People With Disabilities Reveal The Stupidest Thing Someone Has Said To Them

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Think before you speak please.

Disabled does not mean incapable or lacking. So everyone who thinks otherwise needs to check themselves real quick. Disabled people are just as capable as the rest of us when it comes to living a fulfilled, successful life. Listen to the old saying.... "If you have nothing nice to say then.... SHUT THE HELL UP!"

Redditor u/AutisticHelpsYou wanted to hear from everyone disabled and non about the obnoxious things said to those living with disability by asking.... Disabled and mentally ill people of Reddit; what is the stupidest thing someone has said to you about it?


Not directly to me....

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Not directly to me, but to my husband... After our son was born, my depression got 10x worse. My husband's parents told him I wasn't allowed back to their house until I was "normal again". Joke's on them, I've had clinical depression for 20 years so it ain't going away anytime soon. And I don't want to go back to their house anyways, so no loss on my part. Plus that threat totally backfired on them, since my husband hasn't spoken to his parents since the day they made it almost 3 years ago. vettech87

Be Lucky....

I've been told multiple times that I'm "lucky" because I can't work. Yeah, because constant pain, being nauseous and unable to eat, shitting six+ times a day despite barely eating, being broke and a burden on my parents at 37, and having all my hopes and dreams stolen from me is a fucking carnival. I hope that karma will "bless" these people and they can see how much fun it is. Throne-Eins

No dear, no you aren't.

"Like, oh my god, I am so ADHD I totally forgot to bring my phone, but I've got OCD I can't just not check twitter every 10 minutes."

No dear, no you aren't. ChipNoir

"well just get over it"

Was having a stupid amount of anxiety so I took a short leave to go to my home town. My dad is not a smart man book wise and asked why I was home. Told him I was just feeling anxious and his response was "well just get over it" and walked away. captainstan

Back Up.

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I helped someone who was presumably paralyzed from the neck down get a bottle of sparkling lemonade, and this fool comes up to me and says 'oh don't help him, he just wants attention, nobody actually gets like that.' Reddit

So Popular. 

"You're so nice and happy, how are you depressed?"

"you have such good grades how do you have adhd"

my two most popular ones. Decent_Sauce

Oi...

Oi...

This here's a doozy.

On this very website, I had someone tell me I "Couldn't be all that autistic" if I wasn't miserable and self-loathing. In general, I've received a surprising amount of pushback for trying to convince people that being autistic is not a curse.

In everyday life, I've had people ask me if I really believe my diagnosis, seen comments all over Facebook about how we don't have empathy, I had a friend who refused to stop calling me disabled no matter how many times I asked her to, had teachers in my younger school days tell me that I'd never make it to college for no real good reason, all sorts of stuff.

I'm kind of lucky too. My family was on my side for a lot of my childhood. CaughttheDarkness

"You're too young for that!"

"You're too young for that!" or "That will be so much worse when you're older. Enjoy your hobbies now"

I have rheumatoid arthritis, diagnosed at 24. Juvenile arthritis diagnosis at 10. I hurt nearly all the time. I also knit. I know someday I may not be able to knit, I really don't need reminding I may lose something I love. RA does not care what age I am, and just being old does not make you a damn expert, Barbara. It's always some old person telling me to enjoy things now like now doesn't hurt too. GloInTheDarkUnicorn

Contagious. 

Grade 6 a teacher asked if my Spina Bifida was contagious. (It's a birth defect that involves a screwed up spine for all who don't know what it is)

Yeah lady, if I lick you you'll get nerve damage.

They also tried to put me into special Ed because of my "condition" despite the aptitude tests I was given all coming back well above my grade level.

Same school told my mother I couldn't read in grade 4 despite the fact I was a bookworm and reading Harry Potter books. O_o

Im 100% convinced they were trying to get me into their "special program" for extra funding. Missymay2002

You're sane....

