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Deaf People Reveal What They "Hear" Inside Of Their Heads Every Day

Deaf People Reveal What They "Hear" Inside Of Their Heads Every Day

Deaf People Reveal What They "Hear" Inside Of Their Heads Every Day

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The hearing impaired are fascinating, vibrant people. They take a life challenge and use it to live successful lives.

_Redditor __shitusernametaken_askeda fascinating question. Deaf people of Reddit, If you were born deaf and have never heard the English language, is your inner monologue in sign language? If not, what is it? A thought I'm sure many of us have wondered. We are all constantly having an inner dialogue with ourselves and we hear our own voices. What do they hear if they've never been able to hear their own sound?

I HEAR YOU.

Deaf kid at school said (in sign language) that his inner monologue is in sign language.

LIP SERVICE.

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My cousin is deaf, never heard English before. She's read enough lips and tried to speak enough words that she just thinks in her own interpretation of English, which is how it looks from reading lips.

LEARNING FOR LOVE.

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My wife was born deaf so I've learned sign with her.

An interesting observation with myself as a hearing individual, when I think back to old memories from before I met her and learned any sign, I often picture myself thinking or doing the signs for what I'm saying. Learning it has altered my memories.

SING OUT.

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I'm deaf and yes I when I think up a sentence , I do see it in ASL. I also have a inner voice along with signing since I grew up speaking while signing.

USE YOUR WORDS.

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I became deaf at age 2 so I have no memory of hearing or hearing myself talking, but my inner monologue is in words. It probably helped that I went to speech therapy and learned to speak and I don't hang out with other deaf people very much. Despite having 100% loss I hang out with hearing people as a matter of course.

My dreams are also like that - in my dreams I can hear and talk normally. I am 37 now.

JUST SILENCE.

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I don't have one. Thoughts are more abstract, the only time I think in words is when I read it, or before wanting to say something/counting.

THE VISUAL LANGUAGE.

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My son is deaf (with cochlear implants). In researching some of the challenges and interesting things the brain does, I found that the auditory area of pre-lingually deaf children's brain gets appropriated for visual processing if it doesn't get utilized for sound. This (along with the other comments) would make me think that a visual inner monologue is most likely for most deaf, un-implanted people who were born without hearing.

HEARING IN MOTION.

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I'm hard of hearing but was deaf deaf until I was about 9 years old. I mostly think in images and motion. Sometimes I do think in simple phrases or weirdly think in screams. My husband says that I do small yells when something very slightly upsetting happens I can hear a bit but don't notice myself doing it.

USE WHAT YOU KNOW.

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I was born deaf, and my inner monologue tends to be in mostly images, with the occasional ASL signs and written words mixed in. Honestly it can be a little bit of a chore to translate my thoughts into conveyable language!

LOUDER!!!

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You can't change the volume of your inner voice. Go ahead, try to scream.

LET'S GIVE THEM SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT.

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A lot of the time my inner monologue can be imagery/written words and I generally talk to myself when I need to when I need discuss having a sort of conversation with my inner monologue.

ONLY IN MY DREAMS.

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Was born deaf as far as I know, but wasn't diagnosed with deafness until 4 y/o. I went to a bit of speech therapy, but grew up around hearing people and wore hearing aids.

I dream with sounds and speech, but my dreams tend to focus on the sense of feeling more I've found. As in, I can feel what everyone in the dream is feeling physically, and on top of that, my dreams are very, very detailed.

Imagine a film, I usually dream in third person, and notice everything that makes a sound with my dream showing shots of glasses clinking, and such.

I know someone who is totally deaf, unable to wear any aids to hear, and I remember signing to her about dreams years ago, and she was saying/signing that she _"hears" _tones of different forms. I imagine she's on about when I take my hearing aids out and lie there with my eyes closed and day dream. There's a sort of varying tone, sometimes dull, sometimes high pitched, sometimes a fuzzy static noise, that rings out within my head, which is annoying because I never get to listen to silence.

USE EMOTIONS AND ART.

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Late to this! Born deaf, my family didn't know until I was over 1 year old. Took tons of speech therapy and learned ASL. Grew up isolated in a mainstream school with an interpreter.

Like what u/Caoranach said, I think mostly in images. Like clips from gif or movies or real life, even photography (with dramatic effect, if needed). With ASL signs (the movement and emotions behind it, not disemboweled arms) and written words thrown in (mixed with the sounds of what I assume it sounds like and written), but lip reading is there too. The words is just there when I lip read to myself mentally, but the movement is accurate (to me at least). Sometime I would accidentally lip read to myself in real life, not just in my mind.

