A doctor's office is a place of confidence, someplace you can go to be healed in whatever way you need with the confidence the person sitting on the other side of the room will accept whatever you bring to them. No matter how crazy it is...
...Well, sometimes. Those times when what the patient, or even the doctor, says is too nuts, you just have to go online to talk about it.
Reddit user, u/midnuf, wanted to hear the juicy details when they asked:
Owning Life On Your Terms
I did most of my training in a pediatric hospital. One of my patients (young adult) with relapsing Leukemia (Cancer since young childhood) wanted to go to an outdoor festival with their significant other. The oncologists were adamant that due to the patient's low white blood count and current course of treatment, they shouldn't let them go. Basically if that person caught an infection it would kill them.
The patient was pissed, understandably so, and said something like 'I've had this disease since I was a child, I know I'm going to die soon, I'm going to the concert whether you like it or not and if I die, then at least I'll do it on my own terms'.
It's always quite moving when a young person expresses their own mortality and confronts it head on. I had such admiration for that person.Soylenthill12
A Shock To Everyone
Patient here. In response to me telling my therapist that I was prescribed Wellbutrin for my depression/anxiety, my therapist stated that it was a medication that a lot of adults with ADD see a positive effect with. It threw me off for a second and I was like, "that's cool...why do you say that?"
Therapist: "...because you have ADD?"
Me: "What? I do?"
Therapist: "Yes. You present very typical ADD for adults."
Therapist: "I thought you knew already..."
Me: "Nope! But that explains so much!"
I also got a second opinion just in case and it turns out I absolutely am ADD. Thanks Doc! Lol!
While I was working at an impatient facility I was helping deescalate a patient who I had a good rapport with. We were sitting in a hallway speaking and he was telling me about the last time he had become that upset. He said, "Last time I was that angry I stabbed an orderly." Then he looks at me and said, "Don't worry I would never stab you." It definitely through me off and was probably the most touching thing I have ever heard from a patient.
You Can Only Have So Much
My psychologist told me I had too much empathy and should try to have less.
They're Never Who They Say They Are
When talking about the future and what I wanted to be and do after high school, my therapist told me that it's okay to not have a linear life. He said he became a therapist after he saw one of his friends from high school years later as a doctor and it was a Male up call for him because he was still in a rock band. It was shocking because this calm, quiet older man used to be in a rock band but suddenly decided to be a therapist.
Bet You They Didn't Know How To Spell It
I work with kids and this one kid in the middle of our session just straight up asked me what genocide was. He was 6 at the time. I was throughly shocked.
Two Varying Opinions Leading To The Same Conclusion
My ex and I sought out marriage counseling several years ago to help us decide if we wanted to split up or try to work out our issues. The first counselor we saw straight-up told my ex in our first session that he was emotionally abusive, and we both vehemently argued with her and decided that she was crazy (toxic relationships are a hell of a drug, y'all).
The second counselor we saw was super warm and easy to talk to and quickly built trust and a good rapport with both of us. After two or three joint sessions she told us that she always advises her couples clients to have individual counseling as well. She said that she would see me, and referred my ex to a colleague.
When I arrived for my first individual session the first words out of her mouth were "So, Ex is REALLY f-cked up and it's going to take him years and a lot of work - if he even chooses to do the work - to get healthy. What are you going to do to protect you and your baby?"
Suddenly months of inadequacy, confusion and gaslighting evaporated and I immediately responded with "Get a divorce."
That moment was a huge turning point in my life. Even now, almost 10 years later, I am hugely grateful to that counselor for cutting through the typical passive "and how do you feel about that?" routine to tell me the truth that I couldn't see but so desperately needed to know.
After five or six sessions I was about to schedule my next appointment when my therapist said she wouldn't continue seeing me because "she should spend her time on patients who have 'real' problems." I didn't see another therapist again for, like, 15 years.
So Shocking, It Stung
Not a psychologist. But one session with my therapist I'll never forget.