"You're probably not actually bipolar, depression is more common. If you google the DSM criteria for bipolar you'll see that you don't have it. I think we should focus on treating anxiety, that's what will really ruin your life." - a therapist to me, after reading the psychiatrists report confirming my bipolar type 2 diagnosis. I don't have anxiety. Reddit

Shut up Ashley!

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I was diagnosed with PTSD at 15, and I'm currently 18. A constant reaction I get is, "But you're too young to have that!"

Thanks Ashley, you're too young to have 3 kids but look where we are. BihexualBun

Stand Still so I can run you over! 

From a therapist : "I'm surprised you haven't tried to kill yourself before now." Thanks, that's encouraging that even you think my life sucks so much I should be suicidal.

I use a wheelchair due to a genetic disorder (mitochondrial disease). I have been asked more than once "Can you have kids if you wanted to? Like does it work? Is it normal?" That's getting all up in my business without even buying me dinner first!

I am an adult with all my cognitive abilities, but I use a wheelchair. While waiting for the bus at the mall this women comes up to me, pats me on the head, and asks in a loud and overly simple voice "where's your mommy at?"

More than once I have been asked "do you really need a wheelchair?" Nope, just lazy. Too many times "if only you had more faith, you'd be healed." Right. That's the cause, not my DNA but lack of faith. one_sock_wonder_

Great things come in small packages....

I have achondroplastic dwarfism. I had a woman once ask me, after I told her I was getting driving lessons "Do you need a smaller engine to drive?"

Not a smaller car (which makes... some sense) a smaller engine. What.

Also one dude online insisted I was lying about being a dwarf because "You wouldn't be able to type properly, let alone do programming." Dwarfs have functional fingers mate. Shocking, I know. Usidore_

Eat a candy dear.

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"You don't have an eating disorder, you ate a piece of candy and anorexics don't eat sweets." Said to me by a nutritionist after I gave her my food log for the week. jayrambling

Throat Punch Her! 

My sister actually said this to me, and it cut me to the bone. We were talking how she needs to learn to let things go and use her head a bit more and stop acting on her emotional gut reaction for everything:

"You're autistic, you don't have emotions so you wouldn't understand!" blast335

It's YOUR behavior that's a problem! 

Not me but my son is. A lady once said "he's well behaved for a retard." I swear to god, I have never wanted to hit someone so bad in my whole life. Anberlin412

Holy s**t. I admire your strength in not handing her her butt in like 15 different ways. ChaoticForkingGood

YOU'RE gonna need crutches soon! 

My mum has Multiple Sclerosis. Her neurologist told her 'you've been on this medication for a while, that's a concern, medication shouldn't be used as a crutch.'

Except for the bit where that specific medication is literally a preventative?? Yes she's been on it for 20 years. But also note that her MS has only marginally progressed in those same 20 years?? Hmmmm maybe those two things could possibly be related??

She read him the riot act, he eventually admitted he shouldn't have said that. Better to use the medication as a crutch than literally be on crutches which is where she could well be by now. AllyRose39

Eat to Live.

My dad clamped a hand on my shoulder and pointed around the hotel lawn and said, "Do you see how many fat people there are? What does that tell you? In America, there's so much food you'll get obese before you starve to death. So stop worrying about eating."

I have reactive hypoglycemia and was trying to warn him that my sugar levels were crashing and we had about 20 minutes before things got scary. Because HE had the meal tickets and I couldn't get food without mine. _Green_Kyanite_

DUH!

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"Depression... it's all in your head." Well duh. JesterFX

Or "cheer up." Yeah, thanks. Problem solved. tanew231

Didn't think of that! 

"Can't you just be normal?" No, I literally cannot. That's the whole point. Bionicjoker

Just sigh, and go "I wish..." philipptheCat_new

Can I get a cure for you?

"Vaccines cause autism. And autism is a disease that needs a cure." Granted i would love to not have autism. But that's not what a disease is. highcaliberwit

Even if it was a disease, how does this person think we'll prevent it lol. moronicuniform

I wish it upon you then.... 

