When was the last time you had sex?
Not to make people think about their sex lives (or lack thereof) during a global pandemic... but let me continue.
When was the last time you made love?
You might have different answers for both of these questions, come to think of it. Quite a few people draw a line between the two.
We heard their opinions after Redditor InternationalFun485 asked the online community,
"What is the difference to you between sex and making love?"
"Sex is about..."
"Sex is about the act, making love is about the person."
AbeForman
This is a pretty quick and easy way to put it – but can't sex (or the act) also be just as much about the person?
"My wife and I..."
"My wife and I generally refer to any sexual act between each other as making love, whether it's tender, rough, dirty whatever. If we refer to past sexual acts with other partners we often call it f*cking, because the emotional connection wasn't there."
MischiefStudio
The parameters certainly start to look more different to a lot of people once they have a long-term and successful relationship?
"Making love..."
"Making love is when you're trying to f*ck a person's soul."
Panhead09
Awww, sweet, sweet poetry.
"The level..."
"The level of intense emotions you feel, putting your partner's wants first before yours and vice versa."
oRideofLife
Give and take – as they say.
"Sex [equals]..."
"Sex = fulfilling a primal, instinctual need. Making love = fulfilling an emotional, spiritual need."
mediaG33K
A succinct way to put it!
"Senses are over the top..."
"You can have sex with anyone. Making love in the other hand is when both of you are really feeling each other. Senses are over the top, your heart is pounding hard and you can’t stop thinking about the person you having sex with."
ordanarydude
How dare you bring back such pleasant memories!
"You can have sex without..."
"You can have sex without a emotional connection but you can’t truly make love without having a true connection."
Alert-Cranberry691
It seems a lot of people, probably most people, would agree with this assessment.
"I've always hated the expression..."
"I’ve always hated the expression making love.' I don't know why, I’m a pretty emotional and romantic person, but it skeeves me out. I know you love me, so f*ck me about it."
YaBoyfriendKeefa
You almost had us in the first half there, not gonna lie.
"Sex is just..."
"Sex is just the physical part. Making love is the whole experience with foreplay and cuddling, and you don't want to leave when it's over. You have to be in love to make love."
BlackLetterLies
This is fair... which begs the question – when was the last time you were in love?
"The biggest difference to me..."
"The biggest difference to me is passion and romance. Do you actually like the person or are you just having sex?"
The_UNLUCKY7
Hey, hey, hey...
No need to keep us at night, okay?
It seems there is somewhat of a general consensus here, no?
Ask your partner – what do they have to say? The answer might surprise you... or excite you.
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Someone once said that you're not really "old" until you stop playing - stop making the little choices for joy and fun in your daily life.
Making that choice for little bits of silly is something people are starting to proudly embrace.
Reddit user RepresentativeFast97 asked:
"To all the adults. What is one childish thing you still do to this day?"
Cheers to the childish ones, may you stay forever young ... and forever laughing at fart jokes.
Farts Are Funny
"I'm not sure if it's childish or just being a man, but I will never fail to laugh at a good fart joke."
-fanofclutch
"There was this one time, late at night before going to bed I was talking to my dad about some benign thing and for absolutely no reason he just let one rip."
"Opposite end of the room dead in the face while I'm talking, blasting and it straight up stun locked me."
"He wasn't even phased asked me 'What's wrong bud?' and I still laugh when thinking back on it."
-Verunum
The Darkness
"Run away from the darkness when I turn off lights"
-ilovedtransyIvania
"Run one all fours up the stairs while you're doing it to be faster"
-Z4mb0ni
"And jump on the bed when you turn the light switch off on the wall. That way, whatever is underneath can't grab your feet"
-User Deleted
Splash
"When it rains heavily for a few days, our backyard walkway floods."
"I like to put on my rubber boots, my raincoat, grab an umbrella and stomp away in the puddles. I'm 65."
-invalidpassword
"You are my inspiration. Im 18 and hope I will never grow up."
-Oliver_Queen_4587
X-Games in Aisle 3
"I still stand on the back of the shopping cart and kick-scoot it like a scooter up and down the aisles while grocery shopping. I’m nearly 50 years old."
-VictorBlimpmuscle
"Same here."
"I find Costco carts, while requiring more effort to get going, carry a lot of momentum."
"Aldi carts are notably in good shape due to getting returned so often."
"Giant Eagle carts are hit and miss, lots of wobble-wheels unfortunately."