I was having a really hard day and ended up having some painful memories involving food in my childhood come up (diagnosed bulimic) and it was the first time I'd admitted any form of trauma to her. She sat there silent while I cried and told her everything and she only said "I'm so sorry" when I finished. She sounded so sad when she said it. I had never and still have never heard that tone from her any other time. It was the only time I'd admitted to any of those things to anyone, and seeing a professional left speechless kinda stung
Don't Take On Other People's Problems
Let me preface by saying that psychiatrists are the stereotypical engineers of the psych world.
I was telling my psychiatrist about my friend's miscarriage and how upset I was about it. (What made it worse was this pregnancy was the farthest along she had had at the time. Everyone was so excited for them.)
The psychiatrist's response was, "Well, it's their problem, not yours."
I was....a little shocked.
How Dare You?
My psychologist had the nerve to tell me that I make too much money once she found out my salary and benefits. She couldn't get over the fact that I make more money than her and she's treating me as a patient.
What A Beginning
First patient ever, first meeting with her. Starting with asking why she's seeking therapy, she starts with ‚Oh I had a dream for years ago and I googled that and maybe I need help and besides I don't like sex. I mean, it's mostly okay, not much fun, but I hate anal, what do you think?' while grinning.
That's all [pathological] and important for a diagnosis for sure, but hell, I wished for a depression oder anxiety for the beginning.
Powers Beyond Your Comprehension
I am a MH worker. I was meeting with one guy for the first time. He was grandiose, which is always kind of fun, in my opinion. While grandiose, people will sometimes claim extraordinary powers, great intelligence, strength, etc. He had been showing me how incredibly high he could jump (not that high) and offering to display feats of strength if I could just give him some heavy stuff to lift. We were waiting for his treatment team to show up and maybe do a med adjustment.
Then, things changed. He told me he knew me, or about me. He started telling me things about myself professionally and some surface personal stuff a long-time client might know, but I just met this guy. At first he said he was psychic, but then laughed and said he just knew another client i was working with (a relief). He said he knew her really really well. I saw her at least once a week, had for a couple of years, and I had never heard of him. Also, I knew her to be happily married. I initially shrugged it off. But he pulled out his phone, and played a video with him and my other client giggling in bed! I tried not to look at it, but I could't completely avoid it. He was apparently her secret boyfriend on the side.
Between the details about me from this guy I had only met 30 minutes before and the revelations about my client's secret life I had no clue about... I was thrown. It was a weird hour.2beagles
Here's A Twofer
...Much empathy and positive vibes towards those who have had negative interactions like those described in the thread. Beyond sucks, and I hope you feel like you can give the therapeutic relationship another try in the future if you haven't already...
Light: client who would randomly fart in sessions
Heavy: any medical event, entering a psychotic episode, or dysregulation into violent behaviour. All very intense and times where you just feel horrible for what the person is experiencing. I'd also say that no matter the fact that I've had to ask very directly hundreds of time, I'll never feel anything but like I've been punched in the gut when someone endorses being in danger of taking their life. Such an evocative and somber moment...
Deep Down Aren't We All A Little Broken?
Told mine I had seen him grabbing a drink at the same place I used to go get drunk before covid. He stared at me like I had discovered something NASA was hidding. We had a laugh and he confessed it.
Context: I had huge drinking problems and he told me he didn't like to drink at all
Yeah, You Should Go To The Other Doctor's Office...
My therapist once abruptly ended our session after telling me I needed to go to the ER.
I had been in a car accident the day before and had an undiagnosed concussion that was pretty bad. I was so out of it I didn't even realize I was out of it. He later told me I was talking about inappropriate topics (I was so embarrassed I didn't ask what I specifically talked about–i didn't want to know at that point) and wasn't making much sense. I'm just glad he recognized I was off that day and helped me get to the hospital.
One Light Of Positivity Breaking Through
I'm a clinical psychologist working on the back end of my post doc. I work predominantly with acute adolescent presentations such as chronic self injury or trauma.
I'm so used to the young people I help hating themselves. It hurts a lot inside, but I firmly believe in catharsis through positive regard and validation, so as we do our therapy, I often sprinkle in comments here and there about some of the things about them that I admire, respect, or appreciate. Things like their perseverance, their kindness, or their passion for an interest of theirs...
