Doctors Reveal What Happens When A Baby Turns Out Not To Be The Father's Child
Doctors Reveal What Happens When A Baby Turns Out Not To Be The Father's Child
Having a baby is a time that is suppose to be filled with joy, anticipation, love and celebration. The co-mingling of two loved one's DNA to create a beautiful new life is a gift. That is unless there are a few surprises that await the delivery... like who the daddy is. Sometimes the delivery can turn into a scene from 'Days of Our Lives.'
Sometimes, you just let the stories speak for themselves.
Reddit user, u/a_13ulge, wanted to know about what could be the most awkward moments ever recorded in human history when they asked:
Doctors and nurses of Reddit, have you ever witnessed a couple have a child that was obviously not the father's? If so, what happened?
50. Girl. We see you!Giphy
Labor and delivery nurse. I have been in on a few deliveries where it is blatantly obvious that the baby is not the from the guy that thinks it's his. How it all goes down definitely depends on the guy. I had one who simply caught me in the hallway and asked if we did paternity testing (no hospital that I know of does this, it's done through other sources).
Also a guy who was pretty chill about it but his family flipped the heck out, screaming, and calling all sorts of names to the mom. Then of course a dad who did all the screaming and name calling. The mom's reactions vary too. Most of them will ask about paternity testing and seem nervous, some play dumb and try to convince the world they weren't sleeping around and don't know who the father is. rn_delivers
49. Don't be Cruel.
My horrible ex-coworker had this happen to her. She was a horrible person for many, many reasons, but one of them was that she cheated on her husband with his best friend. Co-worker and her husband both had extremely blonde hair and light blue eyes, the best friend had thick black hair, dark brown eyes. Everyone knew it was a possibility, and realized as soon as the baby was born. Apparently it was a very awkward day.
The co-worker and husband are still together 16-17 years later, although their relationship is pretty much loveless. They had another baby who was his. Co-worker does not allow the biological dad see the kid, which I think is a crap move.
Husband obviously treats the kid that is his better than the one that isn't, co-worker complained about this constantly when I worked with her, but did nothing about it. It's a really, really crappy situation. The baby is now a teenager and absolutely despises her stepdad, and now has some behavioral problems. REDDIT
48. Deny! Deny! Deny!
Had a friend who was from Africa. He married this caucasian chick that already had 3 kids with this an Asian guy. Few years after they get married, she give birth to a very asian looking baby, who looked exactly like the other kids when they were the same age. The guy kept insisting the kid was his and that he had a paternity test etc.
The funniest part was when his aunt came to visit from Africa and he was telling her about the paternity test during a family/friends gathering and in front of everyone she was like I don't give a damn what kind of paternity test you did, that child is not yours lol. He later had another kid with her who you could tell was his. REDDIT
47. All's Well that ends Well
Probably no one will see this. But my cousin met a girl in rehab. Started dating, she relapsed but was pregnant. Had the child, obviously wasn't his. Signed that it was anyways. 7 years later he hasn't had a drink since then and has had sole custody for 6 years. Loves her and is the best dad. She changed his life. Me0Be0
46. Probably? That's comforting...
Doctor here. I was a medical student rotating on my OB rotation when my wife was pregnant. She went into labor and I brought her to the same hospital where I was doing my rotation. All of the residents and attending physicians taking care of her were the people I worked with every day.
When my son came out, they cleaned him up and handed him to my wife, with me standing there full of emotion, and then my wife turns to me, and in front of all of my colleagues, says "And just think, he's probably yours."purpleddit
45. Thou Shall not Judge... at first!
Not a doctor or nurse, but when my daughter was born she was in some distress and her skin was very dark, as was her hair. She definitely looked non-Caucasian even though my wife and I both are. I was confused for a little bit, but within a few minutes I was sure she was mine even though her color was so strange.
Now it is a year later and she is a very fair-skinned blonde toddler and everyone says she looks exactly like me. I guess I'm saying that judging an infant's parentage based only on their looks right at birth would be somewhat difficult. thejoda
44. Musical Embryos...Giphy
This happened to a friend of mine, but not in the way you're trolling for! They underwent IVF and somehow the embryos got mixed up. Not dad's and neither mom's or the egg donor's. AnneBoleynTheMartyr
43. All for the best?
Not a doctor, but the child in this scenario. My step dad was aware of the possibility that I wasn't his throughout the pregnancy, but he stayed with my mom, gave me his name, and raised me as his own, something I respect him greatly for. My biological father is still in my life and is great friends with both of my parents, so I feel pretty lucky about how everything turned out. storm525
42. Oh Dad. Really?
Not in the medical field, just married into an odd family. About 15yrs ago my baby brother got real sick, was in and out of hospitals and seeing s bunch of doctors. He's admitted yet again FIL calls and asks all the siblings to come just in case. We are the last to arrive, we get there and everyone is dead silent, obviously been crying.
We both think oh crap he died, SO starts to tear up and his dad comes striding towards us tears still tuning down his face and says let's step outside.
He says baby brother is fine but there is something I have to tell you. Turns out FIL isn't really baby brother's dad, nor is he really dad to 3 other of SO siblings. The hospital wanted to run some tests on FIL and step MIL to rule out something, I don't remember what, and they had to come clean. The siblings were 25, 26, 27, and 28 so it kinda screwed em up for a bit. EzzzzzzzE
41. Science will out!
Had a patient diagnosed with breast cancer at 33. No family history of cancer, but because of her age, test for inherited cancer syndromes and find one of the BRCA mutations known to be common in the Ashkenazi Jewish population. We're surprised, but it's not impossible for her to have inherited it and for other family members to have just been lucky so far so we recommend that she talk to both parents and that they get tested (to figure out which side of the family needs to be notified).
