kids

Ideal Life Goals For People Who Don't Plan To Have Kids
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Not everybody is meant to be a parent.

Sometimes procreation is not in the cards.

And that can be a FANTASTIC feeling.

There is a certain calm and security when looking ahead knowing you only will ever have YOU to be responsible for.


Redditor Visible-Athlete-3707 wanted to hear from all the people out there who plan to stay child-free.

So they asked:

"What are your life goals for people who don't plan on having kids?"

I plan to have everything I want. And save... TIME.

Free

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"Travel. Try all the restaurants. Live a relatively stress-free life."

hooch

"Stress free is the key."

Blackcat2332

happy enough...

"I don't have any major goals, not going to put pressure on myself to achieve this or that. Life is not a competition for me. As long as I'm happy enough, then I'm happy enough."

LucyVialli

"Contentment is more important than happiness."

homarjr

"I see my life as like living in the shire. I'm comfortable, happy, lovely wife and loving mother in law. We don't need much and live comfortably and content. That's my life goal."

suddenlycumbly

Goals

"Retire early, travel, and poop in private."

T0lly

"You won’t poop in private if you have a dog but otherwise these are my goals."

fullerhouseaz

"It’s freaking awesome! I retired at 49. Just got back from Italy. Leaving for Prague and Krakow in November. Punta Mita in January and Cuba in March. Taking a year off. Then Iceland and Haunted Halloween tour of UK in 2024. Pooping in private is pretty great too."

zzid2d21

Covid Thoughts

"I wasn't planning on having kids pre-Covid and now after I don't even really care about my career either. It really opened my eyes on how dumb society is setup and how I just created a life based on what my parents, media, tv, religion, etc told me life was about."

"I'm way happier now and I'm gonna do whatever I see fit for the rest of my life and I don't really care what others say. I'm also not meaning i'm gonna just blow all my money, but hey if that's what I decide to do that's fine too."

Dr_Edge_ATX

$$$

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"Good career so I can have money for a whole jungle. My parents didn't let me have pets growing up so it backfiring now."

imjustbrainstorming

Save that coin...

And then die...

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"Get a dog, make cool art and projects, go to conventions, eat great food, watch movies, play games, collect pins and charms and whatever else interests me. And then die."

asocialautist

"Me and my wife have fallen in with a like-minded group of friends, either empty-nesters or DINKs like us. We travel the world. 11 of us just got back from a 7-day Alaskan cruise. But we’ve been traveling abroad since 2013."

poxxy

"How did you meet these people? My husband and I are DINKs in our late 30s and we are having trouble finding others since all our friends are 100% occupied with raising their kids."

yarn-and-garden

"If it's something you're into, consider going to a music festival where everyone camps and do VIP. Generally, your VIP campers are DINKs or if they have kids they haven't made child raising their life."

"For me, I met my group of travel friends at Bonnaroo 5 years ago. It's a rotating cast but there's about 10 of them who we have been on trips with outside of music festivals now. We're planning to do a big Caribbean trip next year where we rent out some nice villa and party it up for a week."

"I know camping music festivals aren't for everyone, but if it's for you, you can definitely find likeminded people there to become travel buddies with."

runningraleigh

Overrated

"Goals are overrated. I try to have fun, take care of my hobbies and not make plans if at all possible."

schaiba

"I have no discernible goals, my partner and I just wanna do our own things that make us happy."

"We both want to climb and travel, I want to paint, and we just wanna get old and be eclectic together without having our lives revolve around a kid for 18+ years."

"I have a bunch of fun aunts and I will gladly be that for my brother’s kids once they’re older. But I personally hate small children and the idea of having a baby in my house irritates the f**k out of me."

ChaosDevilDragon

Simple

"The main goal is to live a simple life with as little stress as possible. Having a child would be awesome and there are many positives but there are many stresses with a child too with the monetary aspect being a huge thing for me that i would rather avoid. I’m fine living in a studio or 1 bedroom house my entire life with my cats and living a simple life."

Teaffection

Everything

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"Honestly, not having my life dictated by having children does give the freedom to choose what ever I want to do with my life. Now if I could get some actual money together I might have a clearer idea on what specifically I want to do lol."

akathewilyfox

Kids aren't for everybody. And that sounds like fun.

