Ninety percent of the time, our children are what we make them. If you're a parent with an active role in your child's life regardless of your marital status you're going to inevitably rub off on them. Now you hope for that best, that they follow your more appealing traits and not your Dr. Hyde mentalities, but life and child rearing isn't a perfect science. And we all tend to forget.... they are always watching.

Redditor u/ADyingInfadel wanted all the divorcees out there to fess up a few secrets about their kids that they aren't crazy about....

Divorced parents of Reddit, what is something your ex spouse did, that your kids does too, that you hate?


Sticky Fingers Jr....

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Take money from my wallet secretly. NerdyishGuy

You should get that ultra violet light ink/powder stuff that you can put on your wallet so that rather than wonder if they've done it and feel guilty about wondering if your kids have stolen from you, you can just check their hands with a UV torch, tell them they are terrible people and give them coal for Xmas.

It may seem harsh, but it's far harsher to let your kids grow up to be users. Se7enworlds

Bad Words. 

They say "acrosst." No idea where that "t" comes from but it needs to die. onejdc

Tonal Crap. 

The contempt in their voices when they talked to me. I didn't realize just how much they had picked it up from him, until he left. It was hurtful to me, but I also realized that it wasn't good for them to grow up thinking that was an acceptable way to treat people, *especially* people you loved.

It took a bit of work - me correcting their tone and words in a loving but firm way. Telling them "it hurts my feelings when you talk to me like that, I don't appreciate it. I speak kindly and respectfully to you, and I expect the same." I know it sounds like a weird script, but I needed that to keep from having the emotional reaction that their father brought out in me.

I didn't want to fall in to this awful thing where I was mad at my kids for being like their dad, but I also didn't want to be told I was a piece of crap all the time either, by tone or the actual words.

It's been several years and it really didn't take that long to help them change it. They are much older now and of course there were normal teenager things that are frustrating for all parents, but thankfully they don't talk down to me anymore. NerdySciFiChick

So... the basics...

Lie, cheat, and steal. hardstripe

Everybody's doing it. Reddit

Viva la Raza? swampy13

No. More. TOWEEEEELLLLSSSS!!!

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As the kid- I wasn't allowed to use a towel to dry my glasses after cleaning them, because that's what my father's family did. I had to use a tissue. contractjunkie

Incorrigible. 

My former brother in law is a vapid and materialistic individual, whenever my oldest nephew is returned to my side of the family he is an incorrigible little fool for a few days. My niece is depressed and the youngest nephew is the wisest of them all and essentially ignores his father. Their father isn't a bad guy, he just never grew up past 23 and that is not really a good trait when you are trying to raise teenagers. Leucippus1Leucippus1

2 boys. 

2 boys. One is extra sensitive like his father. I'm not talking about sensitive like "this is a sad movie". I'm talking sensitive like "What do you mean you don't like this hat? I'm never speaking to you again! Why do you hate me????" Bubbysgrl

Be Humble. 

My ex used to refer to his family's possessions as his. The business his parents owned was his. Ex FIL collected antique cars which my ex claimed he owned. On and on about his house in X, his boat, his (insert valuable object her). He didn't purchase any of the fine things his parents owned but had no problem proclaiming himself the owner.

One of my daughters picked up the habit. Drives me nuts to hear her brag about her stuff!! peace-love-and-paws

Kid is 8.....

Has a crazy irrational temper and likes to blame everyone else for his issues... like father like son. Kid is 8. Jeez. Don't worry, he's making progress in therapy, unlike his father. ayoungcmt

Thank Yourselves.

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As a kid of divorced parents:

I really hate it when I get compared to one of my parents by the other. Damn you made me yourself!! Of course I look and act like you. 2goof_4u

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