Talks to her mom that afternoon and calls me the next day to let me know that Mom shared that she had an affair before she was born. Still had to recommend that her parents consider testing since we couldn't be sure, but yeah, that would definitely explain why her family history didn't line up with her early onset diagnosis. I honestly felt really bad that in top of everything else that she was dealing with, now she had this on top of it all. Goatsatemybroccoli
40. No reason to talk about it...Giphy
So my dad's cousin has raised a boy he knew wasn't his. He even continued raising this boy after he and his wife divorced. The boy doesn't know his dad isn't his bio dad, but he's the only dad he's ever known.
All people in this story are caucasian, so it's not obvious to anyone. But if you really start thinking about it, he doesn't look anything like his dad. whyyesiamarobot
39. The Story Unfolds...
I was at the US embassy in Korea, in line behind a couple getting a birth certificate for their new child. The women at the window asked for a little information about the couple (middle age, white American man and a early 30s Filipino women). As he was telling his story it came out he mentioned that they met 8 months earlier. The baby was currently about 1-2 months old. The women at the counter said something like "hmmm so you met 8 months ago and babies take 9 months."
The man for a second looked really confused and the women blurted out "HE COME EARLY." This seemed to satisfy both the man and the women behind the counter. A few seconds later the women behind the counter said to the Filipino women "so I see you lived in the US most of the last year, what were you doing there?"
The man looked at here and yelled "you were in the US!!!" The women looked around really nervously and the person behind the counter asked them to step into a private room. Sorry if the story was hard to follow. morgan3000
38. Can't deny the Obvious....
My cousin (white, brown hair and blue eyes) and her husband (white, blonde hair and blue eyes) have a daughter who is... not white... has very textured black hair and dark brown eyes.
They have since divorced, kiddo is 11 this year. My cousin, her sister, their mom... everybody insists he was the father, despite her being OBVIOUSLY biracial. REDDIT
37. No 2 Snowflakes are the same...
My niece, Caucasian, Eastern and Western European and her husband, Dutch and Jamaican have two kids. One daughter with skin like Halle Berry and a son who is as Ginger and pale as they come. Biological siblings with lots of differences. So I never assume anything. richardec
36. Keep your opinions to yourself!
My dad once told me about the time his sister had her first kid (my cousin, obviously).
As soon as my aunt took the baby, the doctor looked at my uncle and asked "so when's the father getting here?" Apparently the baby "looked Asian."
In response, my uncle punched the doctor in the face. Maybe a slight over reaction... whitfield9919
35. Such Silence...
I knew this guy that was in a relationship with this girl. She got pregnant and he found out 8 months into the kid being alive that it wasn't his. He decided to stick around and raise the kid since he got attached in those 8 months. Fast forward a few years later, she's pregnant again and baby comes out very dark skinned even though they were both white. He had told me that everybody in the room got dead silent and she didn't even touch the baby for the first day. jaymee_go
34. Not a reason to attack an Innocent Sir!
Nurse here. I have a friend that's also an RN who had a patient in this scenario. Apparently the not-Dad walked out of the room and started to rage. She went over to him to try and talk to him and he punched her in the stomach. She said security tackled him within seconds and got him to the ground. The not-Dad had apparently found out he wasn't the Dad when his girlfriend wouldn't be let him sign the birth certificate? cakejukebox
33. Anything can Happen....Giphy
My sister and I are white. Blonde hair, blue eyes white. I was at the hospital with her because i wanted to be a helpful and caring brother. They wrongfully assumed we were a couple.
She then proceeded to have a black baby. Not a mixed baby, a perfectly healthy, black baby boy. Everyone looked at me super confused but never said anything.
Plot twist: My sister was a surrogate mother for a black couple. The egg and sperm were both from black donors.
Super white girl had a black baby. It happens... grow_something
32. Truth is in the Eyes...
Ill speak for my doctor on this, bless his heart. My husband and I are white. When our daughter was born, she looked very Asian. What people don't tend to notice about my husband because he wears glasses is that his eyes are very Asian looking. So on my discharge morning from the hospital I'm sleeping and my husband is sitting there holding our baby.
Instead of my doctor waking me up he talks with my husband. Asking him why our baby looks so Asian. My husband had to explain that she looked exactly like his baby pictures from his birth. 5 years later she still looks like a female version of him. Which is ok because we had a second baby that is a boy version of me. ihcuwanfs
31. A Baby is a Baby....
I was in the waiting room once at a small hospital in Vermont, there was two people having a baby that day, and one of them went fine, the other had some trouble. The trouble one's father came out talking on the phone, demanding to talk to a manager... I only heard one side of the conversation, but apparently, they had gone to a sperm clinic and had been given a (his words) "Brown man's baby." GonzoMojo
30. Always check the text!
I'm not a doctor or a nurse, but I experienced something like this in my early 20's. We had a house picked out, family and friends were sending us gifts and cards. I was along for all of the doctor visits, and ultrasounds, and checkups, and everything. This was my kid, we were in love, I had no question. Then one day I saw a very suspicious message pop up on her phone... and (against all of my normal behavior) I looked at it.