The best way to explain, I code-switch mentally when I need to. For school, I think in English and ASL. When I talk to myself, I lip read. When I think stupid stuff or daydream, the likes, I do images.

BILINGUAL VOICES.

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I moved to the United States when I was seven. My inner monologue changed from Spanish to English. Have you ever had anything like that where your inner monologue changed between images to sign as you grew older? Do you prefer one over the other? Also I've noticed that people will sign things different to mean the same thing. I grew up with a couple deaf kids in my school and they signed different kind of like an accent. Would you say you have an accent when you sign?

BOOKS ARE THE KEY TO ALL DIALOGUE.

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I'm Deaf and I am born that way.

I'm an avid reader and gamer when I was young, and as I grew up into my teenager years, I began writing fanfictions and roleplays a lot. As such, my inner monologue is in text form.

Before I got hooked on books, who began it all, I vaguely remembering having an inner monologue in sign language.

Ironically in my dreams, in the dreams that featured myself, most of the time I was telepathic if I spoke to someone. I can 'sense' my surroundings as it is, in place of 'hearing'. With that said there's not a lot of communication in my dreams (spoken words or signs). Mostly gestures and meaningful glances, which makes me feel like I was living an adventure of some sort.

I HEAR ME.

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I wasn't born deaf but I did lose my hearing and memory when I became sick with spinal meningitis at age of 2.5 (bonus irrelevant bit of story; I was pronounced dead). Previously I had vocabulary of estimated 2500 words so that may have subconsciously aided development of my inner-monologue.

My inner-monologue might seem strange so I would like to give a little story first. I've learn to read lips and speak English long before going to school where I would later learn S.E.E.---signing exact English. I did learn a new way to communicate which is through facial expressions and body language; eventually zeroed in to the lips which was doing the most movements. That is what I couldn't figure out at the time while everything else was easy. For example, an angry face on my father was seen after I was stopped from shooting his friend with bb gun for fun meant great disapproval regardless of how his lips moved. Eventually I began to understand how to read lips through series of events and I do suspect speech therapy played a role because I had to copy their lips in order to better articulate words.

My inner-monologue is combination of feeling emotions and _"hearing myself" _talk. If I imagine another person talking, it is always my voice that I feel while talking whilst having detailed mind of how to spell each and every words being said. And I am at the same time imagining their lip movements. It's almost as if I am reliving the situation, the temperature, the weather, the emotions, people walking by, etc.

When it comes to memorizing sequences of numbers and/or letters, I actually can think of numbers and letters with aid of having memory of my own hand finger spelling or signing numbers to fill in areas I couldn't remember.

Sorry, I rarely tell stories and I am lazy when it comes to structuring English to improve understanding for readers so I hope it was understandable.

DASVIDANIYA!

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Mom wasn't born deaf but she did become deaf at an early age. So most of her inner monologue is mostly Russian but then with ASL signs sprinkled in. For clarification why Russian she was born in Russia and that is why her inner monologue is in Russian. Also she can speak Russian very fluently and is able to read Russian from another person's lips. (Which is how she talks with my grandmother) Great question btw!

USE PROPER ENGLISH.

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I was born hearing but lost it right after birth from medication that saved my life. But I wasn't completely deaf, I could still hear very loud bass sounds without hearing aids and get to like 75% hearing with aids. I can wear headphones without hearing aids to listen to music, but it usually has to be at max to hear any words and I miss a lot of the higher instruments.

Anyway, I learned English and I'm actually pretty adept at learning languages in general. My ASL is just terrible because I never use it. So my inner monologue is in English, but I don't hear it as much as kind-of feel it some times. It's not like I'm making the clear sounds because I can't even hear all of the sounds of English. It's just silent words that I guess are being said. It's hard to explain.

LET ME THINK ABOUT THAT.

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Funny thing, I asked a mute friend a pretty similar question. "What does your inner voice sound like?" She came back 2 weeks later saying _"your question pretty much gave me an existential crisis because what does my voice sound like in my head?" _She didn't really know how to respond even after the two weeks of contemplating it. Pretty much, there's something there but it's not exactly subtitles from what she stated.

NO MATTER WHAT THEY HEAR... "DEAF IS BEAUTIFUL!"

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I'm deaf. I was born with a serious hearing loss. I grew up in a deaf school until I was transferred to a mainstreamed public school with hearing students in my 7th grade. Now I'm majoring in Civil Engineering Technology in Rochester Institute of Technology (and planning in transferring to Video Game Development major soon).