I'm always so caught off guard when they agree with me or say something nice about themselves that it's really the only time I find myself slightly tearful in session.
I'm always so damn proud of them and it hurts to hear the depths of their self hatred. Those little moments of growth make me feel like it's the first warm day after winter.
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It can be very embarrassing when you pronounce words wrong. Let's face it, the English language is super complicated, especially if you're learning it for the first time. You can't always trust yourself to pronounce things phonetically either because of all the different rules!
Recently, a relative pronounced the word "epitome" like "epi-tome." They were embarrassed when I corrected them. I told them that it wasn't a big deal, though they did note that they love that word, have used it for a long time, and that no one corrected them until that moment...
People told their stories after Redditor adeptwarrior asked the online community,
"What's an 'oh sh*t' moment where you realised you've been doing something the wrong way for years?"
"When I was five..."
"When I was five a Pizza Hut employee told me that the powder on the breadsticks was called fairy dust. Ordered extra fairy dust on my breadsticks until I was around 14 when an employee said ‘do you mean garlic salt?’ It still devastates me to realize how obtuse I was."
Believe it or not, Pizza Hut does refer to the mixture—made of of italian seasoning oregano, basil, garlic, marjoram, and parmesan—as fairy dust.
"When he caught me..."
"It wasn’t very long, but when I was learning to drive my dad was explaining the rule of thumb regarding a safe distance to be behind the car in front of you. I thought it meant to hold your thumb up and if your thumb didn’t cover the entire car you were too close to it."
"When he caught me doing that he asked me what I was doing. When I explained he burst out laughing, then considered it, and concluded it wasn’t a bad idea but perhaps a bit distracting."
Also every other driver thinks youre a super friendly guy or a bit passive agressive.
"We got it delivered..."
"We bought a nice liquor cabinet. We got it delivered and noticed it was a bit shorter than we thought. No biggie. Three years later, we’re moving. Lift up cabinet and these beautiful, ornate, screw on legs wrapped in tape and bubble wrap fall off the bottom. Looks so much better now!"
This is cute—it's like you discovered an entirely brand new piece of furniture!
"When he mentioned..."
"Until last week, when my father in law would made a phone call on his very basic non-touch-screen flip phone he would open the menu, scroll to the phone icon, open it, hit the soft key for contacts, scroll to the person he wanted to call, press ok, then press the soft key to call."
"When he mentioned how he preferred his landline because he could just dial the number, I said "Humour me. Just dial the number and hit the talk button." I've never seen a man so simultaneously grateful and embarrassed."
Aww, this is sweet. It's important to help older folks feel up to speed with technology. He was definitely more grateful than embarrassed.
"Since the dawn of time..."
"Since the dawn of time, I would pick up the silverware and utensils out of their tray in the dishwasher and put them away in their drawers then go back and pick up more out of the dishwasher. Then one day I saw my wife lift the tray out of the dishwasher and I legit stood there with my mouth open."
I did not ask to be attacked like this. Leave me alone!
"I always thought..."
"I always thought eggplant tasted "itchy" like itchy was a flavor, like sour or salty. Fed some to my baby and his face turned red wherever the eggplant touched, and I realized we're both just allergic to eggplant. And itchy isn't a flavor."
This is rather sweet but glad to hear that neither you nor your baby had a more serious reaction!
"Apparently the red ring around the bologna is not supposed to be eaten."
Tell that to just about everyone I grew up with.
"My mom has been pronouncing Massachusetts "Massa Two Sh*ts" for years and no one corrected her because they thought she just had strong feelings about Massachusetts."
I mean, have you heard of "Massholes"? They're a thing.
"Well the name I recorded..."
"Well... This was a few years ago. I was the director of IT for a very large company. I was given a new cellphone and told to setup my voicemail. I don’t know that when I recorded my name it would be played to whomever I leave a voice mail for."
"Well the name I recorded was, “Dooder84 Corporate IT Godddd!!!”
