Doctors are a mess. They are brilliant geniuses but they have issues. They never want to have to submit to anyone, especially when they're used to knowing all the answers. It's daunting being a patient and doctors need to learn how to be one, preferably without the dire consequences.
Redditor u/nja1998 wanted the docs of Reddit to speak out and admit a few things by asking.... Doctors of reddit, when you get sick do you go to another doctor and is it awkward?
No Pats!
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Yes, we see doctors. Not awkward at all. We make crappy know-it-all patients, though. Most of the time, I only go if I need something I can't take care of myself. I've had to get iv fluids several times for dehydration in the last few years. I can't do my own Pap smear. I choose not to write for any chronic meds for myself or my husband. DrScogs
Really Dad?
My dad is a doctor and is the worst patient. He always says "What, are they going to tell me something I don't already know?" But he's not a fricking heart specialist, so yeah I'd like to him see someone who actually had their training in that field. gambitgrl
Doing the rote!
We usually have doctor friends (med school, colleagues etc), and just prescribe for ourselves with someone else writing the script, diagnose ourselves, unless there is something you really need another opinion on. bobthelobs
Fun times....
I enjoy checking myself for prostate cancer but it's also nice to shake things up and have someone else do it from time to time. robojaybird
I'd rather anything else!
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My cousin is a urologist. He's has so little trust he gave himself his own vasectomy. Said he nearly passed out but got the job done. No. I haven't seen the scar. leaky_eddie
I cant even say Vasectomy without cringing, I'd rather just use condoms and take chances the rest of my life then get one and I'd rather shoot myself in the foot with a 12 gauge then give myself one lol. nja1998
Find the best!
I worked with a lot of doctors (used to be a nurse). I don't think it was awkward for them because most of the time they would be going to a specialist that wasn't in their field. You might be a competent general mechanic, but if you have a Subaru and this other person does nothing but Subarus all day long or it's an automatic transmission and this other person does nothing but automatic transmissions all day every day, you'd probably rather take your car to them for anything more than an oil change. CetteChanson
Trauma!
My wife is a trauma surgeon and says it's more like an elementary school teacher going back to college for their masters or doctorate and having to be the student instead of the teacher. It isn't that weird.
In my experience with teachers it's also common for them to view their child's teacher much differently than non teachers. They often hold them to a higher standard because they do the same job. My wife has said that sending our then infant son to have open heart surgery was the hardest thing she has ever had to do. He fully recovered and other than seeing the scar you would never be able to tell, but my wife still doesn't like to talk about it. With that said, injuries don't freak her out at all. She'll usually calmly ask how painful it is on a scale from 1 to 10 and will check it out to see if she can treat it at home. I think doctors tend to avoid going to the doctors if possible. Mannings4head
You don't know better!
I worked as a scribe in a cardiology clinic before medical school, and a few times I saw doctors (of a different specialty) come in for various things. The first time I was so excited, I always wondered what it would be like to watch a doctor be a patient at another doctor's office. But it was the most anticlimactic thing ever. The specialist made it quick, "this is probably what's going on, let's run these following tests and/or start on this medication." The patient doctor would normally say ok and maybe ask to look at their own echocardiogram.
I'll tell you who the worst patients were though were retired PhDs (of something even remotely related to medicine). They always acted like they knew better, ESPECIALLY if they were being seen by a midlevel. mctaylor241
Call it In!
They all just ask a colleague to "call it in" if they think they need something. When they really need a provider, like say an emergency room situation or something like that, they tend not to mention their work till after the important parts because they want the doctor to just do their thing. B0NERSTORM
I Got It!
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For minor things (mainly antibiotics or eye drops), I'll just prescribe myself whatever I need but obviously never with scheduled drugs. I once sprained my ankle. At work I called an ER doc I knew in the hospital, asked for a script and had the techs x-ray my ankle. I don't have a primary care doctor and haven't been to 'the doctor' in about a decade. Granted, I'm still pretty young and don't have any medical problems. If I did have a real problem, I would know exactly which doctors were the best in their field. It's incredibly convenient. I imagine it must be like a car mechanic having a car issue. fleeyevegans
H/T: REDDIT
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Prior Knowledge
"When you were interviewing here, what would you have liked to know before you joined?"
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A Previous Employee
"One that has always gone over well for me:"
"What were some qualities that the previous employee in this role brought to the job that you would like to see carried forward?"
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Hypothetical questions were suggested as helpful examples of inquiry.
Indicators Of How Companies Treat Employees
"A question that landed me a job once was: 'If I asked your direct reports about your management style, what do you think they'd tell me?' Stumped a hiring manager and he emailed me personally to tell me about it, no one ever asked him that question but got the job.
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"These questions give a lot of insight into whether a company treated their employees well."
Past Performance & Adjustments
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"If I could snap my finger right now and change anything about your job or the company, what would it be and why?"
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Measure Of Success & Career Trajectories
"How is success measured in this role?"
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Being A Solution
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Simply The Best
"Who is your best employee and why is he/she the best?"