It was from a guy she had cheated on me with. After a paternity test that they both payed for, we learned the truth and it wasn't my kid. I immediately cut all ties, and haven't maintained any contact. My life is so much more fruitful and wonderful, and I've cherished my independence in ways I simply couldn't before. It was a major happy ending, but boy am I glad I looked at that phone. Snappy_Retort
29. Spitting Image...
This happened to my brother. He broke up with his super-crazy girlfriend, and a couple months later, she started calling him, telling him she was pregnant. He was very skeptical that the baby was his (we all were), because after they broke up, she basically slept with everyone who would. So, we waited for months, so she could have the baby and my brother could get the paternity test.
He was in the delivery room and I was waiting right outside to support him. So, after the baby gets cleaned up from delivery, he comes walking out with this weird look on his face and shows me the baby who looks more like his clone than his son. My brother died when his son was 10 and every time I see my nephew, it's a little shock, because I swear I'm looking at my bro. It makes me miss him a little less, though and my nephew is more like a son to me. REDDIT
28. Bridget Jones? Is that you?Giphy
My father is an OB GYN, so he has some good stories. His latest story is about a women who came to his office with her husband and her boyfriend. They don't know who the father is, and they can't find out until the baby is born, so both men want to be there during doctor appointments and the birth. The two men were surprisingly cordial with each other but I'm betting a paternity test will be run before the umbilical cord is even cut. Racheltower
27. Not the best choice friends...
There was a girl who was 2 years older than us who was a bit... promiscuous. My friend had sex with her at one point, and 8 months later she turns up at his doorstep claiming it's his. My poor friend helped raise this kid for 8 MONTHS before finally getting a paternity test and it turning up that it wasn't his.
This poor young girl has no idea who her real father is, and while the girl I went to high school with has found someone and they seem to be getting by, I cant help but think that she chose my friend because she thought he was the best shot of someone actually raising the kid (she didn't hang around the best crowd in high school). BorinUltimatum
26. $$$ can't buy you class...
Happened to a dude I knew. He got his Gf pregnant just as he was about to break up with her. She was trashy and he came from a rich family. But she was pregnant so he did the right thing.
Turns out that the kid wasn't his so he kicked them both out. Apparently the father of the baby was some poor dead beat. Sweetdish
25. Don't Overact Dad!
Not a nurse or a doctor, but I was the son. Black dad, white mom -- I came out fully white. Dad bailed. Turns out after paternity testing, I AM his. I'm just super white, still am this day. I could pass as Italian or Latino, but I definitely don't look half-black. PNDMike
24. Fooled Us All..
Young couple, I think she was maybe 18 and he was 17. Poor lad was terrified, had worked all hours god sent to make sure everything was ready for his new daughter. His parents, whilst heartbroken, had let his girlfriend move in, had even let them decorate the spare room for the baby. Turns out that when the baby was born she was mixed race. He was absolutely devastated. 25491494
23. 50 Shades of Baby!
Labor and delivery nurse here. Black babies are usually a lot lighter at birth. Not everyone is aware of this, so I've had a few dramatic deliveries where the father looks at the baby and accuses the mom of cheating because the baby isn't as dark. Lots of drama happens on L&D 🤷🏻♀️ tina_bean02
22. The British 'Maury'Giphy
Not a doctor/nurse, but my dad was accused of being the father to a child that wasn't his.
I grew up in a rough 'chav' estate in England, so when you think of the characters in this story, imagine Shameless-style men/women. Anyway, my dad was accused by a woman he slept with (my dad wasn't exactly the most faithful man), that the child was his, even though the child was mixed. The woman was white, and so is my dad.
The case actually went to the Trisha Show (like the Jeremy Kyle show, but older). The test results came out, and shockingly enough, he wasn't the father. We have the recording taped at home and I like it to watch it sometimes, it's honestly kind of comforting in a weird way. I also always thought shows like Jeremy Kyle were faked, but sadly, they aren't (or at least some of them aren't!)
I'll never forget one moment from the show when Trisha asked my dad "do you have any other kids?" and he just smirked. We never really found out how many women he got pregnant in that time, and it's likely I went to school with my brothers and sisters but neither of us knew we had the same dad. I never really found out what happened to the woman or to the baby either, but I truly do hope that baby grew up healthy and happy, and I hope the mother found peace with herself. egliseerosee
21. The Family Tree...
A friend of mine has a good one.
Dad passed out during the delivery and when he came to the nurse handed him a baby girl that was several shades darker than he or his wife. Baby was also apparently conceived under such circumstances that he knew he was the father.
So this guy was walking around delivery trying to figure out who's baby he had. Popping his head into random rooms asking if anyone had misplaced a baby. This continues until he ran into great grandma. Grandma proclaimed that baby girl is the spitting image of her late husband.
No one has ever told him that his grandpa was black. notmebutmyroommate
20. Laughing Away The Pain
Worked in the army hospital on ft Lewis. A woman came in for belly pain and we found out and told her she was 10 weeks pregnant. The husband at the bedside started laughing, grabbed his coat and left the room explaining to us that he had been in Afghanistan until 3 weeks prior. He looked back and her and just said "well that's that Brittany."
I always liked how classily he left her while she just silently stared off into space.
19. Watching A Future That Never Was[rebelmouse-image 18347910 is_animated_gif=
I know a girl who was pregnant with her boyfriend's best friend's baby. He found out there was a possibility about a week before she gave birth. I went up to see her once he was born and he looked just like the friend, there was no question. I broke the news to her boyfriend and he was absolutely devastated.
His parents were heartbroken and super pissed. They had bought the girl everything she needed, including a $500 car seat/stroller set. She refused to give anything back.
She started up a relationship with the friend immediately after having their child, and they're still together a decade later. But the the kicker for me has always been that the boyfriend and best friend were next door neighbors.