I worked there for 4 years until someone in the hallway referred to me as the “corporate IT GoD!” I was so embarrassed."
Wear it confidently because this type of stuff makes people like you more. They don't feel the need to be fake around you.
"My mom used to..."
"My mom used to refer to me as a “bull in a china shop." Always heard it as “bowl in a china shop." Thinking it was a compliment. At about 22 I hear someone else use the phrase and realized she meant “bull,” not “bowl."
Aww, there goes your mom telling you how dainty and priceless you are again!
Don't be too embarrassed. We all fumble, it's what makes us human. Laugh at yourself because chances are that no one else cares as much as you do.
Have some stories of your own? Tell us more in the comments below!
There are many TV shows with compelling themes and interesting character developments that impressed both critics and audiences alike back in the day.
But some of the shows that once captivated audiences have not aged well, and there are many elements in them that are outdated by today's standards.
Curious to hear examples of these, Redditor lilac_cup asked:
"Which tv series has aged like milk?"
The handling of these controversial TV story lines seem so careless in retrospect.
Addressing Child Abuse
"The very first episode of Hill Street Blues has two cops breaking up a domestic disturbance caused by a woman finding her man f'king her 15yo daughter. The man is told not to be sh**ty, the woman is told to put out more and the child is told not to be so tempting. Then the cops leave, patting themselves on the back for a job well done."
The Teacher's Secret Relationship
"Pretty Little Liars. I think even at the time, the teacher dating his 16 year old student storyline was considered creepy, but in 2022 it’s honestly unbelievable that was ever portrayed in any kind of positive light. Also that her parents didn’t immediately just report him to the police."
"Not the whole series but Ally McBeal. In one episode Ally found out her bf is bi and her reason breaking up with him was she afraid that one day her bf would be attracted to their son."
These reality shows would never fly in a "woke" world.
"There was a reality show on Fox called 'Black. White.' Where they put a white family in blackface and a black family in whiteface."
"Just reading about it, it turns out the white family wasn't even a real family. They were unrelated actors."
"Extreme makeover. I remember watching this show as a kid and being like oh wow they’re fixing all these ugly people with plastic surgery and making them happy. I just think that caused a whole generation to think they could change their body with money. Show lasted like 4 seasons. Couldn’t imagine that show today."
"Secret life of an American teenager."
"My god this show was terrible. My wife’s sister was into it and we ended up watching a lot of it when we were dating. I think they tried to make the banter like Gilmore Girls, but it ended up being the characters repeating their current plots and arcs over and over. I don’t remember the characters at all, but the main character was such a horrible person, and the audience is supposed to root for her."
"The main things I remember about it were the religious girl claiming she killed her dad by having sex with her boyfriend, and apparently you go to Bologna to get bjs."
"You Are What You Eat."
"Host Gillian McKeith (or to use her full medical title, Gillian McKeith) was an absolute quack with an online medical qualification from a Mickey Mouse university. She pretended to be a scientist by being recorded standing around in a lab wearing a white coat, spouted unscientific nonsense that anyone who had done a GCSE in science could see through, and was obsessed with getting people to shit in Tupperware boxes."
"It got cancelled after the final series when you had to have her move in with you. In the last few years she popped up again as a prominent anti-vaxxer once COVID vaccines became available."
These pageant shows glorifying good looks and talent would never be greenlit today.
"Dance moms- used to be entertaining, now all I can see is the psychological effects it must’ve had on those girls."
"Americas Next Top Model has to be #1."
"From all the behind the scenes sh*t that went on in production to what the show actually shows. It’s all just horrendous."
From Ugly To Beautiful
"The Swan, was 2 women who are considered 'ugly ducklings' participating in a pageant against each other after undergoing a three-month transformative process aka having heaps of plastic surgery."
"Right?! How were they allowed to do so many procedures in such a short time while completely isolating these women from their families? Making them diet and exercise while healing from a tummy tuck, breast implants, and veneers?! The 'therapy' sessions were a joke and were just for show while these poor women with low self esteem were preyed upon for entertainment. Just out of a safety and medical prospective…wow."