"You will then face 2 situations mostly:"
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– ThePiz91
My experiences with job interviews are different than others seeking work in office environments.
Having had a years-long career as a dancer, my "interview" was the dance audition, where hopefuls dance in small groups of people at a time after learning a routine and then awaiting their fate after the panel evaluates their performances.
The question I may or may not have asked in such a scenario earlier in my career was: "Did I make the cut?"
I did not make the cut. And I learned never to ask that again.
I remember the worst date I ever had. My biggest regret is that I stayed for the entire thing. I should've left as soon as I realized this was not going well, which was basically at hello. But he was paying so I drank, a lot. I'll keep names and dates to myself to protect the innocent.
0/10
Big Brother Reaction GIF by Big Brother After DarkGiphy"Went to brewery, date said I had hairy arms and that meant I was horny, said "you look really awful in this light" and then tried to dig out of that hole by saying in his native language that was a term of endearment long term couples said to each other. 0/10 did not date again."
Lucky 13?
"My wife wanted to plan our 13th wedding anniversary. I was excited because usually, I plan it. She bought us some new disc golf discs and after a quick supper, we went to play. We hadn't played in forever. We were laughing and I had a great time. She served me with divorce papers and told me that the date was a test to see if she still had feelings for me. I also learned that she was having an affair that started well before our anniversary."
- rmorlock
Two Hours from Home
"Not necessarily a date but a person I was dating invited me to his parent's house for the afternoon. He wanted to introduce me to them and show me the house he grew up in. I thought it was super sweet and had no problems going. He was also in the middle of moving and needed to pick up a few things, so it really didn't seem that unusual."
"Yeah, we got there and it was awful. His entire family was there. They traveled from hours away too. This was not just meeting the parents, it was meeting the ENTIRE family. Even worse? At some point, this idiot told his parents that he had proposed. We had been dating TWO months. I spent the entire afternoon dumbfounded and just playing along."
"We were two hours from home and I had no cell service, no way to leave at all. We ended up spending the afternoon brainstorming wedding ideas and planning an Alaskan honeymoon that his parents planned to gift us. His brother even called to say congratulations! We drove back to his apartment in silence. When we got there, I got in my car and left, didn't even bother grabbing my stuff. Weirdest experience ever. I have no idea how he broke it to his parents that we weren't getting married."
You're Cut Off!
"Got set up on a blind date once between mutual friends. She shows up to the restaurant already a little tipsy, orders multiple appetizers and only takes like one or two bites from each one. Then she proceeds to order 3 or 4 more drinks and is visibly drunk at this point. She gets up and says she's going to the bathroom and staggers off. About 15-20 minutes go by so I try to call her several times but no answer."
"Finally I decide to pay the check and just leave. About 2 hours later I'm sitting at home and I get a call from an unknown number. It's the police department. She was picked up on a DUI on her way home after she ditched me and gave the cops my number to see if I could go bail her out!"
- mox44ah
Sorry?
Bbc Three Idk GIF by BBCGiphy"Well, I gave this answer on a different topic, but it ties in with this. We were out on a date, we had been seeing each other for a while, close to a year maybe. She gets a phone call. Suddenly she looks destroyed. Her fiancé had just died in a motorcycle accident."
What in the world? I mean how can we ever expect to pair off with the dating pool being inundated with liars and nut jobs? I'm going to delete my apps.
Girl, Bye.
Sassy Beyonce GIFGiphy"Had a girl openly flirt with the bartender in front of me. She says she wasn't. But handing him her own phone and asking for his contact info in front of her date seems like it to me."
Crazy!
"Came out from a movie, late at night, and date's Camaro was stolen. Apparently, he called his WIFE (that I did not know he had) and let her know where he was and what happened. She showed up and realized he was on a date! She started chasing ME around the parking lot telling me she was going to kill me. Saved by the cops who showed up just in time to take the auto theft report."
Hey Mom
"Met a girl at a country bar one night in my 20s. We were both pretty drunk but hit it off pretty good. Ended up getting her number and we agreed we'd go on a real date. Fast forward to the date, she gets in my vehicle and... she looks almost identical to my mom. I was mortified. I was polite and we went for lunch where I found out she also had a boyfriend she "wasn't sure if she was into". Never talked to her again."
- SgtGo
Liars...
"When I was in college many years ago, before the advancement of cell phones and social media, I was chatting with a girl I met on a BBS who lived on Long Island, NY. I was 18 at the time, but lied and said I was 22 because she said she was 25. We spent a few weeks emailing each other, as well as calling each other."
"We even exchanged pics. When we finally met up, things blew up. Turns out we both lied about our ages: She was really 33, and lied because she thought she looked younger. She admitted she sent a college photo to me. We still had dinner together, but it was awkward as hell. We never spoke again."
Doubles
Kill Me Now Season 1 GIF by FriendsGiphy"It was a double date. She was more interested talking to the other girl throughout the whole thing. Found out later from the other guy that his girl cheated on him with my date."
Ummm... I think I'm just going to stay single. That is a handful of crazy. Why can't people just be honest? I swear the search for love warps people's brains. Be careful out there people.
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