So, to answer your question, I think in ASL (American Sign Language). I guess deaf people's thinking process is little different from hearing people. When I think, it's like I'm seeing myself signing from either my point of view or third person view and when I'm imagine a hearing person speaking, I imagine him/her actually signing instead of speaking because I can understand him/her that way. Also, we don't always have a sign for every word in ASL. Sometimes when we want to think of a word that we don't have a sign. We fingerspell it. It's like imagining a letter by letter but only in hand shapes. I think in fingerspelling a lot when I'm reading an english sentence.

I'm lucky to be conditioned to think in fingerspelling while reading because there are a lot of deaf people who have problem with reading and writing because they are thinking in signs while reading an english sentence. ASL language don't use articles like "a, an, the" and several more important words in the english language like "is, are, was, are" etc in their sentences. So when they read an english sentence, they are skipping those important english words when they're signing in their minds. So, I think that is why deaf people are typically bad at reading and writing in english. I was one of them until I transferred to a mainstreamed school for better education that taught me to read and write properly. I'm still not great with english language but I'm glad that I'm much better at it than most deaf people. I hope this answered your question well.

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I once burst out laughing during a job interview.

It was for an internal position so I knew all of the interviewers well, but even if I hadn't I doubt I could have kept a straight face.

What cracked me up?

This interview question:

"If I attended a backyard BBQ with your last boss, what do you think they'd say about you?"

After I stopped laughing,

I told the interviewer—who happened to be my then boss' boss:

"I'm sorry, but that sounds like a question from the Miss America Pageant."

The interview panel got a laugh out of that. And yes, I did answer the question.

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The holiday season is lovely, but it's full of pressure to travel, plan, host, and of course, get gifts for a lot of people.

But the thing we don't really talk about is how common it is to want something specific and to not have someone in our life who tries to seek out what that thing is.

Unless we get it for ourselves, it's common that we won't get what we actually want.

Redditor GeneralSpectatorTots asked:

"What do you want for Christmas that you know you aren't going to get?"

​Sobriety 

"My brother to be sober and happy."

- whatwhatwhat82

"I’m also trying to get sober. I wish your brother well. Keep being a support to him."

- Keri2816

A New Home

"A house deposit."

- WolfGirl_4

"A house deposit? Just gift you a house!"

- Grenflik

A Financial Advantage

"A winning lottery ticket."

- Krem541

"Every year I ask Santa. Every f**king year."

- kuchikopi626

Grandma's Homecooked Meals

"One last meal from my grandma. She made the best food, and of course, you don't know the last time is going to be the last time until it's too late."

- fakefishy

Family Love

"Love from my parents."

- bub_501

"This mom is sending you a long hug."

- hippocampus237

A Professional Massage

"A gift certificate for a professional massage. I can't bring myself to spend the money on myself. I need to just bite the bullet and do it."

"I have asked for one every year for years. Sometimes it's the only thing I ask for from my parents and my partner (when they ask what I want)."

"I always get wonderful gifts that I love, use, and/or needed but I REALLY WANT A F**KING MASSAGE."

- agbmom

The Best Neighbor

"A card from my twin brother saying, 'Just kidding, I’m not moving to Washington, I actually found a place in your neighborhood!'"

- insertcaffeine

Very Important Things

"Free Healthcare and a good used car for my husband."

- Sufficient_Letter883

The End to Ableism

"Independence and not being infantilized because I’m a 37-year-old disabled woman and no one in my family understands (extended family who all live within 10 mins of me)."

- Keri2816

World Travel

"Guilt-free travel! It's like asking for a never-ending vacation. How I wish I could just hop around the world without worrying about a thing!"

- KayleNewirk

Sounds Like Paradise

"A pretty, and big apartment for me and my cat."

- cats-autumn

"For my cat to let me sleep through the night."

- Cheese_BasedLifeform

Moving Solutions

"A stress-free move, with eight days between closings of two houses four states apart, and four pets to manage in temporary housing. Help me, Santa, I’ve been a good girl."

- Kind-Dust7441

Ready To Be Done!

"For my doctoral capstone paper to finally be approved so I can be done with school! Please, please, Santa, I’m on rewrite 19!"

- TomatilloNo4213

Two Front Teeth

"My two front teeth... My two front teeth."

"But seriously, teeth."

"Mine are all falling out due to an autoimmune disease, and I need implants."

- donkeybrainz13

The Perfect Partner

"A partner to go on adventures with… have singalongs with… and who adores and truly sees me."

- miaoouu

While we may have been expecting some silly responses, or even for someone to finally buy the right brand of a favorite candle or lotion or makeup, these responses were a great reminder of what's really important.

And unfortunately, many of the most important things can't be replaced or fit into a Christmas stocking.

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Breaking up is hard to do no matter who initiated it.