-LeonardGhostal
That Food Was Bomb
"I still open the microwave before the bomb goes off."
-robbini3
"I never understood why I open the microwave at 1 sec left until now lol."
-BigWingWangKen
Blankie
"I had a comfort blanket as a kid, sometimes the lining of a coat pocket feels just like it so I walk around rubbing it like a comfort blanket."
-Targetmissed
"32 and I don’t go anywhere in the house or overnight without my super adult comfort blanket"
-dejapasstime
"My mom is 48 and still sleeps with a baby blanket her parents got her"
-Boneal171
Chocolate Milk
"I drink chocolate milk at restaurants."
"When asked if I seriously just ordered chocolate milk, I respond with 'you’re god damned right I did.'"
-DBM
"We had a buffet in our area that had chocolate milk."
"There were more adults than children who drank it."
-nauticalrangale
"Chocolate milk is delicious and that's the glorious thing about being adults. We can drink as much of it as we damn well please."
-Concerned-Pineapple
Puppy Love
"I'm a 53 year old man. I just went up to my dog laying on the couch and smooshed my face into her fur and said:"
" 'Shmoopy Smoopy Poopy? Are you a SHHHmoopy poo? Who made you so fluffy? Why you fluffy bum? YOU SO FLUFF BUM BUM SMOOGLY BOOGLY!' "
"...while my wife looked on an shook her head."
-ClownfishSoup
Rhyme And Reason
"36 here, and still sing the alphabet (when I need to, not just randomly) and sometimes say the rabbit rhyme when tying my shoes lol"
-Mike_TKE
"I relate with the alphabet singing, and similarly I sing a rhyme in my head to remember which months have 30 days and which have ones have 31 days."
-Laleena_
"I still do the "righty tighty, lefty loosey" thing when working with tools."
-Gladix
"Righty Tighty/Lefty Loosey is the best way!"
"I'm a medical professional on a HIGHLY specialized team working with very complicated equipment on a VERY sick child."
"Trouble shooting a difficult problem, I say out loud to a room of probably 7 specialists: 'Okay Guys, so righty tighty.... we're going to do A, B, and C thing to the right'. "
"No one questioned the righty tighty comment! Everyone gets it!"
-JustGenericName
Impulse Speed
"I indulge in my impulses."
"Wanna walk on that garden wall like it's a balance beam? Wanna take my shoes off? Want to sing loudly?"
"Restraint is something I learned for adulthood, then promptly discarded. It doesn't suit me."
-InimitableMe
"I too have ADHD"
-Iron_physik
Kids having all the fun is whack.
Reclaim childishness. It's good for you!
As for my confession - everything! Cartoons, coloring, dance breaks, little songs, toys and games, bubbles ... I'm not sure I ever outgrew any of those things.
I, too, have ADHD.
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The world is a beautiful place. From natural scenery like the Himalayan Mountains in Asia to the appearance of the Aurora Borealis at various times, awe-inspiring sights are never too hard to find.
Every country can boast a few different areas of jaw-dropping beauty. Some offer more gorgeous scenery than others. It makes us wonder, what makes one country more beautiful than another?
Is it the variety and sheer number of beautiful sights or is it the magnificence of one area? And what is the prettiest country in the world?
Curious to find out, Redditor Dream4Cats asked:
"In your opinion, whats the prettiest country?"
Switzerland
"Since I moved to Switzerland, I've always found the amount of beauty in this country to be borderline upsetting"
– Hour_Prune_225
"Prettiest country I've ever seen is Switzerland. Taking a train through that country is like traveling through a bunch of postcards that have been stitched together. It's f*cking beautiful."
– The_Mikest
Norway
"I was in norway 3 years ago. It was just... Beautiful. Definitly it is my fav. Country with france (corisca)"
– Dream4Cats
"I was playing Geoguessr with a group and this guy from Norway was very much not impressed by a beautiful landscape we found somewhere, because it just looked normal to him. Like what? Do you even see these trees and this lake and the mountains in the distance? Does it mean nothing to you xD"
– Roozyj
"Norway is so beautiful you can't take it..."
– EnvironmentOk5183
Japan
"Japan in springtime"
– PhantomFartz76
"Japan in the fall is equally as stunning. The changing of the leaves is picturesque anywhere you go here."
– thespicyroot
"Japan, cherry blossoms"
– plscallmeRain
The United States (Talk About Diversity)
"If you're talking about any whole country, I would have to say the United States. Every conceivable type of landscape is here. Grasslands, mountain ranges, canyons, deserts, huge cityscapes, Arctic, massive forests, lakes and so much more."