She moved into his house after coming home from the hospital. So her exboyfriend and his family had to see them basically everyday raising this child that they had believed to be his for the entire pregnancy. I can't even imagine.
Edit: Yes, they did a DNA test right after he was born. The baby was the friend's.
18. Hospital On Red-Alert[rebelmouse-image 18345809 is_animated_gif=
I worked as a lab tech before I became a nurse. We had a set of twins in the NICU that were super early and the mom was still in the OR getting sewed up from the caesarean. I was drawing Baby B's blood when mom was wheeled over to Baby A's isolette. She was crying and said, "Oh thank god you're not black! I have been so worried the last 7 months."
So newborn babies, especially when they're born early, are very pink, almost red. So even if a baby was part-black, their skin isn't necessarily dark yet. But looking at these babies, it was obvious they were going to be black. The shape of the face, the texture of the hair.
A few weeks later, my NICU nurse friend told me that the babies were now on a "no-info status" meaning security alert, can't give anyone information about them, can't refer to them by name, etc. She said there was a huge fight because the mom's husband (white guy) obviously noticed that the babies were half black and that mom had cheated on him and got pregnant. The real dad (black guy) came in and didn't realize the mom was even married.
17. There Was Never Anything There To Begin With
I had a vasectomy. While chatting with the doctor, he told me about another patient. This guy had three kids and came in for the snip-snip because he and his wife decided they were done having children.
The doc opened up his sack and found nothing to snip. This guy was born without the ability to have any children. The poor doctor had to explain to him what happened.
Imagine finding that out that way.
16. Peace, Girrrrrllll[rebelmouse-image 18347913 is_animated_gif=
Had a college buddy whose fiancee was pregnant. They were the "perfect couple," both had just over a year with great careers starting out, everything was butterflies and rainbows.
Fast forward to the delivery room, they're in there and out comes a very black baby. He's quite the pale redhead, and she's a blonde/blue eyes Texas girl. He made sure everyone was ok, waited for her parents to arrive, and left without saying a word.
He moved all his stuff out of the house while she was in the hospital, and cut off all communications with her, just walked out of their lives in the most stone-cold act I'd ever seen. They were together for nine years, and he just left cold turkey.
She tried to contact him at his job a few times, but he quickly moved up the ladder and eventually got a job in another city. He told me once that he took solace in the fact that her family had already dropped about $10k in a wedding that never happened.
15. 30 Year Guilt
I used to work with a guy whose wife was pregnant. Near time for delivery every one at our place of business had a big party with gifts, money, etc.
So big day comes, water breaks, they get in car to go to hospital. She breaks the news on the way there it's not his, the kid is another race, and if he could just drop her off at the hospital and then leave, that would be great.
He slowly lifted his head to look at me with a painful look. The room was dead silent. One of his workmates stood up, grabbed my arm and walked me out of the room, shushing me. "What happened, " I asked, "Did it die? What's the problem?"
When he told me I about died myself. I still feel bad for the dude and it's been 30 years.
14. Screams Are A Good Indicator[rebelmouse-image 18347915 is_animated_gif=
Had a lesbian couple come in.
One of them was pregnant, neither knew.
Judging from all the screaming this information was poorly received.
13. A 25 Year Secret
Happened to my fiancé's mom. His mom is a labor and delivery nurse.
One time she had a patient whose parents were present during her stay at the hospital. The staff there have a white board with some general information about the patients like blood type, time spent in the wing, and like how far along. This information is nameless for HIPAA reasons and instead has a patients number.
So this patient happened to be the only one in the wing at the time. Her father was walking back from the cafeteria at one point, and noticed the board. He stopped one of the nurses and asked if the blood type for the patient on the board was correct (he knew his daughter was the only patient there). It was B+. The nurse confirmed it was correct.
Turns out he knew his and his wife's blood type. He was O+ and his wife was A-. This combination will never yield a B+ baby. He brings his wife out and just points at the board and this look of shock washes over her.
12. When You Just Know[rebelmouse-image 18347917 is_animated_gif=
I used to work in the newborn nursery at a hospital. We got the babies right from delivery, cleaned them up, footprinted them, checked vitals, etc. Dads usually came in with the newborns. This dad comes in with this baby. Dad is white, mom is white, baby is very obviously not white.
The dad was very quiet standing next to this baby, watching us clean it up. He says quietly, "I don't think this is my baby." You could tell he was absolutely devastated. We advised him not to sign the birth certificate until he was sure. Not sure what happened after we sent the baby back out to mom, but I felt awful for the guy.
11. And Now, For A Change Of Pace
My aunt is a nurse in the maternity ward. She had a couple come in where they were both very black. Lady has baby and it is white AF. Like, totally pale, no trace of any pigment. They put the baby on her mom and the mom starts yelling about how this isn't her baby and they stole her baby (in all fairness, you can be very confused during/after deliver), just sobbing and freaking out and the father is just sitting there and looks very confused becasue even he's realizing that even if she did cheat, there is no way the baby would be THAT white.
The doctor and nurses are trying to assure her that this is her baby and the skin usually darkens later.
Come to find out, when he called his mom, she pointed out that they have a second cousin who is albino and maybe baby got that gene. Turns out that's what happened- baby was albino.
10. No, No, It's Mine
I had the opposite happen, sort of.
My wife and I are both brown skinned dark haired half-Mexicans and our moms are both 100% white blondes with blue and green eyes.
So we sort of knew it was a crap shoot with our baby, but the nurse who was assisting with delivery had no idea. At one point she gets sort of nervous and calls for help and another I guess more senior nurse came in and nodded and came over to talk to me.