Judging The Reflection
"Didn't they also not allow the contestants/patients to have mirrors the whole time so they were surprised when they saw themselves? Psychologically having massive changes like that and it being sudden is extremely bad for your brain, you can end up rejecting the reflection because it's not 'you.'"
As audiences evolve, so does the writing and development of all forms of entertainment.
But because the changes are gradual, it is jarring when looking back and noticing how offensive and isolating some of these shows can be.
Times sure have changed in the world of entertainment–mostly for the better.
After having grown up inside the protective environment that was your childhood home, the inevitable time to leave and carve out your own path without a safety net can be terrifying.
Emotions can vary–with some people itching to leave their trappings while others terrified of adulting in the real world.
Curious to hear experiences from strangers online, Redditor WallStreetDoesntBet asked:
"People who moved out of the parent’s house before 30, how?"
Most people can't afford to live on their own.
Roommate Is Key
"yeah this exactly. I've never lived by myself, was roommates until I got a serious girlfriend and now fiance. There's exactly 0% chance of me being in the same position I'm in financially if I had been paying full rent all those years."
Not A Care In The World
"I was 17, we had 4 of us in a ghetto 2bd apt (bunkbeds) we had a beer bong on a lanyard screwed to the ceiling. We'd have keggers, party's every weekend and always had randoms crashing on the floor. Could barely afford to feed myself and pay bills but still not a worry in the world and it was the best time of my life."
One inconvenience shared by many was the sacrifice of a good, home-cooked meal.
Change Of Scenery
"Just needed a little R&R."
"Roommates and Ramen."
The "Wild" Years
"This, lol. I was kicked out at 16 and after couch-surfing for a few months I moved into a studio apartment with 4 other people."
"When I say we were poor, I mean poor - most of us didn’t have jobs. I lived off the worst of the worst food. Knockoff ramen. Dollar store canned veg. Rice and terrible year old pasta."
"It was a wild few years."
Rice For Life
"Or rice. I lived off rice for a full year. Fancied it up by adding some salsa, and then extra fancy by also adding ranch dressing."
"Those were hard times."
Having work definitely makes things easier.
Saving Up To Leave
"Started working while I was in school. Got out as soon as I could."
Not Much Fanfare
"Yep, moved out for college in 2006. Came back for the summer in 2007, but thereafter I got an internship so I just stayed in the city. Got a job at the same place after I graduated."
"It was never some big moment for me (my parents are fine, just annoying), just a natural progression for me."
Building A Life
"At 18. Worked in construction. Lived on a couch with 6 buddies in one house paying for college. Bought cheap land during the recession. Then built my own house."
Not moving out by choice seemed to be a common shared experience.
High Turnover Rate
"Got kicked out at 14. Finished high school sleeping on friends couches while serving tables. Had a ton of roommates for the next 10 years. At any given time I was living with like 3 or 4 people, it was never boring haha"
"I am hearing that so many people are actually kicked out in the really young age is well."
"But i am not getting that why parents are so tough because in my country they try to keep them under their wings."
"My friends parents were going to kick him out immediately after he graduated high school simply because 'That's what their parents did when they were his age.' His Dad fully expected him to go out at 18 and buy a house because 'he was able to.'"
"Then his Dad got pissed when my friend did not buy a house and went to live with his uncle instead. Even after his uncle broke down the whole 'Your mortgage is $2200/month with taxes and you expect your son, who works part time at $7.25 an hour to afford a mortgage? With no credit history?'"
"Some parents do it out of tough love. Some parents do it because they shouldn't have had children. Some parents still think the world is the same as it was in the 70s-80s and think minimum wage part time employees can thrive."
"My parents didn't kick me out, but there was definitely an expectation for me to be moved out and financially independent at 18. My mother walked into a job as a radio DJ at the age of 18 and then became a journalist with only a high school education a few years later (early 1970s), so she had this expectation that I could do the same. The thought of me being able to do anything like that in the 2000s was laughable."
I moved out of my parents' house because I booked my first professional gig on a cruise ship.
It couldn't have worked out better. I was paid to perform on board in the shows while my rent was already taken care of since I lived and worked on the ship.
