Bisexuals have the opportunity to experience a relationship with both genders and all of their differences. These bisexuals reveal with it's like dating both men and women and the differences they notice between the two.


u/cruelcherry asks:

Bisexuals who have been in relationships with both genders: what are some noticeable differences between dating a man and a woman?

The approach is a bit different for some

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There's actually a noticeable difference on how I approach the relationship. When I'm with men I like being taken care of, but I like being more dominant in with women, I'll do all the things I'd want a man to do for me.

nobraclub

You might experience a time difference

Men can get ready in a matter of minutes.

Spur_R3z

Privacy with same sex is lessened

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It's a little weird on a date with a woman that you use the same bathroom. You don't get that moment to yourself and there's no privacy.

laidymondegreen

You know a lot more with the same sex

I keep seeing a reoccurring theme here. Girls think sex with girls is better, and guys think sex with guys is better. Possibly because you have the same anatomy and know what feels good?

NotHereFor1t

When it comes to conflict...

In arguments alone: Women are explosive, but more pleasant in the day-to-day. Men tend to backslide into a quiet agony that never gets resolved.

mus_maximus

Men are a slower flower

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More individual difference than gender difference.

But if there is one it's communication style. Men take a lot longer to open up. And I'd say most men are less thoughtful about many things (like keeping track of important things happening in your life and giving support through them) although my personal experience there with the only man I've seriously dated has been stellar.

PracticalSquash

The assumptions

How it's received by the general public. When I'm out one on one with a man, it's second nature to assume he is my significant other in situations such as having a dinner date or a weekend away at a hotel. That's not the case when I'm with a woman. In particular, my current girlfriend looks somewhat similar to me. We're both petite blondes. When we are out together, the first assumption is that we're sisters or best friends. We have to make a point to explain that we're together. It doesn't bother me, as most people genuinely just don't know and assume what's second nature to them. It's just an observation.

TheBlondeDahlia

The added bro vibe

The biggest difference for me, as a guy, Is that there is a different level of friendship with a guy than a girl. With my current bf, it's like I'm hanging out with my best bro, at the same time as spending time with the person I love. We do everything together and I never really want time away.

My last ex, a girl, was great to spend time with, but there was a level of understanding and friendship that wasn't there purely because she was a girl. She could never understand certain things that a guy just gets. That shared understanding of experience that guys have. I'm sure girls have the same thing with other girls.

That was longer than I expected, but that's the biggest difference I have.

LtStripes

Certain things are not as hard

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One of them is WAY more comfortable buying tampons than the other.

ThinGeologist

The way they take Bisexuality is different

I've only dated gay guys and straight girls. For me the biggest difference has been that girls have in general been a lot more understanding of my sexuality and the guys have been a lot more biphobic/dismissive about it

bradnujabe

When personality is everything 

Honestly for me, I tend to be attracted to a similar type of personality regardless of gender, and that includes a lack of interest in conforming to gender roles, so in terms of internal relationship dynamics there hasn't been an easy-to-parse difference my ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends along gender lines.

40000headmen

Lesbian bed death

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Sex. Was constantly being pursued to have sex while dating a man. Now sex is rarely had. If at all.

Alliewh33lz

One was easier to get over

with women, i always get emotional,..in a complete mess after breaking up. but men, i got over them..before the break up.

women--i think about them often when not together.

men--we were always doing activities together.

herwords

The wreckage 

Women will ruin you emotionally, but men will disappoint you profoundly.

marksman-with-a-pen

Battle of the crazies

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Everyone's giving normal scenarios, so I wanna bring up worst case. The 'crazy guy' is genuinely f****** insane, while the 'crazy girl' is a funny kind of insane. Like, craziest guy was a guy who gave me a necklace that he put his blood on to protect me from the secret powers of his alternate personality, and still tries to low key stalk me on social media, while the craziest girl is probably a tie between the super religious girl who cried when I ate meat and the ultra communist who told me she loved me within like an hour.

Prowlerbaseball

big differences 

his is from personal experience, so it could be personalities more than gender.

1- Carrying the emotional weight and mental load of the relationship. With women, it's more balanced. With men the expectation fell to me.

2-Additionally, maintaining a household is more balanced with women. With a man, there are stereotypical gender-role expectations.

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