I thought there was something wrong with the baby as she comes over and stumbles through some questions; so I was the father and no one else was coming, etc. Then finally she awkwardly asks if either of us happened to be blonde growing up.
I said yeah I was and both the baby's grandparents are blonde as they come and this wave of relief went over her and she brought me over to see this blonde as hell crowning baby head.
It's funny because he looks just like me if you applied a gringo Instagram filter. We often get awkward questions about his heritage and my wife always hits them with "Yeah we're not sure if he's mine."
It's always funny to see people nod for a moment and then go "Wait what?"
9. High Five, Son!
I'm a nurse but this didn't happen to me. Friend of mine got pregnant in high school. She claimed it was our local doctor's son's kid so he agreed to deliver his grandchild for free.
Child delivered and it was obviously half African American. Doctor's son and girl were both white.
I think he still delivered it for free as he was relieved his 14 year old son wasn't a dad.
8 ...Classy.[rebelmouse-image 18345132 is_animated_gif=
I work in anesthesia. One of my colleagues had someone vaginally deliver a baby with "Steve's Lunchbox" tattooed above the "birth canal." The OB/GYN said to the father after the delivery, "Congratulations Steve."
The guy replied that his name was indeed not Steve.
7. It's Time To Go
My best friend was dating a girl and knocked her up. They got engaged, and planned to get married right after the baby was born. There were about 10 of us in the waiting room waiting for her to crank out the baby. It was essentially her parents (his were in another state), some of her friends, and some of ours.
After sitting there for about 2 hours, he walks out with a smirk on his face and says "let's go", we all thought something horrible had happened. Her friends ask how the baby is, and he said "fine, but black".
He motioned for us to go, so we followed him. In the parking garage, he tells us to follow him to his apartment, then sends me a text asking I could put him up for a while. We literally moved him out of his apartment and into my spare bedroom in like an hour tops. Her parents didn't know who to be mad at. The confusion on their faces when he told them the baby was black was priceless.
6. The Timing Is All Off[rebelmouse-image 18347921 is_animated_gif=
My grandmother was a nurse. Once she was assisting with delivering a baby and the ostensible father commented that the child looked good for a premature baby. Without thinking my grandmother told the truth. "That baby is not premature."
So I guess I know where I get my social obliviousness from.
5. Someone's Getting Kicked Out
My wife is an RN/Hospital Supervisor. Code Yellow is the code over the intercom for security/large male nurses needed.
It rarely ever happens but every now and then over the speakers you hear a "Code Yellow, Labor and Delivery."
You know the reason.
4. A Long, Arduous Journey[rebelmouse-image 18347924 is_animated_gif=
Neither a Dr or Nurse, but a good friend of mine was out of the country on emergency with his work and I ended up bringing his wife to the ER.
My friend and I are (even still) best friends and all of us went to high school together and I had no idea his wife was unfaithful however, I was in the delivery room as she didnt want to be w/o anyone there.
Baby came out.....straight up Asian. I knew....the OB knew. I just walked out the room then. All I could hear her wailing saying her marriage is over and the nurses quickly picked up on why she was crying. I called him and told him the news, he explained to his work that a true emergency was at home so they chartered him a flight home (Saudi Aramco high class action) and he filed for divorce right then and there.
During the divorce out of their 3 kids, 0 was my friends. It didnt just mess my friend up, it messed the kids up as well because they knew him as "daddy".
The Court tried to make my friend pay support for those kids who werent his because "they became accustomed" to it and the dad abandonment was borderline criminal. He had 0 biological attachment.
Family courts are so biased against men. My friend spent a fortune fighting it out of principal and eventually won. It emotionally ruined him and now he doesn't trust women. He wont go on dates or anything because of it. I cant say I blame him but that is beyond f***ed up.
3. Stick To The Lie
my brothers friend was in the army and had a shot gun wedding with a woman he had been dating for a few months, she's white american and he's white Hispanic, the baby came out black. until the results came in she was adamant that the baby was his, she even went to the extent of claiming he was getting her depressed and suicidal and was a bad father because he wouldn't claim "his" child. the results came back and she said the baby was his and the paternity test revealed that was a lie.
pretty much she thought she was going to stay with him for that army money.
2. Dumping Responsibility On Another
Nurse here. Once had a couple come in, just them. The father was black and the mother was white. The father was so involved, so ecstatic about him becoming a father for the second time with this women. Nothing really seemed off, until she started pushing. The baby girl came out completely white, blonde hair and blue eyes. Usually black babies come out a little pale. but this was just straight out white. We had to escort the father out for fear of him becoming violent, but he just sat outside the room, on the ground with his face in his hands. That was one of the saddest moments I think I've ever seen with a father, besides stillbirth.
Odd thing after though, the mom didn't want the baby and wanted nothing to do with the "father", probably out of guilt. So she left the responsibility of this baby and their other 2 year old boy to this man who didn't even question taking on this child.
1. When It Doesn't Matter[rebelmouse-image 18347928 is_animated_gif=
Kinda off topic but I gotta give my friend credit for doing some thing I don't think I could ever do.
Found out after being married an having a 3 and 1 year old his wife had been cheating on him. Multiple times, with multiple men. (Everyone is white though so no obvious signs).
Anyway, when he finds that there is the chance neither of the kids is his, he buys two paternity tests.
He brought them home, but then the horrible conclusion hit him.
He was prepared if they were his. He was prepared if they weren't. He had NO idea what he would do if one was and one wasn't.
So he threw tests away. They divorced, she keeps seeing people for short times and he is now remarried to a fantastic person.
We all have strong opinions about something, but when we think of opinions, we often think of hot button topics like political subjects.