But once time has passed and exes have moved on, the healing process can be jarred by a surprise.

A regretfilled person may try and make contact with the one they broke up with and ask for forgiveness, or the person who had their heart broken could also reappear and plead for a fresh new start.

The outcome depends on how much, or how little, the spark of love remains.

Curious to hear more of this scenario from strangers online, Redditor XenaVonKeksdose asked:

"What would you say to your ex if they suddenly showed up at your door?"

For these Redditors, it wouldn't be a happy reunion.

Either, Or

"It ranges from 'come on in and make yourself comfortable' to 'get the f'k out of here' , depending on which one shows up."

– Lone_Buck

"Odds of it being the one who got away: low."

"Odds of it being the one who took 5 years to understand what 'f'k off' meant: pretty high."

– liquid_acid-OG

It's A Nightmare

"Screaming. They've passed."

– BigGrayBeast

"Similar situation here. I did have a dream that my late wife showed up at my door. She said, 'There was a mix up at the coroner, you wouldn’t believe what I’ve been through.”'

"Still in the dream we talked for a bit about nothing. Then I said, 'Wait, what about the life insurance, do we have to pay it back?' And just after that I woke up."

– AnonEMoussie

No Thanks

"Nah"

"Slowly closes the door while maintaining eye contact."

"Also aggressively locks the door."

– SnooCats7666

"raises drawbridge."

– lunalives

Some would show traces of resentment.

Unwelcome

"The f'k do you want? And how did you get this address?"

– s73v3m4nn

"wtf ffs"

– zxr7

Too Little Too Late

"You couldn't put in effort in messaging me, but you have effort now to see me months after we break up‽"

– ShyTerraWolf

"Wait, if you’re here who’s running hell?”

– So__bored

"Who’s guarding HADES."

– Boostio_TV

Hit 'Em Where It Hurts

"I lost weight... You seem to have found it."

– elmo-1959

"now get the f'k off my lawn."

– starkresilient

"Savage."

– 20190229

Others shared less bitter responses.

Coming Clean

"Honestly, I apologize. I know dealing with my prior alcoholism must have been a nightmare. I regret causing you and anyone else pain and hope you are happy. I am a year into sobriety and can understand why it ended. I wish you well."

"Edit: Since this is getting so much traction, I just want to say thanks for all the support. This could honestly be directed at a few of my exes. I am happily married now to someone that also got a taste of my drinking. We stuck it out while I got sober and I have to credit her with being an amazing support system. I also need to shout out r/stopdrinking for providing reinforcement on a daily basis. It is a great community. Naltrexone was also a major part of it. I can't change the past but I think I have a much better hold on the future."

– vivazeta

Someone That I Used To Know

"I've been married for almost 25 years, I don't know if I would even recognize any exes."

– 4a4a

"Yep. That person went from 'ex' to 'someone I once dated' years ago."

– ktwhite42

Expressing Regrets

"I'm sorry for the way I treated you."

– warlordwinters

"Good on you for growing."

– Zealousideal_Ad_7465

Catching Up

"I’d say hello! What are you doing here? It has been a long time."

– ExaminationLucky6082

Wish You Well

"A lot of snarky or comical answers in here, but I'll try to be as sincere as I can."

"My first major ex, first time I got my heart broken: I would sincerely hope that she's doing well. She broke my heart, but it was for the best and it made me into the man I am today. I don't want to think of how much worse I would be if she hadn't given me a reality check wake-up-call. So really just 'Hey, how have you been? I hope the years have been kind to you.'"

"My most recent ex, the first and only time I've had to break someone's heart: I honestly just hope that she can forgive me for having to make taking care of myself and my needs the priority in my life. She's an amazing woman, kindergarten school teacher, unanimously adored by everyone that meets her. But we met via travels, and lived in two different states. Circumstances shifted and seeing each other became much less frequent. Neither of us wanted to quit our jobs and chuck a grenade into our lives and careers. Eventually, for my own mental and emotional health, I had to call it. I truly hope she finds someone amazing, she deserves it. So I would just sincerely hope that she understands, and has moved on."

– obaterista93

I once showed up at an exes door after I broke up with him about a month prior.

I genuinely loved and missed him after making the very difficult decision to end things due to conflicting circumstances that kept us from maintaining a healthy relationship.

But I quickly learned that if you did the breaking up, you should respect the other person's space for a respectable amount of time.

I went to visit him at the apartment where we lived together and a new lover answered the door for him after there was a long period of giggles and lots of feet shuffling from behind the door.

Clearly, he was doing just fine.

Of course, I wasn't welcomed in and was asked what I wanted, to which I had no answer but, "do you have any mail for me?"

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