I packed one suitcase and traveled the world doing what I loved for about two years. It was the best way to transition into an exciting new chapter in my adolescent life.
What's your moving out story?
I may not be popular for saying this, but I think comedy is the best form of entertainment.
However, it’s not always easy to find great comedy.
There are lots of comedians who make me smile or even make me laugh at a joke or two. Yet, it’s really hard to find a comedian who can keep me laughing through their whole set.
If you’re having trouble finding those kinds of comedians, or are just ready to find a new comedian to enjoy, Redditors are here to help.
Probably hoping to find a great comedian themself, Redditor Plastic_Ad_6179 asked:
"Who's the best comedian of all time in your opinion?"
"For many reasons, but mainly for being the undisputed champion of the world in...Carrot In A Box:"
"What a HUGE talent. Luckily he left a lot of great footage. Terrible loss."
"The comedians comedian"
"Honorable mention to Bill Burr."
"When I turned 21, my mom took me to Vegas. We saw Carlin perform and we laughed solidly for 90 minutes. I don’t remember any of the jokes, but I have never laughed like that since. He was a true master of the art."
"Carlin is the only correct answer. Nobody will ever touch that level of wit, wordplay, satire, and social commentary."
"I went to a Mike Birbiglia show at Zanies in Nashville back in 2008. Guy killed…got up on stage, told 1 story. Took him 90 minutes to get through that story. The whole time, he’s veering off on tangents that seemed completely natural, conversational even. Each tangent was a tiny hilarious story itself. The show seemed so smooth and flowed so naturally, that I could hardly believe it was written. It was masterful. Sure, he doesn’t tell jokes that leave you breathless with laughter, but he does tell jokes that get 90% of the way there with such consistency that I’m actually more impressed with that than the former."
"In terms of:"
- "Being at the top of his game for a long period of time"
- "Being perfect at timing and execution"
- "Understanding comedy to a degree that other comedians notice and respect"
- "Being clever and witty on the spot"
- "Having memorable jokes and killer standup routines"
"My favorite story about Norm MacDonald I've heard is that when he was coming up if he bombed he'd wait in the back of the club after the show to shake everyone's hand in their way out. If he killed he wouldn't. What a legend."
"If you asked a group of comedians who their favorite comedian is I'd bet Norm would be near the top of the list. So much of his material was a deconstruction of comedy itself. If Norm MacDonald tells you a bad joke, and you laugh, is it still a bad joke? Why is it funny? Are you laughing at him or is he laughing at you?"
"Mitch Hedberg. RIP."
"I used to love that guy. I still do but I used to too."
""I got in an argument with a girlfriend inside of a tent. That’s a bad place for an argument, because I tried to walk out, and had to slam the flap.""
""F**k you, zzzzzzzzzzip""
"Monty Python, as a group."
"I don't think there's been a single more influential comedy act than Flying Circus."
"I agree with it just because it’s one of the few non-American mentions here. People seriously think that humor ends on American Stand Up and television…"
"Also Monty Python is ALWAYS funny"
"Live on Broadway stands as one of the most memorable things I have ever watched."
"Idk why he isn’t higher on this list or mentioned more often. Robin Williams had absolutely insane improv skills. Watch the episode of Who’s Line with him as the guest star, the rest of the cast can’t keep it together."
"Scrolled this far to find a female comedian! Love Lucille Ball"
"I saw I Love Lucy was streaming a couple months ago. Having watched it as a kid, I figured I’d put it on for a nostalgic chuckle. I was not ready for that show to be so, so funny—I nearly passed out I was laughing so hard."
"She was a comedic genius."
"Rowan Atkinson (John Cleese closely second)"
"Atkinson is such an amazing physical comedian that it’s basically overlooked that he’s a first-rate stand-up, as well."
"He saved SNL. They wouldn't be on air today were it not for Murphy"
"Goat of comedy"
Comedy may not be everyone’s favorite form of entertainment, but it is a can’t miss, so long as the comedian in question is a good one.
Luckily, we’ve got some great suggestions above.