But as it turns out, sometimes we can have just as strong of opinions of our preferred types of pasta.
Redditor PeeB4uGoToBed asked:
"What's the best pasta shape and why?"
The Right Answer
"I prefer my pasta, like my nuggets, to be dinosaur-shaped."
"This is my true answer, but if I have to pretend to be an adult, I always say Cavatappi."
"Radiatori. Thick and perfect for pasta sauces."
"They're so fun. They're my favorite, ahead of rotini. I just like ridges, I guess."
"Best for mac and cheese."
"My first time having cavatappi mac and cheese changed my life."
"Cavatappi gang, RISE UP."
"I see your cavatappi and raise you cavatelli."
"Cavatelli is the bee's knees, man."
"The shell shape stores cheese and sauces, so with each bite, you get tons of flavor."
"Yes! Mac n cheese always tastes amazing with Conchiglie, I don't make the rules."
"Rigatoni. My favorite dish is baked rigatoni with bolognese. I love the texture of the ridges and the larger hollow part scoops up the sauce very well as compared to ziti or penne."
"Cascatelli. Some crazy f**k got obsessed with answering the OP's question and invented this."
"Cascatelli is great, but his second round of shapes, specifically vesuvio, might be better."
"Agreed. Vesuvio is peak."
"I prefer quattrotini. I find it has better forkability and toothsinkability."
"Fusilli because it's silly."
"Bucatini is the best of all worlds. You have everything that's great about the long noodles and it's hollow! It absorbs sauce and oil on the inside."
"I hate bucatini! You can't suck a protruding part into your mouth because of the hole in the middle. You can't pick it up with a fork, because it's too slippery with sauce."
"Penne... because the sauce is in AND on it, lol (laughing out loud)."
"The pasta that would literally drive me insane if I tried to make it from scratch."
"I came to say this. Just something about it. Amazing mouth feel. Great texture. Good with light and heavy, meaty sauces."
"This one. There’s something so nostalgic about it for me. And I feel like it does well with most sauces. A very versatile shape for a variety of pasta dishes."
"Linguine: the spaghetti that went to private school."
"I am totally on board with linguine. Flat to catch the sauce and thin enough to cook evenly for the perfect consistency! Pairs with many sauces too!"
"Flat pasta is better than round pasta (like spaghetti) for sauces and flavors being absorbed. It's long enough to give the lady and the tramp vibes and not feel like you're a kid eating some superhero shapes out of a bowl like Fusilli and Farfalle can give off."
"It's thicker than tagliatelle to give it enough girth to feel like more of a main event than just being the bed your sauce and toppings sit on."
"Overall, it's just the best all-rounder in my book."
This conversation just goes to show how many pasta options there actually are in the world, some that we may have not even heard of yet, because of them being invented in 2020!
But it also goes to show that we all have our favorites, and we can have very strong opinions about them.
One of life's most unfortunate moments is when we feel our lives are genuinely in danger.
These horrific moments can involve the behavior of people with malicious intentions or just being at the wrong place and time.
Even though many people live to share their harrowing stories, the trauma doesn't necessarily go away completely.
But all anyone who's experienced a terrifying ordeal can do to find peace is to count their blessings and be grateful they are survivors.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Fearless-surfur-ee asked:
"What was the scariest incident happened with you?"
These Redditors experienced heart-stopping false alarms.
"Half a dozen masked men broke into my bedroom, threatened me and my girlfriend, realised they had the wrong house, apologised and left. Edit - I told the full story here a while back."
Witness At A Shopping Mall
"Similar thing happened to my Aunt. She witnessed an attack at a shopping centre (on going disagreement between 2 well known families) and was threatened. A few days later one of the older family members approached her in her driveway and apologised profusely for the younger persons behaviour and offered her compensation. She was so scared she just said no thanks and he left."
Sometimes, you gotta listen to your gut.
"Wife and I took a dark exit towards out neighborhood. Whole backseat full of bags cause we went shopping at the mall. There’s a red light at the intersection once you get off the exit and we pull up to this tinted oldsmobile. They were in the right lane to go straight or turn right and we were in the left lane to turn left."
"Nobody is around, maybe 10 at night. I turn left and look in my rear view and it’s the car that was next to us a bit back. I pull in my driveway and just had a really weird feeling, so I told my wife I’m gonna reverse and drive around the block. She thinks it’s weird as hell, but as we are reversing, this dude is walking towards us from that Oldsmobile parked around the corner. I dip the f**k out and make it look like I was just turning around and drove like a mile away before heading back."
"Just had this gut feeling, man. Who knows what would have happened? But it was scary as f'k, nonetheless."
A Tragic Stop
"Friend borrowed dad’s Benz to take wife on anniversary date. He stopped for flowers and was followed home by someone thinking he was wealthy. He was shot dead in his driveway in what turned out to be a gang initiation; you did the right thing."
These Redditors looked down the barrel of a gun...and lived to tell their story.
"Was at a train station that was empty and I was sitting down waiting for a train and a man walks over with a bag, opens it and takes out a shotgun and points it at me and I just stare at him, he then says 'you're not scared are you' then puts the shotgun back in the bag then walks out of the train station."
"Actually not sure if that was the scariest or weirdest or if I was even scared."
The Right Answer
"Reminds me of the time a guy put a gun to my neck and said, 'What would you do if I pull the trigger right now.'"
"I was in a completely apathetic state of mind at that time anyway and said, 'Not much I can do, but I'll haunt you.'"
These Redditors experienced medical emergencies.
"Last week had a heart attack after almost recovering from chemotherapy."