Things People Secretly Love But Would Never Admit To In Public

Reddit user sweet_chick283 asked: 'What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?;

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What makes us all unique is our passions and the things we love, whether it's singing in the shower, reading books, or listening to specific music artists.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where we are judged for our various tastes and interests thanks to social media, and it makes us consciously selective about sharing the things we love on the internet.

Curious to hear about people's personal desires under anonymity, Redditor sweet_chick283 asked:

"What do you secretly love that you would never admit to in public?"

These aren't really chores for the following Redditors.

Good Clean Fun

"Mopping, im a janitor and generally hate my work... but damn mopping is so good."

– MrDDog06

"When you have a great rhythm going it is something special. I get the same feeling while I vacuum, but won’t let my wife know I enjoy it."

– Bogus_34

Act Of Unwrinkling

"Ironing clothes. A dozen of them. Can’t explain how it relaxes me. I told one person and they looked at me like I’m crazy."

– eerie_white_glow

"My mum misses the days when dad would be out on a Friday night, my brother out with friends and me upstairs quietly playing PS1. She would pour herself a Bacardi & Coke and do the ironing while watching her TV shows."

"I'm sure she doesn't really miss it now that we've moved out and they've retired but it was her wind-down after a busy working week so I can see how people can find it relaxing."

– xdq

Our solo actions can spark joy.

Big Brother Is Watching

"pretending to be on the Truman show and whenever im in my house i act all inconspicuous so they dont know that i know that they’re watching me."

– Bec_121

"C’mon man, you’re not supposed to let him know. You signed a contract when signing up for live views. I’m reporting you."

– doeswaspsmakehoney

The Multi-Tasker

"Playing video games naked at home while eating cheese."

– thickening_agent

Releasing The Kraken

"I love the feeling when you've eaten good fibre and let out a solid long train log in the toilet. That feeling is heavenly."

– therapoootic

"Even better when it’s a clean wipe and not a poo crayon."

– TheWarmestHugz

Ultimate Comfort

"My (male 41) weekend routine is coming home from work, make hot chocolate, start a fire, dress in a ugly pink nightgown made for old ladies and watch forensic files."

– crazyloomis

Some people are obsessed with collecting things.

So Kawai

"Sanrio stationery stores. All those different multicolor pens, a thousand kinds of erasers, spiral bound notebooks galore... my kids sadly have absolutely no appreciation for this wonderland..."

– HavingNotAttained

It's A Staple

"Office supplies have a weird, special place in my heart ever since I was a kid. They don't even have to be 'cute' necessarily."

"Japan's legendary stationery stores is unironically a reason I want to go."

– _CozyLavender_

Not Caring Anymore

"The older I get the shorter that list gets. Not because I love less things, but because I don't care about hiding it."

– Bi-Beast

"YES!! I'm 53 now. I'm working my first job in public since 2006. Today is Halloween and we're allowed to dress up so I am sitting here waiting to go to work dressed as a VERY bad Wednesday Addams. My bf said I'd 'look stupid' because no one else will probably dress up and I'm like, 'WHO CARES!' My makeup looks horrible and not like I practiced, but I DO NOT CARE! I'm having fun with it anyhow and I don't care if my coworkers dress up or not. I'm bein' ME! :)"

– deanie1970

Honorable mentions start here.

The Savior

"Picking up worms from the street and sidewalks when it rains and moving them into the dirt so they don’t burn in the sun, every time it rains I do this."

– sky_kitten89

Hero Of The Moment

"Yoooo I scoot SO many snails and worms. I work as a tech/mechanic at an automotive shop, I had a peoject car towed to my house the other day and it was covered in snails. I saw them when the tow guy/coworker was unloading and I was like, 'oh! It comes with free snails!' and began moving them. He laughed then realized and said, '... Oh, you're serious. Uh... Okay.'"

"I don't care who knows it. These little things barely can look out for themselves, why shouldn't we if we can take a moment to help? I don't care what happens next, it probably doesn't matter overall but I can help this moment."

– chris14020

Why should some of the hidden desires mentioned above have to be secret?

Redditors opening up about some of these would make them a hit at parties–no shaming.

As a matter of fact, I'll totally be down for a Forensic Files viewing party where we all make hot chocolate, light the fireplace, and cozy up together in our respective pink ugly nightgowns for old ladies.

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We've probably all heard some variation of the saying "Truth is stranger than fiction."

Real life isn't just strange, it can also be downright ridiculous.

History is riddled with moments of absurdity.

So ridiculous that people have a hard time believing real life is, well, really real.

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