– DARKxASSASSIN29
"USA- the diversity of natural beauty is hard to match anywhere else."
"Yes there are more spectacular wetlands, beaches, snowy peaks, deserts, ancient forests, rivers and natural springs - but there are not many countries which have all of these"
– GoodAndBluts
"The United States. Name a biome or a natural feature and we have it, plus things no where else has."
– twitch_delta_blues
Greece
"All of the Mediterranean countries from all 3 continents ( Asia, Europe and Africa) so diverse and rich, so many different cultures and languages in such a small area. Croatia, Lebanon, Turkey, Egypt, Greece, Italy, Spain, Portugal, Malta, France"
– User Deleted
"I completely agree. I went on a cruise that visited Greece and Italy. It was absolutely gorgeous. Favorite places I’ve ever been."
– bustylusciouslady
"love all those greek islands with the beautiful sea around!"
– Flunderpudding
Italy
"I would say Italy (if we're talking about European countries that I've been too). The villages, landscape, the Tirol, the coastlines, historical ruins... every type of gorgeous (not to mention the people, food and even dare I say it, clothes)."
– TIL_eulenspiegel
"Italy is the most beautiful country by far. It combines alps and mediterranean and it contains multiple layers of historical civilizations."
– Redararis
"Italy—so much ecological diversity"
– pconti279
Scotland
"I have only been to Scotland once but it was really beautiful and I enjoyed it. Love the green, the lochs and all the layers of clouds in the Highlands."
– soline
"The fact I went to a city in Scotland and there was just casually a mountain/possibly just huge hill basically right next to it blew my gd mind."
– EllieC130
"To me it’s got to be Scotland. I went to Edinburgh for vacation once and the natures that surrounds you is so amazing. The small towns were quite and nice and the main city was so beautiful when it rained."
– Koolaidbutasolid
New Zealand
"New Zealand"
– 14kee
"This is the only correct answer"
– Azonic
"New Zealand. Maybe this is just me coming from Australia where most of our native flora is dry, but NZ is the complete opposite. So luscious and green in many areas."
– ThrowRARAw
"We spent a couple of weeks driving around New Zealand’s South Island. It was absolutely stunning."
– mateoRH
Ireland
"Ireland, by far. So green. As someone who loves just driving around in a car with the family, some of the scenery is truly beautiful. You don't even need to go to those hot tourist spots like Giant's Causeway."
– Northiree
"Northern Ireland. Go outside Belfast and you have Giant's Causeway, beaches, Mourne mountains, beautiful green fields, some amazing forestry."
– User Deleted
"Ireland is fantastic. My borther in law lives in county cork and we visited him a few years ago. Rented a car in dublin airport and first off saw the highest waterfall in ireland on the way to cc. Then next day saw the cliffs on the south coast and kinsale. Such a great place to visit! We hope to visit end of the year again."
– Adayuus
Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder
"Every country has a beauty of its own in some way shape or form. I don’t think there is one that is better than another."
– Ranos131
"This is a tough one. Every country has beautiful places."
– SwordfishNo4689
"Every country has beauty to it, you just have to know where to look"
– signaturefox2013
Obviously, the responses to this question were plentiful and diverse. However, all of the answers were valid.
In the end, it doesn't really matter what the prettiest country is. We can all be happy knowing that there is seemingly endless beauty in this world.
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There are just some people who always trigger the spidey senses.
The problem is that we don't trust our instincts enough.
How many people have just left you feeling... ill at ease?
Probably more than we care to admit.
We don't want to be wrong about someone.
That is the main problem. Then we'd be embarrassed.
That feeling changes to relief when we see them on the news or a Dateline NBC episode.
Redditor Lucky_Solution7999 wanted to hear about the people who inexplicably rubbed us the wrong way. They asked:
"Hey reddit, what is one time you knew something was off about someone but couldn't prove it?"
When I was doing online "love" browsing a bunch, I was always good about being in tune to my icky feelings.
the guitarist...
"My buddy and the guitarist in my band started dating this girl we were on the same forum with. I raised concerns based on some red flags she posted, but everybody in my band said I was overreacting."