"I asked the nurse if I was going to die and she said I’m in the right place and they will look after me. Then I got more scared then I ever have before"
"I should not have survived but I did."
"The scan came back and we found a mass. We'd like you to come in to talk to the doctor today or tomorrow. You should see if someone can drive for you as you may be upset afterwards"
"Can I come in next week, I have a trip planned?"
"The doctor says you should come in today anytime and we will clear an appointment for you."
"Luckily that doctor kicked a**. 3 years post-surgery. Scans are clean in August and I move into the "only 10% chance of reoccurrence" bracket."
"Felt sick, kind of like the flu. Felt completely fine in the morning, but got worse as the day went on. It was the middle of the night and I was up with my husband and our new 6 week old baby. I was pumping breastmilk."
"Next thing I know, I’m waking up to EMTs surrounding me on my bed telling me not to move or sit up. My heart rate was incredibly high and blood pressure incredibly low. They took me to the hospital and no one knew what was wrong with me for a while. They kept asking me what drugs I took. I kept telling them nothing (which is true). I just had a baby, the biggest 'drug' I was taking was Tylenol. They didn’t believe me for a while."
"I couldn’t remember a lot of things at this point. I could barely even remember my own kid’s name. I couldn’t tell them who the president was or what year it was when they asked. It was a weird feeling to have memory missing. Kind of like having lost some puzzle pieces. Talking was also kind of difficult."
"After a BUNCH of tests, turns out I had a UTI so bad that I went into septic shock and my kidneys were shutting down. Didn’t know I had a UTI because I was still healing from childbirth and I am pretty asymptomatic when it comes to UTIs. I don’t feel pain when I get them. Spent a few days in the ICCU. Was extra scary considering my brand new baby was at home and I wasn’t and there was a chance I wouldn’t make it home at all."
"In the end, I thankfully made a full recovery."
"Not as intense as some of these other stories, but please don’t sleep on a UTI guys. Sepsis is no joke."
The last time I truly feared for my life was when I was at a party and a fight between two drunk partygoers turned into a Swiss army knife fight.
I'm not kidding.
A couple of my friends and I jumped off the second floor balcony and got chased in the parking lot.
After some fumbling with the car keys, my buddy managed to get five of us crammed into his car and the perpetrator started pounding on the rear window with his fists and bloodying it up from smashing his knuckles onto the glass.
The police came just in time. Thank you annoyed neighbor who called the cops on us for our blood-curdling screams disturbing the peace.
Perhaps the best thing about our friends is that we can always rely on them.
To help us out, to give us words of comfort and wisdom when we need them, or to just be a willing pair of ears.
Even so, our friends still have a way of surprising us, as well as disappointing us from time to time.
Sometimes they'll do things that just make us groan and roll our eyes but are easily forgiven over time.
Other times, however, they might do or say something which can only be described as "f*cked up."
Potentially putting an effective end to your friendship.
"What is the most f**ked up thing you've seen a friend do?"
Those Poor Cats...
"A guy I worked with was about to take his wife on a trip back to their mutual hometown in another state."
"They had a pair of delightful kittens and they asked me if I would watch them while they were gone."
"I had little experience with cats but these 2 were just wonderfully playful."
"I gave him a call when he got back to arrange returning the kittens but he said they had picked up a non-cat friendly dog on the journey and he would just drop off the kittens in the woods."
"Needless to say, I kept them and they were wonderful furry friends for me and eventually to my wife and kids."
"I still think what would have happened to them if I had not been in the right place at the right time."- PoloGrounder
"I went on holiday for a week and asked my 'best friend' to pop in and feed my cat (he lived a few doors away)."
"When I got back, my cat was laying by the back door of my house, went inside and his bowl was empty, I called him and asked when the last time he fed him, he said 'oh yeah, I forgot'."
"My cat had been outside for a week with no food or water. "
"I haven't spoken to him in 12 years."- Reddit
Always Listen To Your Doctor
"Convinced his girlfriend she was suffering from gluten intolerance instead of schizophrenia, and got her to stop taking medication."- lightningandmadness
But Was It A Point Worth Proving?
"Deliberately get knocked down by a car, in order to prove that when drunk (and we were very drunk), his bones were flexible."
"Fortunately, the car had been slowing to turn."
"There followed a couple of minutes trying to reassure the driver he was ok, whilst calling him an idiot."
"Meanwhile, he was laying flat on his back, maintaining he'd proved his point."- anothercynicaloldgit
It Is Never Attractive To Gloat
"Best friend was excited for me to meet his new gf."
"The whole evening he bragged about how she was still married and he was going to be the reason she got divorced."
"Haven't spoken to him since."
"Did hear she broke up with him and sorted out the issues with her husband."- hmfiddlesworth
Karma Is Pretty Unforgiving...
"Brought my friend to watch my boyfriend practice his drumming."
"She kept spreading her legs wide wearing a skirt with no underwear."
"She slept with him and he left me thinking he would be with her."
"Needless to say she didn’t date him because she already had a boyfriend."- Final_Objective_6204Kar
"We were working in an old lady's attic and he kicked the sh*t out of a pipe on purpose then went and told her it needed to be replaced."
"I never worked with him again after that."- FriendlyDifference72
"Brag about a then—boyfriend not leaving her despite constant cheating."
"Then cry when he left her."
"I don’t know either."- Snapesnape716
In With The Wrong Crowd
"They were arguing and he made fun of the friend for being an orphan."
"Tried to stab the other friend cuz his ex was crushing on him."- we_are_ghetto
Not Worth A Second Thought
"Throw McDonald’s fries and burger as hard as he could at a homeless lady asking for food."