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(For an eating disorder)

"Wow, you're so lucky! I wish I had that problem! Ha ha ha!"

ImeanIalmostdiedbutyeahokayhaha...... aaiko42

It's so hard for me to bite my tongue and be nice because usually the people that say that are nice but just so misinformed. If they SERIOUSLY believe that starving yourself is better than having some chub, then you absolutely have a problem.

I always try to preach that all body types are beautiful and that healthy is beautiful, but my thoughts are always dismissed because, "oh, you don't get it. You're skinny." aaiko42

Disease is Gender Non-Conforming Fool....

"You can't be autistic, you're a girl!"

…Wow. I wasn't aware that having ovaries precluded my brain from being wired like a blind Amish dude tried to build a computer from scratch.

Second best was "but you don't look autistic! You look normal!" I've known you five minutes, Karen. These things take time. But I already know you're a terrible person. budlejari

Just be calm... 

"You don't have panic attacks," as I was having a panic attack. ezreading

My narcissist mother tries to argue me out of anxious moments. Literally last night she started overwhelming me with things about my new job and I had to tell her to please stop, I was really anxious about it. She kept trying to "well just one more--" the subject and I had to tell her five times I was going to hang up if she didn't let it go. She finally changed topics and then kept trying to come back to it. She loves to tell me I'm too sensitive and I need to let people talk... "Hey lady, how about you respect my mental health condition and just let it the f**k go???"

The worst thing is she taught psych for fifteen years, you'd think she'd actually have an inkling of an idea how to de-escalate or at least accept her daughter's issues. When I was 22 she actually refused to allow me to go therapy but nope- "How would it look if MY daughter was in therapy?"

At least I can treat and manage my GAD and anxiety. Narcissists won't ever recognize their problems to begin with. BridgetteBane

Be a Zombie....

I don't have an eating disorder, but it's very hard for me to gain weight. A couple of years ago, I really had to put in effort to stay above 60 kg (132 lbs) while I'm 1m87 (6 ft 1). People always told me "I wish I could eat like you without gaining weight" and just laugh when I told them that, whenever I get sick, I look like a zombie and I lose even more weight. People always assume that being fat is the only weight problem people can experience. And pretty much laugh in your face when you tell them otherwise because they don't believe you. ISureDoLikePickles

Just kill me now! 

I had an illness where I could not eat fat or drink alcohol.

A frequent comment from people when they learned this was: "I'd kill myself if I couldn't eat cheese!"

And actually, yes, that's what a lot of people with the condition do. It's chronic pancreatitis. Lilac1001

When are you gonna grow a brain?! 

Boss with loud, non local, very distinguishable accent, once loudly BOOMED at me in changing rooms at work. At shift start time. The most crowded time of day in there. "So! When are you finally gonna be better from that medical condition of yours?!"

Place went silent. I was having a hard time at the time and snapped back. Very very not like me.

"Well considering its progressive and degenerative and I'm going to end up in a wheelchair. That'll be never. But thank you for reminding me and setting me up for an amazing day" I said. Then exited the room. Was a bundle of nerves after that. But colleagues came and told me they were shocked what she'd said and didn't blame me for my stunned response. It was never spoke of by the boss. TazzMoo

You First! 

Was having a stupid amount of anxiety so I took a short leave to go to my home town. My dad is not a smart man book wise and asked why I was home. Told him I was just feeling anxious and his response was "well just get over it" and walked away. captainstan

Damn Hippies!

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"Why don't you try using essential oils." (instead of my antipsychotics) healthierlurker

Ah yes - like the person who suggested reiki for my brain tumor. shinyhappycat

I Promise to take you with Me! 

I have Bi Polar Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and PTSD.

Once a psychiatrist told me I wasn't really that depressed and when I told him I was having extremely strong suicidal ideations and I was fearful I would attempt suicide he told me "Lets not make promises we can't keep."

Yeah I ended up trying to kill myself. lil_Big_G

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If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/

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