"Cut to about a year later. The girlfriend cheats on him and gets pregnant. When my friend goes to confront her about it, she has the baby’s daddy and five of his friends jump him and beat him into hospitalization. Hate to say I told you so, but…"
gothdaddi
A Guy
"I hired a guy a long time ago and worked with him for years. Very talented and smart, plus a nice guy. At some point, he started making super strange decisions. Kinda impulsive, very odd stuff (asking if he can invite his girlfriend to a staff meeting, for instance). A lot of crap that didn’t make any sense. He got hired to a better job and I lost touch."
"A few months later, he died of a large number of brain tumors. The timeline his girlfriend-turned-wife offered matched up with what we’d been noticing for years. I look back in the arguments and realize there’s no way I could have known. At the same time, that’s kinda the point: you really can’t know what’s going on with someone, so act accordingly."
patricksaurus
psycho
"My parents had a close friend when I was pretty young, maybe between 8 and 10 years old? He came over a lot, to drink or shoot guns with my dad, but I didn’t like him one bit. He just gave me a bad feeling. I remember sticking my tongue out at him every time his back was to me. Never said anything to my parents though, I just stayed away when he was over."
"My mom ended up hiring him to work at the pawn shop she ran, and after he started things went missing. I don’t remember how they figured out he was stealing but he had a gallon ziplock FILLED with jewelry. The cops tried to convince the owner not to press charges (since he got the jewelry back) but the owner went through with it."
"As soon as they booked him, his finger prints came back from an unsolved double homicide- he had brutally murdered an elderly couple when they came home mid-robbery. After he killed him, he drank their milk, leaving his prints on the jug on the counter."
AlwxWrites
“too comfortable”
"My mom used to have this friend years ago when we lived in a pretty nice looking house, and she would often show up uninvited and act 'too comfortable' in our house. my mom would always just say that it’s probably just because that lady comes from a different culture but i was suspicious of the lady stealing some stuff from our house. one day the lady invites my mom to the beach."
"My mom has a huge fear of water and can’t swim at all so she avoids it, but she tends to be overly polite, so she decides to go. at the beach, the lady pressures my mom to go swim assuring her that they’ll stay close to the shore and what not. the lady ended up shoving my mom in and standing back to watch as my mom had a difficult time keeping herself up and trying to swim back to shore."
4bunny44
2 Days...
"My best friend at the time worked with a guy who I had met a few times as I'd join them for afterwork drinks, clubbing, etc. I always felt uncomfortable being around him but didn't know why. He was nice enough and quite funny but something just seemed... off. Anyway, we were out one night and he seemed extra off and ended up disappearing from the club. We found out 2 days later that he had gone home, killed his gf, dismembered her body and put her in the bin out the front of his house."
lilpinaylander
What in the world? Talk about nightmares.
The Former
"A former friend's husband. He always tried just that bit too hard to fit into the group and be involved in everything. Always had to be the smartest guy in the room. I don’t know what it was but I disliked him from the moment we met and there’s not that many people I dislike."
"Long story short, he turned out to be a controlling, emotionally abusive sack of crap who hated me because I kept encouraging my friend to be independent and my husband and I encourage each other to have a life outside of each other."
Yanigan
“too comfortable”
"My mom used to have this friend years ago when we lived in a pretty nice looking house, and she would often show up uninvited and act 'too comfortable' in our house. My mom would always just say that it’s probably just because that lady comes from a different culture but I was suspicious of the lady stealing some stuff from our house. One day the lady invites my mom to the beach, my mom has a huge fear of water and can’t swim at all so she avoids it."
"But she tends to be overly polite, so she decides to go. at the beach, the lady pressures my mom to go swim assuring her that they’ll stay close to the shore and what not. the lady ended up shoving my mom in and standing back to watch as my mom had a diffcult time keeping herself up and trying to swim back to shore."
4bunny44
he's weird...
"I was friends with this kid for awhile and he was always weird. he always made some sort of sexual joke or comment about you or something he wanted to do to you, although the comments were weird everyone brushed them off as if they were a joke."
"Me and him were really close at one point and decided that we would get drunk, at first I felt uneasy as i do not drink and i wasn’t really comfortable with the idea of being around him and getting drunk as i know his personality. eventually he persuaded me to drink with him and after a few shots we were pretty drunk."
"After that we headed over to his place and had to act completely sober in front of his parents. After awhile it had been quite awhile since we had drank i was starting to feel/act more sober than a few hours before and from my point of view, he did too."
"After awhile he was starting to act his usual self and make the sexual comments but out of nowhere he started acting upon it too. The friendship had ended shortly after that experience."