"I called him a piece of sh*t and never spoke to him again."- Mundane_Tour_3215
You Don't Mess With Family...
"My best friend had just broken up with my brother—who had moved over a thousand miles and changed jobs to be with her—citing personal differences."
"My brother was devastated, but I tried to respect her decision and be a source of support for both of them, especially because they truly weren’t the best fit."
"But then she shared with me, because she knew that I loved her and would be happy for her so long as she was happy, that she’d been cheating on my brother for the past month and had found her soulmate."
"The depth of my brother’s heartbreak, already immense, was further compounded by the infidelity."
"To my bewilderment, she truly couldn’t understand why I was ending the friendship, seemed so distraught that I would end a years long relationship over something so 'small'."
"And I still can’t comprehend why she thought telling me would result in anything other than a complete door slam."
"Hannah, you still suck."
"And I’m still angry."
"I had also asked her to be the maid of 'honor' in my upcoming wedding."
Some friendships can withstand fundamental differences of opinion.
But no friendship is worth hanging onto when people (and kittens) are physically or emotionally harmed.
When you gotta go, you go.
That should be a mantra for getting rid of the toxic people in our lives.
Not every relationship is meant to last forever.
Some people don't know how to be friends.
They are awfully good at pretending though.
Be vigilant of the signs and red flags.
Toxic people are crafty.
And once you're free, never look back.
Redditor _ReDd1T_UsEr wanted to discuss the reasons why many of us decided to cut some people out of our lives, so they asked:
"What was the reason why your friendship ended with someone?"
Sometimes a person just has to go.
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"I stopped being the first to always initiate plans, and that was that."
"I once asked a friend to plan our next breakfast + walk outing, since I always did that. He wrote me a letter ending the friendship. Stunning!"
Pants on Fire
"Habitual lying became too annoying and disruptive to tolerate."
"When you constantly are thinking... this math ain't matching lol. People that lie all the time make me sick. I've told multiple friends that you don't have to lie to me."
"I feel so much better when someone can trust me and feel comfortable telling me a hard truth than an easy lie."
"Even if the truth made me feel some type of way, I'm still glad it was honest. I've even said thank you to people in the past that have been honest with me, good or bad! Some people just can not help lying about things. I wouldn't be able to ever keep a story straight if I did that."
"He kept having kids with different girls and bailing on them. Coming from a 'went out for a pack of smokes' Dad myself, I just couldn't watch it anymore. Bailed after the third one. Think he's up to 6 now."
"Reminds me of one of my ex-friends. She kept having kids with MULTIPLE guys (all of them were one-night stands), I don't think she even knows who the baby daddies are."
"She also kept begging me and people for money for pot, and she also bragged about having OnlyFans. She'd also make up stories about being in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend (she'd also cheat on him/tell people her and him they broke up, which they weren't)."
"I was a bad person and they ended it for perfectly sensible reasons. I would have done the same. I've changed, but I don't blame them for not reconsidering contact."
"I’ve been there. I was a bad person and lost friendships and family relationships. I tried to apologize to everyone I hurt."
"I also accepted that they don’t want me in their lives anymore. I learned that I made my mistakes, I learned from them, and I accept their choices. I don’t self-hate anymore and I try to be a better person in general. I hope you are doing well and practicing self-love and forgiveness."
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"I lent them $20 and then they avoided me so they didn’t have to pay me back. Worth the $20."
"I don't ever expect prompt returns of small amounts of money between my friends... we all buy each other rounds or buy the food for the BBQ or whatever. It ends up evening out over time I think we'd notice though if someone was always taking and never giving and then they'd probably get cut off too."
In the immortal words of Cyndi Lauper... "Money Changes Everything."
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"She joined a pyramid scheme selling butt-ugly leggings and it took over her whole life. When I finally told her it was negatively affecting our friendship, she accused me of not supporting her 'business.'"
"I was basically a taxi for my friends so I dumped them all."
"This one I can understand but depends on the situation. Not all of my friends had cars in high school, so our group needed to have me and my sh*tty '94 Plymouth Sundance come, or they couldn't do anything. I didn't mind at all then, but I definitely would these days."
"I remember I used to drive around with my buddies all the time before they had licenses. When one of my friends got his and a car I said sweet now you can drive me around for a bit, he replied that he wasn't gonna waste his money on gas like that. See ya, haven't really spoken to him since."
"How's this for oddly specific: Friend since 1980, was hanging out at a bar in 1992 and there was a dispute of over a $15.00 bar tab. I was in the right, but whatever - he held a grudge for years."
"Ran into him in 2017 and we were both too old to care. Started to see each other now and then. 2023 and we're at this local bar for a show and got into a fight about $15.00 a ticket."
"Maybe he'll call me in 2063."
"She was a taker, constantly. When I needed something she made it about her yet again. Exhausting to be around."
"I'm going through this right now. Can't tell you how many texts I have from her in the past few days telling me that I need to get over myself, need to stop making myself the victim, have been a terrible friend, have never been there for her."
"She's the most narcissistic person I know and everyone does everything for her. She has one of the easiest lives ever and anytime anything bad happens to her she believes that everyone is against her and she's the victim here. It's pure insanity. There is no talking sense to people like this."
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"I've lost like all but two of my 'friends' because I stopped drinking and doing hard drugs."
"Same here dude. My circle is small but hey at least it's a circle I know I can go to."
Oh, how things change when the booze dries up.
How much fun were you really having?
Do you have any stories about cutting off a friend? Let us know in the comments below.