BitLimp5448
This is a lot. This is why I avoid people. People are crazy.
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When you have no money, you have no other choice than finding ways to survive.
It can be sort of like a club.
Only people who understand being poor will recognize other poor people.
There are things you learn about stretching every penny that some will never be able to comprehend.
Of course right now in the throws of this ridiculous inflation problem, pennies are useless.
But that is a different conversation.
Let's make some notes about lacking funds.
Redditor cannonstotheleftofus wanted to hear from people who have struggled with the coin. They asked:
"What’s something people don’t know unless they’ve been poor?"
Rewashing clothes and reusing the same clothes for months. You ignore the fade.
Noodle Away
"How to make $20 last a week."
whattayagonnadew
"The magic word is Ramen."
cannonstotheleftofus
“pay us now”
"You have a couple of months from when you get those 'pay us now' letters until they actually care enough to get bailiffs involved."
Nitrosquid212
"I am currently in that stage and boy if that doesn't just make the next payment even worse. It's and endless cycle of higher and higher catch-up payments till you die or someone finally helps you."
AnnBelleBot
Reading is Fundamental
"Poor people know the importance of a good library. They are one of the few remaining public places where you can simply exist without the expectation of buying something. Books are free to check out and provided entertainment when my family couldn't afford internet/cable. The library in my town is a safe, well-lit, air conditioned/heated space that has clean water, free access to bathrooms, and free wifi."
"Not everyone has all those resources at home. Some people have no home at all. It's a valuable resource for homeless people and it's a safe space for poor kids to do homework or hang around while parents are busy working. Nowadays libraries even offer free passes to museums and zoos, free adult education classes, and have tools or sewing machines you can borrow. Libraries are great."
aimlessly_scrolling
Transportation
"That everything takes twice as long to do because you have to take public transportation, and have to go to the laundromat; many things are a huge hassle like limiting how many things you can get at the store because you have to lug it all on the bus; basically things that many take for granted require a load of planning and time."
EspressoBooksCats
Good Night
"Sleeping not because you're tired but because you're hungry and can't grab a bite because whatever might be left in the fridge gotta last till the 15th."
VtecKickedInYooo
Food is always the biggest issue. Making food last is a skill.
Budgets
"How expensive being poor can be. When you're living paycheck-to-paycheck, you can't often plan/save/budget as well as you could if you had some money to fall back on."
NoCelery1168
The taste...
"How a black bean and rice burrito tastes when it's all you've been able to afford for the better part of the past year. No cheese, just beans and rice and tortilla, sometimes with Lowry's Seasoned Salt or peanut butter when available. Cheese is the most expensive part of a burrito."
CedarWolf
Cheap parts...
"Being poor is expensive. You’re forced to buy low quality s**t that needs to be replaced constantly, which in the long run causes you to spend more money. This is why poverty is so hard to escape. For example, when I was poor as s**t, I was forced to learn how to fix my own old a** car and buy cheap parts, because I just couldn’t afford to take it in, buy quality parts, and/or get something more reliable."
"Because of this, sometimes I didn’t know what I was doing and created other issues therefore causing me to spend more money. Cheap parts need to replaced way more often causing me to spend more money in the long run as opposed to buying a quality, long lasting part initially. And the car itself just broke down way more frequently, causing me to spend money more than I would with a more reliable vehicle."
"But the problem is when you’re poor, you don’t have the option to buy that quality starter that will last years. You have to buy the cheap piece of s**t one and replace it yearly because you literally don’t have the money for the quality one as a one time expense. Although I do love working on cars now as a result of this, so in a weird way I’m grateful, but the point still stands."
Mirraco323
Pain in the A...
"Medicaid is a pain in the a** to understand and sign up for. It's like the state actively fights you trying to sign up."
MrPuzzleMan
"I remember the one time I was briefly on Medicaid. It was such a pain in the a** to get going and the end result was that there was no point in having bothered because nobody took Medicaid and Medicaid didn't cover any of my diabetic supplies. The healthcare system needs a major overhaul and anybody who says otherwise can go suck a lemon."
BeneejSpoor
reuse...
"You can infuse your tea more than once. It goes well with two times and it's acceptable with three. More than that... You can't afford tea."
25_-a
"My grandma wasn't poor by a long shot, but she made those teabags last at least 5 times!!! They would be standing in the kitchen, all dried up on a little plate, ready to be reused!"
Th3_Accountant
How do you use tea that many times? I love it anyway.
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